Why Patience is NOT a Virtue!

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! 🙌

One thing I’ve learned is a lot of people don’t have patience. 😲

We’d rather have the quick fix. We’d rather choose the fastest solution. We’d rather get things done sooner than later. 💨

And that is absolutely crucial when applying it to our modern day technology. We do need those skills! The problem is when we carry these same standards into our interactions with other people. 👥

I’ve been told by quite a few people I have a lot of patience. I’ll let someone talk for a long period of time. I’ll give someone extra time to work through a problem in their mind. I’ll let someone know through my presence their concerns matter to me. ❤️

But what surprises me the most is that this patience is not commonplace. You’ve heard the term “patience is a virtue” right?! ✍️

So how do I have it so easily? It’s simple: I think if I were in the same position as them, I’d appreciate the same treatment towards me. ↔️

If you’re not patient with others, the odds are likely you are not patient with yourself. How you treat others is also a reflection on how you treat yourself. 👤

There are people working through far bigger problems in their lives than I’ve ever had to deal with. And the biggest gift I can offer a person is my time and patience. It’s not to say I don’t at times get impatient, but that I remind myself why I give it. 🎁

There’s someone I love dearly in my family who currently suffers from dementia. The #1 thing she says to me and with much gratefulness is: “Thank you for being so patient with me.” 🗣️

It tears me up to think how many others in our world feel insignificant because others won’t simply give them the time and patience when they’re doing their very best with the resources they have to work through a problem. 😢

We wouldn’t give a baby a limited amount of time and patience to learn how to walk. We wouldn’t throw in the towel and say: “This baby is hopeless! I got more important things to do!” 🤬

So why do we give this limited time to others? ⌛

One is because of our expectations about other people. For a baby, we expect walking for them will be a learning process. We expect they will poop in their diapers. We expect they will need to be spoon fed. We expect they will need a lot of time and patience. 🐣

But as we get older, we raise our expectations on how others “should” be. ♾

📍 “They should already know how to do this!”

📍 “They should know better!”

📍 “They should have high standards for their life!”

📍 “They should be just like who I am!”

There was a moment this weekend that tested my expectations. 📆

I had the privilege to serve a dozen kids as they experienced their very first Unleash the Power Within event. They all came from different locations, backgrounds, and lifestyles. 🌎

This weekend I learned a very valuable lesson from every of them. I learned I came into the group with far more expectations about where these kids “should” be in their personal development than I knew! 😲

Some of them had already dipped their toe in the water. But others were stepping in for the very first time. These ideas were brand new to them. And I was expecting too much of what they “should” know. 😔

But you cannot expect someone to learn Calculus when they’ve never learned Algebra. It has to be taken in steps. And as passionate as I am about personal development, I was challenged this weekend to remind myself how little I knew when I first attended the event myself. We all learn in different ways and at different paces. 👍

All the kids were beautiful souls who I know will go far in their lives. There’s a part of me that woke up this Monday morning and remembered I’m not going to the venue to reconnect with them. A part of me will miss that. 🙌

But I told them before I left them all yesterday: “Keep these memories here close. They are with you now wherever you go.” ❤️

If we are to get along with each other, patience is not a virtue.

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! IT’S A NECESSITY! 🙌

Building this skill has become one of the most rewarding experiences for my life. 👍

You’ll connect with people on a deeper level. You’ll see parts of yourself in them. You’ll remember we’re all only human and we’re all still learning. 😊

🌟 Remember to meet people where they are at, not where you want them to be. 🌟

Because where there’s patience there’s also time for understanding. ❤️#EudaimonicLife

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Why Change Is POSSIBLE! (PERSONAL)

😱 4 YEARS!!! 😱

This afternoon I took a look at my calendar 📆 and my eyes started to water.😭 I couldn’t believe it! 2 weeks from now it will have been 4 years. 🥳

It’s hard for me to still fathom it’s really been that long! 🤯

The song “Seasons of Love” asks: ‘How do you measure a year?’ 🎶 But my mind is still trying to wrap around how to measure the past 4! 😅

🗣️ “What are you talking about Donald?!” 🗣️

I should probably explain! 2 weeks from now it will have been exactly 4 years…🔎

…since I was under 25. 😱 I was so young then, but 4 years later I’m now just a grumpy old man! 😭

🤣 JUST KIDDING!!! 🤣

Seriously though, 4 years ago I was That Guy on the left in the photo.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who binged on junk food every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who drank 3 to 4 cans of soda every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who refused even substituting his drinks for Diet Soda.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who was so picky about eating vegetables he’d literally gag trying to swallow them because of his fear of textures.

And where did this inability to change bring That Guy? 🤔

To weigh over 234 pounds. ⚖️ To have junk food and soda as his addictions and closest companions. To feel tired and sleepy more often than not. 😴 To never like being in photos because of the way he looked. To always feel the need to lift his chin up so his double chin didn’t show. 😔

That Guy really didn’t like how he looked or how unhealthy he ate. But regardless, him holding onto his comfort zone outweighed any inspiration to try and be thinner or be happier. 🤷‍♂️

If any of you can read this and relate, you’re not alone! ❤️

I don’t necessarily mean with weight but with our general unwillingness to change things in our lives a small part of us really wants to change. While there’s that part of us that really wants to change, we nevertheless don’t change. 😕

🚬 You know quitting smoking would benefit your lung health. But you don’t.

🍔 You know eating less junk food and more vegetables would help you lose weight. But you don’t.

🚴 You know exercising would help keep your muscles strong. But you don’t.

But why? Why don’t we change? If it’s really as simple as doing or not doing something, then why don’t we do it?! 😵

Because we as humans…are complicated! 😅

For one thing, we are creatures of habit. It’s easier for us to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. 👍 You’ve probably heard the term: “Old habits die hard.” It’s very true, and I’ve experienced it before too! 😝

Building a new habit requires a lot of focus. 👀 It requires consistent effort. Until it becomes a full on habit in your daily life, it’s going to continue feeling difficult. 😓

But don’t be too hard on yourself either! Think of it like this: say you’ve smoked for a decade and then decide to quit. 🚭 You will then be faced with a smoking habit decades old all while you’re building the new habit to not smoke. Of course this won’t be easy! It’s an uphill battle with your Habitual Brain! 😊

As much as I’d love to tell you new habits are built overnight, they aren’t. 👎It’s why most people don’t succeed doing it. If building a new habit was so easy to build, everybody would do it! 👍

But again, you’re not alone! ❤️ That Guy in the photo wasn’t willing to either! Sure, he wanted to be thinner and healthier, but why would he substitute that for all the short-term pleasures he experienced from junk food and soda? 🤷‍♂️

He even told himself: “I don’t have to worry about my health until the doctor says I have to.” 😱

So what happened 4 years ago that set That Guy down a path into who is now, Me present day? 🤔

🌟 His desire to change had to become stronger than his desire not to change. 🌟

⚠️ The problem was That Guy was always focused on his short-term pleasure; he was not focused on the long-term pain.

⚠️ He was focused on the pleasures of junk food and soda; he was not focused on the long-term medical issues he’d have because of them.

⚠️ He was focused on himself; he was not focused on the people who were trying to help him and whose advice he kept ignoring.

So when That Guy saw the path he was heading down for years to come, it planted a Seed of Horror in his mind that he had to change NOW! 🛑

Like Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol”, it was his vision of a horrific future which pushed That Guy to say: “Enough is enough!” ❌…

So here I am now, after 80 pounds lost, a No Soda policy, and many vegetables consumed! 🥦 That Guy has evolved into Me on the right. I like to call him Ace. Ace has since let That Guy retire, because now Ace likes running the show! 😎

So there’s something you really need to know! ✋

👍 I’m not going to pretend like this physical transformation happened overnight. It didn’t.

👍 I’m not going to put on an act like it was the easiest thing to do in the world. It wasn’t.

👍 I’m not going to try and make you believe I never zig-zagged during my transformation. I did…many times!

But what I will tell you though is that it is indeed possible for you to change when you set your mind to it. ❤️

One of my favorite speakers Les Brown talks about the Power of Possibility: “Sometimes we can’t say ‘I can do that’. But what we can say is that ‘it’s possible’.” 🗣️

🌟 If you can allow yourself to visualize the possibility of a future greater than the one you’re living now, you’ve already provided an opening for yourself to step forward. 🌟

So with this post I want to plant the seed in your mind that it is possible for you too, in whatever it is you’re looking to change! 😄

I’m not saying it will be easy. I’m not saying it will always be fun. But when you have doubts come up, remind yourself why you started in the first place. 🤔

👤 Do something today your future self will thank you for. 👤

Lastly, I have to give credit to the most powerful visual exercise I ever experienced which sealed the deal for me to change all those 4 years ago. 👍

It was attending Tony Robbins’s “Unleash the Power Within” event for the first time that I experienced what is known as the Dickens Process. 😲

I’d love to tell you more, but I’d rather you experienced the event for yourself without spoilers. I can tell you how a candy bar tastes, but it’s a whole other thing to actually taste it. 🍫

I’m not saying attending the event is your only tool, only that it’s a damn fine one in your Arsenal for Change if you do! It was for me! ❤️

COMMENT below if you’ve attended UPW before or are interested in attending! 😁

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Why I CREATE Content! (PERSONAL)

✍️ WHY I CREATE CONTENT!!! ✍️

I’m very grateful when people tell me how much my content resonates with them: how it makes them think, how it makes them smile, how it inspires them, and how it gives them hope. ❤️

It’s one of the reasons why I do it: it’s for ALL of you, anyone who wants to see it! 👥

If you are able to find value out of what I share, that is one of my many hopes. I hope every post, serious or silly, you can take something from it and take it wherever you go. 👣

I hope you are able to sit with the ideas I share long after seeing the posts, allowing them to simmer in your mind. 💺

I hope someone, somewhere can see one of my posts and is able to say to themselves: “I needed to see this today.” 🗣️

And that is just one of the many of the reasons why I do it. Another reason, I must confess, is 100% selfish! Yes, you heard me right: SELFISH! Me, me, me! A part of me posts content simply because I enjoy creating it and seeing the finished product! 😅

I write posts because I enjoy reading them back. I record silly videos because I enjoy laughing at myself on replay. If someone else enjoys my content, I’m really glad they do. But even when they don’t, I’m happy with my creation regardless! ❤️

The satisfaction I feel from making and finishing it is where my feelings of self-worth come from. 👍

Creating content has become a hobby where the more I’ve continued to do it, the more I find myself losing track of time, the more I continue to swim in Oceans of Ideas. It is in these times my mind locks onto a set focus as ideas float around the focus.

Like a puzzle, I take each idea and see if it fits into what I wish to communicate through my content. 🧩 Now saying this to you all may sound a tad pretentious, but it’s the best way I can describe my creative process. 😅

But there’s even ANOTHER reason why I post content! I have many legs holding up my Table of Content! 🦵

I also post content because of a bigger concern I see, one which is not just part of the social media fabric but our society as a whole. And in the spirit of the Entrepreneur archetype, I’ve spotted a problem and seek to provide answers and solutions.

What am I’m referring to?

📌 The excess of blame but a lack of understanding.

📌 The excess of style but a lack of substance.

📌 The excess of simplicity but a lack of complexity.

Let me clarify I’m not saying any of these are inherently bad. What I’m saying is when any of these are in excess, they definitely are detrimental. 👍

Perhaps you’d say these problems are way too broad for a single person like myself to take on. In fact, I very much agree with you. I’d love to eventually see this mission turn into a more collective effort. 🌎

But someone also has to take the first step, and I’ve taken it upon myself to do that, to be a part of the change I wish to see. 👤

🗣️ “Why does it matter to you, Donald?!” 🗣️

Because I see how we as humans are inclined to blame, label, and oversimplify things. I see how we can follow and listen to someone based on their physical beauty rather than on their character. 😔

And this goes for me too! I’m not immune to these inclinations either! It’s why I always keep working on them! 💯

It’s why it’s so easy for us to generalize people than to seek to understand then; it’s in our psychology. Our survival brains are hard-wired this way. 🧠And unfortunately, we can easily see the worst of those primal instincts laid out on social media. 💻

I can’t tell you the many times I’ve wanted to share something on my profile which surprised me, shocked me, and even frustrated me. I use to do so! It’s taken me a lot of self-discipline and restraint to consider every post I share. 👍

So for any of us to see things in a different or more deeper way will require all of us to do one crucial thing! 😲

Do you know what that is? I want you think about that before you read the next paragraph. 🤔 What would you need to do in order for yourself to think twice before blaming and generalizing? I’ll give you a hint: I just gave you the answer in the last sentence. 😉

🧠 It requires one to think! 🧠

💡 It requires us all to think twice before allowing our primal instincts to control our reactions.

💡 It requires us to keep taking a step back to assess stressful situations before choosing our response.

💡 It requires us to think twice about our behavior and if it’s something that serves ourselves and other people.

Alan Jacobs wrote in his fantastic book “How to Think”:

“Relatively few people want to think. Thinking troubles us; thinking tires us. Thinking can force us out of familiar, comforting habits; thinking can complicate our lives; thinking can set us at odds, or at least complicate our relationships. Who needs thinking?” 🤷‍♂️

It’s part of the reason why my posts are lengthy. As I discussed in my previous post (http://bit.ly/2KU8F6X), the more I’ve continued to educate myself, the more I see a complex world, one which in the next couple of decades I see is going to become even more complex. 👍

So I create content for these very reasons:

🙌 Because I want to introduce you all to a deeper world.

🙌 Because I want to show you the more you understand yourself, the better you will understand others.

🙌 Because I want to show you how thinking doesn’t have to be at all “boring”.

🙌 Because I want to show you how a life which is filled with purpose and meaning is a life worth living.

You may notice a pattern between all of these: you can’t get any of these by focusing on the Surface Level of Life. ⛏️

So yes, continue to expect posts which will challenge and make you think. I’ll also fit in a silly video once in a while for balance! 😂 But I’m still on an Learning Journey myself, so join me along for the ride! 🗺️

I mean, I definitely could just be That Guy who posts a modeling photo with a basic motivational quote as the caption. But I choose not to. There’s enough of that already online, and I’m not here to be just some pretty face! 😈

If I do share a photo (like the one for this post), you can bet there’s going to be more than just a quote in the captions! 😉

Stay tuned for more posts, and if there’s any topics you’d like to see me talk or discuss about I’d love to hear your feedback! Much love everyone! ❤️#TranscendLabels

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Why You Should EMBRACE Change!

Last April I was in Glasgow visiting the Kelvingrove Art Gallery and Museum. A beautiful museum, I spent over 3 hours looking at every nook and cranny! 😍

If you ever want to be reminded of how vast our world and its history is, take a trip sometime to a museum. 🖼️

I entered the section which had an entire wall dedicated to Charles Darwin and his Theory of Evolution. Before Darwin, our world had a much more simplified explanation to our world’s inhabitants and how we all came to be. 🌎

Not only going against conventional understanding, Darwin changed the paradigm of both the religious AND scientific beliefs of his time! Through his research, he showed us a world which was in fact was far more complex, presenting ideas which later laid the foundation for subjects like modern biology. 🧫

Why do I share this with you? Because there was one observation Darwin noticed during his studies. Verbatim, this was written on the museum wall: ✍️

🌟 “Darwin noticed it was not necessarily the strong and the beautiful who succeed in life’s struggle – it is those who cope best with change.” 🌟

I find this quote stretches beyond Darwin, to a world that is constantly changing, perhaps faster than we may want it to. ⌛

But with that awareness comes the opportunity to adapt and to continue adapting with whatever comes your way. 💪

Sounds a bit frightening that change is always happening, isn’t it? Well I want to plant a new seed in your mind.

🌟 See change as an inevitability. See change as another opportunity for you to embrace the unknown. 🌟

When you believe it, let yourself know “I can handle it!” 😎

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