Why We Hold Beliefs TIGHT!

“๐’€๐‘ถ๐‘ผ’๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘พ๐‘น๐‘ถ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘จ๐‘ต๐‘ซ ๐‘ฐ’๐‘ด ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ฎ๐‘ฏ๐‘ป! ๐‘ท๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ถ๐‘ซ!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

One thing 2 people can easily get caught up in is an argument. I don’t mean one where both sides share their perspectives in a respectful and open manner.

(This is the Internet after all!ย ๐Ÿ˜‰)

I mean one where it becomes less about exchanging ideas and more about wanting to be “right”. It becomes a game of egoic dominance over the other person.

Why do we do this? I’ll give you one reason.

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†. ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Being “wrong” can feel very uncomfortable because when you’re so attached to your beliefs it feels like a personal attack on you, rather than a simple disagreement on your beliefs.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

Say you are an advocate for the environment, and you wholeheartedly believe that what you’re doing is helping it.ย ๐ŸŒฑ

But then say someone comes along who disagrees with what you’re doing. They present to you a different viewpoint you hadn’t thought of before, arguing what you’re doing is actually hurting the environment more than it is helping it.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Instead of hearing their points, you jump on the defense! You filter out the things they are saying. “๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’•’๐’” ๐’“๐’Š๐’…๐’Š๐’„๐’–๐’๐’๐’–๐’”! ๐‘ฐ’๐’—๐’† ๐’…๐’๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’š๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’”! ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’‹๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’Œ๐’๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š’๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’•!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Whether they had a valid point or not didn’t matter. You shut yourself off from hearing what they had to say. Because it was more comfortable sticking to what you already knew.ย โŒ

Ignorance can indeed be bliss.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด “๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด” ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ. ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

How We STOP Throwing Out Babies!

โš ๏ธ DON’T THROW OUT THE BABY!!! โš ๏ธ

๏ธโ€œWhat the devil are you talking about, Donald?!โ€ย ๏ธ

Let me explain!ย ย For those who knew me a few years ago, I’m not the same person I was back then. Iโ€™ve grown A TON, had many personal transformations, and had many new experiences!

Just as we all get older, weโ€™re never the exact same person we were the moment before. Weโ€™re 1 more second older. 1 more second alive. 1 more second existing. โŒ›

And what we do with the time we have on this planet is our choice!ย 

For me, I like to spend time creating content for you all, like this post! My desire is to provide thoughtful posts, ones you can use long after youโ€™ve read them.ย ๏ธ

If I can have at least 1 person be touched or be inspired by my posts to take action in their lives for the better, thatโ€™s all I ask!ย ๏ธ

๏ธโ€œBut Donald! What were you talking about before, about babies?!โ€ย ๏ธ

Oh yes, the baby! Right!

Anyways, with this quick growth of mine has also came valuable lessons I’ve learned. One of these lessons I want to share with you all today.ย ๏ธ

I’m talking about: not throwing out the baby with the bathwater.

And since this is the internet where things can be misinterpreted or taken out of context, I want to clarify with you all here: ‘Throw out the baby with the bathwater’ is just a figure of speech. It is not meant to be taken literally, and there is no physical baby or bathwater!

๏ธโ€œSo Donald, what does this phrase mean?โ€ย ๏ธ

So when you say to someone โ€œDonโ€™t throw out the baby with the bathwaterโ€, you are telling the other person not to get rid of the good with the bad. You are telling them within the bad there’s still some good that can be taken out of it.

Take the example of a broken car: just because a car is broken does not mean every part of the car is also broken too. There may still be some working parts in the car you can use in a working car instead.

โš ๏ธ DON’T THROW OUT THE BABY!!! โš ๏ธ

So why should we all โ€œnot throw out the baby with the bathwaterโ€? Because in our society, we do it A LOT!

It’s the reason why thereโ€™s so much division among people.ย Because weโ€™re unwilling to understand that someoneโ€™s political party, religion, or peer group does not 100% define them as a person, we throw out any possibility of getting to know them any further.

We close ourselves off to different perspectives, different ways of seeing the world, different ways of solving problems, and most importantly reminding ourselves weโ€™re all human beings.

Just like the broken car, we wouldn’t automatically assume everything about another person was broken just because we didn’t like them, right?

โ€ฆOr would we?

โš ๏ธย DON’T THROW OUT THE BABY!!!ย โš ๏ธ

I donโ€™t say this to sound condescending. I’ve fallen into this trap before too! Youโ€™re not alone!

It’s easy for us to stay attached to our personal beliefs and not be open to others.ย Our beliefs give us a sense of control and order to our lives.ย Beliefs give us security. Beliefs provide the answers to life’s unanswered questions. Beliefs give us absolute truth where we don’t have absolutes.

Our beliefs are what gives us our identity. It’s completely understandable why people would feel hostility towards people who are not like themselves.

But at the root of that feeling, this refusal to understand, is simply fear.

In order for this to change:

  • We need to be open to accepting the fact there are other people in world who have different perspectives than yourself.
  • We need to be open to being ‘wrong’.
  • We need to develop empathy towards others.
  • We need to remember our beliefs are not our own. Think about it: Beliefs are opinions and viewpoints on life you have picked up over time in your life. You didn’t have them the moment you were born.
  • We need to remind ourselves we’re all human beings on this planet.

Because when we dismiss someone and their beliefs, we donโ€™t just “throw out the baby with the bathwater”.ย We throw out the human being with their beliefs.ย 

โš ๏ธย DON’T THROW OUT THE BABY!!!ย โš ๏ธ

So the next time you’re talking with another person:

  • Remember we all come from different walks of life, and we all have reasons for believing what we believe.
  • Empathize. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes. You may learn something new you didnโ€™t know before.
  • Seek to understand why the other person believes what they believe. Let me emphasize: this does NOT mean you have to agree with what they believe. It just means you understand why they believe what they do.

As I like to remind everyone, I’m only human too. I sometimes need these reminders myself. This is a lesson I continue to learn too!

But with these solutions in our minds, we all can make further progress towards working alongside our fellow neighbors.ย ๏ธ

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Why Complaining is EASY!

Do you know someone who always finds something to complain about?ย ๐Ÿคฌ

Maybe it’s a family member. A friend. An online ranter. Some people have literally made businesses online profiting off their complaining about the world!ย ๐ŸŒŽ

If you look hard enough, you can find something to complain about for anything! Our brains are hardwired to focus on the negatives; it helped us survive way back when.ย ๐Ÿง 

In other words, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to complain; anyone can, and most people do!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐ŸŒŸย Everyone has an opinion. Fewer have the example.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

So why should anyone even try to stop complaining? Why even try something new when it’s so easy? Everyone else does it, so why shouldn’t I?ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

But while misery does loves company, so does happiness.ย ๐ŸŒž

And there’s a second part to Dale Carnegie’s quote above: “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do…

…But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”ย โค๏ธ

Are you up for the challenge? You can always start complaining again tomorrow!ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Why Be AWARE of Your Environment!

What kind of person do you want to become in your life?ย ๐Ÿค”

A hopeful person? A person who looks for the best in others? A person who focuses on solutions over problems? A person who takes responsibility for their emotions?ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

A cynical person? A person who looks for the worst in others? A person who obsesses over what’s wrong with the world? A person who places blame on everyone but themselves?ย ๐Ÿ˜ก

There is one key factor that will determine this!ย ๐Ÿ”‘

๐ŸŒŸย Who you become will depend on the people and the things you surround yourself with.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

There’s a reason I surround myself around positive, inspiring people. There’s a reason I listen, read, and learn about things which empower me to become a better person. There’s a reason I don’t watch the news.ย ๐Ÿ’ช

I won’t deny I still have negative moments. I still have moments where I DON’T always want to surround myself with positivity. There’s nothing wrong with that. We all have those moments.ย ๐Ÿ‘

In fact, I have times in my life where I simply want to headbang to some heavy metal, play a mindless videogame, or watch a video of dank memes. No shame!ย ๐Ÿ˜Ž

It only becomes a concern when it takes up a majority of our time.ย โฐ

Again, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with any of those! It’s just not what I’ve personally chosen to surround myself around a most of the time. It may be different for you!ย ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

I’m also not saying you have to change what you surround yourself with either. All I’m saying is simply to become more aware how our environment influences us, that whatever we choose for our environment in the future will also influence us too.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

So if you know who you want to become in your life, just remember: your environment plays a key role.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

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