How AUTISM Helped Me DEFY the Odds! (PERSONAL)

๐Ÿ˜ฒย I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM!!!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

I use to consider myself a very introverted person, very shy, and very set in my own closed routines. I was more of a thinker than a doer and more a dreamer than a leader. Can you relate to that? If not, can you think of someone in your life who was like that?ย ๐Ÿค”

Being diagnosed with Autism in 7th grade was probably the starting point for me, the point where I confirmed these ideas to myself about who I was: something was ‘wrong’ in my brain.ย ๐Ÿง ย “I have Autism. It explains why I feel the way I feel. It’s just something that’s a part of me; I can’t change it.”ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

But even at the time I remember feeling like I didnโ€™t want to be labeled like this. I saw the label before me with all its negativity, a label I needed to object and rebel from.ย ๐Ÿ‘Šย I saw the stigmas of this label becoming my reality, and once I started seeing it reflected in other people’s behaviors towards me it frightened me to the core!ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

I have vivid memories from school where I refused to accept new accommodations because of the new label. I was now being offered additional time on tests, opportunities to leave class to ‘cool down’, and every single time I refused. I was being treated differently. I hadn’t changed, but with my new label I had changed in the eyes of everyone else.ย ๐Ÿ˜Ÿย Has someone ever said something about you that you knew wasn’t true? Did you ever feel like you just wanted to jump on the defense and say: “That is absolutely NOT TRUE!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

With my new label I was constantly reminded about my new-given identity: what I couldn’t do, what my limitations were, and what struggles I’d have the rest of my life.ย ๐Ÿ”ฎย Very little was I ever reminded about all my current strengths or what I could do. It was mostly the echoes from a set of diagnostic criteria.ย ๐Ÿ“–

In psychology, the term is referred to as a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. In sociology, it’s referred to as the Labeling Theory. To put it simply: If a person holds a belief in their mind about someone else’s future expectations, the person will unconsciously help in influencing the other person into fulfilling those expectations.ย ๐Ÿค”

So for example, if a parent holds a child to very low expectations the odds are very likely the child won’t ever go past the ones the parent already set for them. They will only achieve the most minimal, the expectations set by the parent.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

SO FOR A LONG TIME I USE TO LET OTHERS DICTATE HOW I WAS GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE…๐Ÿ˜”

But then at one point I finally decided I was going on my own path. These past few years I’ve learned that everything starts with Me: I must take control of my life, how I choose to see it, and how I’m going to live it.ย ๐Ÿ‘

๐Ÿ“Œย Dale Carnegie explained it through his principles to Win Friends and Influence People.

๐Ÿ“Œย Stephen Covey said it with his Habit of Being Proactive.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Stoics taught it through their principles of self-control.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Existentialists shared it through the creation of meanings.

๐Ÿ“Œย Individuals like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. excelled it through their example.

It’s the power of helping OURSELVES FIRST before we start trying to help the rest of the world. It’s about taking CONTROL over our emotions rather than letting them and our environment control us. It’s about living our lives for a PURPOSE greater than just ourselves. It’s about a “dream”, a vision of a greater future for all of humanity. Most importantly, it’s about YOU DEFINING YOUR LIFE.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

What I’ve come to realize again and again is that my past does not have to equal the future. I’ve realized I am more capable than what any label or diagnosis will dictate.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

Have you ever taken a personality test and it gave you a result you wholeheartedly believed in? “Congrats, you’re an INFJ!” The problem with these tests is they can tell you who you are NOW. But they don’t tell you who you’ll necessarily be in the FUTURE. We can change as well as mentally evolve. It’s a part of who I may be now, but it’s not the final destination!ย ๐Ÿ›ฃ๏ธ

I’ve realized that I ultimately will define Me, not someone else, not a test, and not a set of diagnostic criteria. Otherwise I keep a fixed identity for the rest of my life…nah!ย ๐Ÿ˜‰

So this year I’ve been on a mission to Transcend Labels. I am showing the world what’s possible, to show others how to look beneath the surface, past the labels, past the stereotypes, and to see each other for who we all are.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

I truly believe when we do this we’ll start seeing the humanity within each other, see each other as human beings, and see that we are all more alike than we like to believe. With that not only comes greater understanding for our neighbors but most importantly an unconditional love, because the realization comes: “That person is also Me.”ย โค๏ธ

I see lasting change in the world happening through the individual from the inside-out, not the outside-in. I believe that the better we can be for ourselves, the better we can be for others.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Everyone has an opinion, but there are fewer people out there who ever set the example. Will we be the next examples?!ย ๐Ÿ‘Œ

I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM; AN EXPLANATION, BUT NOT THE DESTINATION!ย ย ๐Ÿ’ช

I hope this resonates with many of you. I would appreciate it if you could share this post with others, whoever you believe will also benefit from these words. If there are any additional areas I can add value to your life as well as in the blogging community, please let me know!ย ๐Ÿ™‚

My areas of expertise include:

๐Ÿ‘ย Detail-oriented, Thoroughness

๐Ÿ‘ย Quality-over-quantity Focused

๐Ÿ‘ย Analytical, Systemic Thinking

๐Ÿ‘ย Emotional intelligence (plus 10 years in Customer Service)

๐Ÿ‘ย Social media, Building Engagement

 

With lots of gratitude,

Donald “Ace” Arteagaย โค๏ธ

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Why EMBRACE Change!

Last year I was in Glasgow visiting the Kelvingrove Art Gallery and Museum. It was such a beautiful museum, I spent nearly 3 hours looking at EVERY nook and cranny! ๐Ÿ˜

If you ever want to be reminded of how VAST our world and its history is, take a trip sometime to a museum! ๐Ÿ–ผ๏ธ

At one point, I had entered the section with an ENTIRE wall dedicated to Charles Darwin and his Theory of Evolution! ๐Ÿฆท

Before Darwin, our world had a much MORE simplified explanation as to how our world’s inhabitants came to be. ๐Ÿ˜…

Contrary to popular belief at the time, Earth is in fact WAY MORE than 6000 years old! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Not only going against conventional understanding, Darwin changed the paradigm of BOTH the religious AND scientific beliefs of his time! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

He showed us there was a world FAR MORE complex than what was once thought, presenting ideas which later laid the foundation for MANY subjects we study today including Biology. ๐Ÿงซ

But why do I share this post with you? ๐Ÿค”

Because there was one KEEN observation Darwin noticed during his studies. Verbatim, I saw this written on the museum wall: โœ๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸ “๐ƒ๐š๐ซ๐ฐ๐ข๐ง ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ง๐ž๐œ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐›๐ž๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐œ๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž’๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ž – ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐œ๐จ๐ฉ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž.” ๐ŸŒŸ

With COVID and everything happening in 2020, I find this quote stretches FAR BEYOND Darwin to our modern world today. Our world is constantly changing, perhaps too fast for many people’s comfort. โŒ›

But with this finding from Darwin, I challenge us to take on the this opportunity to continue adapting to whatever comes our way. Because we are greater than our circumstances! ๐Ÿ’ช

“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.” โค๏ธ

How Beliefs POSSESS Us!

๐Ÿ“Œ The Optimist believes in the best for the future. Therefore their mind likes to focus on hope and faith.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Pessimist believes in the worst for the future. Therefore their mind likes to focus on what’s wrong with the world.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Realist believes in seeing things as they are, not better or worse. Therefore their mind likes to focus on facts, not the emotional stories about the facts.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Cynic believes in the selfishness of others. Therefore their mind likes to focus on distrusting other people’s “good” or “virtuous” intentions.

What do all these categories have in common? ๐Ÿค”

๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐š๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž. They aren’t “right” or “wrong” necessarily, just ways of seeing the world around you. ๐Ÿ‘€

๐„๐š๐œ๐ก ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐œ๐ž ๐š ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž. ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸ Our beliefs constantly color and shape how we see life. ๐ŸŒŸ

Take an example of people who get into a car accident…

๐Ÿ“Œ The Optimist expects most of the people in the accident will be okay.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Pessimist expects most, if not every person in the accident will die.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Realist measures the probability the people in the accident will live or die based on the facts.

๐Ÿ“Œ The Cynic assumes the people in the accident were careless and intentionally caused it to collect insurance money.

๐ŸŒŸ ๐–๐ž ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐š๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ. ๐–๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐š๐ฌ ๐š ๐ซ๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž. ๐ŸŒŸ

Carl Jung talked about how ideas can possess people, rather than people possessing ideas. And when a belief possesses a person, the person is no longer in control. The belief speaks through the person. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

I must add: beliefs aren’t intrinsically bad. We all have them and need them in order to function. ๐ˆ๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ-๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ ๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ. ๐Ÿ‘

So how can we check if our beliefs possess us?

๐Ÿ“ Acknowledge most of our beliefs are not even our own. We didn’t carry them from birth. We’ve picked them up over time and embraced them as our own.

๐Ÿ“ Challenge our beliefs. Question how they could be flawed or wrong. Question our ego’s need to hold onto them.

๐Ÿ“ Seek other points of view that challenge our beliefs. Don’t surround ourselves in echo chambers. It doesn’t mean we have to agree with those who disagree with us, but to nevertheless keep an open mind to a different perspective.

If weโ€™re unable to do any of theseโ€ฆwe may already have our answer. ๐Ÿ™Œ

Why Your Shadow MATTERS!

๐Ÿ’ฌ “๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐š ๐ฌ๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐จ๐๐ข๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ’๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐›๐ฅ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ซ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ. ๐€๐ญ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐œ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐ข๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง ๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ง๐š๐ , ๐ญ๐ก๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฅ-๐ฆ๐ž๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ.” ~ ๐‚๐š๐ซ๐ฅ ๐‰๐ฎ๐ง๐  ๐Ÿ’ฌ

The Shadow is the parts of ourselves we reject, the primal emotions we suppress for the sake of societal approval, the parts we deny out of a personal desire to deny they exist. โŒ

You could also think of the Shadow like “the devil on your shoulder”. The Shadow includes the thoughts that come up in your mind you’d never tell anyone else you thought. ๐Ÿ‘ฟ

Think of an individual who is so kind, so loving, and so quiet. But one day you hear about an incident where they lost their temper, and you think to yourself: “NO! That is NOT the person I know! That is NOT who they are!” ๐Ÿ›‘

Or think of the priest who vocally condemns homosexuality in his church but is eventually found to have participated in homosexual acts. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

โžก๏ธ These are examples of the Shadow at play. โฌ…๏ธ

๐–๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐š๐ข๐ฅ ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž, ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ฆ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ”จ

๐–๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฃ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐ฅ๐š๐ข๐ฆ: “๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ!” ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐ž ๐๐ž๐ง๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ. ๐ŸŽญ

It’s why there’s so many people with emotional issues. It’s why we have many immature adults, ones who’ve never taken the opportunity to be better in touch with themselves. ๐Ÿ˜”

Instead, many have unfortunately had to settle for cultural expectations of possessing certain personality traits while suppressing others. ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

A man needs to always be masculine and suppress his femininity (“Boys don’t cry”), while a female needs to always be feminine and suppress her masculinity (“Girls, know your place”). โ†•๏ธ

๐ˆ๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ. ๐ˆ๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐, ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

In some circles like self-help and spirituality, the idea of the Shadow can be frowned upon. “Let go of the things which don’t serve you.” “If you focus on it, the more energy you give to it.” ๐Ÿ‘Ž

I understand those perspectives, however I take Carl Jung’s perspective: “I’d rather be whole than good.” I’d rather accept every part of me, the good and the bad, the gentle and the aggressive, than suppress it. ๐Ÿ‘ค

๐Ÿค” So, how does one integrate their Shadow? ๐Ÿค”

The first step is acknowledgment of its existence. Whatever your Shadow is will differ from person to person. ๐Ÿ™Œ

This DOESN’T mean you have to start expressing your Shadow or have to start identifying with it. It’s simply about acknowledging it, you making a personal commitment to being brutally honest of seeing every part of yourself, whether you are “proud” it or not. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐Ÿ“ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ฉ๐š๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง.

๐Ÿ“ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐œ๐š๐ฉ๐š๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ฉ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง.

๐Ÿ“ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฉ๐ก๐จ๐›๐ข๐œ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ฉ๐š๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ.

๐Ÿ“ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ƒ๐ซ. ๐‰๐ž๐ค๐ฒ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ฉ๐š๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐Œ๐ซ. ๐‡๐ฒ๐๐ž.

We acknowledge our capacity for evil while simultaneously choosing to be good. ๐ŸŽญ

As written in The Gulag Archipelago ๐Ÿ“–: “If only it were all so simple! If only there were evil people somewhere insidiously committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them.

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ข๐ฅ ๐œ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ .” ๐Ÿ‘ค

So, with this acknowledgement and acceptance of our Shadows, we can then take action! ๐Ÿ˜„

๐‘๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ! ๐Ÿ’ช

“๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐˜ข ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ. ๐˜‰๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ’๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ท๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด. ๐Ÿ˜ 

๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜š๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด?” ๐Ÿค”

What are some ways you could use your Shadow energy of anger and aggression for more constructive means?

โšฝ๏ธ You could take up a competitive sport.

๐Ÿ‹๏ธ You could use this energy in your workouts.

๐Ÿ’จ You could use it to get your work done faster.

๐Ÿ™Œ You could use it in situations which legitimately call for you to become more aggressive.

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐๐ข๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐€๐‘๐„ ๐ˆ๐ ๐‚๐Ž๐๐“๐‘๐Ž๐‹. ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ฒ! ๐Ÿ˜„

It’s what I mean when I tell people “don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater”. ๐Ÿ‘ถ

Integrating our Shadow can be VERY useful. But we always need to make sure we’re in control and using it for a healthy means. ๐Ÿ˜Š

๐–๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐’๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ? ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

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LET ME KNOW IF YOU FOUND THIS USEFUL! โฌ‡๏ธ

Why “Victimhood Culture” Demands Understanding!

๐Ÿ˜จ ๐–๐‡๐€๐“ ๐ˆ๐’ โ€œ๐•๐ˆ๐‚๐“๐ˆ๐Œ๐‡๐Ž๐Ž๐ƒ ๐‚๐”๐‹๐“๐”๐‘๐„โ€? ๐Ÿ˜จ

Originally coined by sociologists Bradley Campbell and Jason Manning in an academic journal, they were seeking to understand a new and emerging moral culture that was becoming prevalent in our society. ๐Ÿ™Œ

But please hear me out! ๐Ÿ™

If you feel inclined to quickly dismiss this term as some right-wing rhetoric, I urge you to hear me out. As a fellow Liberal, allow me to explain and provide greater context. โค๏ธ

The authors clearly state: “๐—ข๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐˜† ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ ๐˜‚๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ป, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜. ๐–๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ž ๐•๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐œ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ.” ๐Ÿ™Œ

Is it fair to say every Culture brings with it a set of pros and cons, benefits and disadvantages? Is it fair to say some of the things these cultures bring may be more helpful, more unhelpful than others? ๐Ÿ‘

So, in order for us to better understand what Campbell and Manning mean by “Victimhood Culture”, they say we must first look at 2 previous types of moral cultures: Honor and Dignity Culture.

By placing each of these cultures alongside each other, it can help us better understand their distinct differences. โ†”๏ธ

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๐ˆ๐ง ๐š๐ง ๐‡๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ซ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ’ช:

๐Ÿ“Œ Reputation and Bravery are key factors of oneโ€™s moral status.

๐Ÿ›ก๏ธ Small conflicts are responded to aggressively.

๐Ÿšจ Little to no appeals to authority, third-parties, and public opinion for justice.

๐Ÿ™Œ Examples of Honor Culture: the Old West, the mafia.

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ Phrases youโ€™d hear:

“๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ!”

“๐˜•๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ง๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜บ’๐˜ด ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ช๐˜ต.”

โ€œ๐˜•๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ.โ€

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๐ˆ๐ง ๐š ๐ƒ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ‘ค:

๐Ÿ“Œ Self-restraint and Civility are key factors of oneโ€™s moral status.

๐Ÿ›ก๏ธ Small conflicts are responded to with non-violence and compromise.

๐Ÿšจ May sometimes appeal to authority, third-parties, or public opinion for justice.

๐Ÿ™Œ Examples of Dignity Culture: Formal debate, Court of Law, Due Process

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ Phrases youโ€™d hear:

“๐˜š๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ.”

โ€œ๐˜ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ.โ€

โ€œ๐˜“๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฆ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ถ๐˜ด.โ€

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๐ˆ๐ง ๐š ๐•๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ˜จ:

๐Ÿ“Œ Suffering and Victimization are key factors of oneโ€™s moral status.

๐Ÿ›ก๏ธ Small conflicts are responded to aggressively (like Honor culture).

๐Ÿšจ Mostly appeals to authority, third-parties, and public opinion for justice.

๐Ÿ™Œ Examples of Victimhood Culture: Callout/Cancel Culture, Microaggressions, Trigger Warnings, Safe Spaces

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ Phrases youโ€™d hear:

“๐˜š๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ.โ€

“๐˜’๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ.”

“๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ’๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜ด; ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜บ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฏ๐˜บ!”

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With these Cultures presented, Campbell and Manning want to emphasize one very important point about Victimhood Culture โฌ‡๏ธ:

“๐“๐จ ๐ฌ๐š๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ซ๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ ๐ง๐ข๐ณ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ฌ ๐š ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ ๐ซ๐š๐ข๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐š๐ซ ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐ฒ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐๐ฏ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ญ. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐ˆ๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐š๐ซ ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ž๐ง๐ฃ๐จ๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐ž๐ฒ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐ˆ๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ž๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ฌ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐š๐๐ฏ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐€๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฆ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ. ๐Œ๐š๐ง๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐š๐๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐š๐๐ฏ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ ๐ž ๐จ๐ซ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ซ๐ซ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐š๐›๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ๐จ๐ ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐š๐๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐จ๐ง, ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ญ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ก๐ข๐๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ก๐š๐ฌ๐ข๐ณ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ. ๐Ÿ”Ž

๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐•๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž, ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐จ๐ฅ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ, ๐ฐ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ž, ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐•๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ ๐‚๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐š๐ญ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.” ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

As Campbell and Manning go on to explain, thereโ€™s an ongoing culture clash happening right now between Dignity and Victimhood Cultures. โš”๏ธ

It is the same reason why individuals who strongly identify with a Dignity Culture are finding it very difficult to understand Victimhood Culture, and vice versa.

๐“๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ก๐š๐ง๐๐ฅ๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ฌ. โ†”๏ธ

๐˜–๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต’๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜‹๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ. โ†”๏ธ

๐˜–๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜‹๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ. โ†”๏ธ

๐˜–๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜ง๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏโ€™๐˜ด โ€œ๐˜โ€™๐˜ฎ ๐˜จ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ดโ€ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜‹๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ. โ†”๏ธ

๐˜–๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ด “๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ” ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ’๐˜ด “๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ” ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜‹๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ ๐˜Š๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ. โ†”๏ธ

Now of course, these are big generalizations, so Iโ€™d love to hear everyoneโ€™s thoughts on these ideas! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

If you’re interested in learning more, I recommend checking out the full-length book! Note: It is an academic read, so it can be dry at times to read, with more sources than full-length pages! ๐Ÿ˜…

If anything, I hope in sharing these ideas it can spark a discussion and provide additional food for thought to helping us better understand what’s going on right now. โค๏ธ

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SOURCES:

๐Ÿ“ฐ Microaggression and Moral Cultures (Academic Journal): https://bit.ly/2Yn8WoN

๐Ÿ“„ Microaggressions and the Rise of Victimhood Culture (Atlantic Article): https://bit.ly/2zLXt8F

๐Ÿ“– The Rise of Victimhood Culture (Full-Length Book): https://amzn.to/3eixJzA