How AUTISM Helped Me DEFY the Odds! (PERSONAL)


I use to consider myself a very introverted person, very shy, and very set in my own closed routines. I was more of a thinker than a doer and more a dreamer than a leader. Can you relate to that? If not, can you think of someone in your life who was like that?Â đŸ€”

Being diagnosed with Autism in 7th grade was probably the starting point for me, the point where I confirmed these ideas to myself about who I was: something was ‘wrong’ in my brain. 🧠 “I have Autism. It explains why I feel the way I feel. It’s just something that’s a part of me; I can’t change it.”Â đŸ€·â€â™‚ïž

But even at the time I remember feeling like I didn’t want to be labeled like this. I saw the label before me with all its negativity, a label I needed to object and rebel from. 👊 I saw the stigmas of this label becoming my reality, and once I started seeing it reflected in other people’s behaviors towards me it frightened me to the core! 😹

I have vivid memories from school where I refused to accept new accommodations because of the new label. I was now being offered additional time on tests, opportunities to leave class to ‘cool down’, and every single time I refused. I was being treated differently. I hadn’t changed, but with my new label I had changed in the eyes of everyone else. 😟 Has someone ever said something about you that you knew wasn’t true? Did you ever feel like you just wanted to jump on the defense and say: “That is absolutely NOT TRUE!”Â đŸ€Ź

With my new label I was constantly reminded about my new-given identity: what I couldn’t do, what my limitations were, and what struggles I’d have the rest of my life. 🔼 Very little was I ever reminded about all my current strengths or what I could do. It was mostly the echoes from a set of diagnostic criteria. 📖

In psychology, the term is referred to as a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. In sociology, it’s referred to as the Labeling Theory. To put it simply: If a person holds a belief in their mind about someone else’s future expectations, the person will unconsciously help in influencing the other person into fulfilling those expectations.Â đŸ€”

So for example, if a parent holds a child to very low expectations the odds are very likely the child won’t ever go past the ones the parent already set for them. They will only achieve the most minimal, the expectations set by the parent. đŸ˜Č


But then at one point I finally decided I was going on my own path. These past few years I’ve learned that everything starts with Me: I must take control of my life, how I choose to see it, and how I’m going to live it. 👍

📌 Dale Carnegie explained it through his principles to Win Friends and Influence People.

📌 Stephen Covey said it with his Habit of Being Proactive.

📌 The Stoics taught it through their principles of self-control.

📌 The Existentialists shared it through the creation of meanings.

📌 Individuals like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. excelled it through their example.

It’s the power of helping OURSELVES FIRST before we start trying to help the rest of the world. It’s about taking CONTROL over our emotions rather than letting them and our environment control us. It’s about living our lives for a PURPOSE greater than just ourselves. It’s about a “dream”, a vision of a greater future for all of humanity. Most importantly, it’s about YOU DEFINING YOUR LIFE. 🌎

What I’ve come to realize again and again is that my past does not have to equal the future. I’ve realized I am more capable than what any label or diagnosis will dictate. 🙌

Have you ever taken a personality test and it gave you a result you wholeheartedly believed in? “Congrats, you’re an INFJ!” The problem with these tests is they can tell you who you are NOW. But they don’t tell you who you’ll necessarily be in the FUTURE. We can change as well as mentally evolve. It’s a part of who I may be now, but it’s not the final destination!Â đŸ›Łïž

I’ve realized that I ultimately will define Me, not someone else, not a test, and not a set of diagnostic criteria. Otherwise I keep a fixed identity for the rest of my life…nah! 😉

So this year I’ve been on a mission to Transcend Labels. I am showing the world what’s possible, to show others how to look beneath the surface, past the labels, past the stereotypes, and to see each other for who we all are.Â đŸ‘„

I truly believe when we do this we’ll start seeing the humanity within each other, see each other as human beings, and see that we are all more alike than we like to believe. With that not only comes greater understanding for our neighbors but most importantly an unconditional love, because the realization comes: “That person is also Me.” ❀

I see lasting change in the world happening through the individual from the inside-out, not the outside-in. I believe that the better we can be for ourselves, the better we can be for others. 🌎

Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Everyone has an opinion, but there are fewer people out there who ever set the example. Will we be the next examples?! 👌


I hope this resonates with many of you. I would appreciate it if you could share this post with others, whoever you believe will also benefit from these words. If there are any additional areas I can add value to your life as well as in the blogging community, please let me know! 🙂

My areas of expertise include:

👍 Detail-oriented, Thoroughness

👍 Quality-over-quantity Focused

👍 Analytical, Systemic Thinking

👍 Emotional intelligence (plus 10 years in Customer Service)

👍 Social media, Building Engagement


With lots of gratitude,

Donald “Ace” Arteaga ❀








How to Stop Arguing With REALITY!

Want to be less stressed? đŸ˜”

🙌 𝐇𝐚𝐯𝐞 đ„đžđŹđŹ đšđ©đąđ§đąđšđ§đŹ. 🙌

Have less opinions about how the world “should” be.

Have less opinions about how others “should” act.

Have less opinions about how events “should” happen.

🙌 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 đČ𝐹𝐼 đšđ«đ đźđž 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ«đžđšđ„đąđ­đČ, đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐀𝐋𝐖𝐀𝐘𝐒 đ„đšđŹđž. 🙌

Give yourself permission, and stop “should”-ing all over yourself.

Give yourself permission, and accept things as they are.

Give yourself permission, and start being more loving to yourself.

❀ 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 đČ𝐹𝐼’đ«đž đ°đšđ«đ­đĄ 𝐱𝐭. ❀

Why Our HUMANITY Matters!


I am someone who is gay
I rarely talk about it. đŸ€·â€â™‚â€

I am someone who is Hispanic
I rarely talk about it. đŸ€·â€â™‚â€

I am someone who is Liberal
I rarely talk about it. đŸ€·â€â™‚â€

I am someone who is Atheist
I (especially) rarely talk about it. đŸ€·â€â™‚â€

Why do I rarely talk about these things? đŸ€”

let’s take a step back. 👣

Say you were meeting me for the very first time, and the only information you were given about who I am were these labels: 📜

Male. Gay. Hispanic. Liberal. Atheist.

What kind of person comes to your mind that fits into each of these categories? đŸ€”

What comes to your mind when you think of a “Gay Male”? Flamboyant? Feminine? Limp wrists?

What comes to your mind when you think of an “Atheist?” Snobbish? Science-obsessed? Blasphemous?

take these labels and apply them back to me. And compare these labels to how you đ˜ąđ˜€đ˜”đ˜¶đ˜ąđ˜­đ˜­đ˜ș know me as a person. đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

Let me ask: do these labels easily fit into your general perception of me? 😅

Of Donald Arteaga? đŸ€·â€â™‚ïž

If your answer is “no”
THAT is the reason why!

🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đ«đžđšđŹđšđ§ 𝐈 đ«đšđ«đžđ„đČ đđžđŹđœđ«đąđ›đž 𝐩đČđŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐱𝐧 đ­đžđ«đŠđŹ 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ 𝐱𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐈 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝 đŸđšđ« đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐩𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠, đŸđąđ«đŹđ­ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŸđšđ«đžđŠđšđŹđ­, đ›đžđŸđšđ«đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ. 🙌

I’d rather we all be judged, as Martin Luther King Jr. said, based upon the content of our character. đŸ‘€

👍 I don’t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my sexual preference.

👍 I don’t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my race.

👍 I don’t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my political views.

👍 I don’t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my religious affiliation.

THIS is why I generally don’t provide this information to people upfront. I want you to get to know ME first, minus the preconceptions. 🙂

👀 𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đŠđšđ«đž 𝐈 đžđŠđ©đĄđšđŹđąđłđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ 𝐚𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐹 𝐈 𝐚𝐩, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đŠđšđ«đž 𝐈 đžđ§đœđšđźđ«đšđ đž đČ𝐹𝐼 đšđ§đ„đČ 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐩𝐞 đ­đĄđ«đšđźđ đĄ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đŸđąđ„đ­đžđ« 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ. 👀

The problem is these labels are only mere facets of who I am as a human being, just as I believe this to be the case for any other human being. 💎

I’ve held this ideal ever since I started my mission to Transcend Labels in 2018. ⏳

The ideal has always been for me to show through my example that people don’t have to be entrenched in their labels. 💯

The ideal has always been for me to show that my diagnosis of Autism is just a temporary explanation and not a final destination. 💯

The ideal has always been for me to show how limiting labels are as frameworks for understanding ourselves and other people. 💯

Consider the facts:

🙌 No one on this planet is 100% exactly the same.

🙌 No one thinks 100% exactly the same way.

🙌 No one has lived 100% exactly the same life as another person.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ« đąđ§đĄđžđ«đžđ§đ­ đąđ§đđąđŻđąđđźđšđ„đąđ­đČ, đžđŻđžđ«đČ𝐹𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ­đžđ§đ­đąđšđ„ 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐼𝐬 𝐬𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ« đąđ§đĄđžđ«đžđ§đ­ đąđ§đđąđŻđąđđźđšđ„đąđ­đČ, 𝐚 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§â€™đŹ đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ§đžđŻđžđ« 𝐝𝐹 𝐣𝐼𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đœđšđŠđ©đ„đžđ±, 𝐼𝐧𝐱đȘ𝐼𝐞 đąđ§đđąđŻđąđđźđšđ„ đ„đšđČ𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐹𝐟 𝐼𝐬.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ« đąđ§đĄđžđ«đžđ§đ­ đąđ§đđąđŻđąđđźđšđ„đąđ­đČ, 𝐚 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§â€™đŹ đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ§đžđŻđžđ« 𝐛𝐞 𝐚 đđžđ­đžđ«đŠđąđ§đšđ§đ­ 𝐹𝐟 𝐹𝐧𝐞’𝐬 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§đšđ„ đœđĄđšđ«đšđœđ­đžđ«.

As Ayishat Akanbi put it: “đ‘»đ’‰đ’† 𝒇𝒊𝒙𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒎𝒊𝒕𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒕𝒚.” The obsession with one’s labels become a self-fulfilling prophecy which leaves no room for change, let alone the possibility for personal growth. 🙌

For me, my mission to Transcend Labels is a life-affirming philosophy that says we are more than our pasts, more than our circumstances, and that we are capable of becoming more than the people we were yesterday. ✊

Perhaps as you read this, this sounds like common sense to you! 😅

things seemed to have changed. 🧐

Not with my mission; it remains the same. But I’m talking about within our society. đŸ‘„

More and more I continue reading about a growing ideology that:

đŸ˜± Encourages people to see each other ONLY for their labels, not for their individuality.

đŸ˜± Encourages people to see each other ONLY for their group identities, not for their common humanity.

đŸ˜± Encourages people to see each other ONLY in binary camps of either being Oppressors or being Oppressed.

đŸ˜± Encourages people to indulge in cognitive biases like mindreading, overgeneralizing, and black-and-white thinking.

This smorgasbord of an ideology has come to be more popularly known as: “being woke”.

(𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘱 đ˜™đ˜°đ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜”đ˜”đ˜ą đ˜Žđ˜”đ˜°đ˜Żđ˜Š 𝘰𝘯 𝘞𝘰𝘬𝘩 đ˜Șđ˜„đ˜Šđ˜°đ˜­đ˜°đ˜šđ˜ș, đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜ąđ˜„ “𝘊đ˜ș𝘯đ˜Șđ˜€đ˜ąđ˜­ đ˜›đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜°đ˜łđ˜Ș𝘩𝘮: 𝘏𝘰𝘾 đ˜ˆđ˜€đ˜”đ˜Șđ˜·đ˜Șđ˜Žđ˜” đ˜šđ˜€đ˜©đ˜°đ˜­đ˜ąđ˜łđ˜Žđ˜©đ˜Șđ˜± đ˜”đ˜ąđ˜„đ˜Š đ˜Œđ˜·đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜șđ˜”đ˜©đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜ˆđ˜Łđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜” đ˜™đ˜ąđ˜€đ˜Š, đ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜„đ˜Šđ˜ł, đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜đ˜„đ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜”đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜ș” 𝘣đ˜ș 𝘑𝘱𝘼𝘩𝘮 𝘓đ˜Șđ˜Żđ˜„đ˜Žđ˜ąđ˜ș & 𝘏𝘩𝘭𝘩𝘯 đ˜—đ˜­đ˜¶đ˜€đ˜Źđ˜łđ˜°đ˜Žđ˜Š.)

Simply put
the very ideals I’ve stood for the past few years are in direct opposition to this ideology. đŸ€·â€â™‚â€

So perhaps you can understand why a part of me is fascinated at how this ideology has reached such a wide audience, especially among the political Left, with little Critical (pun intended) examination. 😅

Perhaps you can understand my fascination reading about this ideology that argues the very ideals I stand for, the message I’ve promoted for years, can now be entirely summarized under labels such as “white supremacy”, “privilege”, “racist”, “microaggression”, and “offensive”. đŸ€š

❀ But I get it. ❀

I understand in these current times A LOT of us are stressed out and worried. I understand it’s hard for anyone to think clearly, let alone rationally, when our minds are shrouded in weeds. 😖

𝐈 đźđ§đđžđ«đŹđ­đšđ§đ 𝐱𝐭’𝐬 đŻđžđ«đČ đĄđšđ«đ 𝐭𝐹 đ­đĄđąđ§đ€ 𝐱𝐧 𝐧𝐼𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐝, đœđšđŠđ©đ„đžđ± 𝐰𝐚đČ𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐩𝐱𝐧𝐝𝐬 đ§đšđ­đźđ«đšđ„đ„đČ đœđ«đšđŻđž đŹđąđŠđ©đ„đąđœđąđ­đČ đđźđ«đąđ§đ  đŹđ­đ«đžđŹđŹđŸđźđ„ 𝐭𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐬.

If I were to combine every negative event which has happened the past year, I can’t blame someone for not feeling comfortable with all this Uncertainty. 😹

As I saw 1 tweet put it: “𝐘𝐹𝐼 đšđ«đž 𝐰𝐚𝐭𝐜𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐠𝐹 đ­đĄđ«đšđźđ đĄ đ°đąđ­đĄđđ«đšđ°đšđ„ đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐚𝐝𝐝𝐱𝐜𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩đČ𝐭𝐡 𝐹𝐟 đœđžđ«đ­đšđąđ§đ­đČ.” ❀

So yes, I definitely understand that lots of people at this time will be desperate to find something which helps them get back to Certainty, back to some sense of clarity and normalcy, back to some sense of renewed purpose and meaning
even if that means embracing an over-simplistic, fringe ideology like this one. 🙌

And THIS is one of the main reasons why I’ve not spoken up about this topic personally. 𝐈’𝐩 𝐧𝐹𝐭 đ„đšđšđ€đąđ§đ  𝐭𝐹 đ­đšđ€đž 𝐚 đœđĄđąđ„đâ€™đŹ đ›đ„đšđ§đ€đžđ­ 𝐚𝐰𝐚đČ đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝐡𝐱𝐩 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐡𝐞’𝐬 đŸđžđšđ«đŸđźđ„đ„đČ đœđ„đąđ§đ đąđ§đ  𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐹 𝐱𝐭 đŸđšđ« đđžđšđ« đ„đąđŸđž. 😭

At the moment, the child needs something, anything to stay calm and feel safe. 🛡

Don’t get me wrong, there are 100% real problems in our society that still need to be solved. I’m not here to pretend like everything is all fine and dandy. It’s not.

But we’re not going to solve them when we’re making the incorrect diagnoses, which in turn provide the wrong solutions. 👎

đ–đžâ€™đ«đž 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐠𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐹 đŹđšđ„đŻđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đœđšđŠđ©đ„đžđ± đ©đ«đšđ›đ„đžđŠđŹ 𝐱𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐬𝐹𝐜𝐱𝐞𝐭đČ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞 đšđŻđžđ«-đŹđąđŠđ©đ„đąđŹđ­đąđœ đ­đĄđąđ§đ€đąđ§đ  𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 𝐱𝐬 đœđ«đžđšđ­đąđ§đ  𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩. 👎

But that part of the discussion will be saved for another post

My point is: THIS is not the way forward. ❌

đŸ€Ź â€œđ‘Ÿđ‘Źđ‘łđ‘ł 𝑮đ‘č. 𝑯𝑰𝑼𝑯-đ‘šđ‘”đ‘«-đ‘Žđ‘°đ‘źđ‘Żđ‘»đ’€ đ‘«đ‘¶đ‘”đ‘šđ‘łđ‘«, đ‘źđ‘¶đ‘» đ‘šđ‘”đ’€ đ‘©đ‘Źđ‘»đ‘»đ‘Źđ‘č đ‘°đ‘«đ‘Źđ‘šđ‘ș?!” đŸ€Ź

I believe I do! And it goes right back to what I was talking about earlier. 😊

🙌 We move forward by focusing on our common humanity.

🙌 We move forward by focusing on what we have in common.

🙌 We move forward by NOT assuming malicious intent of those who disagree with us.

🙌 We move forward by focusing on understanding and less on labeling.

𝐖𝐞 𝐃𝐈𝐅𝐅𝐔𝐒𝐄 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ°đžđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ„đšđ›đžđ„đŹ đœđšđ«đ«đČ 𝐛đČ 𝐟𝐹𝐜𝐼𝐬𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐹𝐧 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐭đČ.

𝐖𝐞 𝐓𝐑𝐀𝐍𝐒𝐂𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ°đžđ« đšđźđ« đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐛𝐱𝐚𝐬𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đ«đžđŁđźđđąđœđžđŹ đœđšđ«đ«đČ 𝐛đČ 𝐟𝐹𝐜𝐼𝐬𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐹𝐧 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐭đČ.

𝐖𝐞 𝐀𝐂𝐊𝐍𝐎𝐖𝐋𝐄𝐃𝐆𝐄 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ„đžđ§đŹđžđŹ đ­đĄđ«đšđźđ đĄ 𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐞 đ đžđ§đžđ«đšđ„đ„đČ 𝐬𝐞𝐞 đšđ­đĄđžđ« đ©đžđšđ©đ„đžâ€Šđšđ§đ đŹđ­đąđ„đ„ 𝐂𝐇𝐎𝐎𝐒𝐄 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐭𝐹 𝐠𝐱𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩 𝐬𝐱𝐠𝐧𝐱𝐟𝐱𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐟𝐹𝐜𝐼𝐬𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐹𝐧 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐭đČ.

For every time we do this, we’ll remind our survival brain who’s in charge of how we connect with others. 🧠

We’ll remind our survival brain how naïve the caricatures we create in our minds about mass groups of people are. 🧠

𝐈𝐟 𝐰𝐞 đ­đ«đźđ„đČ 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐹 đ©đ«đšđŠđšđ­đž đđąđŻđžđ«đŹđąđ­đČ 𝐱𝐧 đšđźđ« 𝐬𝐹𝐜𝐱𝐞𝐭đČ, đ„đžđ­â€™đŹ 𝐧𝐹𝐭 đ§đžđ đ„đžđœđ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đŻđžđ«đČ đđąđŻđžđ«đŹđąđ­đČ đ„đšđČ𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧 𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đžđŻđžđ«đČ 𝐹𝐧𝐞 𝐹𝐟 𝐼𝐬. 𝐑𝐱𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐧𝐹𝐰 𝐰𝐞’đ«đž đšđ§đ„đČ 𝐭𝐹𝐼𝐜𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đŹđźđ«đŸđšđœđž.

Because what’s the alternative?

👎 A society which is OBSESSED with focusing on what makes us separate from each other.

👎 A society which DISCRIMINATES people based primarily upon their labels.

👎 A society which attempts to solve the problem of prejudice

That doesn’t sound like a desirable outcome, does it? Sounds a bit backwards, right? It’s honestly quite IL-liberal! 😅

thankfully we don’t have to go down that route! We don’t have to become “woke”! 💯

I challenge you to come with me and take the road less traveled. It’s important to remember that just because something is popular in the moment doesn’t automatically mean it’s right. 👍

I challenge you to come with me and use what might be considered a more “radical” approach these days to connecting with others:

𝐓𝐹 𝐬𝐞𝐞 đšđ­đĄđžđ«đŹ 𝐚𝐬 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠𝐬 đŸđąđ«đŹđ­ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŸđšđ«đžđŠđšđŹđ­. 𝐓𝐹 đ­đ«đžđšđ­ đšđ­đĄđžđ«đŹ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ«đžđŹđ©đžđœđ­, 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐱𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐠𝐱𝐯𝐞𝐧 đ›đšđœđ€. 𝐓𝐹 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đœđąđŻđąđ„đąđ­đČ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đĄđźđŠđąđ„đąđ­đČ, 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đšđ­đĄđžđ« đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§ 𝐝𝐹𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 đ«đžđœđąđ©đ«đšđœđšđ­đž. 𝐓𝐹 đ«đžđŠđžđŠđ›đžđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 đĄđźđ«đ­ đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž đĄđźđ«đ­ đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐱𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐠 đŸđąđ«đž 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đŸđąđ«đž đšđ§đ„đČ đœđ«đžđšđ­đžđŹ đŠđšđ«đž đŸđąđ«đž. 𝐓𝐹 𝐠𝐱𝐯𝐞 đČđšđźđ«đŹđžđ„đŸ đ©đžđ«đŠđąđŹđŹđąđšđ§ 𝐭𝐹 đ›đ«đžđšđ­đĄđž đđźđ«đąđ§đ  đŹđ­đ«đžđŹđŹđŸđźđ„ 𝐩𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬.

But if all this sounds too overwhelming, how about just this…?

đ˜đšđźâ€™đ«đž 𝐚 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐈’𝐩 𝐚 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠. đŸ‘„

𝐋𝐞𝐭’𝐬 đŹđ­đšđ«đ­ đ­đĄđžđ«đž. 🙂

𝐍𝐹 đŠđšđ«đž. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐹 đ„đžđŹđŹ. ❀

Why Misinformation SPREADS!


Ever played the game Telephone? 📞

It’s where you have group of people get in a straight line, and they stand next to each other. ——->

On one end of the line, Person 1 whispers a message to Person 2 next to them. Person 2 then is supposed to whisper the exact same message to Person 3 also next to them, and this continues on and on until they reach the last person at the end of the line. đŸ‘„

The goal of the game is to transfer the message Person 1 whispered as accurate as possible to the last person in line. âžĄïž

Of course, đ˜đ—”đ—Č đ—Œđ—żđ—¶đ—Žđ—¶đ—»đ—źđ—č đ—șđ—Č𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗮đ—Č đšđ„đ°đšđČ𝐬 𝗮đ—Č𝘁𝘀 đđąđŹđ­đšđ«đ­đžđ đšđ« đœđšđŠđ©đ„đžđ­đžđ„đČ đ—čđ—Œđ˜€đ˜ 𝗯𝘆 đ˜đ—”đ—Č đ—Čđ—»đ—± đ—Œđ—ł đ˜đ—”đ—Č đ—čđ—¶đ—»đ—Č! 😅

It’s a fun game to play if you ever get the chance! đŸŽČ

But, I also think this game is a great analogy when it comes to the public spread of misinformation online. đŸ€”

Consider this scenarioâ€ŠâŹ‡ïž

SCENARIO: đ˜Œ đ˜Ÿđ˜żđ˜Ÿ đ™€đ™›đ™›đ™žđ™˜đ™žđ™–đ™Ą đ™„đ™§đ™€đ™«đ™žđ™™đ™šđ™š 𝙖 đ™šđ™©đ™–đ™©đ™šđ™ąđ™šđ™Łđ™© đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™„đ™Ș𝙗𝙡𝙞𝙘. đŸ—Łïž

1. Person 1 cherry picks the CDC’s statement and passes the information to Person 2. đŸ—Łïž

2. Person 2 does not trust the CDC. He only remembers what Person 1 said that confirmed his biases against the CDC and passes the remaining information onto Person 3. đŸ—Łïž

3. Person 3 has a blog. He carries an anti-establishment worldview, so he posts what Person 2 says word-for-word. He then tacks on his own personal opinion to Person 2’s words and tells his reader to share his post on their social media pages. đŸ—Łïž

4. Thousands of people share Person 3’s blog post on their social media pages, in addition to also adding their own personal opinion attached to the posts.

5. Friends of these thousands of people then in turn share their posts on their own social media profiles, adding in even more personal opinions. đŸ—Łïž

𝗕𝘆 đ˜đ—”đ—¶đ˜€ đ—œđ—Œđ—¶đ—»đ˜, đ˜đ—”đ—Č 𝗖𝗗𝗖’𝘀 đ—Œđ—żđ—¶đ—Žđ—¶đ—»đ—źđ—č đ—șđ—Č𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗮đ—Č đ—”đ—źđ˜€ 𝗯đ—Čđ—Čđ—» đ—°đ—”đ—Č𝗿𝗿𝘆-đ—œđ—¶đ—°đ—žđ—Čđ—±, đ—șđ—¶đ˜€đ—°đ—Œđ—»đ˜€đ˜đ—żđ˜‚đ—Čđ—±, đ—źđ—»đ—± đ—±đ—¶đ˜€đ˜đ—Œđ—żđ˜đ—Čđ—± 𝗯𝘆 đ˜đ—”đ—Œđ˜‚đ˜€đ—źđ—»đ—±đ˜€ đ—Œđ—ł đ—œđ—Čđ—Œđ—œđ—čđ—Č đšđ§đ„đąđ§đž.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ«đžđŠđšđąđ§đŹ 𝐱𝐬 đŻđžđ«đČ đ„đąđ­đ­đ„đž 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐃𝐂’𝐬 đšđ«đąđ đąđ§đšđ„ 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐭. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ«đžđŠđšđąđ§đŹ đšđ©đšđ«đ­ đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝟏 đšđ« 𝟐 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 𝐱𝐬 𝐚 đ©đ„đžđ­đĄđšđ«đš 𝐹𝐟 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§đšđ„ đšđ©đąđ§đąđšđ§đŹ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đšđ„đąđ­đąđœđšđ„ đąđđžđšđ„đšđ đąđžđŹ.

𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ«đžđŠđšđąđ§đŹ 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 đ­đšđ€đžđ§ 𝐭𝐹 𝐛𝐞 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐛đČ 𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐹𝐼𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž đšđ§đ„đąđ§đž 𝐰𝐡𝐹 đ°đąđ„đ„ đ§đžđŻđžđ« đšđœđ­đźđšđ„đ„đČ đ«đžđšđ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐃𝐂’𝐬 đšđ«đąđ đąđ§đšđ„ 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐭. đŸ˜±

See how this can become a BIG problem, especially during a pandemic? đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

For those of my friends who consider themselves conscious consumers:

📌 For those who take concern over the foods they eat and the impact it has on the environment.

📌 For those who take concern over the media they consume and the impact it has on their mental health.

📌 For those who take concern over the consequences their actions can have on others.

𝐈’𝐩 đšđŹđ€đąđ§đ  𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐹𝐟 đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐹 đžđŠđ›đ«đšđœđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞 đ­đĄđšđźđ đĄđ­đŸđźđ„đ§đžđŹđŹ 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐱𝐭 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đąđ§đŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§ 𝐰𝐞 đŹđĄđšđ«đž đšđ§đ„đąđ§đž. 🙌

It’s very easy for any of us not to consider the consequences of sharing misinformation, especially when we aren’t even aware we’re doing it. 💯

It’s very easy for any of us not to consider the long-term effects this has on a democracy’s basic understanding of epistemic facts, on social media platforms where a majority of individuals receive their news! đŸ˜±

Yes! A 2016 study from Pew Research Center accounted that 62% of adults get their news from social media (Source:

𝐁𝐼𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 đĄđšđ©đ©đžđ§đŹ 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞 đŹđšđźđ«đœđž 𝐱𝐬 đœđĄđšđœđ€ đŸđźđ„đ„ 𝐹𝐟 đŠđąđŹđąđ§đŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§? 😓

We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe the moon landing never happened. We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe vaccines don’t save lives. We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe Bill Gates is the devil incarnate bent on a New World Order. 👿

I would hope most of my social media friends know that 2 + 2 = 4. But with the online game of Telephone, I would not be surprised to see some individuals who start to believe that 2 + 2 = 5 just because they watched 1 persuasive video they saw on YouTube. 😱

Consider this: 𝐀𝐧đČ đąđ đ§đšđ«đšđŠđźđŹ 𝐧𝐹𝐰 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ°đžđ« 𝐭𝐹 đœđ«đžđšđ­đž 𝐚 đ©đ«đšđŸđžđŹđŹđąđšđ§đšđ„-đ„đšđšđ€đąđ§đ  𝐯𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐹 đšđ§đ„đąđ§đž, đšđ©đ©đžđšđ„ 𝐭𝐹 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž’𝐬 𝐞𝐩𝐹𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧𝐬, đ©đ«đšđŻđąđđž đ§đšđ§đŹđžđ§đŹđąđœđšđ„ đšđ«đ đźđŠđžđ§đ­đŹ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đœđšđŠđ©đ„đžđ­đž 𝐜𝐹𝐧𝐟𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đšđŹđŹđąđšđ§ (“𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐋𝐈𝐄𝐃 𝐓𝐎! 𝟐 + 𝟐 𝐄𝐐𝐔𝐀𝐋𝐒 𝟓!”), 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐹𝐼𝐬𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐬 đ°đąđ„đ„ đŹđĄđšđ«đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐯𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐹 𝐹𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đŹđšđœđąđšđ„ 𝐩𝐞𝐝𝐱𝐚 đ©đšđ đžđŹ 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐱𝐭 đ©đ«đšđŻđąđđžđŹ 𝐚 đœđšđ§đŸđąđ«đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§ 𝐹𝐟 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đœđšđ§đ­đ«đšđ«đąđšđ§ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜đČđ§đąđœđšđ„ đ°đšđ«đ„đđŻđąđžđ°đŹ. 👀

𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐡𝐹𝐰 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 đ°đšđ«đ€. 💯

But I’m not writing this post to add any additional fearmongering. Perhaps I am too over-concerned. Perhaps I am also underestimating the intelligence of the majority of individuals who use social media. Perhaps my own confirmation bias is seeing these minor instances of ignorance and jumping to conclusions that it’s a bigger problem than it actually is! 😅

Nevertheless, when I see people I know and care about share information that only requires a basic understanding of Science, Chemistry, and Statistics to know it’s false, I’m aware the red flag in my mind starts blowing in the wind. đŸš©

I admit it: a part of me does fear a future society where a significant portion of the world’s population cannot share a mutually agreed upon fact as simple as 2 + 2 = 4. 🔱


No, that’s not my intention! I’m not here claiming the spread of misinformation by my friends is at all being done intentionally or maliciously. ❌

As author Sam Harris says: “đŽđźđ« đ°đšđ«đ„đ 𝐱𝐬𝐧’𝐭 đŸđąđ„đ„đžđ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 𝐛𝐚𝐝 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž đąđ§đ­đžđ§đ­đąđšđ§đšđ„đ„đČ 𝐝𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠𝐬. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 đŸđšđ« đŠđšđ«đž 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐹𝐧 𝐭𝐹 𝐟𝐱𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐹𝐹𝐝 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐝𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠𝐬 đźđ§đđžđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐰𝐚đČ 𝐹𝐟 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐬.” đŸ‘€

Or we can also use the phrase: “đđžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐝𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đ€đ§đšđ° 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ 𝐝𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đ€đ§đšđ°.” đŸ‘€

That’s why I wanted to write this post, to merely illuminate this potential blind spot. 😊

Like the game of Telephone, misinformation is inevitably going to spread, whether we intend it to or not. This caution need also be applied to me as well! 💯

But my point is we CAN be more careful about how fast it spreads. 😊

I get it. No one was given a How-To handbook to discern accurate and factual information online. Not even me; I had to learn these skills on my own! 😅

Back in school I was given a syllabus for my classes by the teacher. I was told what textbooks I needed to use. I was told what chapters I needed to read and study on. 🔎

Before the internet, we had a very limited amount of TV channels we could choose to get our information from. And if we wanted to further expand our knowledge, we’d have to get in our cars and drive to the nearest library. 📚

But now with the Internet…we have MILLIONS of pieces of information available to us at the click of a button! đŸ–±ïž

And EVEN MORE information is continuing to be created right as you read this post! This post you’re reading here IS just a speck of it! 👍

My point is, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ«đžđŹđ©đšđ§đŹđąđ›đąđ„đąđ­đČ 𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐹𝐧𝐜𝐞 đ„đšđąđ đźđ©đšđ§ đ­đžđšđœđĄđžđ«đŹ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŁđšđźđ«đ§đšđ„đąđŹđ­đŹ 𝐭𝐹 𝐯𝐞𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đ«đžđŹđžđ§đ­ đšđœđœđźđ«đšđ­đž đąđ§đŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§ 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 đ đ«đžđšđ­đ„đČ 𝐬𝐡𝐱𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐝 đ­đšđ°đšđ«đđŹ 𝐼𝐬 𝐚𝐬 đœđšđ§đŹđźđŠđžđ«đŹ. đŸ‘„

𝐓𝐡𝐞 đ©đ«đšđ›đ„đžđŠ 𝐱𝐬 𝐧𝐹𝐧𝐞 𝐹𝐟 𝐼𝐬 𝐬𝐱𝐠𝐧𝐞𝐝 đźđ© đŸđšđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐬, 𝐭𝐹 đžđŠđ›đ«đšđœđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞 đŹđšđ«đ­ 𝐹𝐟 đžđ©đąđŹđ­đžđŠđąđœ đ«đžđŹđ©đšđ§đŹđąđ›đąđ„đąđ­đČ 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 đ­đžđšđœđĄđžđ« đšđ« 𝐚 đŁđšđźđ«đ§đšđ„đąđŹđ­. ✍

So while social media provided many benefits, it also came with this unforeseen baggage. đŸ€·â€â™‚ïž

𝐓𝐡𝐞 đ©đ«đšđ›đ„đžđŠ 𝐱𝐬 đšđ§đ„đąđ§đž 𝐹𝐧𝐞 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§’𝐬 đąđ đ§đšđ«đšđ§đœđž 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞 đ­đ«đžđšđ­đžđ 𝐣𝐼𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐞đȘđźđšđ„ 𝐭𝐹 đšđ§đšđ­đĄđžđ« đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§â€™đŹ đ€đ§đšđ°đ„đžđđ đž.

Someone online can proclaim the fact of 2 + 2 = 4 as something to be “debated” when there is no debate. As long you know how to market yourself, build an online audience, and influence others you can sell snake oil and people will buy it. đŸ€Šâ€â™‚ïž


BUT…there is a bright side to all this! 🌞

đ’đšđœđąđšđ„ 𝐩𝐞𝐝𝐱𝐚 đœđšđŠđ©đšđ§đąđžđŹ 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 (đŸđąđ§đšđ„đ„đČ) đŹđ­đšđ«đ­đžđ đŹđ­đžđ©đ©đąđ§đ  𝐱𝐧 𝐭𝐹 𝐜𝐹𝐩𝐛𝐚𝐭 đŠđąđŹđąđ§đŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§! đŸ„ł

Companies like Facebook continue to work with third-party fact checking companies to combat this growing problem. (Source:👏

The very idea of “Fact-Checking” has now become a thing among organizations! (Source: 😄

đ’đšđœđąđšđ„ 𝐩𝐞𝐝𝐱𝐚 đœđšđŠđ©đšđ§đąđžđŹ 𝐠𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐼𝐬 𝐚 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐹 đ©đ„đšđČ đ§đąđœđžđ„đČ 𝐹𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ©đ„đšđČđ đ«đšđźđ§đđŹ, 𝐛𝐼𝐭 𝐱𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞𝐩𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đ„đšđ­đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đ«đžđšđ„đąđłđžđ 𝐰𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐰 đŠđšđ«đž đ«đźđ„đžđŹ đšđ« đžđ„đŹđž 𝐰𝐞 đ°đžđ«đž 𝐠𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐹 𝐞𝐧𝐝 đźđ© đŹđžđ«đąđšđźđŹđ„đČ đĄđźđ«đ­đąđ§đ  đšđźđ«đŹđžđ„đŻđžđŹ. đŸ‘źâ€â™‚ïž

That said, should we really have to depend on social media companies to supervise us? Can we do better than this, to be more responsible, self-governing citizens? đŸ‘€

Perhaps I’m a bit too optimistic, but I believe we can! 😄

đ—Șđ—”đ—źđ˜ 𝘄đ—Č 𝗼đ—čđ—č đ—°đ—źđ—» 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘁 đ—±đ—Œđ—¶đ—»đ—Ž đ—¶đ˜€ đ˜đ—źđ—žđ—¶đ—»đ—Ž đ—șđ—Œđ—żđ—Č 𝗿đ—Čđ˜€đ—œđ—Œđ—»đ˜€đ—¶đ—Żđ—¶đ—čđ—¶đ˜đ˜† đ—łđ—Œđ—ż đ˜đ—”đ—Č đ˜đ—”đ—¶đ—»đ—Žđ˜€ 𝘄đ—Č đ˜€đ—”đ—źđ—żđ—Č đ—Œđ—»đ—čđ—¶đ—»đ—Č. This goes for me too! 🎯

đŸ± đ—€đ—šđ—˜đ—Šđ—§đ—œđ—ąđ—Ąđ—Š 𝗧𝗱 𝗔𝗩𝗞 đ—©đ—œđ—˜đ—Ș𝗜𝗡𝗚 đ—œđ—Ąđ—™đ—ąđ—„đ— đ—”đ—§đ—œđ—ąđ—Ą 𝗱𝗡𝗟𝗜𝗡𝗘!

📌 𝘞𝘏𝘖 đ˜Ș𝘮 𝘮𝘱đ˜șđ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜Șđ˜”? 𝘋𝘰 𝘐 đ˜”đ˜łđ˜¶đ˜Žđ˜” đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ź?

📌 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛 đ˜±đ˜łđ˜°đ˜°đ˜§ 𝘰𝘳 𝘭đ˜Ș𝘯𝘬𝘮 đ˜„đ˜° đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ș đ˜©đ˜ąđ˜·đ˜Š?

📌 𝘞𝘏𝘌𝘕 𝘾𝘱𝘮 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Ș𝘮 đ˜±đ˜¶đ˜Łđ˜­đ˜Șđ˜Žđ˜©đ˜Šđ˜„?

📌 𝘞𝘏𝘌𝘙𝘌 𝘩𝘭𝘮𝘩 đ˜Ș𝘮 đ˜Șđ˜” 𝘣𝘩đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜±đ˜°đ˜łđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„ đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜žđ˜©đ˜ąđ˜” đ˜„đ˜° đ˜°đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ł 𝘰𝘧𝘧đ˜Șđ˜€đ˜Ș𝘱𝘭 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜”đ˜łđ˜¶đ˜Žđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„ đ˜Žđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜łđ˜€đ˜Šđ˜Ž 𝘮𝘱đ˜ș?

📌 𝘞𝘏𝘠 𝘱𝘳𝘩 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ș 𝘮𝘱đ˜șđ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜Șđ˜”? 𝘐𝘮 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Š 𝘱 đ˜źđ˜°đ˜”đ˜Șđ˜·đ˜Š 𝘰𝘳 𝘣đ˜Ș𝘱𝘮 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Š?

𝗕𝗱𝗡𝗹𝗩 đ—€đ—šđ—˜đ—Šđ—§đ—œđ—ąđ—Ą: 𝘋𝘰 𝘐 𝘙𝘌𝘈𝘓𝘓𝘠 𝘣𝘩𝘭đ˜Șđ˜Šđ˜·đ˜Š đ˜Șđ˜”? 𝘖𝘳 đ˜„đ˜° 𝘐 đ˜«đ˜¶đ˜Žđ˜” 𝘞𝘈𝘕𝘛 đ˜”đ˜° 𝘣𝘩𝘭đ˜Șđ˜Šđ˜·đ˜Š đ˜Șđ˜”?

𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐬 đŠđšđ­đ­đžđ«. As a functioning democracy, as a basic understanding of objective truth, it matters that we all can agree that 2 + 2 = 4. 💯

The bigger question is: will you join me in being a part of that solution? ❀



How We BECOME Civil!


It doesn’t have to be one OR the other; it can be one AND the other. ↔

I don’t expect my spiritual friends to understand the complexities of science and the search for objective truth. 🧬

But nor do I expect my scientific friends to understand the usefulness of stories and metaphorical truths to help someone live a better quality of life. ❀

The problem I see happening is when each side assumes malicious intent of the other. Each side assumes they are searching for the same definition of “truth”. 👍

𝐁𝐼𝐭 đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧 𝐛𝐹𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐹𝐱𝐧, 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đšđŹđŹđźđ«đž đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đžđ§’𝐭. 👎

They both have very different epistemologies and methodologies for how they seek “truth”. 😅

↔ Science is focused on precision; spirituality is very broad.

↔ Science uses quantitative measurement; spirituality embraces the abstract.

↔ Science is focused on objectivity; spirituality is focused on subjectivity.

Unfortunately, each side’s misunderstandings of each other puts them both at odds. This miscommunication has both sides end up talking over each other. 🔀

It’s why it’s so easy for each side to label the other side as the “villain”. 👿

Problems arise:

📌 When the spiritual individual misunderstands science and cites studies for which a scientist could easily deduct to be “junk” or “pseudoscience”.

📌 When the scientific individual misunderstands spirituality and thinks the ideas that are taught are useless because they can’t be measured quantitatively.

📌 When the spiritual individual labels scientists and the breakthroughs they discover as “satanic” and “unnatural”.

📌 When the scientific individual labels spirituality and the rituals within these communities as “delusional” and “woo woo”.

In other words, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝟐 đšđ«đžđšđŹ đšđ«đž 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞. đ“đĄđžđ«đžđŸđšđ«đž, 𝐰𝐞 đŹđĄđšđźđ„đ 𝐧𝐹𝐭 đ­đ«đžđšđ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩 𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐼𝐜𝐡.

𝐖𝐞 đŹđĄđšđźđ„đ đ«đžđŹđ©đžđœđ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝟐 đŹđžđ©đšđ«đšđ­đž đŸđąđžđ„đđŹ 𝐹𝐟 𝐱𝐧đȘđźđąđ«đČ 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đžđ±đąđŹđ­đžđ§đœđž đœđšđ„đ„đžđ 𝐋𝐱𝐟𝐞.

Let me add: I’m NOT saying I treat these fields as having equal usefulness. I’m NOT taking the middle ground here and saying both sides are 50-50. I strongly disagree with that stance. ❌

I have my own personal views and stances towards each field, but that’s not what this post is about.

My point with writing this post is the same point I’ve made in so many of my other posts: 𝒅𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒘 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒃𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒘𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒓. đŸ‘¶

Am I saying a scientist or spiritual teacher cannot question authority figures or experts outside their dedicated fields? Of course not! That’s how we learn and understand from the experts in their fields. It’s important we ask questions! 💯

Hell, I’m not an “expert” in either field and I’m still writing this post! 😜

But what I am advocating for is an open communication between the fields, to bring the best of both worlds to the table while at the same time understanding and respecting where the fields are going to irreconcilably differ.


This can also be applied to the political sphere, when it comes to Democrats and Republicans, “the Left” and “the Right”.

Van Jones argued in his recent book “Beyond the Messy Truth” one of the biggest problems facing our modern politics is that political parties are no longer uniting under the ideals of Conservatism or Liberalism, to bring out the best of their parties. Instead, 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐠 đźđ§đđžđ« 𝐚 đŹđĄđšđ«đžđ đĄđšđŹđ­đąđ„đąđ­đČ 𝐹𝐟 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐱-𝐓𝐡𝐞 đŽđ­đĄđžđ« đđšđ«đ­đČ. đŸ€Ź

Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt provided a similar argument in his book “The Coddling of the American Mind” but in the context of college campuses. He cites instances where college students have forcibly interrupted and shouted down guest speakers they personally deemed “offensive”. đŸ€Ź

In one instance, a college professor disagreed with students about one of their social causes. Literally, student protesters surrounded him, screamed at him when he asked for a civil discussion, and demanded he resign from the university.

To put it simply:

🌟 đ™‹đ™€đ™Ąđ™–đ™§đ™žđ™Żđ™–đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™—đ™šđ™©đ™Źđ™šđ™šđ™Ł đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. 𝙏𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙹𝙱 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. đ˜Ÿđ™źđ™Łđ™žđ™˜đ™žđ™šđ™ą 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙹 𝙖 đ™œđ™§đ™€đ™Źđ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™˜đ™€đ™Ąđ™Ąđ™šđ™˜đ™©đ™žđ™«đ™š 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Șđ™ąđ™„đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙙𝙞𝙹𝙖𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙚 đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ đ™Ș𝙹, 𝙗𝙼 𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙖đ™Șđ™Ąđ™©, đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™ąđ™–đ™Ąđ™žđ™˜đ™žđ™€đ™Ș𝙹 đ™žđ™Łđ™©đ™šđ™Łđ™©.

đ˜Œđ™§đ™œđ™Șđ™ąđ™šđ™Łđ™©đ™š đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™˜đ™€đ™ąđ™š 𝙡𝙚𝙹𝙹 đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© 𝙹𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™›đ™€đ™§ đ™©đ™§đ™Șđ™©đ™ 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™žđ™Łđ™šđ™©đ™šđ™–đ™™ đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™©đ™€ 𝙬𝙞𝙣. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙼’đ™«đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™˜đ™€đ™ąđ™š 𝙡𝙚𝙹𝙹 đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© đ™Ș𝙹𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™›đ™–đ™˜đ™©đ™š 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™§đ™šđ™–đ™šđ™€đ™Ł 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™žđ™Łđ™šđ™©đ™šđ™–đ™™ đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© đ™™đ™€đ™ąđ™žđ™Łđ™–đ™©đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ đ™šđ™ąđ™€đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Łđ™–đ™Ą đ™žđ™Łđ™©đ™žđ™ąđ™žđ™™đ™–đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł. 🌟

And I won’t pretend I’m immune from falling into these mindsets either! đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

I’m not here to claim moral superiority with this post. Just like anyone else, I need to remind myself not to fall into these traps at times too! 💯

It’s why I don’t blame you if you fall into them either. 👍


𝙄’𝙱 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™„đ™€đ™šđ™šđ™žđ™—đ™žđ™Ąđ™žđ™©đ™ź đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™™đ™€đ™Ł’đ™© đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™©đ™€ 𝙹𝙚𝙚 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™€đ™Łđ™š 𝙚𝙡𝙹𝙚 𝙖𝙹 đ™źđ™€đ™Ș𝙧 “𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙱𝙼”. 🌟

It may be good for one’s online branding and business marketing to create polarization and division in the short-term, but it sure as hell isn’t good for humanity’s sake in the long-term. 💯

It’s why we ALL need to be very careful about the environments we surround ourselves in, the people we choose to surround ourselves with, and what we choose to feed our minds on a daily basis. 🧠

It’s not just about maintaining a healthy physical body but also about maintaining a healthy mental mind.

𝑭𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒋𝒖𝒏𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚. 𝑭𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒋𝒖𝒏𝒌 𝒊𝒏𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅. 🌟

Did you know Van Jones is close friends with Newt Gingrich? 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝐹𝐧 đšđ©đ©đšđŹđąđ­đž 𝐬𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ„đąđ­đąđœđšđ„ đŹđ©đžđœđ­đ«đźđŠ. Van Jones is a Democrat and Newt a Republican.

Van Jones notes in his book they disagree more than they ever agree politically. 😅

But despite that, they’re good friends! đŸ˜Č

Why? Newt once shared with him this piece of wisdom:

“𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 ‘90% 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒎𝒚’ 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 ‘10% 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅’ – 𝒐𝒏 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒑𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆.” 🌟

It’s why I think Jonathan Haidt was also right, in the same tradition, when he said the greatest wisdom you can find is in the minds of your opponents. Your “villains”. The people you’re emotionally tempted label in your mind as “pure evil”. 👿

⚠ BUT

A few months ago, I listened to a Joe Rogan podcast where he interviewed Daryl Davis. Daryl is an African American musician who is known not just for his amazing talent on the piano but also for converting over 200 people OUT of the white supremacist group the Ku Klux Klan. đŸ˜±

On the podcast he went in-depth about how this all started. But the biggest detail which stuck out to me hearing his story was in how simple his solution was in reaching out to Klan members! 💡

🌟 𝑯𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒅 𝒄𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒍, 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒍𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎. 𝑯𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒆𝒙𝒂𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒂𝒇𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒐𝒇. 🌟

He learned what the Klan believed about African Americans, and he (again, respectfully) challenged their ideas. He invited many of them over to his house for dinner! And in turn, they even invited him to their Klan meetings! 😅

It wasn’t long after that one of the top Klan members handed Daryl his Klan robe and said he was leaving the organization. đŸ˜±

đ—”đ—Žđ—źđ—¶đ—», đ˜đ—”đ—¶đ˜€ 𝘄𝗼𝘀 đ˜đ—Œ 𝗯đ—Č đ—·đ˜‚đ˜€đ˜ 𝟭 đ—Œđ—ł đ—Œđ˜ƒđ—Č𝗿 𝟼𝟬𝟬 𝗞đ—čđ—źđ—»đ˜€đ—șđ—Čđ—»!

And you know what, the solution Daryl provided in this situation was not so different from the story of Megan Phelps-Roper either! 🙌

Megan was a former member of the Westboro Baptist Church, a group widely known for their extremist views towards homosexuals (“God hates f**s”).

From birth, Megan was raised in the Church as her grandfather was the founder. Because of her upbringing, she was raised to see a very limited view of the world around her. 👀

𝐒𝐡𝐞 đšđ§đ„đČ đ€đ§đžđ° 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 đĄđžđ« đŸđšđŠđąđ„đČ đ­đšđ„đ đĄđžđ«. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐚𝐼𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐠 đĄđžđ« 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đĄđžđ« đŸđšđŠđąđ„đČ 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đ°đžđ«đž đ«đąđ đĄđ­đžđšđźđŹ 𝐱𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ›đžđ„đąđžđŸđŹ.

It was only when she created a Twitter account to promote her Church was she exposed to alternative viewpoints. Anonymous people she had never met were now pointing out logical inconsistencies in her tweets.

One of those people in particular was a lawyer she debated and eventually became good friends with. 🔗

But the difference between him and other people who simply tweeted insults at her?

🌟 𝙅đ™Șđ™šđ™© 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝘿𝙖𝙧𝙼𝙡, 𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙹 đ™§đ™šđ™šđ™„đ™šđ™˜đ™©đ™›đ™Ș𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™˜đ™žđ™«đ™žđ™Ą đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ 𝙝𝙚𝙧. 🌟

Eventually she started to doubt what she was raised to believe. She eventually went to her folks for clarity, but with the new perspectives she had been introduced to she did not receive a satisfactory answer. đŸ€Ż

Eventually she left the church along with her sister
and her family shunned her. Today she shares her personal story with others, to provide an inside view when it comes to religious extremism. đŸ—Łïž

As for that lawyer she once debated
they’re now married! 💍


🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒆𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒌𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔. 🌟

🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒊𝒇 𝒘𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒇𝒖𝒍. đ‘”đ’ 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒖𝒍𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒕. 🌟

🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒘𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒐𝒏 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒆𝒇𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒔𝒐. 🌟

These all may sound like common sense. But how many people do you see using this common sense on a daily basis?

How about yourself? 😉

Sounds like it’s back to basics, right?!

❀ BUT I GET IT! ❀

Seriously, I do!

Your need to “be right” is the same reason I want to “be right”. 🙌

đ‡đšđ„đđąđ§đ  𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đ„đąđŠđąđ­đžđ đźđ§đđžđ«đŹđ­đšđ§đđąđ§đ đŹ 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ°đšđ«đ„đ 𝐱𝐬 đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„đ„đČ đœđšđŠđŸđšđ«đ­đšđ›đ„đž. 𝐈𝐭 đŸđžđžđ„đŹ 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŹđžđœđźđ«đž. 𝐈𝐭 đ„đžđ­đŹ 𝐼𝐬 𝐜𝐡𝐹𝐹𝐬𝐞 đšđ§đ„đČ 𝐭𝐹 đ„đžđ­ đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đ„đąđŻđžđŹ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ đźđšđ«đšđ§đ­đžđž 𝐰𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đŠđšđ€đž 𝐚 𝐩𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ« đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐡𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐬. 🌟

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐛𝐞 đšđ©đžđ§ 𝐭𝐹 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đœđšđ§đ­đ«đšđŹđ­đąđ§đ  𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐬, 𝐹𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 đœđĄđšđ„đ„đžđ§đ đž đšđźđ« 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐹𝐟 đŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐭đČ, 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ­đ«đąđ đ đžđ« đ đ«đžđšđ­ đžđ±đąđŹđ­đžđ§đ­đąđšđ„ đ©đšđąđ§. 𝐖𝐡𝐹 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐹 đŸđžđžđ„ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ€đąđ§đ 𝐹𝐟 đ©đšđąđ§?! 𝐈 đ€đ§đšđ° 𝐈 𝐝𝐹𝐧’𝐭! 🌟

𝐓𝐹 𝐚𝐝𝐩𝐱𝐭 𝐈’𝐩 đ°đ«đšđ§đ  đ«đžđȘđźđąđ«đžđŹ 𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 đšđœđ€đ§đšđ°đ„đžđđ đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐭đČ 𝐈 𝐹𝐧𝐜𝐞 đ›đźđąđ„đ­ đšđ«đšđźđ§đ 𝐩đČđŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐚𝐬 đŹđ­đźđ«đđČ 𝐚𝐬 𝐈 𝐹𝐧𝐜𝐞 đŸđžđ„đ­ 𝐱𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬. 🌟

𝐉𝐼𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐼𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐹 đĄđšđ„đ 𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐹 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 đ›đžđ„đąđžđŻđž 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐼𝐭 đžđŻđžđ«đČ𝐹𝐧𝐞 đžđ„đŹđž 𝐰𝐡𝐹 đđąđŹđšđ đ«đžđžđŹ đ°đšđźđ„đ đđžđŸđąđ§đąđ­đžđ„đČ đ©đ«đšđŻđąđđž 𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ‚đžđ«đ­đšđąđ§đ­đČ 𝐈 đœđ«đšđŻđž 𝐭𝐹 𝐚𝐧 đźđ§đœđžđ«đ­đšđąđ§ đ„đąđŸđž. 🌟

But there’s 1 big problem:

𝐈𝐭 𝐰𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đšđ„đ„đšđ° đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐹 đžđ±đ©đžđ«đąđžđ§đœđž đ„đąđŸđž 𝐹𝐧 𝐚 đđžđžđ©đžđ« 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŠđšđ«đž đŠđžđšđ§đąđ§đ đŸđźđ„ đ„đžđŻđžđ„, 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 đČ𝐹𝐼’𝐯𝐞 đ„đąđŠđąđ­đžđ đČđšđźđ« đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐡𝐹𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐼𝐜𝐡 𝐚 đŹđŠđšđ„đ„ đŹđžđ„đžđœđ­ 𝐟𝐞𝐰. 🌟

So, I get it
it’s not easy! It wasn’t easy for me either! ❀


These are solutions we need to start addressing sooner than later, so much as we are going to live together and not die together.

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™€đ™Ąđ™šđ™§đ™–đ™©đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š đ™›đ™–đ™˜đ™© đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š 𝙖𝙧𝙚 7.5 đ™—đ™žđ™Ąđ™Ąđ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š đ™€đ™Ł đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š đ™„đ™Ąđ™–đ™Łđ™šđ™© đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙱𝙖𝙼 đ™Łđ™€đ™© đ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™  đ™©đ™đ™š 𝙹𝙖𝙱𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙼 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™€ đ™€đ™§ đ™—đ™šđ™Ąđ™žđ™šđ™«đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š 𝙹𝙖𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œđ™š 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™€. 🌟

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™©đ™€ đ™™đ™šđ™«đ™šđ™Ąđ™€đ™„ đ™ąđ™€đ™™đ™šđ™šđ™©đ™ź 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝đ™Șđ™ąđ™žđ™Ąđ™žđ™©đ™ź, đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š 𝙖𝙧𝙚 đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š 𝙬𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™›đ™§đ™€đ™ą 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™đ™–đ™„đ™š đ™©đ™šđ™–đ™˜đ™ đ™Ș𝙹 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œ 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™žđ™™đ™Łâ€™đ™© đ™ đ™Łđ™€đ™Ź đ™—đ™šđ™›đ™€đ™§đ™š.🌟

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ đ™™đ™šđ™«đ™šđ™Ąđ™€đ™„ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™đ™–đ™—đ™žđ™© đ™€đ™› đ™œđ™žđ™«đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™Łđ™šđ™›đ™žđ™© đ™€đ™› đ™©đ™đ™š đ™™đ™€đ™Șđ™—đ™©. 𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™š đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙘đ™Șđ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™€đ™›đ™› 𝙞𝙣 đ™©đ™§đ™–đ™›đ™›đ™žđ™˜. đ™”đ™€đ™Ș 𝙘𝙖𝙣 đ™˜đ™šđ™§đ™©đ™–đ™žđ™Łđ™Ąđ™ź đ™˜đ™đ™€đ™€đ™šđ™š đ™©đ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™šđ™źâ€™đ™§đ™š 𝙖 â€œđ™đ™€đ™§đ™§đ™žđ™—đ™Ąđ™š đ™™đ™§đ™žđ™«đ™šđ™§â€. đ˜œđ™Șđ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș 𝙘𝙖𝙣 đ™–đ™Ąđ™šđ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™šđ™ź 𝙱𝙖𝙼 𝙗𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙧đ™Ș𝙹𝙝 đ™©đ™€ đ™œđ™šđ™© đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™đ™šđ™žđ™§ đ™Ąđ™€đ™«đ™šđ™™ đ™€đ™Łđ™šđ™š đ™–đ™© đ™©đ™đ™š đ™đ™€đ™šđ™„đ™žđ™©đ™–đ™Ą, đ™©đ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™™đ™€đ™šđ™šđ™Łâ€™đ™© đ™Łđ™€đ™§đ™ąđ™–đ™Ąđ™Ąđ™ź đ™™đ™§đ™žđ™«đ™š 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š. đ™”đ™€đ™Ș𝙧 đ™˜đ™đ™€đ™žđ™˜đ™š! 🌟

So, who’s with me in being the change we wish to see? đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

It doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes. I can tell you I’ve made plenty myself! What matters is you acknowledge those mistakes and continue to improve upon them. 👍

If I’ve not convinced you yet to come along on this journey, perhaps I can share with you advice directly from Megan Phelps-Roper herself on how we can better communicate with others…

“🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đŸđąđ«đŹđ­ 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐼𝐩𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭.

My friends on Twitter realized that even when my words were aggressive and offensive, I sincerely believed I was doing the right thing.

Assuming ill motives almost instantly cuts us off from truly understanding why someone does and believes as they do. 🌟

We forget that they’re a human being with a lifetime of experience that shaped their mind, and we get stuck on that first wave of anger, and the conversation has a very hard time ever moving beyond it. But when we assume good or neutral intent, we give our minds a much stronger framework for dialogue.

🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐹𝐧𝐝 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 đšđŹđ€ đȘ𝐼𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧𝐬.

When we engage people across ideological divides, asking questions helps us map the disconnect between our differing points of view. That’s important because we can’t present effective arguments if we don’t understand where the other side is actually coming from and because it gives them an opportunity to point out flaws in our positions.

But asking questions serves another purpose; it signals to someone that they’re being heard. 🌟

When my friends on Twitter stopped accusing and started asking questions, I almost automatically mirrored them. Their questions gave me room to speak, but they also gave me permission to ask them questions and to truly hear their responses. It fundamentally changed the dynamic of our conversation.

🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đ­đĄđąđ«đ 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐭𝐚đČ đœđšđ„đŠ.

This takes practice and patience, but it’s powerful. At Westboro, I learned not to care how my manner of speaking affected others. I thought my rightness justified my rudeness — harsh tones, raised voices, insults, interruptions — but that strategy is ultimately counterproductive. Dialing up the volume and the snark is natural in stressful situations, but it tends to bring the conversation to an unsatisfactory, explosive end.

When my husband was still just an anonymous Twitter acquaintance, our discussions frequently became hard and pointed, but we always refused to escalate. Instead, he would change the subject. He would tell a joke or recommend a book or gently excuse himself from the conversation. We knew the discussion wasn’t over, just paused for a time to bring us back to an even keel.

People often lament that digital communication makes us less civil, but this is one advantage that online conversations have over in-person ones. We have a buffer of time and space between us and the people whose ideas we find so frustrating. We can use that buffer. Instead of lashing out, we can pause, breathe, change the subject or walk away, and then come back to it when we’re ready.

🙌 𝐀𝐧𝐝 đŸđąđ§đšđ„đ„đČ…đŠđšđ€đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đšđ«đ đźđŠđžđ§đ­.

This might seem obvious, but one side effect of having strong beliefs is that we sometimes assume that the value of our position is or should be obvious and self-evident, that we shouldn’t have to defend our positions because they’re so clearly right and good that if someone doesn’t get it, it’s their problem — that it’s not my job to educate them.

But if it were that simple, we would all see things the same way. 🌟

As kind as my friends on Twitter were, if they hadn’t actually made their arguments, it would’ve been so much harder for me to see the world in a different way. We are all a product of our upbringing, and our beliefs reflect our experiences. We can’t expect others to spontaneously change their own minds. If we want change, we have to make the case for it.

🌟 𝐌đČ đŸđ«đąđžđ§đđŹ 𝐹𝐧 đ“đ°đąđ­đ­đžđ« 𝐝𝐱𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐹𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ›đžđ„đąđžđŸđŹ đšđ« đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ©đ«đąđ§đœđąđ©đ„đžđŹ — đšđ§đ„đČ đ­đĄđžđąđ« đŹđœđšđ«đ§. 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đœđĄđšđ§đ§đžđ„đžđ đ­đĄđžđąđ« đąđ§đŸđąđ§đąđ­đžđ„đČ đŁđźđŹđ­đąđŸđąđšđ›đ„đž 𝐹𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐩𝐞 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ©đšđąđ§đ­đžđ đȘ𝐼𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧𝐬 đ­đžđŠđ©đžđ«đžđ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ€đąđ§đđ§đžđŹđŹ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đĄđźđŠđšđ«. 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ©đ©đ«đšđšđœđĄđžđ 𝐩𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 đŠđšđ«đž đ­đ«đšđ§đŹđŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđŻđž 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐰𝐹 đŸđźđ„đ„ 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ­đ«đšđ đž, 𝐝𝐱𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐱𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŻđąđšđ„đžđ§đœđž.” 🌟