Why EMBRACE Change!

Last year I was in Glasgow visiting the Kelvingrove Art Gallery and Museum. It was such a beautiful museum, I spent nearly 3 hours looking at EVERY nook and cranny! ๐Ÿ˜

If you ever want to be reminded of how VAST our world and its history is, take a trip sometime to a museum! ๐Ÿ–ผ๏ธ

At one point, I had entered the section with an ENTIRE wall dedicated to Charles Darwin and his Theory of Evolution! ๐Ÿฆท

Before Darwin, our world had a much MORE simplified explanation as to how our world’s inhabitants came to be. ๐Ÿ˜…

Contrary to popular belief at the time, Earth is in fact WAY MORE than 6000 years old! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Not only going against conventional understanding, Darwin changed the paradigm of BOTH the religious AND scientific beliefs of his time! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

He showed us there was a world FAR MORE complex than what was once thought, presenting ideas which later laid the foundation for MANY subjects we study today including Biology. ๐Ÿงซ

But why do I share this post with you? ๐Ÿค”

Because there was one KEEN observation Darwin noticed during his studies. Verbatim, I saw this written on the museum wall: โœ๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸ “๐ƒ๐š๐ซ๐ฐ๐ข๐ง ๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ง๐ž๐œ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐›๐ž๐š๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐œ๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž’๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐ž – ๐ข๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐œ๐จ๐ฉ๐ž ๐›๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž.” ๐ŸŒŸ

With COVID and everything happening in 2020, I find this quote stretches FAR BEYOND Darwin to our modern world today. Our world is constantly changing, perhaps too fast for many people’s comfort. โŒ›

But with this finding from Darwin, I challenge us to take on the this opportunity to continue adapting to whatever comes our way. Because we are greater than our circumstances! ๐Ÿ’ช

“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.” โค๏ธ

Why You Shouldn’t Argue With REALITY!

Remember: People don’t know…what they don’t know. โค๏ธ
You cannot expect a child who’s never learned math to understand algebra. ๐Ÿ”ข
You cannot expect a teenager who’s never learned personal responsibility to just do it. ๐Ÿ‘ค
You cannot expect an adult who’s never surrounded themselves with opposing viewpoints to have a nuanced view of the world. ๐ŸŒŽ
You think they “should know better”. But the fact is: they don’t. So why be upset over things 100% outside your control? ๐Ÿ˜“
My point is you don’t have to hold onto these expectations in your mind about how others “should” be acting. It’s causing you needless suffering. ๐Ÿ˜ซ
Accept things as they are, not how you feel they “should” be. See things as they are, not how you “wish” they would be. ๐Ÿ‘€
Allow yourself to let the “shoulds” go. ๐Ÿง˜

And instead, be kind. โค๏ธ
๐Ÿ“ทย #Flashbackย Dunure Castle, Scotland

Why “How” Matters MORE Than “What”!

The words I’m saying to you now are the words I wish my younger self would’ve been told.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Sure, he was told at times to stop caring about what other people thought. He was told at times to stop people pleasing.ย ๐Ÿ›‘

But he didn’t know how…๐Ÿ˜ซ

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธย “What do you mean ‘how’? You just do it, Donald! Simple as that!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

I understand your perspective, and if it works for you I’m very happy it does. That’s great! But I’ll share with you another perspective I’ve also learned.ย ๐Ÿ“–

Sometimes what people need the most is NOT hearing the solutions. In fact, these people have often heard the solutions MULTIPLE times!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

No, what they actually need is a compass to navigate themselves, their emotions and their intellect, towards the solutions.ย ๐Ÿงญ

In other words, they don’t need the answers to the “What?” They need the answers to the “How?”ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

In other words, telling someone to stop caring what others think is far easier said than done. The problem is you’re telling someone What to do, not How to do it.ย ๐Ÿ‘

You can tell a person all you want to fish. But if they’ve never been taught how to fish, how do you expect them to know?ย ๐Ÿค”

๐ŸŒŸย You can’t expect someone to know what they don’t know.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

I wish I could’ve told my younger self the Hows of messages like the one above. I wish I could’ve shared with him this How, that inner happiness and fulfillment matters more than other people’s opinion of him.ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

I’ll leave you with one statement, however blunt, that reminds me how silly it is to worry so much about what others think. Much love!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿคฏย If you worry what other people think, you’re letting someone else’s imagination control your reality.ย ๐Ÿคฏ

Why You Should EMBRACE a Growth Mindset!

For a long period of my life I embraced a Fixed Mindset:

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธย “I can’t change who I am.”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธย “I’m either good at it or I’m not.”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ”My future is already predetermined for me.”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ”It is what it is.”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

I use to tell myself I can’t help my Depression and Anxiety: it’s something I simply cannot change. It’s in my brain.

๐ŸŒŸย Once you’ve made up your mind about who you are, you stop looking for other possibilities.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why does the Fixed Mindset persist?

๐Ÿ“ย It lets us stay inside our comfort zones. It takes effort to change old beliefs. There’s the saying: “Old habits die hard.”

๐Ÿ“ย We live in environment which reinforce a Fixed Mindset. We are (indirectly) influenced by the things and people we surround ourselves with. Jim Rohn said: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” We conform whether we want to or not.

๐Ÿ“ย The seed of a Growth Mindset is not often planted enough in our minds to want to change. We see it more often in glimpses: a superhero movie, a character’s example in a book, a short news story about a one-of-a-kind occurrence. It’s always “far off in the distance”, not tangible enough for us to believe it could also be our own.

So how did I change? I’ll give you some nuggets!ย ๐Ÿ˜€

๐Ÿ‘ย I made an active and dedicated commitment to embrace a Growth Mindset, rather than a Fixed Mindset. I traded it in!

๐Ÿ‘ย I surrounded myself with others also embracing a Growth Mindset. The best part of it is we learn and grow from each other, not simply reaffirm each other.

๐Ÿ‘ย I saw every problem as an opportunity to grow, not as a sign I should stop going towards my destination. I saw every problem as a GOOD thing!

๐ŸŒŸย Decide that your past will not dictate your future.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

See life as a “journey” rather than a “chore”. For those struggling, I understand. There are times I’ve slipped up myself, and I still do!ย ๐Ÿ‘ย You’re not alone; it’s an ongoing process for all of us!ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

I’m rooting for your future success and your fulfillment! You got this!ย โค๏ธ#TranscendLabels



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