Why Separation is EMPOWERING!

Take the example of a bow, an arrow, and a target. 🏹

You’ve practiced for months. You’ve spent countless hours shooting arrows. And today is The Day, the day you decide you’ve practiced long enough to hit the bullseye multiple consecutive times! 🎯

But somehow, you’re not at all nervous. You’re not even worried! You’ve practiced a lot, that’s for sure. But there’s one valuable lesson you’ve also learned in your life which rids you of needless worry…

🌟 Separate the things which are in your control from the things not in your control. 🌟

To be kind to another person is within your control. To know if the person will be kind in return is not in your control. ❤️

To tell the truth is in your control. To know if telling the truth will benefit you in your current situation is out of your control. 🗣️

To keep a promise is in your control. To know if someone else will keep their promise is out of your control. 🤝

To practice, to prepare, to aim, and shoot an arrow at a target is in your control. But to know if the arrow will hit the bullseye once it’s left your bow is not in your control. 🏹

The problem is we so often put focus on what’s not in our control. So much of the news we read, hear, and absorb today are about other people, other events, and things which are not at all in our control. 📺

So then we focus on the arrow even though it’s already left our bows. We focus on all the arrows of others even though they have nothing to do with our everyday lives. In doing so, we’re causing ourselves needless worry and anxiety! 😫

So what then? We must flip our focuses back to what we can control, not just for our own mental health but for the impact we make by doing so. We focus on being a good person. We focus on setting the example. We focus on taking action on things within our control. 💪

Because once you make a habit to start separating these two, placing all your energy into what’s in your control, you will save yourself a ton of time and stress! ❤️

Why EVERYONE (and No One) Has “The Solution”!

Ladies and gentlemen: I present to you something NO ONE has ever said before! EVER! Not a single person! It’s 100% ORIGINAL! What I share will SHOCK you! 😱
Well I have AMAZING news for you! No need to THINK about it any longer! No need to ASK any more questions! No need to WORRY! 😅
Because I…Donald Arteaga…Are you ready for this…?! 😱
I’m not sure you’re ready! 😶
Are you REALLY sure?!?! 😈
I…Donald Arteaga…have THE SOLUTION to all your problems! 🥳
🗣️ “…Wait! What?!” 🗣️
Okay, I was being a bit silly there! 🤣
But I do have a point! Online, EVERYONE has “their way”. Everyone has their “solutions”. Their “keys”. Their “answers”. Their “secrets to success”. I have nuggets of my own I share, and I genuinely hope it adds value to your life! ❤️
But I also want to remind you that all of us who share content and stuff like this are also only human, including myself. 👤
The problem some of them forget to mention: “Their way” is just one of MANY ways. I have “my way” too, and I don’t ask that you blindly accept it either. 💯
Perhaps I’m doing a disservice to the hierarchical structure of Salesperson and Consumer, Teacher and Student, Influencer and Viewer to point this out. 😱
But in my opinion, it never hurts to be given this reminder when you have everyone marketing for your attention (including me)! 😁
Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that you don’t grow when someone provides you all the “solutions”, all the answers to your problems. You can grow from information, but you also grow from experience, from doing the hard work, and from discovering the answers for yourself. 🔎
We’re all in one form or another doing the best we can with the resources we have, sharing the bits of wisdom we know with our limited understandings of the universe. 🌌
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t say this in a negative way! I’m not saying what people offer isn’t useful or that you should ignore us. I’m not saying expertise doesn’t matter either.
I mean you wouldn’t want a toddler over a trained surgeon performing heart surgery right? 🤣

My main point is I don’t want you to lose your autonomy, to decide for yourself what you find is useful and is helpful to your life. I’m not the final destination for all the answers! 
I don’t want to tell you what to think. I want to encourage you to think and let the ideas I share simmer in your minds, not blindly accept them. And feel free to disagree, and we can have a conversation! 🤝
I won’t claim I have all the answers because I don’t. And even if the other people online won’t admit it, I will tell you neither do they. Again, it’s not a bad thing but just the truth. 🤷‍♂️
I’ve come to the conclusion this world is filled with many paradoxes and contradictions. For every subjective statement treated as an absolute by one, you’ll find there will always be some exception to the rule. 😫
Pick up a Philosophy book and you’ll see what I mean! 🤯
Everyone has “their way”. Everyone has their “solutions”. Their “keys”. Their “answers”. Their “secrets to success”. 🔢
…But you also must decide what is helpful to you too. I want to make sure you also have a say in this final decision. Much love! ❤️

How You TRANSFORM Your Life!

“Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.” – Viktor Frankl 🗣

🌟 A life filled with purpose and meaning is what drives a person forward. 🌟

What gets you out of bed every morning? Do you PUSH yourself out of bed? Or are you PULLED to something greater than the present moment? Why does any person wake up each morning: to live…or to maintain? 🤔

I believe these are very important questions we need to ask in a world where mental health continues to be a grave concern. 🧠

⚠️ According to the World Health Organization, depression is the leading cause of mental illness with an estimate 300 MILLION people affected. ⚠️

A few years ago I would’ve also been a part of that list. But I don’t consider myself anymore. 😲

“How did you change that?” 💬

One thing I’ll tell you for certain was it wasn’t a quick fix. It’s a process, one which will take time, patience, and lots of focus. 👀

But I can tell you it’s worth it! ❤️

📍 DO MORE THINGS THAT LIGHT UP YOUR HEART & SOUL. Even if others say it’s not “realistic” or “worth it”, if it’s worth it to you that’s what matters. You do it for you, not for other people.

📍 START CHOOSING TO SEE YOUR PROBLEMS AS “GIFTS”. No matter how bad the problem is, ask yourself how this problem can work in your favor.

📍 START CHALLENGING YOUR BAD HABITS & BUILD NEW ONES. It’s easier to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. Remind yourself the changes you’re making are for your Future Self.

📍 DEVELOP MORE SELF-AWARENESS. Whether it’s meditating, journaling, or creating goals, the better you understand yourself (the good and the bad) the faster you can make adjustments in your life.

📍 DO MORE GOOD FOR OTHERS. The fastest way out of suffering? Do good for the next person you see. It can even be as simple as a smile. It’s when we’re stuck in our heads where we suffer.

Shoutout to my friend Rapahel and the work his non-profit The Hero Foundation Napa is doing for his community! It’s how I got this awesome shirt! 👕

I hope it inspires you to spread good too! Because THAT is a life worth living! ❤️

Why Self-Help NEEDS Patience!

🗣️ “I’m ready to become my best self! Where’s the secret sauce?” 🗣️

Well let’s hold on a second here! 🛑 I appreciate the enthusiasm, but I think this requires some clarification! 😅

Do you really want to become your best self? I also want to become my best self, so we’re in this together! 🤝

But there’s a common misconception in the self-help community that needs to be addressed. In fact, I think it’s one the first things people need to know when they decide to work on themselves. 👍

You’re not going to be told it in our modern society. We live in a day and age which thrives on instant gratification. 💨

📍 Want an item from Amazon? Get it delivered to your door next day!

📍 Want to watch a movie? Click and stream it online!

📍 Want an answer to a random question? Ask Siri on your iPhone!

And let me add these are all GREAT things! The advances in science and technology have brought us so much convenience than we had a decade ago! It should definitely be applauded! 👏

But what I want to emphasize is with personal growth, it’s VERY different! You could even say personal growth is like entering a different culture! 😲

Why? Because when you want to better yourself, to build new habits, to focus on accomplishing goals, and to do all this the rest of your life…well let me assure there’s not going to be any overnight shipping for this! 😅

🌟 Becoming your best self will not offer the same conveniences our modern society does. 🌟

It’s going to take time. It’s going to require dedication. You’ll be stepping into uncharted territories. And it will be a journey, not a destination. 🧭

It’s easy for us to start working on ourselves, not see the results we want, and we quickly give up. Again, our society reinforces instant gratification. 👍

But think of something in your life you want to work on, to become better at, to improve within yourself. And I want you to think about your Future Self, what he/she would say to you if you embarked on this long-term venture. 🗣️

Becoming your best self is not for me. It’s for you. It’s for your Future Self. It’s because you have only one life to live. ⌛

🌟 Netflix is instant. Living a life is not. 🌟