Why Change Is POSSIBLE! (PERSONAL)

😱 4 YEARS!!! 😱

This afternoon I took a look at my calendar 📆 and my eyes started to water.😭 I couldn’t believe it! 2 weeks from now it will have been 4 years. 🥳

It’s hard for me to still fathom it’s really been that long! 🤯

The song “Seasons of Love” asks: ‘How do you measure a year?’ 🎶 But my mind is still trying to wrap around how to measure the past 4! 😅

🗣️ “What are you talking about Donald?!” 🗣️

I should probably explain! 2 weeks from now it will have been exactly 4 years…🔎

…since I was under 25. 😱 I was so young then, but 4 years later I’m now just a grumpy old man! 😭

🤣 JUST KIDDING!!! 🤣

Seriously though, 4 years ago I was That Guy on the left in the photo.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who binged on junk food every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who drank 3 to 4 cans of soda every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who refused even substituting his drinks for Diet Soda.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who was so picky about eating vegetables he’d literally gag trying to swallow them because of his fear of textures.

And where did this inability to change bring That Guy? 🤔

To weigh over 234 pounds. ⚖️ To have junk food and soda as his addictions and closest companions. To feel tired and sleepy more often than not. 😴 To never like being in photos because of the way he looked. To always feel the need to lift his chin up so his double chin didn’t show. 😔

That Guy really didn’t like how he looked or how unhealthy he ate. But regardless, him holding onto his comfort zone outweighed any inspiration to try and be thinner or be happier. 🤷‍♂️

If any of you can read this and relate, you’re not alone! ❤️

I don’t necessarily mean with weight but with our general unwillingness to change things in our lives a small part of us really wants to change. While there’s that part of us that really wants to change, we nevertheless don’t change. 😕

🚬 You know quitting smoking would benefit your lung health. But you don’t.

🍔 You know eating less junk food and more vegetables would help you lose weight. But you don’t.

🚴 You know exercising would help keep your muscles strong. But you don’t.

But why? Why don’t we change? If it’s really as simple as doing or not doing something, then why don’t we do it?! 😵

Because we as humans…are complicated! 😅

For one thing, we are creatures of habit. It’s easier for us to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. 👍 You’ve probably heard the term: “Old habits die hard.” It’s very true, and I’ve experienced it before too! 😝

Building a new habit requires a lot of focus. 👀 It requires consistent effort. Until it becomes a full on habit in your daily life, it’s going to continue feeling difficult. 😓

But don’t be too hard on yourself either! Think of it like this: say you’ve smoked for a decade and then decide to quit. 🚭 You will then be faced with a smoking habit decades old all while you’re building the new habit to not smoke. Of course this won’t be easy! It’s an uphill battle with your Habitual Brain! 😊

As much as I’d love to tell you new habits are built overnight, they aren’t. 👎It’s why most people don’t succeed doing it. If building a new habit was so easy to build, everybody would do it! 👍

But again, you’re not alone! ❤️ That Guy in the photo wasn’t willing to either! Sure, he wanted to be thinner and healthier, but why would he substitute that for all the short-term pleasures he experienced from junk food and soda? 🤷‍♂️

He even told himself: “I don’t have to worry about my health until the doctor says I have to.” 😱

So what happened 4 years ago that set That Guy down a path into who is now, Me present day? 🤔

🌟 His desire to change had to become stronger than his desire not to change. 🌟

⚠️ The problem was That Guy was always focused on his short-term pleasure; he was not focused on the long-term pain.

⚠️ He was focused on the pleasures of junk food and soda; he was not focused on the long-term medical issues he’d have because of them.

⚠️ He was focused on himself; he was not focused on the people who were trying to help him and whose advice he kept ignoring.

So when That Guy saw the path he was heading down for years to come, it planted a Seed of Horror in his mind that he had to change NOW! 🛑

Like Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol”, it was his vision of a horrific future which pushed That Guy to say: “Enough is enough!” ❌…

So here I am now, after 80 pounds lost, a No Soda policy, and many vegetables consumed! 🥦 That Guy has evolved into Me on the right. I like to call him Ace. Ace has since let That Guy retire, because now Ace likes running the show! 😎

So there’s something you really need to know! ✋

👍 I’m not going to pretend like this physical transformation happened overnight. It didn’t.

👍 I’m not going to put on an act like it was the easiest thing to do in the world. It wasn’t.

👍 I’m not going to try and make you believe I never zig-zagged during my transformation. I did…many times!

But what I will tell you though is that it is indeed possible for you to change when you set your mind to it. ❤️

One of my favorite speakers Les Brown talks about the Power of Possibility: “Sometimes we can’t say ‘I can do that’. But what we can say is that ‘it’s possible’.” 🗣️

🌟 If you can allow yourself to visualize the possibility of a future greater than the one you’re living now, you’ve already provided an opening for yourself to step forward. 🌟

So with this post I want to plant the seed in your mind that it is possible for you too, in whatever it is you’re looking to change! 😄

I’m not saying it will be easy. I’m not saying it will always be fun. But when you have doubts come up, remind yourself why you started in the first place. 🤔

👤 Do something today your future self will thank you for. 👤

Lastly, I have to give credit to the most powerful visual exercise I ever experienced which sealed the deal for me to change all those 4 years ago. 👍

It was attending Tony Robbins’s “Unleash the Power Within” event for the first time that I experienced what is known as the Dickens Process. 😲

I’d love to tell you more, but I’d rather you experienced the event for yourself without spoilers. I can tell you how a candy bar tastes, but it’s a whole other thing to actually taste it. 🍫

I’m not saying attending the event is your only tool, only that it’s a damn fine one in your Arsenal for Change if you do! It was for me! ❤️

COMMENT below if you’ve attended UPW before or are interested in attending! 😁

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Why Death REMINDS You! (PERSONAL)

🙌 I CAN BREATHE A SIGH OF PEACE! 🙌

My emotions were so close to overwhelming me as it happened! But I had to express them! 😊

Perhaps I get “too emotional” these days! But then again, I remember the days when I was younger when I use to downplay my emotions. It wasn’t pleasant to say the least. But now, all I can think about is how great it feels to simply express myself. Now even the smallest gestures of kindness I will allow myself to get all teary-eyed. 💦

Remember when I told you all about Kieran? He was the friend I helped get to UPW last month in London. 🤔 If you didn’t read about it, you can read it HERE! 👍

What I’m referring to happened one evening after I finished talking with Kieran, after we had parted ways for the night, when my emotions started getting to me. 😢

It must have been a late evening, because as I walked into the Crew Break Room it was completely empty apart from 2 other Crew members: Jamie and Aaron. 👣

I didn’t plan on telling either of them what was going on. A part of me just simply wanted to leave the venue and get some shut eye. On Crew we have some long days! 😂 But I would be lying if I didn’t say I also felt the need to share my feelings with another.

As a Floor Captain that event, I wanted to set the leadership example. But even the best of leaders should also not be afraid to reveal their vulnerabilities at times. 🌟

I can only remember fragments of our group conversation, but I ended up sharing what had happened. I told them about Kieran, how grateful he was for my gesture, and how touched I felt by his many thanks. ❤️ I held back additional tears as Jamie and Aaron simply listened. 👥

What was initially a single moment of gratitude turned into me recounting many more: grateful for the opportunity to be in London again, grateful to impact thousands of people’s lives again, grateful to see the impact of my actions first-hand, etc. ❤️

And then came the final exclamation mark in our conversation when I told them the thought that’s been crossing my mind the past year…😲

It’s one I’ve been very hesitant to share with people, let alone on social media, because I was afraid it would be taken the wrong way. But I promise what I’m about to share with you is by no means meant to be “depressing” or “morbid”. 🙂

It’s a thought that’s crossed my mind , whether it was when I was falling sleep or when I took a moment to deeply reflect on my life. It’s the thought that gets me crying faster than any others. 🙌

It’s the thought of Death. But not in the way you might be thinking. Let me quickly assure everyone my mental health is fine; it has nothing to do with that. 😊 Allow me to explain…✍

I told them this thought I’ve had, this unconditional acceptance that I’ve lived a full life. I told them that if I were to die that night, in a decade, or even in a full lifetime, I can always be rest assured to take my last breath at peace. ❤️

I can always be grateful enough to say: “I’ve lived a full life, one I deemed worth living, and should I have the pleasure of experiencing another tomorrow I’ll keep living fully.” 🙏

Some of you might be like: “Donald! You’re only 27! You’ve got plenty of time!” 🗣

But let me ask you: what if tomorrow wasn’t 100% guaranteed? What if we lived each day of our lives with a reminder that tomorrow is never promised? Would you be living the same way you are today? I don’t mean to ask this like some cliché motivational quote. I mean if you REALLY thought about that DEEPLY, how different would you be living your life? 🤔

The philosopher Seneca said: “Life is long, if you know how to use it.” A person could live a hundred years and feel like they hadn’t lived a full life. But another person could live a mere 10 years yet feel like they lived a full life. How so? 🤔

Because it’s not about the number of years you’re alive, but about the years you’ve actually lived. It’s about quality over quantity. 👍

So some may see the idea of Death as “depressing” and “morbid”, but I see Death as the most powerful motivator you have at your disposal in this game called Life. This very acknowledgement of Death is what’s helped pull me forward the past few years:

👊 To do things I wouldn’t normally do

👊 To travel to places I wouldn’t typically think of going

👊 To take risks my fears would normally dissuade me from doing

Perhaps there is much more to the term “You Only Live Once” than we all have given it credit for! 😉

I took this photo while I was at the Glasgow Necropolis in Scotland last month. Walking among the tombstones, I was reminded again of all these ideas: You can surely see Death as a negative, something which creeps into all our lives at some point. 😨

But you can also see Death as the greatest tool you have while you’re alive: to transform your negatives into positives, to remind you of the things which truly matter, to push you in ways you could only describe as “a life worth living”. ❤️

🌟 WHEN YOU ACCEPT THE INEVITABILITY OF DEATH, YOU ALSO ACCEPT YOURSELF TO LIVE. 🌟

Here’s to hoping many more heartfelt moments to share with you all in the future! I love you, and thank you for reading! ❤️ #EudaimonicLife

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How a Roller Coaster is Your LIFE!

What if every problem was a gift? 🎁

Think about it:

🌟 Problems stem from the person who says there is a problem. 🌟

But what is a problem to one person may in fact not be to another:

📌 You feel too cold in a room, but another person says the room temperature is just fine.

📌 You’re driving and worried about being somewhere late, but your friend assures you will be there plenty early.

📌 A person is blasting music you hate, but the other person says you just need to just loosen up.

Ask yourself:

👍 What does this problem say about me? How am I feeling? What is the story I’m telling myself that is making this problem?

👍 What are the potential solutions to this problem? How would solving this problem fast make me feel?

👍 Is this problem really worth lingering over? Is it really worth sacrificing my internal happiness for this problem?

We ALL deal with problems. They’re not exclusive to a select few. 👥

Most problems are not even that important! 👍

We’ll create problems that aren’t there. We’ll magnify problems and make them bigger than they need to be. We’ll make them seem more life-or-death in our minds than they actually are

🌟 Focus far less on the problem and far more on the solutions. 🌟

I’m not saying having a problem is “bad”. I’m saying let’s change our relationship with problems. Problems will always happen, but it’s how we work work with them, these hindrances, that will make all the difference. 😊 #TranscendLabels

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Why a Life of MEANING and PURPOSE is Worth Living!

“Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.” – Viktor Frankl 🗣
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A life filled with purpose and meaning is what drives a person forward. Without either of these, why does a person desire to live? Why does a person then wake up every single morning: to live…or to maintain? 🤷‍♂️
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I believe these are very important questions we need to ask in a world where mental health continues to be a grave concern. 👍
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⚠️ According to the World Health Organization, depression is now the leading cause of mental illness with an estimate 300 MILLION people affected. ⚠️
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A few years ago I would’ve also been a part of that list. But I’m not anymore. 😲
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“So what changed, Donald?” 💬
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I’ll tell you it definitely wasn’t a quick-fix. As much as I want to tell you that, I’d be lying. We all want a quick-fix, the path of least resistance, the least amount of work for the biggest reward. But it’s really not the case.
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🌟 Quick fixes are not how sustainable changes in our lives work. 🌟
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Here are key factors which helped me in changing my life:
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📍 I started doing things I was deeply passionate about, even if it wasn’t “realistic”.
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📍 I started choosing to see every problem I had as a “gift” I could learn from.
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📍 I started challenging my bad habits. I quit drinking soda. I started eating more vegetables and whole foods. I started exercising more. In turn I eventually lost over 80 pounds.
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📍 I studied philosophy and saw there’s MANY ways to look at our lives and how we can live them.
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📍 I started meditating daily and becoming aware how my thoughts were greatly controlling my life.
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📍 I made a habit to always be grateful for something in my life, no matter how little.
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It wasn’t a magic pill that “treated” my depression; it was making lifestyle changes that were meaningful and purposeful. ❤️
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It wasn’t seeing depression as a biological defect that helped me alleviate its symptoms; it was seeing my emotions as messengers telling me something had to change in my life. 📬
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The status quo isn’t working; otherwise we wouldn’t have so many people feeling this way. This calls for additional solutions to solve our mental health crisis.
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🌟 I’m not saying to get rid of the current menu, but rather we expand on the available options people can become aware of and choose from. 🌟
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I’m very grateful I’ve had the opportunity to step outside the norm and go in a different direction the past year. I feel so much happier than I ever use to. 😊
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It’s not to say everything is perfect, but that life is much more fulfilling these days. And that’s a life worth living! 👌
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I will also never forget to help others do the same! It gives my life even more meaning! Eudaimonia! ❤️#TranscendLabels

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