How Activism is a Blessing (and a CURSE)!

🚨 PRO vs. ANTI 🚨
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👍 You CAN be a Democrat and not be Anti-Republican.
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👍 You CAN be a Capitalist and not be Anti-Communist.
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👍 You CAN be a Vegetarian and not be Anti-Carnivore.
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👍 You CAN be a Businessperson and not be Anti-Government.
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👍 You CAN be an Atheist and not be Anti-Religion.
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👍 You CAN be a Feminist and not be Anti-Men.
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👍 You CAN support Black Lives Matter and not be Anti-Police.
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👍 You CAN support Economic Growth and not be Anti-Environment.
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👍 You CAN support MeToo and not be Anti-Skeptical.
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👍 You CAN support Justice and not be Anti-Civil.
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👍 You CAN support Local Businesses and not be Anti-Corporations.
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👍 You CAN support Spirituality and not be Anti-Science.
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👍 You CAN support Ending Racism and not be Anti-White.
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👍 You CAN support Eating Healthy and not be Anti-Junk Food.
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It doesn’t have to be one OR the other. 🙂
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I support activism. AND I also caution activism that’s without any critical thinking and self-criticism. 💯
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We CAN build a bridge without having to tear down someone else’s. 🌉
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Support the causes you believe in. Be a part of the change you wish to see. Set the example for others to follow. 🙌
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Just be sure to keep an eye out when your focus has shifted from being more Pro to more Anti. 👀
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Because being Pro ❤️ versus being Anti 🤬 produce very different results.
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🤔 Which are YOU standing for? 🤔

Why You NEED Confidence!

Think of the person who is so confident they know how to do something…but then fails miserably when they actually do it! 😅
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But think of the person who is so skilled on how to actually do something…yet consistently doubts their ability to even do it. 😨
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So what happens? The Confident person takes the Competent person’s place in the Hierarchy of Authority! 😲
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🌟 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗮𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴.🌟
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Confidence is the belief in yourself to do something. Competence is your actual ability to do something. ↔️
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You can believe you know how to drive a car, yet simultaneously be a horrible driver! 🚗
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You can believe you know how to be a leader, yet simultaneously isolate the people around you! 😲
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You can believe you know more than experts in their fields, yet simultaneously spread misinformation because of your ignorance. 🤦‍♂️
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It’s important we remember this distinction, because it’s easy for all of us to be attracted to Confident leaders. 🧲
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But that doesn’t automatically make them Competent as well. 💯
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How often does this happen? How often do we follow leaders based on their Confidence and how they make us feel, rather than based upon their Competence or their personal character? 🤔
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Philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote in an essay in 1933 in response to the Rise of Nazi Germany: “𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙩𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙢𝙤𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙣 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙡𝙙 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙥𝙞𝙙 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙘𝙠𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙡𝙞𝙜𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙛 𝙙𝙤𝙪𝙗𝙩.” ✍️
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This quote has always reminded me to stay humble, to remember I’m not flawless, and that I can always keep learning more. 💯
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I can in fact be wrong about many things, and with a continual understanding of the world around me I should remain open to new perspectives. 🙌
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Because I might learn something new. 💡
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This quote is not only a reminder but also a cautionary one, if we are going to remember what happened in the following decade with Hitler and World War 2. 🩸
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So, this is my message to the Competent individuals out there…⬇️
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There are people far less qualified getting the jobs you want because of their Confidence! 👍
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There are people far less skillful in leadership positions you’d be amazing at because of their Confidence! 👍
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There are people far less intelligent influencing people more than you because of their Confidence! 👍
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It’s not because they’re more talented. It’s not because they’re more hard-working. It’s also not because they’re more intelligent; this realization was a HUGE one for me! 🤯
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It’s because they’re Confident. And people follow Confident people, even when it does head towards destruction. 💥
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I’m NOT saying every Confident person is unintelligent or isn’t hard working. I know plenty who are, and I wholeheartedly applaud them! 💯
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But what I am saying is these other individuals exist, and I want to let my more Competent friends know that there’s plenty of more room available on the Hierarchy. 🗣️
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Take the time to develop your Confidence skills because your gifts are needed. 🏋️
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Because if you decide to step up, we will not only have a society of Confident leaders but ones who are BOTH Confident AND Competent! 😄
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That’s a real powerful combination! 👏
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You got this! ❤️

Why It’s 100% OKAY!

I wish I had heard these words back when I suffered with depression. 😞

Yes, for nearly a decade I suffered with depression. It’s why I’m so passionate about mental health today! 👊

It’s because I’ve been there that I want to show others there’s ways out of it.

And the 1st thing I’d say to someone who is depressed is these words…

❤️ IT’S OKAY…TO NOT BE OKAY. ❤️

“But Donald, don’t enable people to keep being depressed! We want to get them OUT of depression, not stay in it! Don’t be stupid!” 🤪

Ah, but I agree with you here! I don’t want people to be in negative emotional states any longer than they need to be! We’re on the same page here! 😊

Where we differ is in the solution! ↔️

I won’t allow them to shame their emotions. If there’s anything I’ve learned in overcoming depression, it wasn’t by trying to push and force my emotions out of my mind. In fact, I see this method causing much more harm than good. 😱

Hear me out! As a regular meditator, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned with this practice is that our emotions, like our thoughts, are like the weather; they are temporary. 💨

But the more we resist them when they do appear (our thoughts, our emotions) and we demonize them, the longer they tend to remain. 😲

If I told you right now NOT think of a pink elephant, what just came into your mind? And if I kept telling you to stop thinking about the pink elephant, what thought remains? 🐘

🌟 Your constant focus on what you don’t want is why it’s still here. It has the OPPOSITE effect from what you intend. 🌟

📌 Accept WHATEVER you’re feeling. Place no positive or negative label on your present emotions.

📌 See if there’s any message your emotions are trying to give you. For depression: the message may be you’re focusing too much on negative thoughts. For anxiety: the message may be you’re doing too many things at once.

📌 Once your emotions have no further use, start taking actions in behavior to shift your feelings. It’s different from demonizing and suppressing your feelings. Your behavior will influence the change. Remember: FEELINGS FOLLOW BEHAVIOR!

Hope this helps! ❤️

Why Your Emotions MATTER!

🛑 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥 𝗘𝗠𝗢𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡𝗦 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗡𝗢𝗧 𝗦𝗣𝗔𝗠!!! 🛑

Do you ever feel lonely? ☹️

We all have at points in our lives. It’s important to add there’s a difference between “feeling lonely” and “being alone”. A person can be with a group of people and feel lonely. A person can be completely alone and feel fine. 👍

So why do topics like mental health continue to be an issue in our society? I’ll give you 1 BIG reason:

⚠️ 𝗠𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗷𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗱𝘂𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝘂𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀. ⚠️

We’ve been taught to believe that emotions are a sign of weakness, that they aren’t useful in our modern world. 😔

🗣 “𝙅𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙗𝙚 𝙝𝙖𝙥𝙥𝙮!” 🗣

🗣 “𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙣𝙤 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙨𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙛𝙚𝙚𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙬𝙖𝙮!” 🗣

🗣 “𝙔𝙤𝙪’𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙧𝙧𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡!” 🗣

In people’s good intentions, they unfortunately made the problem worse. In their good intentions, they failed to meet the other person inside their emotional home. 🏠

Why? Because many of them aren’t able or are willing to go in there themselves. 😲

🌟 𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲, 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗧𝗛𝗘𝗬 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲. 🌟

Because we’ve been taught so long not to accept our emotions is the reason why it’s a larger problem today. Psychologist Carl Jung said: “Whatever you resist persists and grows larger in size.” 💬

I see our current mental health crisis as the long-term response to embracing the idea of denying our emotions (which is in and of itself irrational as emotional beings). This bubble of “resistance” has grown so large that it’s finally burst. The pendulum is now swinging in the opposite direction. 🤬

But with noting the problem, what is the solution?

🌟 𝗪𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗽𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗴𝗶𝘇𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, 𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀. 🌟

What if we could see our emotions not as spam to delete but as mail giving us an important message about our lives? 📭

What if we could see our emotions not as biological defects but as essential character traits for our evolutionary survival? 💪

How different would our society be if we stopped treating our emotions as nuisances and more as essential tools for our personal growth? 🧠

I understand why some will disagree with me here:

😡 “𝑰𝒇 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒍𝒆𝒕 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒇𝒐𝒄𝒖𝒔 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒏𝒆𝒈𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒆𝒏𝒂𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎 𝒕𝒐 𝒇𝒆𝒆𝒍 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒆𝒅!”

😡 “𝑬𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒎𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒊𝒓𝒓𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒂𝒍! 𝑾𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒆𝒎𝒐𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒈𝒊𝒄 𝒂𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒐𝒍𝒖𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏!”

It’s funny because I very much agree with these statements, but to an extent. I definitely don’t want to enable anyone to feel more depressed. That’s the last thing I’d want to have happen! I also am a huge advocate for logic, reason, and critical thinking. I believe they’re crucial skills for the epistemic crises we will face. 👌

So I won’t throw either of those criticisms away but to say we can EXTEND on them! 👍

❤️ 𝗜’𝗺 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘆, 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘂𝗹𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲. ❤️

🌟 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮 𝗱𝗶𝗳𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘃𝘀. 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺. 🌟

Mental health is so easily swept under the rug because it can be an unpleasant topic to discuss. The very reason we “resist” talking about it is the reason why it will “persist” and be discussed! 👏

🌟 𝗪𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗱𝗼. 🌟

The fact that a lot of us (including myself at times) aren’t willing to discuss it says a lot about how we treat our emotions in our society. 😟

Again, it’s NOT about dwelling on our emotions! That’s the last thing I want people to presume with what I say here! 👍

❤️ 𝗜’𝗺 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘆, 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝘂𝗿𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝗱𝘂𝗹𝗴𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲. ❤️

I share this with you all today:

☯️ 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆 𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗼𝗸𝗮𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗲𝘅𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.

☯️ 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗼𝗸𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗼𝗸𝗮𝘆, 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁.

☯️ 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗲 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗲.

☯️ 𝗦𝗼 𝘄𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝘂𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗼𝗰𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗹𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.

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