How Activism is a Blessing (and a CURSE)!

๐Ÿšจ PRO vs. ANTI ๐Ÿšจ
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be a Democrat and not be Anti-Republican.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be a Capitalist and not be Anti-Communist.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be a Vegetarian and not be Anti-Carnivore.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be a Businessperson and not be Anti-Government.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be an Atheist and not be Anti-Religion.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN be a Feminist and not be Anti-Men.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Black Lives Matter and not be Anti-Police.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Economic Growth and not be Anti-Environment.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support MeToo and not be Anti-Skeptical.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Justice and not be Anti-Civil.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Local Businesses and not be Anti-Corporations.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Spirituality and not be Anti-Science.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Ending Racism and not be Anti-White.
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๐Ÿ‘ You CAN support Eating Healthy and not be Anti-Junk Food.
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It doesn’t have to be one OR the other. ๐Ÿ™‚
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I support activism. AND I also caution activism that’s without any critical thinking and self-criticism. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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We CAN build a bridge without having to tear down someone else’s. ๐ŸŒ‰
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Support the causes you believe in. Be a part of the change you wish to see. Set the example for others to follow. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Just be sure to keep an eye out when your focus has shifted from being more Pro to more Anti. ๐Ÿ‘€
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Because being Pro โค๏ธ versus being Anti ๐Ÿคฌ produce very different results.
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๐Ÿค” Which are YOU standing for? ๐Ÿค”

How We CREATE Our Suffering!

“What upsets people are not THINGS themselves but their JUDGMENTS about the things.”
~ Epictetus ๐Ÿ’ฌ
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We are not upset because an event happens. We are upset because we believe an event “shouldn’t” have happened. ๐Ÿ˜ฃ
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We’re arguing with the “shoulds” in our minds. ๐Ÿคฏ
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We’re arguing with the feelings of anger and frustration we’re experiencing. ๐Ÿคฌ
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We’re arguing with a past which no longer exists. โŒ›
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But here’s the problem:
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“When you argue with reality, you always lose.” ๐Ÿ˜“
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So, I want to introduce you to another solution: ACCEPTANCE. โค๏ธ
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๐Ÿ™Œ Accept whatever it is you’re experiencing. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Accept the events which happened. Accept the emotions you’re feeling. Accept the judgments you’re making. Accept whatever is.
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Accept. And allow yourself to let them go. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Release. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Surrender. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Because it’s only when we continue holding onto this baggage do we cause ourselves needless suffering. ๐Ÿ˜จ
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“HOW DARE YOU, DONALD! I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED!” ๐Ÿคฌ
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I understand what you mean. โค๏ธ
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There’s this feeling of nobility, this sense of self-righteousness to hold onto these negative emotions. I get it. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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These emotions provide us feelings of power over things we feel powerless to. They provide us feelings of control over things which we feel are out of our control. โœŠ
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As I heard 1 person describe their feelings of anger: “It’s like jet fuel!” ๐Ÿคฌ
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For me to tell you to accept your emotions, for me to tell you to diffuse the mechanisms which provide your feelings of power and control, is the last thing you’d want to do right?! ๐Ÿ˜…
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I understand. โค๏ธ
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But I can assure you: there are better, constructive ways to handle our problems. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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Let me clarify:
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance does not mean we say whether something is “right” or “wrong”.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance does not mean we enable the things and situations we’re upset about.
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๐Ÿ“ Accepting is about freeing ourselves from needless suffering.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance is about clearing the weeds from our own minds.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance is about helping us see things as they are, not how we think they “should” be.
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And acceptance not only affects you! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ
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It affects how you will interact with others, how civil you will be in your communication. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ
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It affects what solutions you will come up with to address your problems. ๐Ÿค”
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It affects the long-term impact you’ll have on the situation rather than just the short-term. ๐Ÿ—“๏ธ
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“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”
~ Eckhart Tolle ๐Ÿ’ฌ
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Why You Shouldn’t Argue With REALITY!

Remember: People don’t know…what they don’t know. โค๏ธ
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You cannot expect a child who’s never learned math to understand algebra. ๐Ÿ”ข
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You cannot expect a teenager who’s never learned personal responsibility to just do it. ๐Ÿ‘ค
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You cannot expect an adult who’s never surrounded themselves with opposing viewpoints to have a nuanced view of the world. ๐ŸŒŽ
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You think they “should know better”. But the fact is: they don’t. So why be upset over things 100% outside your control? ๐Ÿ˜“
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My point is you don’t have to hold onto these expectations in your mind about how others “should” be acting. It’s causing you needless suffering. ๐Ÿ˜ซ
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Accept things as they are, not how you feel they “should” be. See things as they are, not how you “wish” they would be. ๐Ÿ‘€
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Allow yourself to let the “shoulds” go. ๐Ÿง˜

And instead, be kind. โค๏ธ
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๐Ÿ“ทย #Flashbackย Dunure Castle, Scotland

Why You NEED Confidence!

Think of the person who is so confident they know how to do something…but then fails miserably when they actually do it! ๐Ÿ˜…
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But think of the person who is so skilled on how to actually do something…yet consistently doubts their ability to even do it. ๐Ÿ˜จ
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So what happens? The Confident person takes the Competent person’s place in the Hierarchy of Authority! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ
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๐ŸŒŸ ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—–๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ก๐—ข๐—ง ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด.๐ŸŒŸ
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Confidence is the belief in yourself to do something. Competence is your actual ability to do something. โ†”๏ธ
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You can believe you know how to drive a car, yet simultaneously be a horrible driver! ๐Ÿš—
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You can believe you know how to be a leader, yet simultaneously isolate the people around you! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ
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You can believe you know more than experts in their fields, yet simultaneously spread misinformation because of your ignorance. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™‚๏ธ
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It’s important we remember this distinction, because it’s easy for all of us to be attracted to Confident leaders. ๐Ÿงฒ
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But that doesn’t automatically make them Competent as well. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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How often does this happen? How often do we follow leaders based on their Confidence and how they make us feel, rather than based upon their Competence or their personal character? ๐Ÿค”
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Philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote in an essay in 1933 in response to the Rise of Nazi Germany: โ€œ๐™๐™๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ช๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ข๐™ค๐™™๐™š๐™ง๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™™ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™˜๐™ ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ก๐™ก๐™ž๐™œ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™›๐™ช๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™™๐™ค๐™ช๐™—๐™ฉ.โ€ โœ๏ธ
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This quote has always reminded me to stay humble, to remember I’m not flawless, and that I can always keep learning more. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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I can in fact be wrong about many things, and with a continual understanding of the world around me I should remain open to new perspectives. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Because I might learn something new. ๐Ÿ’ก
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This quote is not only a reminder but also a cautionary one, if we are going to remember what happened in the following decade with Hitler and World War 2. ๐Ÿฉธ
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So, this is my message to the Competent individuals out there…โฌ‡๏ธ
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There are people far less qualified getting the jobs you want because of their Confidence! ๐Ÿ‘
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There are people far less skillful in leadership positions you’d be amazing at because of their Confidence! ๐Ÿ‘
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There are people far less intelligent influencing people more than you because of their Confidence! ๐Ÿ‘
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It’s not because they’re more talented. It’s not because they’re more hard-working. It’s also not because they’re more intelligent; this realization was a HUGE one for me! ๐Ÿคฏ
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It’s because they’re Confident. And people follow Confident people, even when it does head towards destruction. ๐Ÿ’ฅ
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I’m NOT saying every Confident person is unintelligent or isn’t hard working. I know plenty who are, and I wholeheartedly applaud them! ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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But what I am saying is these other individuals exist, and I want to let my more Competent friends know that there’s plenty of more room available on the Hierarchy. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ
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Take the time to develop your Confidence skills because your gifts are needed. ๐Ÿ‹๏ธ
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Because if you decide to step up, we will not only have a society of Confident leaders but ones who are BOTH Confident AND Competent! ๐Ÿ˜„
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That’s a real powerful combination! ๐Ÿ‘
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You got this! โค๏ธ