Why Want and Need Are DIFFERENT!

We NEED food to live; we WANT specific foods we like to eat.ย ๐Ÿ•

We NEED shelter to survive; we WANT a house that’s big and spacious.ย ๐Ÿ 

We NEED connection with others; we WANT to connect with people we like.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

When we take the time to separate the difference between these 2 in the mind, we allow a new perspective to enter our lives. We allow ourselves to see how much we do in fact have in our lives.ย ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐ŸŒŸย We understand the difference between what’s essential and what’s desirable, what’s a necessity and what’s unnecessary.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

It’s something you may need to remind yourself of from time to time. I know I definitely have!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

When we mistake our Needs and Wants for being the same thing, we suffer when our Wants aren’t met, because emotionally we are treating our Wants as if they are Needs.ย ๐Ÿ˜ญ

But when you discern the difference and your Want is not met, it’s so much easier for the mind to simply say: “Eh! I didn’t Need it anyhow!”ย ๐Ÿ˜‰

Why Self-Care is CRUCIAL!

๐Ÿ›‘ย ๐™„โ€™๐™‘๐™€ ๐™ƒ๐˜ผ๐˜ฟ ๐™€๐™‰๐™Š๐™๐™‚๐™ƒ ๐™Š๐™ ๐™‰๐™€๐™’ ๐™”๐™Š๐™๐™†!!!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

It was only 3 hours ago the clock hit noon.ย ๐Ÿ•›ย But I had already made the decision: Time for me to head out of New York City, and time for me to head back to my AirBnb in New Jersey to call it quits for the day.ย ๐Ÿ‘

Have you ever had a moment where youโ€™re in the middle of something and the realization hits you that you are BURNED OUT?ย ๐Ÿ˜ชย That moment hit me this morning!

I had gone back into the city to do some more sightseeing, and then…

๐Ÿšงย ๏ผข๏ผก๏ผญ๏ผ ๏ผฒ๏ผฏ๏ผก๏ผค๏ผข๏ผฌ๏ผฏ๏ผฃ๏ผซ๏ผ๐Ÿšง

I had been ignoring the messages my body was trying to tell me the past day.ย ๐Ÿ“ฌย But now they had reached the surface of my mind and it became clear as day: I needed to rest!ย ๐Ÿ˜ด

Reminding myself of the marathon tomorrow, I knew this was the best option. While you bet your bottom-dollar Iโ€™ll be at the starting line tomorrow, I canโ€™t be there with less than a half-tank of gas!ย โ›ฝ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ% ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ% ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

So, Iโ€™m taking some Me Time the rest of the day. To introspect. To refocus. To be present again with my thoughts, away from the excessive noise of the city.ย ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

To be fair, Iโ€™ve heard over a couple dozen cars honking outside my window as I write this but itโ€™s better than nothing!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

If thereโ€™s one thing Iโ€™ve learned traveling so much is you need to make sure youโ€™re taking care of yourself.ย โค๏ธย When you travel, you are stepping outside your regular routines, adapting to your new surroundings, and that will take time. You may even at times be required to simply improvise.ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ซ๐จ๐จ๐ฆ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐„๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ƒ๐Ž๐ข๐ง๐ .ย ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Thatโ€™s why Iโ€™m back at my AirBnb now. ๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฐ ๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐„๐„๐ƒ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐–๐€๐๐“.ย ๐Ÿ›‘

I got to tell you: it can be the greatest form of self-love you give yourself today!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ›‘ย ๐™„โ€™๐™‘๐™€ ๐™ƒ๐˜ผ๐˜ฟ ๐™€๐™‰๐™Š๐™๐™‚๐™ƒ ๐™Š๐™ ๐™‰๐™€๐™’ ๐™”๐™Š๐™๐™†!!!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

Now that Iโ€™m giving myself the time to introspect, Iโ€™m able to take a step back and reflect since I arrived here. Iโ€™ve had some great moments in New York so far, especially ones with local friends of mine.ย โ˜บ๏ธ

But even more, Iโ€™ve experienced many opportunities for growth. These may also be referred to as โ€œproblemsโ€, but they only remain problems so long as you donโ€™t grow from them.ย ๐ŸŽ

As much as I may not have initially enjoyed experiencing these things, Iโ€™m grateful I did so I could learn from them:

๐Ÿงณย Not knowing how to fit my luggage through a trainโ€™s turnstile

๐ŸŽซย Not knowing how to purchase bus tickets

๐ŸšŒย Getting on the wrong bus, wasting a bus ticket I bought for another

๐Ÿ’ธย Rode a bus which only accepted cash and all I had was my credit card

๐Ÿ‘ฃย Not anticipating how much Iโ€™d use buses, trains, and my 2 feet to get around

๐Ÿฆตย Not anticipating how much my leg muscles would be aching after a single day

Perhaps some of you, my urban-dwelling friends, are reading this list and laughing at how trivial it sounds.ย ๐Ÿคฃย I donโ€™t blame you! I was raised in the quiet suburbs of Chicago most of my life, so I understand how silly these will sound to some.ย ๐Ÿ˜…

But this post isnโ€™t about throwing a pity party or talking to you about first-world problems. Itโ€™s to remind you that while we may at times purposefully take on goals which challenge us, like running a Marathon, weโ€™re always going to run into goals we never planned on taking on.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐‹๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ, ๐ซ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ซ๐๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ โ€œ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐ž๐ง๐ข๐ž๐ง๐ญโ€ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

And our willingness to take on the goals we didnโ€™t ask for is where the greatest opportunities for growth will come in!ย ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ

And so I lay here, in my AirBnb bed, thinking about all thatโ€™s happened. I smile looking back on it all, how my mind initially magnified those โ€œproblemsโ€, how I was aware my mind was magnifying them, and how I focused on solutions nonetheless. I look back and laugh.ย ๐Ÿคญ

๐Ÿย ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ง ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ.ย ๐Ÿ

Soon after, youโ€™ll be asking yourself: โ€œSoโ€ฆwhatโ€™s next?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ’ช

Why It Is HARD To Change!

๐Ÿ˜กย “WHY CAN’T I CHANGE?!”ย ๐Ÿ˜ก

Have you ever wanted to make a big change in your life? Say for example you wanted to lose a significant amount of weight.ย ๐Ÿ‘Š

But simultaneously there was a part of you that didn’t want to change, didn’t want to take the actions required to make the change. Can you relate?ย ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

“BUT WHY?!”

I can give you one big reason!ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

But before I do, the first thing we need to remember is we are creatures of habit. From the words we say to the mannerisms we use to the kinds of foods we eat, habits shape our lives for better or for worse.ย โ†•๏ธ

We are also creatures of emotion. We are driven to do things because of how they make us feel, make us feel pain or feel pleasure.ย โ†”๏ธ

But it’s important we remember that we associate different meanings to different things.ย ๐Ÿคจ

One person going to the gym sees it as a “chore”. Another sees it as a “necessity”. One person eating fast food sees it as a “indulgence”. Another sees it as “unhealthy”. It’s all about perspective!ย ๐Ÿ‘€

So why is it so hard to change our habits? I’ll give you one big reason!ย โš ๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸย We associate more pleasure to keeping our old habits than to building a new one.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

It’s why I didn’t lose weight for such a long time! I desired to be thin, and I desired to be fit. But in my mind, the pleasure of eating fast food and soda every day outweighed any desire to go to the gym!ย ๐Ÿ˜”

Most importantly: building a new habit takes TIME! I cannot emphasize that enough, because it’s one of the biggest reasons people “fall back” to old habits.ย โ†ฉ๏ธ

I’ve had to catch myself at times too!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

So I don’t blame you if you say it’s not easy to change. It isn’t! Think of it like this…๐Ÿค”

If you’re going to build a new habit, it will be among old habits you’ve possessed for years, perhaps even decades, that you will be competing against! ๐Ÿ˜…

Don’t be too hard on yourself! You got this!ย โค๏ธ

Why Learning Isn’t EVERYTHING!

๐ŸŒŸย ITโ€™S NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU INGEST, BUT WHAT YOU DIGEST!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

โ€œIโ€™ve read 100 books on the subject!โ€ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

โ€œI have 5 Certifications!โ€ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

โ€œI have 3 Masters Degrees!โ€ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Having expertise in a subject is without a doubt important. Like we wouldnโ€™t want toddlers performing open heart surgery or dogs flying helicopters, right?!ย ๐Ÿคฃ

But what Iโ€™m getting at is just because someone learns a lot doesnโ€™t automatically mean they know more.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐Ÿ“Œย You can read hundreds of books on a subject, yet never use what you read.

๐Ÿ“Œย You can earn a certification, yet not remember the very information which got you certified in the first place.

๐Ÿ“Œย You can go to college and receive a degree, yet never use the skills you developed.

Let me ask you a question: for all the school tests you ever took, how much information from the tests do you remember?ย ๐Ÿค”

80%? 50%? Nothing?! Youโ€™re not alone!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐ŸŒŸย ITโ€™S NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU INGEST, BUT WHAT YOU DIGEST!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Itโ€™s not about how much you know; itโ€™s about how much you use. Itโ€™s not about the amount of information you receive; itโ€™s about what you use with the information you receive.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

Itโ€™s the reason why Iโ€™ll read the same book twice, why Iโ€™ll listen to an online course multiple times, why Iโ€™ll re-read notes from seminars Iโ€™ve attended.ย ๐Ÿ“š

Because I can assure you: unless you have a photographic memory, you donโ€™t retain every piece of information you learn just from hearing it once.ย ๐Ÿ‘

You donโ€™t lift a few weights at the gym and suddenly are fit for life. You need to keep going back to the gym to maintain the muscles youโ€™ve already built.ย ๐Ÿ‹๏ธ

And the same goes for your mental muscles. You need to keep learning and building on what you’ve already learned. Otherwise, like a muscle, it deteriorates.ย ๐Ÿง 

Repetition and application are keys!ย ๐Ÿ”‘

๐ŸŒŸย ITโ€™S NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU INGEST, BUT WHAT YOU DIGEST!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

After all, why do you think I keep repeating this same sentence over and over again?ย ๐Ÿ˜‰

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