How Giving Back is An ANTIDOTE!

🌟 Find ways to give back to others. 🌟
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Now this may sound a bit cheesy or common sense, but common sense isn’t common. Otherwise more of us would be using it. 😉
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And not only is giving back “common sense”, it’s a powerful antidote for suffering. Yes, an antidote for suffering! 😲
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How so, Donald? 🗣️
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📍 We gather new perspectives on our own suffering through other people’s. We see how our hopes and fears are similar to each others. We continue to realize we’re not alone in our pain.
📍 When we focus on our problems, they magnify in our minds. The less we focus on our problems, the greater they shrink.
📍 We forget that problems are a necessary part of life. Because without problems, we wouldn’t grow as people.
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I challenge you to give more back to others, even when you think you can’t. One thing I can assure you on…👂
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❤️ There’s never going to be a “perfect time” to do it. ❤️
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This past weekend I had the privilege to give back and serve at another one of Tony Robbin’s Unleash the Power Within event for 15,000 participants! Add to that, I’ll also be serving at London’s event too next month! 😄
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The progress I’ve made the past few years I give a lot of credit to his work! The least I can do is give back and pay it forward. ❤️ #UPWLA2019

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How to Give When You “CAN’T”! (PERSONAL)

Written January 26, 2019

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🌟 Give, even when you think you can’t.
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What do you do when you get fearful?
For many of us, we tend to fall back into our old habits, old patterns, old forms of security, even if they no longer serve us in the present moment.
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For a temporary state of emotion, we regress. 🔙
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For a lot of 2018, I admit there wasn’t a single day I didn’t have a financial stress cross my mind. I don’t say it for pity; I say it to be honest. 🗣️
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It’s hard for me to admit it, but I also hold my brand to be more authentic online than the ones who act like someone they’re not. 👍
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I’m not really broke or poor (although I am in the lower digits). But it’s the lack of an uncertain future or what I fully want to create with my life where fear has gotten access to my emotional home to focus on the wrong things. 😨
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There are definitely even moments of fear this year as I’ve made a goal to travel every single month to serve somewhere and learn in some way. 🌎
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I’m so grateful I have the opportunity to help Crew another Tony Robbins event, to learn and to grow once again. While I know there is naivety to creating this goal, I also embrace the faith in continuing to give, even when I don’t think I can, that somehow some way it will pay off in a way I cannot foresee. I believe in Karma. 💫
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How that will be I don’t know. But I simply believe, and so be it. Again, perhaps it’s simply naivety and it was for nothing. Perhaps something will indeed happen with my current focuses. 🤷‍♂️
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Whatever happens…I know I let myself live. I let myself feel alive. I did what I wanted to do fully. I made my life worth living. Remembering that overtakes any temporary fear. Remembering that makes me cry. How could one live a life more fully than that? To use the Greek word: Eudaimonia! ❤️
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Regardless of how many times I’ve heard Tony’s content and quotes, I want to extend a quote that continues to resonate with me on my ongoing journey of personal growth: “Repetition is the mother of skill.” 💬
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The learning never stops, just as your potential for growth never stops. Thus, I continue on into the Uncertainty! I embrace every moment! 💪#BusinessMastery

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Why We Should ACCEPT! (PERSONAL)

I ACCEPT…❤️

– I accept who I am, both innately and who I can become. I accept I am perfectly imperfect. I accept both my flaws and my gifts. I accept me just as I am this present moment. 👤

– I accept the world and all its complexities. I accept I won’t know everything there is to know about this experience called Life. I accept knowing the lack of knowing. 🌎

– I accept people and where they are on their journeys. I accept the diversity of this world as well as the common humanity we all share. I accept people in both their uniqueness and their sameness.👥

– I accept so I judge less and see things as they are, not worse than they are. I accept so the Inner Critic in my head has no power over me anymore. I accept because whatever I resist in my life continues to persist. I accept so I can choose to finally let go. 🙌

In this fast-paced world we live in, there’s a profound sense of peace when you’re able to break free from it. My first evening here in San Diego, I walked down to the waterfront. I had no specific idea where I was going or how long I would be walking. Not much thought, I just went. 👣

I walked along the water. I sat by the docks. I moseyed through the park. I played some music through my earphones. I stopped at a nearby 7/11. I had no where to go. I had no where to be. A thought of judgment came across my mind: “Do something!” But I let myself be okay with these very facts. I accepted it. And it was absolutely beautiful. ❤️

As I walked back to my Airbnb, thinking about the power of acceptance, I decided I was going to take a photo to present with this post. But before I was about to take it, I saw the lights behind me. A local train’s bright lights was making its presence, and for whatever reason it was there, it simultaneously illuminated the realizations in my mind. 🚆

Accept, my friends. 😊 #TranscendLabels

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How AUTISM Helped Me DEFY the Odds! (PERSONAL)

😲 I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM!!! 😲

I use to consider myself a very introverted person, very shy, and very set in my own closed routines. I was more of a thinker than a doer and more a dreamer than a leader. Can you relate to that? If not, can you think of someone in your life who was like that? 🤔

Being diagnosed with Autism in 7th grade was probably the starting point for me, the point where I confirmed these ideas to myself about who I was: something was ‘wrong’ in my brain. 🧠 “I have Autism. It explains why I feel the way I feel. It’s just something that’s a part of me; I can’t change it.” 🤷‍♂️

But even at the time I remember feeling like I didn’t want to be labeled like this. I saw the label before me with all its negativity, a label I needed to object and rebel from. 👊 I saw the stigmas of this label becoming my reality, and once I started seeing it reflected in other people’s behaviors towards me it frightened me to the core! 😨

I have vivid memories from school where I refused to accept new accommodations because of the new label. I was now being offered additional time on tests, opportunities to leave class to ‘cool down’, and every single time I refused. I was being treated differently. I hadn’t changed, but with my new label I had changed in the eyes of everyone else. 😟 Has someone ever said something about you that you knew wasn’t true? Did you ever feel like you just wanted to jump on the defense and say: “That is absolutely NOT TRUE!” 🤬

With my new label I was constantly reminded about my new-given identity: what I couldn’t do, what my limitations were, and what struggles I’d have the rest of my life. 🔮 Very little was I ever reminded about all my current strengths or what I could do. It was mostly the echoes from a set of diagnostic criteria. 📖

In psychology, the term is referred to as a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. In sociology, it’s referred to as the Labeling Theory. To put it simply: If a person holds a belief in their mind about someone else’s future expectations, the person will unconsciously help in influencing the other person into fulfilling those expectations. 🤔

So for example, if a parent holds a child to very low expectations the odds are very likely the child won’t ever go past the ones the parent already set for them. They will only achieve the most minimal, the expectations set by the parent. 😲

SO FOR A LONG TIME I USE TO LET OTHERS DICTATE HOW I WAS GOING TO LIVE MY LIFE…😔

But then at one point I finally decided I was going on my own path. These past few years I’ve learned that everything starts with Me: I must take control of my life, how I choose to see it, and how I’m going to live it. 👍

📌 Dale Carnegie explained it through his principles to Win Friends and Influence People.

📌 Stephen Covey said it with his Habit of Being Proactive.

📌 The Stoics taught it through their principles of self-control.

📌 The Existentialists shared it through the creation of meanings.

📌 Individuals like Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. excelled it through their example.

It’s the power of helping OURSELVES FIRST before we start trying to help the rest of the world. It’s about taking CONTROL over our emotions rather than letting them and our environment control us. It’s about living our lives for a PURPOSE greater than just ourselves. It’s about a “dream”, a vision of a greater future for all of humanity. Most importantly, it’s about about YOU DEFINING YOUR LIFE. 🌎

What I’ve come to realize again and again is that my past does not have to equal the future. I’ve realized I am more capable than what any label or diagnosis will dictate. 🙌

Have you ever taken a personality test and it gave you a result you wholeheartedly believed in? “Congrats, you’re an INFJ!” The problem with these tests is they can tell you who you are NOW. But they don’t tell you who you’ll necessarily be in the FUTURE. We can change as well as mentally evolve. It’s a part of who I may be now, but it’s not the final destination! 🛣️

I’ve realized that I ultimately will define Me, not someone else, not a test, and not a set of diagnostic criteria. Otherwise I keep a fixed identity for the rest of my life…nah! 😉

So this year I’ve been on a mission to Transcend Labels. I am showing the world what’s possible, to show others how to look beneath the surface, past the labels, past the stereotypes, and to see each other for who we all are. 👥

I truly believe when we do this we’ll start seeing the humanity within each other, see each other as human beings, and see that we are all more alike than we like to believe. With that not only comes greater understanding for our neighbors but most importantly an unconditional love, because the realization comes: “That person is also Me.” ❤️

I see lasting change in the world happening through the individual from the inside-out, not the outside-in. I believe that the better we can be for ourselves, the better we can be for others. 🌎

Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. Everyone has an opinion, but there are fewer people out there who ever set the example. Will we be the next examples?! 👌

I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM, BUT AUTISM NEVER HAD ME! #TranscendLabels 💪

I hope this resonates with many of you. I would appreciate it if you could share this post with others, whoever you believe will also benefit from these words. If there are any additional areas I can add value to your life as well as in the blogging community, please let me know! 🙂

My areas of expertise include:

👍 Detail-oriented, Thoroughness

👍 Quality-over-quantity Focused

👍 Analytical, Systemic Thinking

👍 Emotional intelligence (plus 10 years in Customer Service)

👍 Social media, Building Engagement

 

With lots of gratitude,

Donald “Ace” Arteaga ❤️

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