Why Separation is EMPOWERING!

Take the example of a bow, an arrow, and a target. 🏹

You’ve practiced for months. You’ve spent countless hours shooting arrows. And today is The Day, the day you decide you’ve practiced long enough to hit the bullseye multiple consecutive times! 🎯

But somehow, you’re not at all nervous. You’re not even worried! You’ve practiced a lot, that’s for sure. But there’s one valuable lesson you’ve also learned in your life which rids you of needless worry…

🌟 Separate the things which are in your control from the things not in your control. 🌟

To be kind to another person is within your control. To know if the person will be kind in return is not in your control. ❤️

To tell the truth is in your control. To know if telling the truth will benefit you in your current situation is out of your control. 🗣️

To keep a promise is in your control. To know if someone else will keep their promise is out of your control. 🤝

To practice, to prepare, to aim, and shoot an arrow at a target is in your control. But to know if the arrow will hit the bullseye once it’s left your bow is not in your control. 🏹

The problem is we so often put focus on what’s not in our control. So much of the news we read, hear, and absorb today are about other people, other events, and things which are not at all in our control. 📺

So then we focus on the arrow even though it’s already left our bows. We focus on all the arrows of others even though they have nothing to do with our everyday lives. In doing so, we’re causing ourselves needless worry and anxiety! 😫

So what then? We must flip our focuses back to what we can control, not just for our own mental health but for the impact we make by doing so. We focus on being a good person. We focus on setting the example. We focus on taking action on things within our control. 💪

Because once you make a habit to start separating these two, placing all your energy into what’s in your control, you will save yourself a ton of time and stress! ❤️

How to Give When You “CAN’T”! (PERSONAL)

Written January 26, 2019


🌟 Give, even when you think you can’t.
What do you do when you get fearful?
For many of us, we tend to fall back into our old habits, old patterns, old forms of security, even if they no longer serve us in the present moment.
For a temporary state of emotion, we regress. 🔙
For a lot of 2018, I admit there wasn’t a single day I didn’t have a financial stress cross my mind. I don’t say it for pity; I say it to be honest. 🗣️
It’s hard for me to admit it, but I also hold my brand to be more authentic online than the ones who act like someone they’re not. 👍
I’m not really broke or poor (although I am in the lower digits). But it’s the lack of an uncertain future or what I fully want to create with my life where fear has gotten access to my emotional home to focus on the wrong things. 😨
There are definitely even moments of fear this year as I’ve made a goal to travel every single month to serve somewhere and learn in some way. 🌎
I’m so grateful I have the opportunity to help Crew another Tony Robbins event, to learn and to grow once again. While I know there is naivety to creating this goal, I also embrace the faith in continuing to give, even when I don’t think I can, that somehow some way it will pay off in a way I cannot foresee. I believe in Karma. 💫
How that will be I don’t know. But I simply believe, and so be it. Again, perhaps it’s simply naivety and it was for nothing. Perhaps something will indeed happen with my current focuses. 🤷‍♂️
Whatever happens…I know I let myself live. I let myself feel alive. I did what I wanted to do fully. I made my life worth living. Remembering that overtakes any temporary fear. Remembering that makes me cry. How could one live a life more fully than that? To use the Greek word: Eudaimonia! ❤️
Regardless of how many times I’ve heard Tony’s content and quotes, I want to extend a quote that continues to resonate with me on my ongoing journey of personal growth: “Repetition is the mother of skill.” 💬
The learning never stops, just as your potential for growth never stops. Thus, I continue on into the Uncertainty! I embrace every moment! 💪#BusinessMastery



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“Gattaca” and Overcoming Adversity

One of my favorite films is called “Gattaca”. It is about a man, Vincent, who lives in a futuristic society heavily influenced by eugenics. At contraception, genes are selected by parents so their future children are born without genetic deficiencies. This process is seen as a means to “perfect” human beings. Vincent is part of the minority who did not have this opportunity, he is considered an “in-valid”, and he is shunned from society. Continue reading ““Gattaca” and Overcoming Adversity”