Why You DON’T Remember Your Past!


Did you know I make these social media posts not just for you all but also for myself? Yeah, I know! I’m so selfish, right?! šŸ˜‚

For me, these posts are not only to share with you but they’re also friendly reminders to myself. My Future Self. It’s so he never forgets the memories I’m choosing to retain for him. ā¤ļø

Now, perhaps what I just said sounds a bit odd; what do I mean: “retain“?! Let me ask you this: do you remember every single waking moment of your whole entire life? I highly doubt it. šŸ˜‰

What if I told you with every memory you have, you also have the choice to choose which parts you’ll take with you in the future. šŸ˜±

No, this isn’t some voodoo! I’m talking about:

šŸ“Œ The parts of your past you choose to continue focusing on

šŸ“Œ The parts of your past which matter to you the most

šŸ“Œ The parts of your past you define as shaping you into the person you are today

Take the example of a family photo where everyone in the family looks so cheerful and jolly. But, in actuality, the real moment was far from cheerful as the photo made it out to be. The family was simply posing for a group photo, putting on forced smiles for the sake of the camera. šŸ“ø

Can you relate?!

And say a few years later a family member comes across this photo. They barely remember the actual moment, but their only frame of reference is now this photo. This cheerful photo. Thus, the family member starts to believe the past moment was, in fact, cheerful. But remember: it wasn’t! šŸ˜²

šŸŒŸ We don’t remember our pasts as a matter of fact. We remember the Stories we created around our pasts. šŸŒŸ

So when I say “retain“, it’s a matter of asking yourself: What do I want to remember for my future? What stories will I choose to continue remembering about my past? And what stories am I willing to let go of? šŸ¤”

Even more importantly: How will I choose to ultimately define my past? Are the moments I once felt negative about now the thorns I carry? šŸ˜” Or will I now decide to see each thorn as a blessing in disguise instead? šŸŒ»

šŸŒŸ It’s less about what actually happened in our pasts and more about how we’re going to interpret them for the future. šŸŒŸ

This photo above was taken as I sat atop Dunure Castle. I share this photo because it’s how I want to remember this moment in time. ā°

This photo is what I want to represent that moment for my Future Self to see later. And whatever else I write here about this moment is what I’m consciously choosing for my Future Self to keep on remembering! šŸ˜Š

While we certainly remember key moments from our posts, we often forget the smaller details and retain the most emotional parts. That said, I want my Future Self to remember this about Dunure Castle:

šŸ“ How in awe I was sitting atop there, how grand it all felt to me.

šŸ“ How my friend Kris Nimbley took the photo and was using the Rule of Thirds I told him about.

šŸ“ How it was a chilly and windy day, but the scenery dissolved the complaints I had in my mind.

šŸ“ How it was one of the most beautiful places I ever visited, how I wanted to stay there for hours.

Choose what you will remember and how you are going to define it. Because however you define it now is what’s going to shape the rest of your life. ā¤ļø #EudaimonicLife



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