Why We’re MISSING What Matters! ❤️


For my well-being as a whole, I’d say I’m a pretty optimistic person with dashes of realism. 😎

But for the Intellectual in me who looks out at society as a collective, I’m definitely more of a pessimistic optimist. ⁉️

To clarify the oxymoron: I prepare for the worst, but I hope for the best. 😅

As we’ve entered a new decade, I am pleasantly surprised to look back on our society and see how far we’ve come.

💧 We have water we didn’t have to filter! 💧

🛣️ We drive on streets we didn’t have to pave! 🛣️

📚 We read books we didn’t have to write! 📚

🎶 We listen to music we didn’t have to produce! 🎶

💊 We use medicines we didn’t have to create! 💊

🙏 We have so many things we can grateful for! 🙏


Of course, the history of our humanity hasn’t been all sunshine and rainbows either, no doubt! 🌈 Big shifts in our world also included plagues, wars, and violent revolutions, things many of us have never had to experience firsthand.

I’m no History major, but I agree with you; there’s no point in me denying the dark sides of history either! 💯

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝘀𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻’𝘁 “𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗺𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘁” 𝗮𝘀 𝗚𝗲𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗲 𝗦𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗮𝘆𝗮𝗻𝗮 𝘀𝗮𝗶𝗱. ✍️

But in spite of all that, in spite of all the negatives I could tell you about, we as humans have nevertheless continued to move forward. We have not destroyed ourselves and our fellow neighbors to complete oblivion! 👏

Looking at our current society, from agriculture to medicine to artificial intelligence, we’re still making great strides forward in science and technology! 🤖

To give you one stunning fact: the average life expectancy in the past century has gone from age 30 to 70! 😱

To make a long story short, I warmly welcome what new advances we’ll have in the coming decade! 🙌


While so many like myself can acknowledge this progress and are grateful to be living in this day and age, I’ve also noticed many people are also more pessimistic and cynical than ever. ⁉️

We’ve come so far as a civilization. But to many, it somehow does not “feel” like it has. 😨

Why is that?! If we live in such affluent times with more resources than ever to be happy, why are so many still unhappy?! Despite many having way more than their basic needs for food, water, and shelter met, why do we still see depression and suicide rates continue to rise?! 😱

Yes! 𝗦𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝟭𝟵𝟵𝟵, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘂𝗶𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿! 📈

🌺 How, if there’s so many flowers in our gardens, more than we can count, do we still feel like we’re missing something? 🌺

Are we just so ungrateful that we just can’t see what’s right in front of us? 🤔

Are we just not reminding each other enough of how great we have it? 🗣️

Are people just more open these days about their emotions, hence the increase in depression diagnoses? 📄

Perhaps. I don’t think the answers are so cut and dry. I think it’s quite multifaceted. If you want me to give you a simple answer to these questions, I’m sorry to say you’ve come to the wrong post! 😅

But while I don’t have all the answers, I will propose at least one cause I believe we as a society are greatly neglecting. 👥

And that’s what I wanted to talk to you about in this post! 😄

To start, I’m reminded of the words of Palmer Joss in the 1997 film “Contact”: 🎬

“𝑨𝒓𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒊𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒔 𝒂 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒆? 𝑰𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅 𝒇𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒚 𝒂 𝒃𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒄𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒆𝒄𝒉𝒏𝒐𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒚? 🤔

𝑾𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒑 𝒂𝒕 𝒉𝒐𝒎𝒆. 𝑾𝒆 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒃. 𝑨𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆, 𝒘𝒆 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒆𝒎𝒑𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒓, 𝒍𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒄𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇𝒇 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏 𝒂𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒉𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒐𝒓𝒚. 𝑾𝒆’𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒂 𝒔𝒚𝒏𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒊𝒛𝒆𝒅 𝒔𝒐𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒚 𝒊𝒏 𝒂 𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝒃𝒊𝒈 𝒉𝒖𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕 𝒕𝒆𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒂𝒓𝒚 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. 💨

𝑰 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒊𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒃𝒆𝒄𝒂𝒖𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈. 𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒆𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒏𝒈? 𝑾𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒋𝒐𝒃𝒔. 𝑾𝒆 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒇𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝒗𝒂𝒄𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔. 𝑫𝒆𝒇𝒊𝒄𝒊𝒕 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒕𝒓𝒊𝒑𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒖𝒚 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒔𝒆 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆𝒔. 𝑰𝒔 𝒊𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒔𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏?” 🧭

I’m also reminded of the words from Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl: “Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.” ✍️

I want you to read Frankl’s words again but slower:

➡️ “𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲, 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗻𝗼 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿.” ⬅️

🌺 We have many flowers in our garden. But we have little understanding to WHY these flowers matter. We’re told we should appreciate them, but we don’t understand WHY we should. 🌺


The problems I see happening:

We’re mastering Quantity at the expense of Quality. ⚖️

We’re mastering our Outer World at the expense of our Inner World. ⚖️

We’re mastering Intelligence at the expense of Emotional Intelligence. ⚖️

We’re mastering Extrinsic Values at the expense of Intrinsic Values. ⚖️

We’re mastering the Objective at the expense of the Subjective. ⚖️

We’re mastering the Yang at the expense of the Yin. ⚖️

We’re addressing more of what we Want at the expense of what we Need. ⚖️

We’re feeding our Heads at the expense of our Hearts. ⚖️

To use the Hopi word: Koyaanisqatsi, or “life out of balance”. ☯️

I see no better time than this day and age for more and more people to be having an existential crisis, a serious contemplation on whether one’s life has any purpose or meaning. 🤷‍♂️

I can tell you from many firsthand experiences, having an existential crisis is very unpleasant! And sadly, I know some individuals don’t manage to bring themselves back out of the existential abyss. 🕳️

In a world filled with many paradoxes and contradictions, a world we’re told has absolute truth yet conflicting ideas fill us with doubt, a world which at times can seem pretty absurd on the surface, what is a person to believe?! 🤷‍♂️

If everything you were once told to believe and embrace about life has been ideologically challenged and reduced to a pile of meaninglessness, what is the next step for someone to take? 🙉

I believe Johann Hari said it best when he said our society is great at doing many things, as I mentioned above with science and technology. 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲’𝘀 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗽𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀. 😨

We all need to feel like we belong in this world, the need to feel like our lives have purpose and meaning, the need to feel like we are seen and appreciated by others, the need to feel we have a compelling future to look forward to. You could call these “the needs of the soul”. ❤️

And yet, how many people right now actually have these needs met? How many are instead just being told to “be happy” or being told to remember “how great our country is”? 💔

🌺 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗴𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀. 🌺

Perhaps the conditions we’ve commonly known as Depression and Anxiety are not as simple as “chemical imbalances” in one’s brain like we were told. 😱

Perhaps our emotions have also been messengers trying to tell us something important. 📬 Perhaps they have been signaling to us the way we’re living is what’s making us ill. Perhaps we’re living in a sick society that magnifies, reinforces, and exacerbates these psychological problems. 😟

Of course I’m not claiming any conspiracies here! I’m not saying any of this is done intentionally, but rather it’s the long-term results of a society neglecting these signals for so long. ⌛

We’ve been so focused on external factors to “fix” these signals, whether it was through drugs, alcohol, food, or needless distractions that we’re in the habit of inadvertently killing the messenger! 💊


I’ve talked in the past about how I am very passionate about advocating for what I call “the psychological development of the individual”.

⬆️ 𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗦 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆! ⬆️

THIS is the reason I’m so passionate about it. It’s why I’ve surrounded myself in the field of Personal Development. It’s why I’m such a fan of philosophy. It’s why I’m such a supporter of Tony Robbins’s work. 💯

𝗜 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗹𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲’𝘀 𝗽𝘀𝘆𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝗜’𝗺 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝗲 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗲𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀. 😔

Compared to where we were a few decades ago, we’re now living a much more complex world. In other words, we’re no longer going to be able to solve these complex problems with the same simplistic thinking which created them. 👍

So what I’m advocating for is developing our Emotional Intelligence, developing our Cognitive skills, and encouraging to everyone the psychological development of the individual. 💯

We’ve assumed for too long these skills would simply develop without much effort on our parts. But again, look at where many people are now. 🤦

It’s important I emphasize: ⛔ I’m NOT saying we get rid or throw out what science and technology has brought us so far! Not at all! ⛔

I’m not saying we need to choose one OR the other; 𝗜’𝗺 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿. ☯️

As science and technology only moves forward with greater complexity, I want to ensure we’re also moving forward ourselves, psychologically and with a more complex understanding of “knowing thyself”.

What will this require?

🌟 We need to appoint leaders of integrity, of emotional intelligence, who build trust in leading by example; that’s how we decrease cynicism.

🌟 We need to create meaning where there’s meaninglessness to be found in people’s lives; that’s how we decrease nihilism.

🌟 We need to teach people how to think and not what to think; that’s how we develop cognitive skills.

🌟 We need to challenge our black-and-white thinking habits and learn to communicate civilly with people we disagree with; that’s how we develop empathy.

🌟 We need to learn to compromise, to promote order, to re-establish moral standards and mutually agreed upon truths; that’s how we decrease what Emile Durkheim referred to as “anomie”.

And I won’t be so naive as to think implementing these ideas will be easy, nor will people easily be convinced they are necessary endeavors. ✅

I know that me just saying this to all to you doesn’t mean you’ll take action to do them. But at the very least, I hope I planted some seeds in your mind to think about. ✅

These initiatives will require many more people to step forward and be examples. This is not meant to come off like some political statement; it’s just something I’ve been very passionate about sharing with you all for a while. I’m glad I have the words written out to you now! 😁

🚨 Because I don’t want to keep seeing people needlessly suffer! 🚨


These ideas I share with you now are NOT EVEN MY IDEAS! They are not original! These ideas have been around a very long time! 😲

The problem is we’ve either forgotten how important these ideas are or we’ve simply never been introduced to them in the first place. And if you haven’t before, consider yourself introduced now! 😅

You won’t learn these ideas browsing social media, I can tell you that much! 🤣

𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗹𝗼𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗱𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁 𝘀𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘀 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗹𝘂𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗯𝘂𝗯𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀. 🎮

I can assure you: there’s a profound sense of humility which comes when you realize how little you know, how far we all can expand our understandings of the world if we made the conscious decisions to. ❤️

I’ll leave you all with wisdom from the great philosopher Bertrand Russell. When asked what advice he’d give to future generations, he said this in 1959: 🗣️

💬 “𝑳𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒔𝒆; 𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒍𝒊𝒔𝒉. 𝑰𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅, 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒊𝒔 𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒚 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒆𝒅, 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓. 𝑾𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒑𝒖𝒕 𝒖𝒑 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒂𝒄𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒔𝒂𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒘𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒏’𝒕 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆. 𝑾𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒚.

𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒇 𝒘𝒆 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒍𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒕𝒐𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒅𝒊𝒆 𝒕𝒐𝒈𝒆𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓, 𝒘𝒆 𝒎𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒂 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂 𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒐𝒍𝒆𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆, 𝒘𝒉𝒊𝒄𝒉 𝒊𝒔 𝒂𝒃𝒔𝒐𝒍𝒖𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒚 𝒗𝒊𝒕𝒂𝒍 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒖𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒇 𝒉𝒖𝒎𝒂𝒏 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒑𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒆𝒕.” 💬

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