Why Blaming HURTS You!

By default, blaming disempowers you.ย ๐Ÿ’”

Every time you blame, you implicitly tell yourself: “I am not in control.”ย ๐Ÿ‘

And the more you do it, the less you’ll feel in control.ย ๐Ÿ‘Ž

It’s why blaming is so easy. It’s so much easier for us to take what we feel and any responsibilities off ourselves and place it onto people and things. We live in a CULTure of blame.ย ๐Ÿ‘‡

Read the latest political drama for example and you’ll see what I mean!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

โœ‹”But wait Donald! Some things are DEFINITELY not my fault!ย โŒย If someone’s cruel to me and I’ve done nothing wrong, why can’t I blame them?! I’m definitely not responsible for THAT!”ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

I’m going to use the words of Scott Harris as he said it beautifully:

“Taking responsibility doesn’t mean it’s my fault.ย ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Taking responsibility doesn’t mean I caused it.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

Taking responsibility is about responding to the situation with everything I’ve got.”ย ๐Ÿ’ช

To stop ourselves from blaming is about taking our power back in a situation. It’s about being RESPONSE-ABLE, that no matter what your environment does that you are still in control.ย ๐Ÿ‘Š

So yes, we can blame others.๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธย …But if we’re going to take control over our lives, if we’re not going to let our environments dictate how we feel, if we’re going to take the reins over our emotions, blame is NEVER going to get us there.ย โค๏ธ

Why We’re MISSING What Matters! โค๏ธ

โค๏ธย ๐‘พ๐‘ฌโ€™๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘ด๐‘ฐ๐‘บ๐‘บ๐‘ฐ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘พ๐‘ฏ๐‘จ๐‘ป ๐‘ด๐‘จ๐‘ป๐‘ป๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘บ!!!ย โค๏ธ

For my well-being as a whole, Iโ€™d say Iโ€™m a pretty optimistic person with dashes of realism.ย ๐Ÿ˜Ž

But for the Intellectual in me who looks out at society as a collective, I’m definitely more of a pessimistic optimist.ย โ‰๏ธ

To clarify the oxymoron: I prepare for the worst, but I hope for the best.ย ๐Ÿ˜…

As weโ€™ve entered a new decade, I am pleasantly surprised to look back on our society and see how far weโ€™ve come.

๐Ÿ’งย We have water we didn’t have to filter!ย ๐Ÿ’ง

๐Ÿ›ฃ๏ธย We drive on streets we didn’t have to pave!ย ๐Ÿ›ฃ๏ธ

๐Ÿ“šย We read books we didn’t have to write!ย ๐Ÿ“š

๐ŸŽถย We listen to music we didn’t have to produce!ย ๐ŸŽถ

๐Ÿ’Šย We use medicines we didnโ€™t have to create!ย ๐Ÿ’Š

๐Ÿ™ย We have so many things we can grateful for!ย ๐Ÿ™

๐Ÿคฌย “DONALD, DON’T BE SO NAIVE! WHAT ABOUT…?!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

Of course, the history of our humanity hasnโ€™t been all sunshine and rainbows either, no doubt!ย ๐ŸŒˆย Big shifts in our world also included plagues, wars, and violent revolutions, things many of us have never had to experience firsthand.

I’m no History major, but I agree with you; thereโ€™s no point in me denying the dark sides of history either!ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป’๐˜ โ€œ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜” ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—š๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ฆ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ฑ.ย โœ๏ธ

But in spite of all that, in spite of all the negatives I could tell you about, we as humans have nevertheless continued to move forward. We have not destroyed ourselves and our fellow neighbors to complete oblivion!ย ๐Ÿ‘

Looking at our current society, from agriculture to medicine to artificial intelligence, we’re still making great strides forward in science and technology!ย ๐Ÿค–

To give you one stunning fact: the average life expectancy in the past century has gone from age 30 to 70!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

To make a long story short, I warmly welcome what new advances weโ€™ll have in the coming decade!ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐‘จ๐‘ต๐‘ซ ๐’€๐‘ฌ๐‘ป…

While so many like myself can acknowledge this progress and are grateful to be living in this day and age, I’ve also noticed many people are also more pessimistic and cynical than ever.ย โ‰๏ธ

Weโ€™ve come so far as a civilization. But to many, it somehow does not “feel” like it has.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

Why is that?! If we live in such affluent times with more resources than ever to be happy, why are so many still unhappy?! Despite many having way more than their basic needs for food, water, and shelter met, why do we still see depression and suicide rates continue to rise?!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Yes! ๐—ฆ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿต๐Ÿต๐Ÿต, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜† ๐˜†๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ!ย ๐Ÿ“ˆ

๐ŸŒบย How, if thereโ€™s so many flowers in our gardens, more than we can count, do we still feel like we’re missing something?ย ๐ŸŒบ

Are we just so ungrateful that we just canโ€™t see whatโ€™s right in front of us?ย ๐Ÿค”

Are we just not reminding each other enough of how great we have it?ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Are people just more open these days about their emotions, hence the increase in depression diagnoses?ย ๐Ÿ“„

Perhaps. I don’t think the answers are so cut and dry. I think it’s quite multifaceted. If you want me to give you a simple answer to these questions, I’m sorry to say you’ve come to the wrong post!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

But while I don’t have all the answers, I will propose at least one cause I believe we as a society are greatly neglecting.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

And thatโ€™s what I wanted to talk to you about in this post!ย ๐Ÿ˜„

To start, Iโ€™m reminded of the words of Palmer Joss in the 1997 film “Contact”:ย ๐ŸŽฌ

โ€œ๐‘จ๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’‘๐’‘๐’Š๐’†๐’“ ๐’‚๐’” ๐’‚ ๐’‰๐’–๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’“๐’‚๐’„๐’†? ๐‘ฐ๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’๐’… ๐’‡๐’–๐’๐’…๐’‚๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’๐’š ๐’‚ ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’•๐’•๐’†๐’“ ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’„๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’„๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’๐’‡ ๐’”๐’„๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’„๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’†๐’„๐’‰๐’๐’๐’๐’๐’ˆ๐’š?ย ๐Ÿค”

๐‘พ๐’† ๐’”๐’‰๐’๐’‘ ๐’‚๐’• ๐’‰๐’๐’Ž๐’†. ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’”๐’–๐’“๐’‡ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’˜๐’†๐’ƒ. ๐‘จ๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’‚๐’Ž๐’† ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†, ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’†๐’Ž๐’‘๐’•๐’Š๐’†๐’“, ๐’๐’๐’๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’†๐’“, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’„๐’–๐’• ๐’๐’‡๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’†๐’‚๐’„๐’‰ ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’ ๐’‚๐’• ๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’† ๐’Š๐’ ๐’‰๐’–๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’”๐’•๐’๐’“๐’š. ๐‘พ๐’†’๐’“๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚ ๐’”๐’š๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’”๐’Š๐’›๐’†๐’… ๐’”๐’๐’„๐’Š๐’†๐’•๐’š ๐’Š๐’ ๐’‚ ๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’• ๐’ƒ๐’Š๐’ˆ ๐’‰๐’–๐’“๐’“๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’™๐’• ๐’•๐’†๐’Ž๐’‘๐’๐’“๐’‚๐’“๐’š ๐’”๐’†๐’๐’”๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’.ย ๐Ÿ’จ

๐‘ฐ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’Œ ๐’Š๐’• ๐’Š๐’” ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’„๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’๐’๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’Ž๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ. ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’Ž๐’†๐’‚๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ? ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’‹๐’๐’ƒ๐’”. ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’‡๐’“๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’„ ๐’—๐’‚๐’„๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”. ๐‘ซ๐’†๐’‡๐’Š๐’„๐’Š๐’• ๐’‡๐’Š๐’๐’‚๐’๐’„๐’† ๐’•๐’“๐’Š๐’‘๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’š ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’˜๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’Œ ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’ˆ๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‡๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’”๐’† ๐’‰๐’๐’๐’†๐’” ๐’Š๐’ ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’Š๐’—๐’†๐’”. ๐‘ฐ๐’” ๐’Š๐’• ๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’˜๐’๐’๐’…๐’†๐’“ ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’๐’๐’”๐’• ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’”๐’†๐’๐’”๐’† ๐’๐’‡ ๐’…๐’Š๐’“๐’†๐’„๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’?โ€ย ๐Ÿงญ

Iโ€™m also reminded of the words from Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl: โ€œEver more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.โ€ย โœ๏ธ

I want you to read Franklโ€™s words again but slower:

โžก๏ธย โ€œ๐—˜๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ, ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ป๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ.โ€ย โฌ…๏ธ

๐ŸŒบย We have many flowers in our garden. But we have little understanding to WHY these flowers matter. Weโ€™re told we should appreciate them, but we don’t understand WHY we should.ย ๐ŸŒบ

โค๏ธย ๐‘พ๐‘ฌโ€™๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘ด๐‘ฐ๐‘บ๐‘บ๐‘ฐ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘พ๐‘ฏ๐‘จ๐‘ป ๐‘ด๐‘จ๐‘ป๐‘ป๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘บ!!!ย โค๏ธ

The problems I see happening:

Weโ€™re mastering Quantity at the expense of Quality.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re mastering our Outer World at the expense of our Inner World.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re mastering Intelligence at the expense of Emotional Intelligence.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re mastering Extrinsic Values at the expense of Intrinsic Values.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re mastering the Objective at the expense of the Subjective.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re mastering the Yang at the expense of the Yin.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re addressing more of what we Want at the expense of what we Need.ย โš–๏ธ

Weโ€™re feeding our Heads at the expense of our Hearts.ย โš–๏ธ

To use the Hopi word: Koyaanisqatsi, or โ€œlife out of balanceโ€.ย โ˜ฏ๏ธ

I see no better time than this day and age for more and more people to be having an existential crisis, a serious contemplation on whether oneโ€™s life has any purpose or meaning.ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

I can tell you from many firsthand experiences, having an existential crisis is very unpleasant! And sadly, I know some individuals don’t manage to bring themselves back out of the existential abyss.ย ๐Ÿ•ณ๏ธ

In a world filled with many paradoxes and contradictions, a world weโ€™re told has absolute truth yet conflicting ideas fill us with doubt, a world which at times can seem pretty absurd on the surface, what is a person to believe?!ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

If everything you were once told to believe and embrace about life has been ideologically challenged and reduced to a pile of meaninglessness, what is the next step for someone to take?ย ๐Ÿ™‰

I believe Johann Hari said it best when he said our society is great at doing many things, as I mentioned above with science and technology. ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ฝ๐˜€๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

We all need to feel like we belong in this world, the need to feel like our lives have purpose and meaning, the need to feel like we are seen and appreciated by others, the need to feel we have a compelling future to look forward to. You could call these “the needs of the soulโ€.ย โค๏ธ

And yet, how many people right now actually have these needs met? How many are instead just being told to โ€œbe happyโ€ or being told to remember “how great our country isโ€?ย ๐Ÿ’”

๐ŸŒบย ๐—œ๐˜โ€™๐˜€ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€.ย ๐ŸŒบ

Perhaps the conditions weโ€™ve commonly known as Depression and Anxiety are not as simple as “chemical imbalances” in oneโ€™s brain like we were told.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Perhaps our emotions have also been messengers trying to tell us something important.ย ๐Ÿ“ฌย Perhaps they have been signaling to us the way we’re living is what’s making us ill. Perhaps we’re living in a sick society that magnifies, reinforces, and exacerbates these psychological problems.ย ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

Of course I’m not claiming any conspiracies here! I’m not saying any of this is done intentionally, but rather it’s the long-term results of a society neglecting these signals for so long.ย โŒ›

Weโ€™ve been so focused on external factors to โ€œfixโ€ these signals, whether it was through drugs, alcohol, food, or needless distractions that we’re in the habit of inadvertently killing the messenger!ย ๐Ÿ’Š

โค๏ธย ๐‘พ๐‘ฌโ€™๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘ด๐‘ฐ๐‘บ๐‘บ๐‘ฐ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘พ๐‘ฏ๐‘จ๐‘ป ๐‘ด๐‘จ๐‘ป๐‘ป๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘บ!!!ย โค๏ธ

Iโ€™ve talked in the past about how I am very passionate about advocating for what I call “the psychological development of the individual”.

โฌ†๏ธย ๐—ง๐—›๐—œ๐—ฆ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐˜†!ย โฌ†๏ธ

THIS is the reason Iโ€™m so passionate about it. It’s why Iโ€™ve surrounded myself in the field of Personal Development. It’s why Iโ€™m such a fan of philosophy. It’s why Iโ€™m such a supporter of Tony Robbinsโ€™s work.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐—œ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐˜€๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—œ’๐—บ ๐—ณ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€.ย ๐Ÿ˜”

Compared to where we were a few decades ago, weโ€™re now living a much more complex world. In other words, weโ€™re no longer going to be able to solve these complex problems with the same simplistic thinking which created them.ย ๐Ÿ‘

So what Iโ€™m advocating for is developing our Emotional Intelligence, developing our Cognitive skills, and encouraging to everyone the psychological development of the individual.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

We’ve assumed for too long these skills would simply develop without much effort on our parts. But again, look at where many people are now.ย ๐Ÿคฆ

Itโ€™s important I emphasize:ย โ›”ย Iโ€™m NOT saying we get rid or throw out what science and technology has brought us so far! Not at all!ย โ›”

Iโ€™m not saying we need to choose one OR the other; ๐—œโ€™๐—บ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐—”๐—ก๐—— ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ.ย โ˜ฏ๏ธ

As science and technology only moves forward with greater complexity, I want to ensure we’re also moving forward ourselves, psychologically and with a more complex understanding of “knowing thyself”.

What will this require?

๐ŸŒŸย We need to appoint leaders of integrity, of emotional intelligence, who build trust in leading by example; that’s how we decrease cynicism.

๐ŸŒŸย We need to create meaning where there’s meaninglessness to be found in peopleโ€™s lives; that’s how we decrease nihilism.

๐ŸŒŸย We need to teach people how to think and not what to think; thatโ€™s how we develop cognitive skills.

๐ŸŒŸย We need to challenge our black-and-white thinking habits and learn to communicate civilly with people we disagree with; that’s how we develop empathy.

๐ŸŒŸย We need to learn to compromise, to promote order, to re-establish moral standards and mutually agreed upon truths; thatโ€™s how we decrease what Emile Durkheim referred to as “anomie”.

And I won’t be so naive as to think implementing these ideas will be easy, nor will people easily be convinced they are necessary endeavors.ย โœ…

I know that me just saying this to all to you doesnโ€™t mean you’ll take action to do them. But at the very least, I hope I planted some seeds in your mind to think about.ย โœ…

These initiatives will require many more people to step forward and be examples. This is not meant to come off like some political statement; it’s just something Iโ€™ve been very passionate about sharing with you all for a while. I’m glad I have the words written out to you now!ย ๐Ÿ˜

๐Ÿšจย Because I don’t want to keep seeing people needlessly suffer!ย ๐Ÿšจ

โค๏ธย ๐‘พ๐‘ฌโ€™๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘ด๐‘ฐ๐‘บ๐‘บ๐‘ฐ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘พ๐‘ฏ๐‘จ๐‘ป ๐‘ด๐‘จ๐‘ป๐‘ป๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘บ!!!ย โค๏ธ

These ideas I share with you now are NOT EVEN MY IDEAS! They are not original! These ideas have been around a very long time!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

The problem is weโ€™ve either forgotten how important these ideas are or weโ€™ve simply never been introduced to them in the first place. And if you haven’t before, consider yourself introduced now!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

You wonโ€™t learn these ideas browsing social media, I can tell you that much!ย ๐Ÿคฃ

๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒโ€™๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ป’๐˜ ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—ฏ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€.ย ๐ŸŽฎ

I can assure you: there’s a profound sense of humility which comes when you realize how little you know, how far we all can expand our understandings of the world if we made the conscious decisions to.ย โค๏ธ

Iโ€™ll leave you all with wisdom from the great philosopher Bertrand Russell. When asked what advice he’d give to future generations, he said this in 1959:ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

๐Ÿ’ฌย โ€œ๐‘ณ๐’๐’—๐’† ๐’Š๐’” ๐’˜๐’Š๐’”๐’†; ๐’‰๐’‚๐’•๐’“๐’†๐’… ๐’Š๐’” ๐’‡๐’๐’๐’๐’Š๐’”๐’‰. ๐‘ฐ๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’˜๐’๐’“๐’๐’…, ๐’˜๐’‰๐’Š๐’„๐’‰ ๐’Š๐’” ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’„๐’๐’๐’”๐’†๐’๐’š ๐’Š๐’๐’•๐’†๐’“๐’„๐’๐’๐’๐’†๐’„๐’•๐’†๐’…, ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’๐’๐’†๐’“๐’‚๐’•๐’† ๐’†๐’‚๐’„๐’‰ ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“. ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’‘๐’–๐’• ๐’–๐’‘ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‡๐’‚๐’„๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’”๐’๐’Ž๐’† ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’”๐’‚๐’š ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’˜๐’† ๐’…๐’๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’๐’Š๐’Œ๐’†. ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’๐’๐’๐’š ๐’๐’Š๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“ ๐’Š๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’˜๐’‚๐’š.

๐‘ฉ๐’–๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‚๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’๐’Š๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’…๐’Š๐’† ๐’•๐’๐’ˆ๐’†๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“, ๐’˜๐’† ๐’Ž๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’ ๐’‚ ๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’… ๐’๐’‡ ๐’„๐’‰๐’‚๐’“๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‚ ๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’… ๐’๐’‡ ๐’•๐’๐’๐’†๐’“๐’‚๐’๐’„๐’†, ๐’˜๐’‰๐’Š๐’„๐’‰ ๐’Š๐’” ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’”๐’๐’๐’–๐’•๐’†๐’๐’š ๐’—๐’Š๐’•๐’‚๐’ ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’„๐’๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’–๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’๐’‡ ๐’‰๐’–๐’Ž๐’‚๐’ ๐’๐’Š๐’‡๐’† ๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’๐’†๐’•.โ€ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Why You’re NOT Crazy For Being Negative!

๐Ÿ‘€ย Itโ€™s so easy to focus on whatโ€™s wrong.ย ๐Ÿ‘€

In fact, weโ€™re hard-wired to be! You’re not crazy!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

We all have a Negativity Bias. It’s our brainโ€™s tendency to remember more negative over positive things.

๐Ÿ“Œย Itโ€™s the reason we remember the 1 criticism over the 5 praises our boss gave us.

๐Ÿ“Œย Itโ€™s the reason we remember the 1 moment in the day we were frustrated over the 5 moments we smiled.ย ๐Ÿ“Œย Itโ€™s why we remember the negative words a friend said to us over the apology they said afterwards.

“Sounds like we have messed up brains, Donald!”ย ๐Ÿง 

Not at all! This brain is what kept our ancestors alive before we had the civilization we live in today.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏย This brain was not designed to make us happy; it was designed to make us survive, to protect us from threats and danger. And it did its job!ย ๐Ÿ›ก๏ธ

The problem is our survival brain didn’t keep up with the times we live in today. We don’t need its tools the way our ancestors did.ย ๐Ÿ‘

It’s because I know about this Negativity Bias and how it can affect me in my life that I seek to work on it. I don’t want it to run my life! I’m sure you don’t either!ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

๐ŸŒŸย Thankfully, it doesn’t have to!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

โค๏ธย Practice gratitude every single day. Take time every single day to think of things you’re grateful for in your life.

โค๏ธย Surround yourself in positive environments. Watch inspirational movies. Listen to uplifting music. Be around friends who make you smile.

โค๏ธย During negative situations, ask yourself: “Where’s the good in this situation?” If at first you can’t think of an answer, keep asking yourself until you find an answer.

I’m not such a positive and energetic person by chance; I work on my positivity every day. It’s an active effort! I’m training my brain out of its default modes of focus.ย ๐Ÿง ย And you can too!ย ๐Ÿ˜

Because who doesn’t want to feel happier every day?! Let’s take control of our brains so they don’t control us!ย โค๏ธ

Why Want and Need Are DIFFERENT!

We NEED food to live; we WANT specific foods we like to eat.ย ๐Ÿ•

We NEED shelter to survive; we WANT a house that’s big and spacious.ย ๐Ÿ 

We NEED connection with others; we WANT to connect with people we like.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

When we take the time to separate the difference between these 2 in the mind, we allow a new perspective to enter our lives. We allow ourselves to see how much we do in fact have in our lives.ย ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐ŸŒŸย We understand the difference between what’s essential and what’s desirable, what’s a necessity and what’s unnecessary.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

It’s something you may need to remind yourself of from time to time. I know I definitely have!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

When we mistake our Needs and Wants for being the same thing, we suffer when our Wants aren’t met, because emotionally we are treating our Wants as if they are Needs.ย ๐Ÿ˜ญ

But when you discern the difference and your Want is not met, it’s so much easier for the mind to simply say: “Eh! I didn’t Need it anyhow!”ย ๐Ÿ˜‰