๐ย Focusing on problems is a habit. And so is focusing on solutions. ๐
The problem is when we don’t see any other option than to complain. It’s hard-wired in our evolution to focus on what’s wrong; it’s our survival brain doing its job to protect us. ๐
But there is in fact another option…โ๏ธ
Accept reality just as it is.ย ๐
๐ฃ๏ธย “That’s ridiculous Donald! There’s so much injustice in the world! How can you ‘accept’ when there’s so many awful things going on?!”ย ๐ฃ๏ธ
Let me clarify: Accepting life as it is does not mean you ignore the injustice, corruption, or things that are wrong in the world. Acceptance is so you don’t allow your ego to control your emotions.ย ๐ฏ๏ธ
When you constantly focus on what others “should” or “shouldn’t” be doing, fighting about what “should” or “shouldn’t” be happening in the world, you will inevitably find more of it.
๐ย Whatever you focus on consistently, your mind places a focus to keep finding more of it in your life.ย ๐
So if you’re always looking for what’s wrong in your life your mind, like Google, will be sure to find a huge amount of search results with the keyword: “What’s wrong in my life?”ย ๐ป
But when you accept things as they are, you free yourself from needless suffering. You let go of the emotional baggage which comes from focusing on problems, so you have a clear head to better focus on solutions.ย ๐
The Stoic philosopher Epictetus said: โWhat upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about the things.โ You cannot accept anything when you’re judging it.
๐ย When you argue with reality, you always lose.ย ๐
If I told you to NOT think about a pink elephant, what are you thinking about right now? And if I told you to STOP thinking about this pink elephant, what remains in your mind?ย ๐
But what if I told you to be absolutely okay with the thought of a pink elephant crossing your mind? Be absolutely okay, accepting of the thought, and THEN choose to let it go. I’d be curious to know how fast your mind starts to focus on other things.ย ๐
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