Why You SHOULD Be Offended! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐Ÿคฌย “THAT’S OFFENSIVE!!!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ
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๐Ÿ‘ย This current trend of “being offended” being newsworthy is a symptom of a much greater root problem: mental health, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness.ย ๐Ÿ‘
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Anyone can be offended, including myself. It’s a normal response to stimuli perceived to be threatening. The problem though is when the amount of stimuli one gets offended by stacks, and what first begins as a small fear becomes a long-term habit of avoidance and even greater fears. Psychologist Carl Jung said: “Whatever you resist persists and grows larger in size.”ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ
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There’s a form of behavioral therapy used to treat anxiety disorders known as exposure therapy. What happens is a patient is gradually exposed to the source of their anxiety, let’s say an elevator. Little by little, day by day, the patient will take another step closer towards the elevator until they finally have stepped inside. The fears start to dissolve and what once felt so scary disintegrates.ย ๐Ÿ˜…
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๐Ÿ’ชย It’s a beautiful paradox about fear: the way out of fear is to first go into it. You experience the short-term fear for the long-term fearlessness.ย ๐Ÿ’ช
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That is why it’s so important as we continue to grow and mature that we also open ourselves up to things that may make us feel uncomfortable or frighten us, including things that may “offend” us. Otherwise it will only get bigger over time. Instead of seeing our “triggers” as a sign something outside ourselves needs to change or we need to avoid something, let’s acknowledge what we’re feeling and introspect as to why.ย ๐Ÿ’—
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And this is not hyperbole; I’ve used this stuff on myself before for my own personal growth. When I “feel offended” I’ve asked myself: “Why?” I find the roots so I can continue to address them, not avoid them. Because the sooner I address them, the less prevalent they are in the future.ย ๐Ÿ˜Š
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I eventually reached a point in my life where I realized “being offended” was never going to make me happy long-term and in fact cause me more pain than I ever wanted. I realized that the world is filled with uncertainty and that life is always changing, that it was self-defeating of me to expect others to always change for my own feelings of safety and security.
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๐Ÿ’ฅย I realized I had to take far more responsibility for my life if I was ever going to help myself long-term.ย ๐Ÿ’ฅ
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It’s not to say everything is my responsibility or that I can control everything that happens in my life, but to say no matter what happens I will choose my future responses to them. Even if I wanted to complain or let things I’m afraid of control my life, the current path I’m on doesn’t give me a choice but to simply move forward. I’ve cut the strings where I have no choice but to be far more self-reliant. A lot of people still have those strings, so it’s not as easy for them to learn this lesson.ย ๐Ÿค”
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It doesn’t mean I won’t sometimes scrunch up in anxious situations from old habits, but that I become aware of the emotional state I’m in and continue changing towards long-term habits to rectify future situations. I very much embrace the Stoic philosophy on this.ย ๐Ÿ“š
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๐Ÿ‘ย Like I said, this current trend of “being offended” being newsworthy is a symptom of a much greater root problem: mental health, emotional intelligence, and self-awareness.ย ๐Ÿ‘
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We must take control of our emotions or they will control us. It doesn’t mean to suppress our emotions, rather first accept what we’re feeling and THEN choose how to respond to a situation. That’s where people slip up: when they say “Suck it up” to another. The important detail they miss is the other person needs to be first be willing to accept what they’re feeling before they can actually change it. Otherwise it becomes suppression of emotions.ย ๐Ÿ˜ซ
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One doesn’t tell a person who is grieving to simply “Suck it up”. It’s understood the other person has to process their emotions before eventually coming to a point of acceptance to move forward.ย ๐Ÿ›ฃ๏ธ
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๐Ÿ‘ย I’d love to plant the seed in this post that our emotions are not perfect, but that we can use them in a very effective and constructive manner.ย ๐Ÿ‘
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By no means am I saying I’m perfect or that I’ve 100% mastered this skill. It’s always an ongoing development. I’m simply sharing what’s served me so generously in the hopes it may also serve you too.ย 
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๐ŸŒŸย I would greatly appreciate it if you could SHARE this post. I believe it is so important for others to hear this message with our society’s current mental health crisis!ย ๐ŸŒŸ #TranscendLabels

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