How Emotions Are HABITS!

“I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE OFFENDED!” 🤬

There’s no question: we all get upset at times in our lives. Sad. Frustrated. Angry. Fearful. Perhaps even hateful.

In fact, these negative emotions are some of the easiest for human beings to experience. It’s hard-wired in us. 😲

It’s known as Negativity Bias, just 1 of many cognitive biases which affect our ability as human beings to see the world in an objective manner. 😱

Instead of seeing the world as it is, as a matter of fact, we usually see it through many lens filters of cognitive biases. 🌎

So it makes practical sense to me when I see people get passionate about experiencing negative emotions. Our brains which evolved to help us survive needed those emotions in times of defense and protection. 👍

But there are times when negative emotions become excessive, one where instead of being useful it becomes an emotional home for people. 😱

“Wait! You can’t be saying that people LIKE to feel upset! That’s ridiculous!” 🗣️

I’d love for you to try my jacket on for a moment. 🧥

Think of your emotions as similar to habits. We all have habits, some good and some bad. But wait, why do we keep bad habits? Why do we hold onto bad habits which don’t benefit us yet can cause us long-term harm? 🤔

🌟 Because it’s far more comfortable keeping bad habits than it is creating new ones to replace them. 🌟

Or when we attempt to build new habits, we stop trying and we fall back into old habits. Like the saying: “Old habits die hard!” 😅

So like habits, what if our emotions work in a similar way? What if we keep experiencing emotional states of mind not because they necessarily help us but because they’re the places we’re most comfortable, an emotional home we’re most familiar with, a place where we have certainty over our lives? 🏠

It sounds self-defeating, and like our bad habits it is too! 🙁

One has the “right” to be offended. One has the “right” to feel angry. One has the “right” to judge, criticize, condemn, and generalize people and things all they want. You will get a temporary feeling of power. 💪

But it never lasts. The question: does it serve a person to feel negative emotions? Or are they perhaps bad habits needing to be broken? 🤔

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Why the Givers SLEEP Better!

The Takers may receive the short-term gains, the short-term pleasures, and the short-term highs of superiority. 👊
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But the Givers, regardless of circumstances, are assured every day of their service to something more than themselves, the heartfelt act of giving simply for the sake of giving. That lasts a lifetime. ❤️

Why Problems Are GIFTS!

Things in life won’t always go the way we want them to. 👍

📍 Someone doesn’t follow through on their promise to you.

📍 Your car breaks down at the worst time.

📍 Just need at all in your day is going as planned.

Life can hit you when you least expect it. And it will hit you hard! 💥

🌟 When expectations about how our lives “should” be are not met, we suffer. 🌟

So we can complain. We can whine. We can cry. We can feel sorry for ourselves. We can do all of the above! 😤

But there’s another option! 😲

When these moments come, and they surely will come, how about we be prepared…🔎

🧠 Remind ourselves these moment are only temporary.

🧠 Remind ourselves what we’re feeling is only temporary.

🧠 Let ourselves take a few deep breaths to re-center your focuses.

🧠 To ask ourselves: “What is the gift I can take from this situation?”

“Wait wait wait! Problems are NOT gifts! They are problems, painful, annoying, and useless!” 🗣️

But who’s to say problems can’t also be “gifts”? 😉

🌟 What if we could treat every problem we experienced in our lives as a gift, another opportunity for us to grow as individuals? 🌟

It’s easy to get caught up in “the heat of the moment”! I’ve done it myself too. 👍

But the ultimate triumph comes when even in the most heated of situations you allow yourself to stop, think, and reframe your perspective. 💪

Purposefully, you turn what your brain first said was a negative situation into a positive. 😁

🌟 You either take control of your emotions or your emotions take control of you. #TranscendLabels

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Why Your Emotions MATTER!

Do you ever feel lonely? ☹️
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We all have at points in our lives. It’s important to add there’s also a difference between “feeling lonely” and “being alone”. A person can be with a group of people and feel lonely. A person can be completely alone and feel content. 👍
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So why do topics like mental health continue to be an issue in our society? I’ll give you one BIG reason:
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⚠️ Many people are rejecting their emotions, especially due to the influence of others and their environment. ⚠️
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We’ve been taught to believe that emotions are a sign of weakness, that they are not useful in our modern world. 😔
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🗣 “Just be happy!” 🗣
🗣 “You have no reason to feel this way!” 🗣
🗣 “You’re being irrational!” 🗣
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In people’s good intentions, they unfortunately have made the problem worse. In their good intentions, they fail to meet the other person in their emotional home. 🏠
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Why? Because they aren’t able or willing to go there themselves. 😲
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🌟 If you want to help someone, you have to meet them where THEY are, not where YOU want them to be. 🌟
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Because we’ve been taught so long not to accept our emotions is the very reason why it’s become a bigger problem today. Psychologist Carl Jung said: “Whatever you resist persists and grows larger in size.” 💬
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I see our current mental health crisis as the long-term response for embracing this idea (which is in and of itself irrational). The bubble of “resistance” has grown so “large in size” it’s finally burst. The pendulum is now swinging in the opposite direction. 🤬
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But with noting the problem, what is the solution?
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🌟 We need to stop pathologizing our emotions, especially the negative ones. 🌟
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What if we could see our emotions not as spam to delete but as mail giving us an important message for our lives? 📭
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What if we could see our emotions not as biological defects but as essential character traits for our evolutionary survival? 💪
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How different would our society be if we stopped treating our emotions as a nuisance and more as an essential tool for our personal growth? 🧠
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I understand why some disagree with me here:
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😡 “If you let people focus on their negative emotions, you enable them to feel more depressed!”

😡 “Emotions make you irrational! We need less emotions and more logic as the solution!”
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It’s funny because I very much agree with these statements, but to an extent. I definitely don’t want to enable anyone to feel more depressed. That’s the last thing I’d want to have happen with what I am communicating! I also am a huge advocate for logic, reason, and critical thinking. I believe they’re also crucial for the epistemic crises we will experience. 👌
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So I won’t throw either of those criticisms away but to say we can extend on them! 👍
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❤️ I’m talking about using our emotions in an intelligent way, with intention, with purpose, not as an indulgence. ❤️
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🌟 There’s a difference between allowing someone to feel their emotions for constructive solutions and allowing someone to feel their emotions simply to dwell in them. 🌟
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Mental health is so easily swept under the rug because it can be an unpleasant topic to discuss. The very reason we “resist” talking about it is the more reason why it will “persist” and be discussed! 👏
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🌟 While you may not personally feel these negative emotions on a daily basis, there are plenty of people that feel it constantly. 🌟
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The fact that a lot of us (including myself at times) aren’t willing to discuss it says a lot about how we treat our emotions in society. 😟
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Again, it’s NOT to dwell on our emotions! That’s the last thing I want people to presume with what I say here! 👍

❤️ I’m talking about using our emotions in an intelligent way, with intention, with purpose, not as an indulgence. ❤️
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I share this with you all today:
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☯️ So we as a society allow ourselves to be okay with the existence of negative emotions.
☯️ So we can let ourselves and each other know it’s okay to not be okay, not to enable but to accept the present moment.
☯️ So we continue bringing awareness to this issue.
☯️ So we continue being persistent in our focus on solutions.
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PLEASE SHARE so others hear this message! Let others knows they are not alone and there are solutions we can focus on! ❤️ #TranscendLabels

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