Why It Is HARD To Change!

๐Ÿ˜กย “WHY CAN’T I CHANGE?!”ย ๐Ÿ˜ก

Have you ever wanted to make a big change in your life? Say for example you wanted to lose a significant amount of weight.ย ๐Ÿ‘Š

But simultaneously there was a part of you that didn’t want to change, didn’t want to take the actions required to make the change. Can you relate?ย ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

“BUT WHY?!”

I can give you one big reason!ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

But before I do, the first thing we need to remember is we are creatures of habit. From the words we say to the mannerisms we use to the kinds of foods we eat, habits shape our lives for better or for worse.ย โ†•๏ธ

We are also creatures of emotion. We are driven to do things because of how they make us feel, make us feel pain or feel pleasure.ย โ†”๏ธ

But it’s important we remember that we associate different meanings to different things.ย ๐Ÿคจ

One person going to the gym sees it as a “chore”. Another sees it as a “necessity”. One person eating fast food sees it as a “indulgence”. Another sees it as “unhealthy”. It’s all about perspective!ย ๐Ÿ‘€

So why is it so hard to change our habits? I’ll give you one big reason!ย โš ๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸย We associate more pleasure to keeping our old habits than to building a new one.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

It’s why I didn’t lose weight for such a long time! I desired to be thin, and I desired to be fit. But in my mind, the pleasure of eating fast food and soda every day outweighed any desire to go to the gym!ย ๐Ÿ˜”

Most importantly: building a new habit takes TIME! I cannot emphasize that enough, because it’s one of the biggest reasons people “fall back” to old habits.ย โ†ฉ๏ธ

I’ve had to catch myself at times too!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

So I don’t blame you if you say it’s not easy to change. It isn’t! Think of it like this…๐Ÿค”

If you’re going to build a new habit, it will be among old habits you’ve possessed for years, perhaps even decades, that you will be competing against! ๐Ÿ˜…

Don’t be too hard on yourself! You got this!ย โค๏ธ

The Most VALUABLE Skill to Build! (PERSONAL)

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

It was April. I had all my flights booked for my trip to Scotland. I was all set! ๐Ÿด๓ ง๓ ข๓ ณ๓ ฃ๓ ด๓ ฟ

I got to the Chicago Oโ€™Hare airport. Check! I checked in and boarded my flight. Check! I landed in London. Check! No sweat! ๐Ÿ˜…

Next it was time for for my flight to Scotland! I went to the airport check-in kiosk and typed in my ticket confirmation number. โŒจ๏ธ

โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ

Weird! I tried again. โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ It told me to go to the Customer Service desk for further assistance.

I was baffled! I looked at my plane ticket and then at my phone. I was definitely on time to catch the flight. What was going on?! โ‰๏ธ

I then checked the date on the ticket and at my phoneโ€ฆOH NO! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

MY FLIGHT LEFT 24 HOURS AGO!!! I HAD BOOKED A FLIGHT FOR THE WRONG DAY!!! โŒ›

โ€œ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’‡๐’Š๐’“๐’”๐’• ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’•๐’”, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’Ž๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’… ๐’Š๐’• ๐’–๐’‘! ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’˜๐’‰๐’๐’๐’† ๐’”๐’„๐’‰๐’†๐’…๐’–๐’๐’†!โ€ ๐Ÿคฌ

My body tensed. My breathing went shallow. My face squinted. What nowโ€ฆ?! ๐Ÿ˜“

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

If I had to tell you the #1 skill that has made the greatest impact on my life, it would be the one Iโ€™m about to share with you all. ๐Ÿ™Œ

This skill has everything to do with whatโ€™s shaped me into the person I am today. It has everything to do with how I gained control over my life. This skill I’d even argue is the most humanistic skill I can share to anyone! โค๏ธ

What am I talking about? Do you really want to know? I ask because honestly quite a few people won’t want to know. Why? Because they’ve heard about this skill before and dismissed it in the past. ๐Ÿงน

Because I’m talking about: Personal Responsibility. That’s right! If I had to tell you the #1 skill you should develop for your life, it is THIS! ๐ŸŽฏ

That being said, what is Personal Responsibility? ๐Ÿ“–

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ, ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

And I can already hear the critics of personal responsibility shouting from the rooftops! โœŠ

โ€œ๐–๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐จ๐ซ๐ง: ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐œ๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฌ! ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ก๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž! ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ-๐›๐ฅ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ !โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐š๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ ๐จ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ!โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

To clarify, personal responsibility is NOT about carrying the weight of the entire world on your shoulders. I donโ€™t expect anyone to do that, not even myself! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Bad things happen to good people, no doubt. There is injustice and corruption in the world, yes Iโ€™m with you on that too! ๐Ÿ‘

But thatโ€™s not what this skill is about.

Personal responsibility is about taking the reins on our lives, being the Driver and not the Passenger of our circumstances.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, we are not responsible for things like where we are born. And personal responsibility says regardless of where we started in life that we work with the limited resources weโ€™ve been given.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, bad things happen to good people. And personal responsibility says in spite of the bad things we choose how we respond to them and still find ways to move forward.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, people and events outside our control may stop us from achievements in your life. And personal responsibility says: โ€œThey will TRY, but they wonโ€™t stop me from reaching my destination!โ€

It’s NOT about being 100% responsible for everything and everyone. It’s about being 100% responsible for how you experience your life, that it’s never to be by accident, that you always take a conscious role in creating it.

In developing personal responsibility, you give yourself the gift of self-love. “๐™‰๐™ค ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ’๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™Š๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™, ๐™„’๐™ข ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™–๐™ก๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™„๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™!”

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

โ€ฆWhat now?! I was standing at the the airport kiosk with my luggage in one hand, my phone in the other, and trying to think of what to do. ๐Ÿ˜“

My mind filled up with questions. ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’„๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’”๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’‘๐’Š๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐‘ฐโ€™๐’Ž ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’„๐’Œ ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’‚ ๐’๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐‘บ๐’„๐’๐’•๐’๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’„๐’†๐’๐’๐’†๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’‚ ๐’“๐’๐’๐’Ž? ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’„๐’‰ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’๐’†๐’š ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’…?

I closed my eyes and took a deep breathโ€ฆand Personal Responsibility crept back into my mind! ๐Ÿ”‰

“๐˜ฟ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ง๐™˜๐™ช๐™ข๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š๐™จ, ๐™„ ๐™–๐™ข ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ. ๐™๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™—๐™ก๐™š๐™ข๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ซ๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฎ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ. ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ž๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™›๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ. ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ข๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š, ๐™จ๐™ค ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™—๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ.” ๐Ÿ’ช

The kiosk had mentioned the Customer Service desk, so I went there. I spoke to the lady at the desk, I told her what happened, and I asked her what the most upcoming flights were to Scotland. โœˆ๏ธ

Sure enough, there was an available flight only a few hours later! The lady said there would be an additional fee to transfer the ticket. At first my body tensed up again, but Personal Responsibility once again took over! “๐™„๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™—๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ, ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™˜๐™๐™š๐™™๐™ช๐™ก๐™š.”

So in the end I got to Scotland only a couple hours later than my original schedule, and I got to meet my long-time MySpace friend Kris Nimbley for the first time! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

Take time to invite Personal Responsibility into your life. The more you keep inviting him, the quicker he comes back to help you take the reins!

Unfortunately I know this post may fall on deaf ears for some people. Some people in fact don’t want to take responsibility. Why? Because it takes work to practice. It takes time to develop. It’s an ongoing muscle that needs to continue being conditioned. ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Even more, personal responsibility requires a person to give up a habit they simply may not want to give up: blaming. We live in a culture that’s filled with blaming and pointing the finger. This behavior is reinforced by other fellow Blamers, and rather than any side take some sort of responsibility it becomes a Blaming Party. “๐‘ฐ๐’•’๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Š๐’“ ๐’‡๐’‚๐’–๐’๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† ๐‘ฐ ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’Š๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”!” โ˜๏ธ

I confess, I’ve not been entirely blameless myself. There are times I’ve slipped up and blamed where I shouldn’t have. I don’t expect you to be perfect either starting out. But with time and practice, it will improve! Compared to where I was a while ago, I’ve come a very long way!

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t lose 80 pounds because I kept blaming fast food for my obesity. It’s because I took responsibility over my food habits.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make peace with my sexuality because I kept blaming others for not accepting me. It’s because I took responsibility to develop self-love and acceptance within myself.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make the progress I have the past few years because I kept blaming others for where I was in life. It’s because I took responsibility for wherever I was and to always find solutions to keep moving forward.

๐ŸŒŸ Blame is the excuse for inaction. Personal responsibility is the excuse for action. ๐ŸŒŸ

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I hope you found this post helpful! Personal responsibility has been a gift to my life, and I hope it is for yours too! ๐ŸŽ

I am taking responsibility once again to run the NYC Marathon in November! It’s my FIRST marathon, and I’ve been training for over 10 weeks! I am dedicated to crossing that finish line! ๐Ÿ

I’m running with Team for Kids to raise funds for youth fitness programs nationwide! My goal is to raise $2,500, and I know we all can make this happen! Please share this post so others can be a part of impacting tomorrow’s adults! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Why Your Mind is a GARDEN!

Have you ever found yourself focusing on a situation that was NOT making you happy? ๐Ÿค”

One negative thought after another, you started to feel more and more crappy. ๐Ÿ˜ก

But you didn’t think of changing the thoughts in your mind. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

There’s a reason Jim Rohn said: “Every day, stand guard at the door of your mind.” ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Your mind is like a garden. Whatever seeds you plant they will expand in your daily thoughts. ๐ŸŽ

What seeds are you planting regularly? Seeds of Problems? Seeds of Solutions? Seeds of Gratitude? Seeds of Anger? ๐ŸŒฑ

The problem is when we think we aren’t in control of our minds. We are, just not in the way we might think. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

What’s out of our control is the thoughts that cross our minds. No doubt. But what’s in our control is our choice to attach and respond to these thoughts.ย You start to realize this when you do practices like meditation. You are more in control that you think. ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸ Control your mind or your mind controls you. ๐ŸŒŸ

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Why Being Offended is Your GIFT!

๐Ÿคฌย BE OFFENDED!ย ๐Ÿคฌ

If you’re offended, you know what: that’s absolutely FANTASTIC!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

I’m not kidding, being offended is AWESOME!ย ๐Ÿ‘

๐Ÿ—ฃย “Have you gone mad, Donald?!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

No, seriously! I want you to feel offended! BUT hear me out!ย ๐Ÿ‘‚

Why am I saying you should be offended?ย ๐Ÿคจ

Because when you feel offended, you now have the opportunity to ask yourself: “Why?”ย ๐Ÿค”

๐Ÿ“–ย “What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about the things.” ~ Epictetusย ๐Ÿ“–

Often times we are NOT aware of why we are offended. Often times we are not aware what judgments we are making about people, things, and situations in our lives. We just: be offended.ย ๐Ÿ˜”

๐ŸŒŸย The fact we don’t understand our emotions is the very reason we need to feel them, so we can understand what is going on beneath the surface.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Ask yourself: “Why?”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

๐Ÿ“ย Did someone say something that went against your beliefs?

๐Ÿ“ย Did a situation remind you of a past event where you also have felt hurt?

๐Ÿ“ย Did you feel powerless and your body simply went into defense mode?

I can’t answer those questions for you. But the better you can understand yourself and what offends you, the better you can handle those stressful responses in the future.

๐ŸŒŸย The answers to your “Why” are the reasons to your suffering.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

I’m not saying be offended for the sake of being offended. We’ve been missing the second step for far too long! I’m saying be offended…and let it be your gateway towards introspection, towards better understanding yourself and your sense of identity.ย ๐Ÿ‘ค

So please: Be offended…AND ask yourself “Why?” Just don’t forget the second step!ย โค๏ธย #TranscendLabels

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