How Activism is a Blessing (and a CURSE)!

🚨 PRO vs. ANTI 🚨
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👍 You CAN be a Democrat and not be Anti-Republican.
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👍 You CAN be a Capitalist and not be Anti-Communist.
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👍 You CAN be a Vegetarian and not be Anti-Carnivore.
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👍 You CAN be a Businessperson and not be Anti-Government.
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👍 You CAN be an Atheist and not be Anti-Religion.
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👍 You CAN be a Feminist and not be Anti-Men.
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👍 You CAN support Black Lives Matter and not be Anti-Police.
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👍 You CAN support Economic Growth and not be Anti-Environment.
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👍 You CAN support MeToo and not be Anti-Skeptical.
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👍 You CAN support Justice and not be Anti-Civil.
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👍 You CAN support Local Businesses and not be Anti-Corporations.
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👍 You CAN support Spirituality and not be Anti-Science.
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👍 You CAN support Ending Racism and not be Anti-White.
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👍 You CAN support Eating Healthy and not be Anti-Junk Food.
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It doesn’t have to be one OR the other. 🙂
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I support activism. AND I also caution activism that’s without any critical thinking and self-criticism. 💯
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We CAN build a bridge without having to tear down someone else’s. 🌉
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Support the causes you believe in. Be a part of the change you wish to see. Set the example for others to follow. 🙌
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Just be sure to keep an eye out when your focus has shifted from being more Pro to more Anti. 👀
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Because being Pro ❤️ versus being Anti 🤬 produce very different results.
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🤔 Which are YOU standing for? 🤔

How We CREATE Our Suffering!

“What upsets people are not THINGS themselves but their JUDGMENTS about the things.”
~ Epictetus 💬
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We are not upset because an event happens. We are upset because we believe an event “shouldn’t” have happened. 😣
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We’re arguing with the “shoulds” in our minds. 🤯
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We’re arguing with the feelings of anger and frustration we’re experiencing. 🤬
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We’re arguing with a past which no longer exists. ⌛
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But here’s the problem:
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“When you argue with reality, you always lose.” 😓
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So, I want to introduce you to another solution: ACCEPTANCE. ❤️
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🙌 Accept whatever it is you’re experiencing. 🙌
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Accept the events which happened. Accept the emotions you’re feeling. Accept the judgments you’re making. Accept whatever is.
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Accept. And allow yourself to let them go. 🙌
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Release. 🙌
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Surrender. 🙌
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Because it’s only when we continue holding onto this baggage do we cause ourselves needless suffering. 😨
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“HOW DARE YOU, DONALD! I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED!” 🤬
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I understand what you mean. ❤️
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There’s this feeling of nobility, this sense of self-righteousness to hold onto these negative emotions. I get it. 💯
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These emotions provide us feelings of power over things we feel powerless to. They provide us feelings of control over things which we feel are out of our control. ✊
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As I heard 1 person describe their feelings of anger: “It’s like jet fuel!” 🤬
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For me to tell you to accept your emotions, for me to tell you to diffuse the mechanisms which provide your feelings of power and control, is the last thing you’d want to do right?! 😅
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I understand. ❤️
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But I can assure you: there are better, constructive ways to handle our problems. 💯
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Let me clarify:
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📍 Acceptance does not mean we say whether something is “right” or “wrong”.
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📍 Acceptance does not mean we enable the things and situations we’re upset about.
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📍 Accepting is about freeing ourselves from needless suffering.
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📍 Acceptance is about clearing the weeds from our own minds.
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📍 Acceptance is about helping us see things as they are, not how we think they “should” be.
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And acceptance not only affects you! 😲
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It affects how you will interact with others, how civil you will be in your communication. 🗣️
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It affects what solutions you will come up with to address your problems. 🤔
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It affects the long-term impact you’ll have on the situation rather than just the short-term. 🗓️
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“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”
~ Eckhart Tolle 💬
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Why You NEED Confidence!

Think of the person who is so confident they know how to do something…but then fails miserably when they actually do it! 😅
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But think of the person who is so skilled on how to actually do something…yet consistently doubts their ability to even do it. 😨
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So what happens? The Confident person takes the Competent person’s place in the Hierarchy of Authority! 😲
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🌟 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴.🌟
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Confidence is the belief in yourself to do something. Competence is your actual ability to do something. ↔️
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You can believe you know how to drive a car, yet simultaneously be a horrible driver! 🚗
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You can believe you know how to be a leader, yet simultaneously isolate the people around you! 😲
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You can believe you know more than experts in their fields, yet simultaneously spread misinformation because of your ignorance. 🤦‍♂️
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It’s important we remember this distinction, because it’s easy for all of us to be attracted to Confident leaders. 🧲
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But that doesn’t automatically make them Competent as well. 💯
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How often does this happen? How often do we follow leaders based on their Confidence and how they make us feel, rather than based upon their Competence or their personal character? 🤔
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Philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote in an essay in 1933 in response to the Rise of Nazi Germany: “𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙣 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙥𝙞𝙙 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙘𝙠𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙤𝙪𝙗𝙩.” ✍️
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This quote has always reminded me to stay humble, to remember I’m not flawless, and that I can always keep learning more. 💯
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I can in fact be wrong about many things, and with a continual understanding of the world around me I should remain open to new perspectives. 🙌
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Because I might learn something new. 💡
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This quote is not only a reminder but also a cautionary one, if we are going to remember what happened in the following decade with Hitler and World War 2. 🩸
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So, this is my message to the Competent individuals out there…⬇️
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There are people far less qualified getting the jobs you want because of their Confidence! 👍
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There are people far less skillful in leadership positions you’d be amazing at because of their Confidence! 👍
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There are people far less intelligent influencing people more than you because of their Confidence! 👍
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It’s not because they’re more talented. It’s not because they’re more hard-working. It’s also not because they’re more intelligent; this realization was a HUGE one for me! 🤯
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It’s because they’re Confident. And people follow Confident people, even when it does head towards destruction. 💥
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I’m NOT saying every Confident person is unintelligent or isn’t hard working. I know plenty who are, and I wholeheartedly applaud them! 💯
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But what I am saying is these other individuals exist, and I want to let my more Competent friends know that there’s plenty of more room available on the Hierarchy. 🗣️
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Take the time to develop your Confidence skills because your gifts are needed. 🏋️
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Because if you decide to step up, we will not only have a society of Confident leaders but ones who are BOTH Confident AND Competent! 😄
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That’s a real powerful combination! 👏
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You got this! ❤️

Why It’s 100% OKAY!

I wish I had heard these words back when I suffered with depression. 😞

Yes, for nearly a decade I suffered with depression. It’s why I’m so passionate about mental health today! 👊

It’s because I’ve been there that I want to show others there’s ways out of it.

And the 1st thing I’d say to someone who is depressed is these words…

❤️ IT’S OKAY…TO NOT BE OKAY. ❤️

“But Donald, don’t enable people to keep being depressed! We want to get them OUT of depression, not stay in it! Don’t be stupid!” 🤪

Ah, but I agree with you here! I don’t want people to be in negative emotional states any longer than they need to be! We’re on the same page here! 😊

Where we differ is in the solution! ↔️

I won’t allow them to shame their emotions. If there’s anything I’ve learned in overcoming depression, it wasn’t by trying to push and force my emotions out of my mind. In fact, I see this method causing much more harm than good. 😱

Hear me out! As a regular meditator, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned with this practice is that our emotions, like our thoughts, are like the weather; they are temporary. 💨

But the more we resist them when they do appear (our thoughts, our emotions) and we demonize them, the longer they tend to remain. 😲

If I told you right now NOT think of a pink elephant, what just came into your mind? And if I kept telling you to stop thinking about the pink elephant, what thought remains? 🐘

🌟 Your constant focus on what you don’t want is why it’s still here. It has the OPPOSITE effect from what you intend. 🌟

📌 Accept WHATEVER you’re feeling. Place no positive or negative label on your present emotions.

📌 See if there’s any message your emotions are trying to give you. For depression: the message may be you’re focusing too much on negative thoughts. For anxiety: the message may be you’re doing too many things at once.

📌 Once your emotions have no further use, start taking actions in behavior to shift your feelings. It’s different from demonizing and suppressing your feelings. Your behavior will influence the change. Remember: FEELINGS FOLLOW BEHAVIOR!

Hope this helps! ❤️