Why Acceptance is CRUCIAL!

🌟 “When you ARGUE with reality, you always lose.” 🌟

If I can count the many times I’ve been stressed in my life, I can say looking back with certainty, they weren’t necessary if I just remembered this principle.Β πŸ€”

Or to put it another way…

🌟 “What upsets people is not things themselves but their JUDGEMENTS about the things.” 🌟

I want to let you know: we can save ourselves a TON of needless suffering if we remember this!Β πŸ‘

🌟 “ACCEPT things as they are, not worse then they are.” 🌟

Often we do this unconsciously in our default mode setting, when we’re not actively paying attention to our thoughts and emotions. It’s why it’s so important we develop our self-awareness.Β πŸ’―

And one way we start doing this is by practicing acceptance.Β πŸ™Œ

🀬 “But Donald! This thing that just happened SHOULD NEVER have happened! How can you ACCEPT such injustices?!” 🀬

To clarify, acceptance doesn’t mean we support something. It means we consciously give neutrality to a situation, to our thoughts, and to our emotions. For a temporary moment, we don’t label it “good” or “bad”. It just is.Β πŸ‘

We accept whatever is in the present moment so we can clear our clouded minds and discern the situation with a much clearer understanding.Β πŸ§˜β€β™‚οΈ

So the next time you become aware of your emotions controlling you, take back the reins, identify the emotions that are arising, and accept them UNCONDITIONALLY. Yes, even acceptance of the “negative” emotions too!Β πŸ’―

Add in some deep breaths, and you’ll be surprised how much faster they’ll pass with acceptance.Β πŸ˜„

“Now…where was I?”Β πŸ’‘

Why Not EVERY Voice in Your Head Matters!

“How could I be so stupid?!” 😫

“Why do I keep making the same mistake?!” 😫

“Why can’t I do anything right?!” 😩

These are things I use to say to myself!Β πŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈ

Did you know we are our harshest self critics? There’s no one out there that can criticize and cause us as much mental stress as the critic within our minds! 🧠

Why does this voice exist?!

πŸ“Β It is the echoes of other people’s opinions about you. You believe these opinions, no matter how empty they are, have some element of truth to them.

πŸ“Β It is when the expectations you hold for yourself are not met. Your survival brain doesn’t like change/uncertainty.

But here’s the #1 thing I want you to remember: IT’S JUST A VOICE!Β πŸ—£οΈ

🌟 You don’t have to identify with every voice that pops into your head. 🌟

Throughout the day you’re going to have many voices come into your mind. But the best part is you don’t have to embrace every voice as fact. 😁

If there’s anything meditation taught me, the mind is like the weather: it’s always changing from one condition to the next.Β πŸ§˜β€β™‚οΈ

🧠 Allow the Voice of the Critic to speak in your mind. Accept the criticism unconditionally (be indifferent). And pretty soon you will hear less and less of the Voice. 🧠

In other words, there’s plenty more voices in your mind worth holding on to. Just not this one! ❀️

Why “How” Matters MORE Than “What”!

The words I’m saying to you now are the words I wish my younger self would’ve been told.Β πŸ—£οΈ

Sure, he was told at times to stop caring about what other people thought. He was told at times to stop people pleasing.Β πŸ›‘

But he didn’t know how…😫

πŸ—£οΈΒ “What do you mean ‘how’? You just do it, Donald! Simple as that!”Β πŸ—£οΈ

I understand your perspective, and if it works for you I’m very happy it does. That’s great! But I’ll share with you another perspective I’ve also learned.Β πŸ“–

Sometimes what people need the most is NOT hearing the solutions. In fact, these people have often heard the solutions MULTIPLE times! 😲

No, what they actually need is a compass to navigate themselves, their emotions and their intellect, towards the solutions. 🧭

In other words, they don’t need the answers to the “What?” They need the answers to the “How?”Β πŸ™Œ

In other words, telling someone to stop caring what others think is far easier said than done. The problem is you’re telling someone What to do, not How to do it.Β πŸ‘

You can tell a person all you want to fish. But if they’ve never been taught how to fish, how do you expect them to know?Β πŸ€”

🌟 You can’t expect someone to know what they don’t know. 🌟

I wish I could’ve told my younger self the Hows of messages like the one above. I wish I could’ve shared with him this How, that inner happiness and fulfillment matters more than other people’s opinion of him.Β πŸ’¬

I’ll leave you with one statement, however blunt, that reminds me how silly it is to worry so much about what others think. Much love! ❀️

🀯 If you worry what other people think, you’re letting someone else’s imagination control your reality. 🀯

Why Your Mind is a GARDEN!

Have you ever found yourself focusing on a situation that was NOT making you happy? πŸ€”

One negative thought after another, you started to feel more and more crappy. 😑

But you didn’t think of changing the thoughts in your mind. 😲

There’s a reason Jim Rohn said: “Every day, stand guard at the door of your mind.” πŸ’¬

Your mind is like a garden. Whatever seeds you plant they will expand in your daily thoughts. 🎍

What seeds are you planting regularly? Seeds of Problems? Seeds of Solutions? Seeds of Gratitude? Seeds of Anger? 🌱

The problem is when we think we aren’t in control of our minds. We are, just not in the way we might think. 😲

What’s out of our control is the thoughts that cross our minds. No doubt. But what’s in our control is our choice to attach and respond to these thoughts.Β You start to realize this when you do practices like meditation. You are more in control that you think. πŸ§˜β€β™‚οΈ

🌟 Control your mind or your mind controls you. 🌟

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