How AUTISM Helped Me DEFY the Odds! (PERSONAL)

๐Ÿ˜ฒย ๐ˆ ๐–๐€๐’ ๐ƒ๐ˆ๐€๐†๐๐Ž๐’๐„๐ƒ ๐–๐ˆ๐“๐‡ ๐€๐”๐“๐ˆ๐’๐Œ!!!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

I use to consider myself a very introverted person, very shy, and very set in my own closed routines. I was more of a thinker than a doer and more of a dreamer than a leader.

๐˜Š๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต? ๐˜–๐˜ณ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต?ย ๐Ÿค”

Being diagnosed with Autism was probably the starting point for me, the point where I confirmed to myself who I was: something is just ‘wrong’ with my brain.ย ๐Ÿง 

“๐™„ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐˜ผ๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™จ๐™ข. ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™š๐™ญ๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ฎ ๐™„ ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™„ ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก. ๐™„๐™ฉ’๐™จ ๐™Ÿ๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™– ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ข๐™š; ๐™„ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ’๐™ฉ ๐™˜๐™๐™–๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฉ.”ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

But even way back in 7th grade I remember feeling like I didnโ€™t want to be labeled like this. I saw the label before me with all its negativity, a label I needed to object and rebel from.ย ๐Ÿ‘Š

๐ˆ ๐ฌ๐š๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ ๐ฆ๐š๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž’๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ซ๐ž!ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

I have vivid memories from school where I refused to accept special accommodations because of the new label. I was now being given opportunities to have additional time on tests, opportunities to leave the classroom to ‘cool down’, and every single time I refused. ๐Ÿ‘Ž

I know it was done with good intentions. But what bothered me the most was that I was being treated differently. I had enough self-consciousness trying to fit in with my peers; now I had to worry about what adults were thinking about me! ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

๐ˆ ๐ก๐š๐๐ง’๐ญ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐, ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ง๐ž๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ ๐ˆ ๐ก๐š๐ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ž๐ฒ๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž!ย ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ช๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ธ ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ? ๐˜‹๐˜ช๐˜ฅ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ: “๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜•๐˜–๐˜› ๐˜›๐˜™๐˜œ๐˜Œ!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

Well, with my new label I was constantly reminded about my new-given identity: what I couldn’t do, what my limitations were, and what struggles I’d have the rest of my life. Essentially, who I was could now be entirely summarized upon a set of pathological descriptions out of a diagnostic book!ย ๐Ÿ“–

๐€๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐š ๐Œ๐€๐‰๐Ž๐‘ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ! ๐Ÿšจ

In psychology, the term is referred to as a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. In sociology, it’s referred to as the Labeling Theory. To put it simply: ๐˜๐˜ง ๐˜ข ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ง ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ’๐˜ด ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ง๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด.ย ๐Ÿค”

For example, if a parent holds a child to very low expectations the odds are very likely the child won’t ever go past the expectations the parent set for them. They will only achieve the most minimal, the expectations set by the parent.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐—ฆ๐—ข ๐—™๐—ข๐—ฅ ๐—” ๐—Ÿ๐—ข๐—ก๐—š ๐—ง๐—œ๐— ๐—˜ ๐—œ ๐—จ๐—ฆ๐—˜ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—Ÿ๐—˜๐—ง ๐—ข๐—ง๐—›๐—˜๐—ฅ๐—ฆ ๐——๐—œ๐—–๐—ง๐—”๐—ง๐—˜ ๐—›๐—ข๐—ช ๐—œ ๐—ช๐—”๐—ฆ ๐—š๐—ข๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—ฉ๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ฌ ๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—™๐—˜…๐Ÿ˜”

But then at one point I finally decided I was going on my own path. These past few years I’ve continually learned that everything starts with Me: ๐ˆ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž, ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ˆ ๐œ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ข๐ญ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ˆ’๐ฆ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ. ๐Ž๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐ž, ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž’๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ž.ย ๐Ÿ‘

๐Ÿ“Œย Dale Carnegie explained it in his principles on How to Win Friends and Influence People.

๐Ÿ“Œย Stephen Covey showed it with the Habit of Being Proactive.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Stoics taught it through their principles of self-control.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Existentialists shared it through the creation of meanings.

๐Ÿ“Œย Individuals like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. excelled at it by example.

It’s the power of helping OURSELVES FIRST before we start trying to help the rest of the world. It’s about taking CONTROL over our emotions rather than letting them and our environment control us. It’s about living our lives for a PURPOSE greater than just ourselves. It’s about a “dream”, a vision of a greater future for all of humanity. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

๐Œ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ, ๐ข๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐š๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐š๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐ƒ๐„๐…๐ˆ๐๐ˆ๐๐† ๐˜๐Ž๐”๐‘ ๐‹๐ˆ๐…๐„. ๐ŸŒŽ

What I’ve come to realize again and again is that my past does not have to equal the future. I’ve realized I am more capable than what any label or diagnosis will dictate about me.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐˜๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜จ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ข ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ? “๐˜Š๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ด, ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ’๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜๐˜•๐˜๐˜‘!” ๐Ÿ˜…

๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐๐Ž๐–. ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐ž๐œ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐›๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐…๐”๐“๐”๐‘๐„. ๐ŸŒŸ

We can change! We can mentally evolve! Autism may be a part of who I am now, but that doesn’t mean it will ever be my final destination!ย ๐Ÿ›ฃ๏ธ

๐€๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐š๐ง ๐„๐—๐๐‹๐€๐๐€๐“๐ˆ๐Ž๐, ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ƒ๐„๐’๐“๐ˆ๐๐€๐“๐ˆ๐Ž๐! ๐ŸŒŸ

I ultimately will define Me, not someone else, not a test, and definitely not a set of diagnostic criteria. I mean, I can choose to keep a fixed identity for the rest of my life…nah!ย ๐Ÿ˜‰

So these past few years I’ve been on a mission to Transcend Labels. My intention is to show the world what’s possible, to show others the importance of looking beneath the surface, past the labels, past the stereotypes, and to see each other for the common humanity we all possess.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

I see lasting change in the world happening through the individual from the inside-out, not the outside-in. I believe that the better we can be for ourselves, the better we can be for others.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Everyone has an opinion, but there are fewer people out there setting the example. Will you join me?!ย ๐Ÿ‘Œ


I hope this resonates with you! If it does, I would really appreciate if you could share this someone you believe would also benefit from this message! If there are any additional areas I can add value to your life as well as in the LinkedIn community, please let me know!ย ๐Ÿ™‚

My areas of expertise include:

๐Ÿ‘ย Detail-oriented, Thoroughness

๐Ÿ‘ย Quality-over-quantity Focused

๐Ÿ‘ย Analytical, Systemic, Bottom-Up Thinking

๐Ÿ‘ย Emotional intelligence (plus 10 years in Customer Service)

๐Ÿ‘ย Social media, Building Engagement

With gratitude,

Donald “Ace” Arteagaย โค๏ธ








Why ONLY Take What’s Useful!

I am not perfect. Nobody is perfect. ๐Ÿ™Œ

I make mistakes. Everybody makes mistakes. ๐Ÿ™Œ

I am human. We are all human. ๐Ÿ™Œ

To clarify, this is not to say I’m here to make excuses for anyone’s bad behavior. It’s simply to acknowledge the fallibility within all of us, including myself. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

If I were ever to pretend like I have all the answers, I’d only be lying to you. I don’t, and I never will. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

This goes for anyone on social media too. Some social media influencers love to give off an impression of perfection. It’s certainly good for their brand to do so. ๐Ÿ‘

But I can assure you, even knowing some of them personally, they’ve got their very own set of problems they never disclose online. ๐Ÿ’ฌ

And me too! ๐Ÿ˜

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ “So what are you saying, Donald?! That nothing you or anyone else says matters?!” ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Oh no, don’t get me wrong! My point is that whatever I say, or whatever anyone else says online, I’m encouraging you to always take it with a grain of salt. ๐Ÿง‚

๐Ÿ“Œ I make posts so I can share what’s personally helped me in my life.

๐Ÿ“Œ I make posts because I believe we need more wisdom shared online and less superficiality.

๐Ÿ“Œ I make posts so I can hopefully inspire others to pursue their own paths of personal development.

But that doesn’t mean I can never be wrong. ๐Ÿ™‚

So please, take whatever you find useful here and discard whatever is not. ๐Ÿ—‘๏ธ

Create your own path! โค๏ธ








How To DISSOLVE Your Fears!

๐ŸŒŸ ๐Ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ž. ๐ŸŒŸ

Did you ever do something you were once afraid to do, but after you did it you wondered why you were so scared about it the first place?! ๐Ÿ˜…

I’m guilty as charged! ๐Ÿ™‹โ™‚๏ธ

It’s how I felt the last time I went rock climbing. I hadn’t done it in over a decade, not since I was in the Boy Scouts so it felt like a new experience for me. ๐Ÿชจ

I could feel the anxiety in my body, my thoughts racing even as the rational part of me knew it was safe to climb. I even wore a safety harness! ๐Ÿชข

Nonetheless, nothing was enough for my brain wanting to focus on why I SHOULDN’T climb! ๐Ÿง 

It’s easy in moments of uncertainty to start overthinking. But rather than let my thoughts continue reigning over me, I pushed myself and volunteered to be the first person in my group to climb! ๐Ÿ˜


๐ŸŒŸ ๐…๐„๐„๐‹๐ˆ๐๐†๐’ ๐…๐Ž๐‹๐‹๐Ž๐– ๐๐„๐‡๐€๐•๐ˆ๐Ž๐‘! ๐ŸŒŸ

I stayed out of my head, faced the wall, and without a second thought I climbed! โœŠ

I climbed and climbed and climbed. I did not stop, refusing to give my mind permission to start thinking about looking down! โœ‹

And before I knew it I was there: the top! ๐Ÿ—ป

Easy, right?! Well, that’s just half the experience. The other half is letting go of the wall and trusting your rock climbing partner below lowers you safely. ๐Ÿ˜…

And you know what I did? It was just as soon as I reached the top that I let go of the wall! ๐Ÿ‘


๐ŸŒŸ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐๐ž๐œ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐š๐ซ ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐š๐ ๐ง๐ข๐Ÿ๐ฒ. ๐ƒ๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ! ๐ŸŒŸ

My decision to let go instantly told my fearful brain: “You’re coming with me whether you like it or not!” ๐Ÿ˜‰

And I was safely lowered down. No casualties! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

Like clockwork, my brain turned from fear to relief: “Why I was so scared in the first place?!” ๐Ÿ˜…








Why You’re MORE Than Your Labels!

๐Ÿšจ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐€๐‘๐„ ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐˜๐Ž๐”๐‘ ๐‹๐€๐๐„๐‹๐’! ๐Ÿšจ

We all use labels in one form or another.

We use them with political parties (Republican, Democrat, Independent), with ethnicities (African American, White, Asian), with sexual orientation (Gay, Straight, Bisexual), with food habits (Paleo, Atkins, Vegan), etc. ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Labels provide simplicity to an infinitely complex world.

๐Ÿ“Œ They provide us feelings of certainty.

๐Ÿ“Œ They provide us clarity about the things we wish to understand versus the things we donโ€™t.

๐Ÿ“Œ They provide us a sense of connection to groups who share our beliefs and values.

The point is, we need labels. None of us would be able to cognitively function in our day-to-day lives without them! ๐Ÿ˜…

And yet…labels are also a double-edged sword. ๐Ÿ—ก๏ธ

Because the more labels we use, the more we paradoxically limit our abilities to better understand ourselves and other people. Inadvertently, we start to see people less as people and more as abstractions, all through the filters of these labels. ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐Ÿ™Œ Instead of the individual, we have a group identity.

๐Ÿ™Œ Instead of various political views, we have a political party to choose.

๐Ÿ™Œ Instead of understanding someone’s emotional patterns, we have a diagnosis.

Again, labels are not intrinsically good or bad. But they do have tradeoffs, and in my eyes they carried a real expensive tradeoff for me when I was younger.

I wouldn’t be where I am today if I kept holding onto my childhood labels:

๐Ÿ˜” “I can’t because I have Autism.”

๐Ÿ˜” “I can’t because I’m an Introvert.”

๐Ÿ˜” “I can’t because I’m…I’m…I’m…”

Labels have their place, but I urge you: don’t let them dictate what you think you’re capable of doing in the future like I did. โš ๏ธ

They are an EXPLANATION, not a DESTINATION. โค๏ธ








Why You’re NOT Your Labels (PERSONAL)

๐ŸŒŸ ๐˜๐Ž๐”’๐‘๐„ ๐€๐ “๐ˆ๐๐“๐‘๐Ž๐•๐„๐‘๐“” ๐€๐’ ๐Œ๐”๐‚๐‡ ๐€๐’ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐’๐€๐˜ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐€๐‘๐„!๐ŸŒŸ

“๐˜›๐˜๐˜ˆ๐˜›’๐˜š ๐˜‰๐˜š, ๐˜‹๐˜–๐˜•๐˜ˆ๐˜“๐˜‹! ๐˜ ๐˜ˆ๐˜” ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜– ๐˜ ๐˜ˆ๐˜”, ๐˜ˆ๐˜•๐˜‹ ๐˜›๐˜๐˜ˆ๐˜›’๐˜š ๐˜›๐˜๐˜ˆ๐˜›!” ๐Ÿคฌ

I know this will be hard for some people to hear. โค๏ธ

Throughout my life I used to tell myself who I believed I was. And in turn it dictated all the actions I would take. It’s all I ever thought I was, so why try anything different? ๐Ÿ‘

One of those labels included: “Introvert”. ๐Ÿ˜Š

But eventually I realized what others told me about who I was was in fact limiting me. Not just that, I realized what I was also telling myself about who I was also limiting me! It went both ways! ๐Ÿ˜…

Why? I was using the labels I embraced as part of myself AS AN EXCUSE, RATHER THAN AN EXPLANATION, to not step outside my comfort zones. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

๐Ÿ“Œ “I’m an Introvert…(an excuse for why I won’t speak on a stage).”

๐Ÿ“Œ “I’m an Empath…(an excuse for why I won’t be open to hearing constructive criticism).”

๐Ÿ“Œ “I’m a Capricorn…(an excuse for why I won’t commit to a relationship).”

And I’ll add as a Capricorn, I consider introversion and empathy parts of my own character traits as well! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Do we each have individual tendencies that come more naturally to us? 100%, I’m not denying that! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

But what I’m saying is that regardless of your natural tendencies you don’t have to let these parts always be running the show. You don’t have to let your self-identified labels stop you from trying new things and seeing what other parts of your personality has yet to be developed! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

Who knows? You might discover a new part of yourself! โค๏ธ

Maybe you have an inner Extravert that’s just waiting to be awakened! ๐Ÿ™Œ

“๐˜Œ๐˜ˆ๐˜š๐˜  ๐˜๐˜–๐˜™ ๐˜ ๐˜–๐˜œ, ๐˜‹๐˜–๐˜•๐˜ˆ๐˜“๐˜‹! ๐˜ ๐˜–๐˜œ’๐˜™๐˜Œ ๐˜š๐˜œ๐˜Š๐˜ ๐˜ˆ ๐˜•๐˜ˆ๐˜›๐˜œ๐˜™๐˜ˆ๐˜“ ๐˜–๐˜• ๐˜Š๐˜ˆ๐˜”๐˜Œ๐˜™๐˜ˆ!” ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Not at all! Far from it! ๐Ÿ˜…

Filming this video back in 2018 was extremely out of my comfort zone. You wouldn’t know it from watching, but it really was! ๐Ÿ‘

My heart was pounding. I hesitated before I was about to film. My mind started to think about how I should film it. I debated on the “perfect” angle and the “right” time. ๐Ÿ˜จ

But once I stopped overthinking and just hit the Record button this was the end result! ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐˜๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ. ๐†๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ ๐š ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ญ! โค๏ธ