“I understand.” 😐
“No, you don’t understand!” 😡
“I do understand. You’re upset because…therefore, there’s no valid reason to be upset.”
“No, you just don’t get it!”
I made an earlier post about how it’s important to distinguish in an argument where each side is coming from. Many arguments come from the simple miscommunication of reasoning: one side using Logical and Rational Reasoning and the other using Emotional Reasoning.
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– When a person explains logically why the other person is feeling the way they do, that’s not what the other side wants. The other side wants the person to enter their Emotional Home. Empathy. ❤️
– When a person explains emotionally why the other person doesn’t understand them, that’s not what the other side wants. The other side wants the person to enter their Intellectual Home. Apathy. 🧠
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– It’s important for the Intellectual to know there’s a difference between Intelligence and Wisdom. One can know intellectually how someone is discriminated and oppressed in a society. But to be up close and personal with it themselves, to actually experience the same emotions one feels first-hand, is a separate form of understanding. 🙌
– It’s important for the Emotional to know there’s a difference between Emotions and Emotional Intelligence. One can feel emotionally that something is wrong in a situation. But it’s another to be aware how our emotions can distort our thinking and impede on effective understanding towards another person’s point of view. 👍
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These are of course big generalizations I’m listing, and they should not be taken as black-and-white as I do with them here. They mix and overlap. A person can be emotionally frustrated that the other person doesn’t understand their rational reasoning, and vice versa! 😂 #TranscendLabels
