Why You Should STEP Outside Yourself!

Have you ever watched a movie and seen an actor play a character which simply astounded you? 😲

You watched the actor on screen, and you were struck by how real the actor portrayed the character. You were taken in by their struggle, their pain, and you cried when they cried. You knew it was just a movie, but for a moment in time you saw this actor as nobody else but this character. 👏

How do these actors pull it off? How do they bring these characters to life in such a way? 🤔

I’m not an actor by trade, but I did have some acting roles back when I was in school. And what I learned not only applies to acting, but also to how can better understand others. 👥

🌟 To understand requires you to step outside yourself. 🌟

To better understand others:

📍 We need to acknowledge our common humanity, an understanding we’re all here on this planet making our way through our lives as best as we can.

📍 We need to know what motivates people to do what they do. What drives a person to take certain actions? Are they driven by greed? Revenge? To please others? To be independent?

📍 Perhaps most important, you need to understand yourself. The better you understand yourself, what drives you, your habits, your own self-awareness the better you understand others. And vice versa, if you better understand others, you can also use what you learn to better understand yourself.

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Why We Stay With BAD Company!

Why do we spend time with people who make us miserable? Why do we continue surrounding ourselves with others who will bring out the worst in us? 🤔

One reason is it feels better to be with some sort of company than with none at all. Even if our company treats us horribly, Fear deducts it’s safer to be with them and feel sad than to be completely alone and feel sad. 😔

To let go of any company requires us to go outside, into unknown territory. The fear of the unknown can be most paralyzing. I’ve felt it at times myself! 👍

🌟 Our fear to let go of something can outweigh our fear of holding onto it. Whatever we fear less of we will go towards. 🌟

It’s also in our evolution as human beings. We are social beings. It benefitted our ancestors’ survival to form bonds and groups. It was better to be a part of a tribe than alone in the wilderness to fend for oneself. 👍

But here’s the Good News: in our modern day civilization, we have more opportunities than ever to seek people and peer groups which better serve us! 😄

📍 Surround yourself with people who empower you, not put you down.

📍 Spend time with others you wish to emulate and become.

📍 Give yourself permission to have MORE than one peer group.

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Why You DON’T Remember Your Past!

😱 YOU DON’T REMEMBER YOUR PAST (REALLY)! 😱

Did you know I make these social media posts not just for you all but also for myself? Yeah I know! I’m so selfish right?! 😂

For me, these posts I create are not only to share with you but they’re also friendly reminders to myself. My Future Self. It’s so he never forgets the memories I’m choosing to retain for him. ❤️

Now perhaps what I just said sounds a bit odd; what do I mean: “retain”?! Let me ask you this: do you remember every single waking moment of your whole entire life? I highly doubt it. 😉

What if I told you with every memory you have, you also have the choice to choose which parts you’ll take with you into your future. 😱

No this isn’t some voodoo! I’m talking about:

📌 The parts of your past you choose to continue focusing on

📌 The parts of your past which mattered to you the most

📌 The parts of your past you defined as shaping you into the person you are today

Think of a family photo where everyone looks so cheerful and is enjoying themselves. But in actuality, the real moment wasn’t as cheerful as the photo made it out to be. The family was simply posing for a photo, putting on forced smiles for the camera. 📸

And say a few years later a family member comes across the photo. They barely remember the actual moment, but their only reference is now this photo. This cheerful photo. Thus, that family member starts to believe the past moment was in fact a pleasant one. But remember: it actually wasn’t. 😲

🌟 We don’t remember our pasts as a matter of fact. We remember the stories we created about our pasts. 🌟

So when I say “retain”, it’s a matter of questions to ask of oneself: What do I want to remember for my future? What stories will I choose to continue remembering about my past? What stories am I willing to let go of? 🤔

Even more importantly: How will I choose to ultimately define my past? Are the moments I once felt negative about now the thorns I carry? 😡 Or will I now decide to see each thorn as a blessing in disguise instead? 🌻

🌟 It’s less about what actually happened in our pasts and more about how we’re choosing to interpret them for our future. 🌟

This photo was taken as I sat atop Dunure Castle. I share this photo because it’s how I want to remember this moment in time. ⏰ This photo is what I want to represent that moment for my Future Self to see later. And whatever else I write here about this moment is what I’m consciously choosing for my Future Self to keep on remembering. 😊

While we certainly remember key moments from our posts, we often forget the smaller details and retain what we wish to remember. That being said, I want to make sure my Future Self also remember this about this moment:

📍 How in awe I was sitting atop there, how grand it all felt to me.

📍 How my friend Kris Nimbley took the photo and was using the Rule of Thirds I told him about.

📍 How it was a chilly and windy day, but the scenery dissolved the complaints I had in my mind.

📍 How it was one of the most beautiful places I’ve ever visited, how I wanted to stay there for hours.

Choose what you will remember and how you will define it. Because however you define it now is what’s going to shape the rest of your life. ❤️ #EudaimonicLife

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Why Death REMINDS You! (PERSONAL)

🙌 I CAN BREATHE A SIGH OF PEACE! 🙌

My emotions were so close to overwhelming me as it happened! But I had to express them! 😊

Perhaps I get “too emotional” these days! But then again, I remember the days when I was younger when I use to downplay my emotions. It wasn’t pleasant to say the least. But now, all I can think about is how great it feels to simply express myself. Now even the smallest gestures of kindness I will allow myself to get all teary-eyed. 💦

Remember when I told you all about Kieran? He was the friend I helped get to UPW last month in London. 🤔 If you didn’t read about it, you can read it HERE! 👍

What I’m referring to happened one evening after I finished talking with Kieran, after we had parted ways for the night, when my emotions started getting to me. 😢

It must have been a late evening, because as I walked into the Crew Break Room it was completely empty apart from 2 other Crew members: Jamie and Aaron. 👣

I didn’t plan on telling either of them what was going on. A part of me just simply wanted to leave the venue and get some shut eye. On Crew we have some long days! 😂 But I would be lying if I didn’t say I also felt the need to share my feelings with another.

As a Floor Captain that event, I wanted to set the leadership example. But even the best of leaders should also not be afraid to reveal their vulnerabilities at times. 🌟

I can only remember fragments of our group conversation, but I ended up sharing what had happened. I told them about Kieran, how grateful he was for my gesture, and how touched I felt by his many thanks. ❤️ I held back additional tears as Jamie and Aaron simply listened. 👥

What was initially a single moment of gratitude turned into me recounting many more: grateful for the opportunity to be in London again, grateful to impact thousands of people’s lives again, grateful to see the impact of my actions first-hand, etc. ❤️

And then came the final exclamation mark in our conversation when I told them the thought that’s been crossing my mind the past year…😲

It’s one I’ve been very hesitant to share with people, let alone on social media, because I was afraid it would be taken the wrong way. But I promise what I’m about to share with you is by no means meant to be “depressing” or “morbid”. 🙂

It’s a thought that’s crossed my mind , whether it was when I was falling sleep or when I took a moment to deeply reflect on my life. It’s the thought that gets me crying faster than any others. 🙌

It’s the thought of Death. But not in the way you might be thinking. Let me quickly assure everyone my mental health is fine; it has nothing to do with that. 😊 Allow me to explain…✍

I told them this thought I’ve had, this unconditional acceptance that I’ve lived a full life. I told them that if I were to die that night, in a decade, or even in a full lifetime, I can always be rest assured to take my last breath at peace. ❤️

I can always be grateful enough to say: “I’ve lived a full life, one I deemed worth living, and should I have the pleasure of experiencing another tomorrow I’ll keep living fully.” 🙏

Some of you might be like: “Donald! You’re only 27! You’ve got plenty of time!” 🗣

But let me ask you: what if tomorrow wasn’t 100% guaranteed? What if we lived each day of our lives with a reminder that tomorrow is never promised? Would you be living the same way you are today? I don’t mean to ask this like some cliché motivational quote. I mean if you REALLY thought about that DEEPLY, how different would you be living your life? 🤔

The philosopher Seneca said: “Life is long, if you know how to use it.” A person could live a hundred years and feel like they hadn’t lived a full life. But another person could live a mere 10 years yet feel like they lived a full life. How so? 🤔

Because it’s not about the number of years you’re alive, but about the years you’ve actually lived. It’s about quality over quantity. 👍

So some may see the idea of Death as “depressing” and “morbid”, but I see Death as the most powerful motivator you have at your disposal in this game called Life. This very acknowledgement of Death is what’s helped pull me forward the past few years:

👊 To do things I wouldn’t normally do

👊 To travel to places I wouldn’t typically think of going

👊 To take risks my fears would normally dissuade me from doing

Perhaps there is much more to the term “You Only Live Once” than we all have given it credit for! 😉

I took this photo while I was at the Glasgow Necropolis in Scotland last month. Walking among the tombstones, I was reminded again of all these ideas: You can surely see Death as a negative, something which creeps into all our lives at some point. 😨

But you can also see Death as the greatest tool you have while you’re alive: to transform your negatives into positives, to remind you of the things which truly matter, to push you in ways you could only describe as “a life worth living”. ❤️

🌟 WHEN YOU ACCEPT THE INEVITABILITY OF DEATH, YOU ALSO ACCEPT YOURSELF TO LIVE. 🌟

Here’s to hoping many more heartfelt moments to share with you all in the future! I love you, and thank you for reading! ❤️ #EudaimonicLife

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