Why Problems Are GIFTS!

Things in life won’t always go the way we want them to. 👍

📍 Someone doesn’t follow through on their promise to you.

📍 Your car breaks down at the worst time.

📍 Just need at all in your day is going as planned.

Life can hit you when you least expect it. And it will hit you hard! 💥

🌟 When expectations about how our lives “should” be are not met, we suffer. 🌟

So we can complain. We can whine. We can cry. We can feel sorry for ourselves. We can do all of the above! 😤

But there’s another option! 😲

When these moments come, and they surely will come, how about we be prepared…🔎

🧠 Remind ourselves these moment are only temporary.

🧠 Remind ourselves what we’re feeling is only temporary.

🧠 Let ourselves take a few deep breaths to re-center your focuses.

🧠 To ask ourselves: “What is the gift I can take from this situation?”

“Wait wait wait! Problems are NOT gifts! They are problems, painful, annoying, and useless!” 🗣️

But who’s to say problems can’t also be “gifts”? 😉

🌟 What if we could treat every problem we experienced in our lives as a gift, another opportunity for us to grow as individuals? 🌟

It’s easy to get caught up in “the heat of the moment”! I’ve done it myself too. 👍

But the ultimate triumph comes when even in the most heated of situations you allow yourself to stop, think, and reframe your perspective. 💪

Purposefully, you turn what your brain first said was a negative situation into a positive. 😁

🌟 You either take control of your emotions or your emotions take control of you. #TranscendLabels

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Why Your Emotions MATTER!

Do you ever feel lonely? ☹️
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We all have at points in our lives. It’s important to add there’s also a difference between “feeling lonely” and “being alone”. A person can be with a group of people and feel lonely. A person can be completely alone and feel content. 👍
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So why do topics like mental health continue to be an issue in our society? I’ll give you one BIG reason:
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⚠️ Many people are rejecting their emotions, especially due to the influence of others and their environment. ⚠️
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We’ve been taught to believe that emotions are a sign of weakness, that they are not useful in our modern world. 😔
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🗣 “Just be happy!” 🗣
🗣 “You have no reason to feel this way!” 🗣
🗣 “You’re being irrational!” 🗣
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In people’s good intentions, they unfortunately have made the problem worse. In their good intentions, they fail to meet the other person in their emotional home. 🏠
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Why? Because they aren’t able or willing to go there themselves. 😲
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🌟 If you want to help someone, you have to meet them where THEY are, not where YOU want them to be. 🌟
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Because we’ve been taught so long not to accept our emotions is the very reason why it’s become a bigger problem today. Psychologist Carl Jung said: “Whatever you resist persists and grows larger in size.” 💬
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I see our current mental health crisis as the long-term response for embracing this idea (which is in and of itself irrational). The bubble of “resistance” has grown so “large in size” it’s finally burst. The pendulum is now swinging in the opposite direction. 🤬
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But with noting the problem, what is the solution?
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🌟 We need to stop pathologizing our emotions, especially the negative ones. 🌟
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What if we could see our emotions not as spam to delete but as mail giving us an important message for our lives? 📭
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What if we could see our emotions not as biological defects but as essential character traits for our evolutionary survival? 💪
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How different would our society be if we stopped treating our emotions as a nuisance and more as an essential tool for our personal growth? 🧠
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I understand why some disagree with me here:
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😡 “If you let people focus on their negative emotions, you enable them to feel more depressed!”

😡 “Emotions make you irrational! We need less emotions and more logic as the solution!”
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It’s funny because I very much agree with these statements, but to an extent. I definitely don’t want to enable anyone to feel more depressed. That’s the last thing I’d want to have happen with what I am communicating! I also am a huge advocate for logic, reason, and critical thinking. I believe they’re also crucial for the epistemic crises we will experience. 👌
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So I won’t throw either of those criticisms away but to say we can extend on them! 👍
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❤️ I’m talking about using our emotions in an intelligent way, with intention, with purpose, not as an indulgence. ❤️
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🌟 There’s a difference between allowing someone to feel their emotions for constructive solutions and allowing someone to feel their emotions simply to dwell in them. 🌟
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Mental health is so easily swept under the rug because it can be an unpleasant topic to discuss. The very reason we “resist” talking about it is the more reason why it will “persist” and be discussed! 👏
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🌟 While you may not personally feel these negative emotions on a daily basis, there are plenty of people that feel it constantly. 🌟
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The fact that a lot of us (including myself at times) aren’t willing to discuss it says a lot about how we treat our emotions in society. 😟
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Again, it’s NOT to dwell on our emotions! That’s the last thing I want people to presume with what I say here! 👍

❤️ I’m talking about using our emotions in an intelligent way, with intention, with purpose, not as an indulgence. ❤️
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I share this with you all today:
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☯️ So we as a society allow ourselves to be okay with the existence of negative emotions.
☯️ So we can let ourselves and each other know it’s okay to not be okay, not to enable but to accept the present moment.
☯️ So we continue bringing awareness to this issue.
☯️ So we continue being persistent in our focus on solutions.
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PLEASE SHARE so others hear this message! Let others knows they are not alone and there are solutions we can focus on! ❤️ #TranscendLabels

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I Took the Leap!

Around this time last month I was crying more than I had in a very long time.

It was hard processing everything that was happening inside of me. My emotions, the big and the small, were taking on various forms of heaviness. I was feeling drained. I was feeling confident. At another I wanted to drown in my sadness. My mind had become a battlefield of emotions. At the time it felt like these feelings were here to stay…

But when I think about it now, I still get emotional. But I’m still grateful it happened. Why?

What happened last month? I DECIDED last month that this year was going to be THE year my 2019 self thanked me for. I decided I was going to take the LEAP, take the jump into the unknown, and start building my own business. I decided that I’m leaving my corporate job very soon to pursue my business and my passions FULL-TIME. I decided I was going to start following my DREAMS to continue serving others, to show others what’s POSSIBLE in their lives, and not catering to what others want me to be. I decided this FOR ME.

Needless to say, I received polarizing reactions from people I told. And for the ones whose acceptance I may have appreciated the most, not everyone reciprocated. I felt hurt, and it did take me on an emotional roller-coaster. For friends that know me personally that are reading this, perhaps you may also be having similar feelings or reactions to what I’m saying. You can call me CRAZY. You can call me DUMB. You can call me BOLD. Nonetheless I’ve made my decision, and I haven’t felt more in control of my life than I have in doing so. I haven’t given myself a voice for a while, and now it’s time to let it shine. Whether someone supports me or not, I am determined to NOT GIVE UP. I will be too STUBBORN to do so, and because life is too short to not keep going. I’m going to help more, give more, and offer more. You can count on that!

All these things happened in the past month, and I’m grateful that it did. I went through these rough patches to be reminded that this path isn’t going to be easy, that this journey will be a rocky one, and that long-term this pain is temporary. It’s about the long-term, not the short-term. I think about the legacy I’m looking to leave. I think about the people I have yet to know and inspire. I think about the people who I can continue showing what’s possible. I think about the life I have yet to live. These dark moments today are merely building the foundation for who I’m meant to be.

As I write this, I am listening to the song that inspired this very post. It’s from “The Sound of Music”. One morning after a previous evening of tears, I played this on my laptop. I remember hearing the song, but this morning I decided to close my eyes. I wasn’t just hearing the words through my ears anymore; I was feeling the emotions behind them. I was crying again, but this time the tears were different. They were of gratitude, of love, and especially hope. I was seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I was seeing that ultimately it will all be worth it…all the way until I find my dream. 

 

Dear Friends,

I hope my friends know that I strive to be someone they can trust and confide in. The connections I find more fulfilling than any others in my life have been built on honesty and authenticity.

I hope my friends who are struggling or feel down know that I genuinely care, and I truly want nothing but the best for every one of them. When they hurt, I also hurt, perhaps even more than I should.

I hope my friends Continue reading “Dear Friends,”