“𝒀𝑶𝑼’𝑹𝑬 𝑾𝑹𝑶𝑵𝑮 𝑨𝑵𝑫 𝑰’𝑴 𝑹𝑰𝑮𝑯𝑻! 𝑷𝑬𝑹𝑰𝑶𝑫!” 🤬
One thing 2 people can easily get caught up in is an argument. I don’t mean one where both sides share their perspectives in a respectful and open manner.
(This is the Internet after all! 😉)
I mean one where it becomes less about exchanging ideas and more about wanting to be “right”. It becomes a game of egoic dominance over the other person.
Why do we do this? I’ll give you one reason.
🌟 𝗪𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮𝘀 𝘄𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘆. 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗱, 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗱. 🌟
Being “wrong” can feel very uncomfortable because when you’re so attached to your beliefs it feels like a personal attack on you, rather than a simple disagreement on your beliefs. 😨
Say you are an advocate for the environment, and you wholeheartedly believe that what you’re doing is helping it. 🌱
But then say someone comes along who disagrees with what you’re doing. They present to you a different viewpoint you hadn’t thought of before, arguing what you’re doing is actually hurting the environment more than it is helping it. 😲
Instead of hearing their points, you jump on the defense! You filter out the things they are saying. “𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒕’𝒔 𝒓𝒊𝒅𝒊𝒄𝒖𝒍𝒐𝒖𝒔! 𝑰’𝒗𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔! 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚’𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕!” 🗣️
Whether they had a valid point or not didn’t matter. You shut yourself off from hearing what they had to say. Because it was more comfortable sticking to what you already knew. ❌
Ignorance can indeed be bliss. 🙌
🌟 𝗕𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 “𝘄𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴” 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗯𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗳𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲. 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗲𝘄. 🌟