I wish I had heard these words back when I suffered with depression. 😞
Yes, for nearly a decade I suffered with depression. It’s why I’m so passionate about mental health today! 👊
It’s because I’ve been there that I want to show others there’s ways out of it.
And the 1st thing I’d say to someone who is depressed is these words…
❤️ IT’S OKAY…TO NOT BE OKAY. ❤️
“But Donald, don’t enable people to keep being depressed! We want to get them OUT of depression, not stay in it! Don’t be stupid!” 🤪
Ah, but I agree with you here! I don’t want people to be in negative emotional states any longer than they need to be! We’re on the same page here! 😊
Where we differ is in the solution! ↔️
I won’t allow them to shame their emotions. If there’s anything I’ve learned in overcoming depression, it wasn’t by trying to push and force my emotions out of my mind. In fact, I see this method causing much more harm than good. 😱
Hear me out! As a regular meditator, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned with this practice is that our emotions, like our thoughts, are like the weather; they are temporary. 💨
But the more we resist them when they do appear (our thoughts, our emotions) and we demonize them, the longer they tend to remain. 😲
If I told you right now NOT think of a pink elephant, what just came into your mind? And if I kept telling you to stop thinking about the pink elephant, what thought remains? 🐘
🌟 Your constant focus on what you don’t want is why it’s still here. It has the OPPOSITE effect from what you intend. 🌟
📌 Accept WHATEVER you’re feeling. Place no positive or negative label on your present emotions.
📌 See if there’s any message your emotions are trying to give you. For depression: the message may be you’re focusing too much on negative thoughts. For anxiety: the message may be you’re doing too many things at once.
📌 Once your emotions have no further use, start taking actions in behavior to shift your feelings. It’s different from demonizing and suppressing your feelings. Your behavior will influence the change. Remember: FEELINGS FOLLOW BEHAVIOR!
Hope this helps! ❤️