Why Change Is POSSIBLE! (PERSONAL)

😱 4 YEARS!!! 😱

This afternoon I took a look at my calendar 📆 and my eyes started to water.😭 I couldn’t believe it! 2 weeks from now it will have been 4 years. 🥳

It’s hard for me to still fathom it’s really been that long! 🤯

The song “Seasons of Love” asks: ‘How do you measure a year?’ 🎶 But my mind is still trying to wrap around how to measure the past 4! 😅

🗣️ “What are you talking about Donald?!” 🗣️

I should probably explain! 2 weeks from now it will have been exactly 4 years…🔎

…since I was under 25. 😱 I was so young then, but 4 years later I’m now just a grumpy old man! 😭

🤣 JUST KIDDING!!! 🤣

Seriously though, 4 years ago I was That Guy on the left in the photo.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who binged on junk food every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who drank 3 to 4 cans of soda every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who refused even substituting his drinks for Diet Soda.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who was so picky about eating vegetables he’d literally gag trying to swallow them because of his fear of textures.

And where did this inability to change bring That Guy? 🤔

To weigh over 234 pounds. ⚖️ To have junk food and soda as his addictions and closest companions. To feel tired and sleepy more often than not. 😴 To never like being in photos because of the way he looked. To always feel the need to lift his chin up so his double chin didn’t show. 😔

That Guy really didn’t like how he looked or how unhealthy he ate. But regardless, him holding onto his comfort zone outweighed any inspiration to try and be thinner or be happier. 🤷‍♂️

If any of you can read this and relate, you’re not alone! ❤️

I don’t necessarily mean with weight but with our general unwillingness to change things in our lives a small part of us really wants to change. While there’s that part of us that really wants to change, we nevertheless don’t change. 😕

🚬 You know quitting smoking would benefit your lung health. But you don’t.

🍔 You know eating less junk food and more vegetables would help you lose weight. But you don’t.

🚴 You know exercising would help keep your muscles strong. But you don’t.

But why? Why don’t we change? If it’s really as simple as doing or not doing something, then why don’t we do it?! 😵

Because we as humans…are complicated! 😅

For one thing, we are creatures of habit. It’s easier for us to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. 👍 You’ve probably heard the term: “Old habits die hard.” It’s very true, and I’ve experienced it before too! 😝

Building a new habit requires a lot of focus. 👀 It requires consistent effort. Until it becomes a full on habit in your daily life, it’s going to continue feeling difficult. 😓

But don’t be too hard on yourself either! Think of it like this: say you’ve smoked for a decade and then decide to quit. 🚭 You will then be faced with a smoking habit decades old all while you’re building the new habit to not smoke. Of course this won’t be easy! It’s an uphill battle with your Habitual Brain! 😊

As much as I’d love to tell you new habits are built overnight, they aren’t. 👎It’s why most people don’t succeed doing it. If building a new habit was so easy to build, everybody would do it! 👍

But again, you’re not alone! ❤️ That Guy in the photo wasn’t willing to either! Sure, he wanted to be thinner and healthier, but why would he substitute that for all the short-term pleasures he experienced from junk food and soda? 🤷‍♂️

He even told himself: “I don’t have to worry about my health until the doctor says I have to.” 😱

So what happened 4 years ago that set That Guy down a path into who is now, Me present day? 🤔

🌟 His desire to change had to become stronger than his desire not to change. 🌟

⚠️ The problem was That Guy was always focused on his short-term pleasure; he was not focused on the long-term pain.

⚠️ He was focused on the pleasures of junk food and soda; he was not focused on the long-term medical issues he’d have because of them.

⚠️ He was focused on himself; he was not focused on the people who were trying to help him and whose advice he kept ignoring.

So when That Guy saw the path he was heading down for years to come, it planted a Seed of Horror in his mind that he had to change NOW! 🛑

Like Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol”, it was his vision of a horrific future which pushed That Guy to say: “Enough is enough!” ❌…

So here I am now, after 80 pounds lost, a No Soda policy, and many vegetables consumed! 🥦 That Guy has evolved into Me on the right. I like to call him Ace. Ace has since let That Guy retire, because now Ace likes running the show! 😎

So there’s something you really need to know! ✋

👍 I’m not going to pretend like this physical transformation happened overnight. It didn’t.

👍 I’m not going to put on an act like it was the easiest thing to do in the world. It wasn’t.

👍 I’m not going to try and make you believe I never zig-zagged during my transformation. I did…many times!

But what I will tell you though is that it is indeed possible for you to change when you set your mind to it. ❤️

One of my favorite speakers Les Brown talks about the Power of Possibility: “Sometimes we can’t say ‘I can do that’. But what we can say is that ‘it’s possible’.” 🗣️

🌟 If you can allow yourself to visualize the possibility of a future greater than the one you’re living now, you’ve already provided an opening for yourself to step forward. 🌟

So with this post I want to plant the seed in your mind that it is possible for you too, in whatever it is you’re looking to change! 😄

I’m not saying it will be easy. I’m not saying it will always be fun. But when you have doubts come up, remind yourself why you started in the first place. 🤔

👤 Do something today your future self will thank you for. 👤

Lastly, I have to give credit to the most powerful visual exercise I ever experienced which sealed the deal for me to change all those 4 years ago. 👍

It was attending Tony Robbins’s “Unleash the Power Within” event for the first time that I experienced what is known as the Dickens Process. 😲

I’d love to tell you more, but I’d rather you experienced the event for yourself without spoilers. I can tell you how a candy bar tastes, but it’s a whole other thing to actually taste it. 🍫

I’m not saying attending the event is your only tool, only that it’s a damn fine one in your Arsenal for Change if you do! It was for me! ❤️

COMMENT below if you’ve attended UPW before or are interested in attending! 😁

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Why Death REMINDS You! (PERSONAL)

🙌 I CAN BREATHE A SIGH OF PEACE! 🙌

My emotions were so close to overwhelming me as it happened! But I had to express them! 😊

Perhaps I get “too emotional” these days! But then again, I remember the days when I was younger when I use to downplay my emotions. It wasn’t pleasant to say the least. But now, all I can think about is how great it feels to simply express myself. Now even the smallest gestures of kindness I will allow myself to get all teary-eyed. 💦

Remember when I told you all about Kieran? He was the friend I helped get to UPW last month in London. 🤔 If you didn’t read about it, you can read it HERE! 👍

What I’m referring to happened one evening after I finished talking with Kieran, after we had parted ways for the night, when my emotions started getting to me. 😢

It must have been a late evening, because as I walked into the Crew Break Room it was completely empty apart from 2 other Crew members: Jamie and Aaron. 👣

I didn’t plan on telling either of them what was going on. A part of me just simply wanted to leave the venue and get some shut eye. On Crew we have some long days! 😂 But I would be lying if I didn’t say I also felt the need to share my feelings with another.

As a Floor Captain that event, I wanted to set the leadership example. But even the best of leaders should also not be afraid to reveal their vulnerabilities at times. 🌟

I can only remember fragments of our group conversation, but I ended up sharing what had happened. I told them about Kieran, how grateful he was for my gesture, and how touched I felt by his many thanks. ❤️ I held back additional tears as Jamie and Aaron simply listened. 👥

What was initially a single moment of gratitude turned into me recounting many more: grateful for the opportunity to be in London again, grateful to impact thousands of people’s lives again, grateful to see the impact of my actions first-hand, etc. ❤️

And then came the final exclamation mark in our conversation when I told them the thought that’s been crossing my mind the past year…😲

It’s one I’ve been very hesitant to share with people, let alone on social media, because I was afraid it would be taken the wrong way. But I promise what I’m about to share with you is by no means meant to be “depressing” or “morbid”. 🙂

It’s a thought that’s crossed my mind , whether it was when I was falling sleep or when I took a moment to deeply reflect on my life. It’s the thought that gets me crying faster than any others. 🙌

It’s the thought of Death. But not in the way you might be thinking. Let me quickly assure everyone my mental health is fine; it has nothing to do with that. 😊 Allow me to explain…✍

I told them this thought I’ve had, this unconditional acceptance that I’ve lived a full life. I told them that if I were to die that night, in a decade, or even in a full lifetime, I can always be rest assured to take my last breath at peace. ❤️

I can always be grateful enough to say: “I’ve lived a full life, one I deemed worth living, and should I have the pleasure of experiencing another tomorrow I’ll keep living fully.” 🙏

Some of you might be like: “Donald! You’re only 27! You’ve got plenty of time!” 🗣

But let me ask you: what if tomorrow wasn’t 100% guaranteed? What if we lived each day of our lives with a reminder that tomorrow is never promised? Would you be living the same way you are today? I don’t mean to ask this like some cliché motivational quote. I mean if you REALLY thought about that DEEPLY, how different would you be living your life? 🤔

The philosopher Seneca said: “Life is long, if you know how to use it.” A person could live a hundred years and feel like they hadn’t lived a full life. But another person could live a mere 10 years yet feel like they lived a full life. How so? 🤔

Because it’s not about the number of years you’re alive, but about the years you’ve actually lived. It’s about quality over quantity. 👍

So some may see the idea of Death as “depressing” and “morbid”, but I see Death as the most powerful motivator you have at your disposal in this game called Life. This very acknowledgement of Death is what’s helped pull me forward the past few years:

👊 To do things I wouldn’t normally do

👊 To travel to places I wouldn’t typically think of going

👊 To take risks my fears would normally dissuade me from doing

Perhaps there is much more to the term “You Only Live Once” than we all have given it credit for! 😉

I took this photo while I was at the Glasgow Necropolis in Scotland last month. Walking among the tombstones, I was reminded again of all these ideas: You can surely see Death as a negative, something which creeps into all our lives at some point. 😨

But you can also see Death as the greatest tool you have while you’re alive: to transform your negatives into positives, to remind you of the things which truly matter, to push you in ways you could only describe as “a life worth living”. ❤️

🌟 WHEN YOU ACCEPT THE INEVITABILITY OF DEATH, YOU ALSO ACCEPT YOURSELF TO LIVE. 🌟

Here’s to hoping many more heartfelt moments to share with you all in the future! I love you, and thank you for reading! ❤️ #EudaimonicLife

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How to Give When You “CAN’T”! (PERSONAL)

Written January 26, 2019

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🌟 Give, even when you think you can’t.
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What do you do when you get fearful?
For many of us, we tend to fall back into our old habits, old patterns, old forms of security, even if they no longer serve us in the present moment.
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For a temporary state of emotion, we regress. 🔙
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For a lot of 2018, I admit there wasn’t a single day I didn’t have a financial stress cross my mind. I don’t say it for pity; I say it to be honest. 🗣️
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It’s hard for me to admit it, but I also hold my brand to be more authentic online than the ones who act like someone they’re not. 👍
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I’m not really broke or poor (although I am in the lower digits). But it’s the lack of an uncertain future or what I fully want to create with my life where fear has gotten access to my emotional home to focus on the wrong things. 😨
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There are definitely even moments of fear this year as I’ve made a goal to travel every single month to serve somewhere and learn in some way. 🌎
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I’m so grateful I have the opportunity to help Crew another Tony Robbins event, to learn and to grow once again. While I know there is naivety to creating this goal, I also embrace the faith in continuing to give, even when I don’t think I can, that somehow some way it will pay off in a way I cannot foresee. I believe in Karma. 💫
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How that will be I don’t know. But I simply believe, and so be it. Again, perhaps it’s simply naivety and it was for nothing. Perhaps something will indeed happen with my current focuses. 🤷‍♂️
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Whatever happens…I know I let myself live. I let myself feel alive. I did what I wanted to do fully. I made my life worth living. Remembering that overtakes any temporary fear. Remembering that makes me cry. How could one live a life more fully than that? To use the Greek word: Eudaimonia! ❤️
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Regardless of how many times I’ve heard Tony’s content and quotes, I want to extend a quote that continues to resonate with me on my ongoing journey of personal growth: “Repetition is the mother of skill.” 💬
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The learning never stops, just as your potential for growth never stops. Thus, I continue on into the Uncertainty! I embrace every moment! 💪#BusinessMastery

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Remember Your Worth

(PUBLISHED SEPTEMBER 22nd on FACEBOOK)
I look for my social media page to be a very positive and inspiring place to visit. The posts I make are always with intention; there’s so much negativity, gossip, and unnecessary drama online so I do the opposite. Like how Mr. Rogers looked to change what television offered I look to do with social media. That may sound like a bold statement, but I’m still doing it my own way. 🙌

But there is something I haven’t mentioned. And I’m ready to share it now…

Right after I graduated college 2 years ago I got a job in the corporate world. I was excited for a new step in my future career. Whatever that future career was I wasn’t really sure, but for the time being I had plenty of security: good pay, benefits, a great manager, and a very supportive environment. Some may say: “What more could you ask for?”…💬

Well I actually parted ways with the company a few months ago. I “took the leap” without a safety net. In my idealism I was going to pursue: entrepreneurship! There’s the quote: “Say ‘yes’ and figure it out later”, and I said I was never going back to my corporate job, not out of spite but holding myself accountable to my word. 👍

In doing so a lot of realizations have come to me since I left. To say I’ve had A LOT more to learn than what I expected is an understatement. Trust me when I say when you’re in uncharted territory, you’re going to learn more about yourself and what you’ll need to do to survive. Because you’re living on the edge, your mind is in resourceful mode. It doesn’t have much of a choice if you want to survive. While this may sound negative, I’m in fact grateful I’m learning it all now so I don’t have to later! 😁

Fear is a great motivator to push you forward, but fear can also overtake you if you let it. It was a few weeks ago I got really anxious with how my bank accounts were looking, and I let fear control my thinking to settle for a nearby job as a Dishwasher. It’s not a passion, it’s not what I’m gifted at doing, and it’s certainly not the best value I can provide to the world, but I said in this case: “Money is what matters”. 🤷‍♂️

For a week or so it felt fine. I learned what needed to be done, and I got it done. But a few days ago I had a moment that is still sticking out in my mind this evening.

I was washing dishes during a very hectic meal time, one dish after another pouring into my area ready to be washed. Wipe Off Dish, Spray, Wash, Dry, Repeat. By the time I had finished all the dishes I looked at the clock. 4 hours. 4 hours I had been washing dishes, and I didn’t understand how… 😐

The obvious answer would be “I was keeping busy”, but I mean it in a different way. Where had my mind been the past 4 hours?! I was on autopilot, and I wasn’t conscious of it being so until afterwards. Can you relate to that feeling?!

Throughout the rest of my shift my thoughts reflected on what the philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre referred to as “bad faith”: this awareness I had taken on the role of a Dishwasher. There was no identity of Donald washing dishes for 4 hours; for 4 hours I was the identity of a Dishwasher. I didn’t know where the time went by…and I didn’t know where “I” went by either! 🤔

I had experienced these existential feelings before. And it was because I had experienced them before that another realization hit me too: it’s no wonder why so many people don’t have a sense of purpose and meaning in their life. So many people are not given the time to explore or develop them. So we are instead settling for what everyone else tells us is the case: “This is what you’re suppose to do”, “You have to make money somehow”, “That’s just how the world works”. Where’s the personal empowerment in these beliefs? Are you your own identity, or are you a job description? 😟

It’s honestly pained me before when I’ve asked people what their passions are and their answer is they really don’t know or if they do know they don’t believe it’s something they can do more often. It probably pains me too because it reminds me of myself a few years ago. As I said earlier I had NO IDEA what I wanted to do with my life a few years ago too. But if we really only have one life to live on this earth, I don’t believe we “have to” spend it lifelessly. It’s what my mission is all about! 👊

This evening I put in my two weeks notice as a Dishwasher. I have a renewed sense of purpose, and I have a set plan on where I’m going again. You can call it: “irresponsible”, “reckless”, “dangerous”, I’ve heard them all. It’s not changing my mind on the world I want to positively impact for the long-term. 🌎

I’m going to continue building my business/mission because that’s where my true calling is at: helping people and showing others what they’re capable of achieving. Life Coaching, Wellness, Social Media, and there’s plenty more branches on my tree in the future! “Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies.”#TranscendLabels ❤️

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