Why “How” Matters MORE Than “What”!

The words I’m saying to you now are the words I wish my younger self would’ve been told.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Sure, he was told at times to stop caring about what other people thought. He was told at times to stop people pleasing.ย ๐Ÿ›‘

But he didn’t know how…๐Ÿ˜ซ

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธย “What do you mean ‘how’? You just do it, Donald! Simple as that!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

I understand your perspective, and if it works for you I’m very happy it does. That’s great! But I’ll share with you another perspective I’ve also learned.ย ๐Ÿ“–

Sometimes what people need the most is NOT hearing the solutions. In fact, these people have often heard the solutions MULTIPLE times!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

No, what they actually need is a compass to navigate themselves, their emotions and their intellect, towards the solutions.ย ๐Ÿงญ

In other words, they don’t need the answers to the “What?” They need the answers to the “How?”ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

In other words, telling someone to stop caring what others think is far easier said than done. The problem is you’re telling someone What to do, not How to do it.ย ๐Ÿ‘

You can tell a person all you want to fish. But if they’ve never been taught how to fish, how do you expect them to know?ย ๐Ÿค”

๐ŸŒŸย You can’t expect someone to know what they don’t know.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

I wish I could’ve told my younger self the Hows of messages like the one above. I wish I could’ve shared with him this How, that inner happiness and fulfillment matters more than other people’s opinion of him.ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

I’ll leave you with one statement, however blunt, that reminds me how silly it is to worry so much about what others think. Much love!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿคฏย If you worry what other people think, you’re letting someone else’s imagination control your reality.ย ๐Ÿคฏ

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