How Emotions Are HABITS!

I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE OFFENDED!” 🤬

There’s no question: we all get upset at times in our lives. Sad. Frustrated. Angry. Fearful. Perhaps even hateful. 😡

In fact, these negative emotions are some of the easiest for human beings to experience. It’s hard-wired into us! 😲

It’s known as the Negativity Bias, just 1 of many cognitive biases which affect our ability as human beings to see the world in an objective manner. 😱

Instead of seeing the world as it is, as a matter of fact, we tend to see it through many lenses of cognitive biases. 🌎

So it makes practical sense to me when I see people get passionate about experiencing negative emotions. Our brains, which evolved to help us survive, needed those emotions in times of defense and protection. 👍

But, there are times when negative emotions become excessive, where instead of being useful they become a habitual, emotional home for people. 😱

Wait! You can’t be saying that people LIKE to feel upset! That’s ridiculous!” 🗣️

I’d love for you to try my jacket on just for a moment. 🧥

Think of your emotions as similar to habits. We all have habits, some good and some bad, and we tend to act out our habits on autopilot. 👍

But wait, why do we keep bad habits? Why do we hold onto bad habits which don’t benefit us yet can cause us harm in the long-term? 🤔

🌟 Because it’s far more comfortable keeping bad habits than it is creating new ones to replace them. 🌟

Building a new habit requires consistent focus, time, and energy, whereas old habits requires little of any. There’s a reason we have the saying: “Old habits die hard!” 😅

So like habits, what if our emotions work in a similar way? What if we keep experiencing emotional states of mind not because they necessarily help us but because they’re the places we’re most comfortable, an emotional home we’re most familiar with, a place where little energy is required? 🏠

It sounds self-defeating, and like our bad habits it is too! 🙁

One has the “right” to be offended. One has the “right” to feel angry. One has the “right” to criticize, condemn, and complain about people and things all they want. It will provide you a temporary feeling of empowerment. 💪

But it never lasts. The question: does it serve a person to feel negative emotions? Or are they perhaps bad habits needing to be broken? 🤔

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