How We Can POSSESS Our Beliefs!

📌 The Optimist believes in the best for the future. Therefore their mind tends to focus on hope and faith.

📌 The Pessimist believes in the worst for the future. Therefore their mind tends to focus on what’s wrong with the world.

📌 The Realist believes in seeing things as they are, not better or worse. Therefore their mind tends to focus on the facts, not the stories about the facts.

📌 The Cynic believes in the selfishness of others. Therefore their mind tends to focus on distrusting other people’s “good” intentions, regardless of the truth.

What do all these categories have in common? They are all ways of looking at life. I’m not saying which is more “right” or “wrong”; they just are ways of seeing the world. And each outlook will produce a different experience of living. 🙌

🌟 Our outlook constantly colors and shapes how we perceive life. 🌟

Take an example of people who get in a car accident.

📌 The Optimist hopes the people in the accident are all okay.

📌 The Pessimist expects most, if not every person in the accident has died.

📌 The Realist measures the probability that each people in the accident will live or die.

📌 The Cynic assumes the people in the accident were intentionally careless or, perhaps, intentionally caused it to collect insurance money.

🌟 We don’t see life as it is. We see life as a reflection of our worldviews. 🌟

Carl Jung talked about how ideas can possess people, rather than people possessing ideas. And when a worldview possesses a person, the person is no longer in control. The worldview itself speaks through the person. 🗣️

Having beliefs and worldviews aren’t intrinsically bad. We all have them and need them to function. It’s when we lose our self-control at the expense of our beliefs and worldviews when they become a problem. 👍

So how can we check if our beliefs and worldviews possess us?

📍 Acknowledge most of our beliefs are not even our own. We’ve picked them up over time, had them conditioned into us by our environments, and embraced these subjective truths as our own.

📍 Challenge our beliefs. Question how they could in fact be wrong. Dare our egos to poke holes in them, as much as our egos don’t want to. Question our ego’s need to hold onto them.

📍 Seek other points of view that challenge our beliefs. It doesn’t mean you have to agree or support them. You can empathize with opposing beliefs and viewpoints and still disagree with them.

Why It Is HARD To Change!

😡 “WHY CAN’T I CHANGE?!” 😡

Have you ever wanted to make a big change in your life? Say for example you wanted to lose a significant amount of weight. 👊

But simultaneously there was a part of you that didn’t want to change, didn’t want to take the actions required to make the change. Can you relate? 🙋‍♂️

“BUT WHY?!”

I can give you one big reason! 🙌

But before I do, the first thing we need to remember is we are creatures of habit. From the words we say to the mannerisms we use to the kinds of foods we eat, habits shape our lives for better or for worse. ↕️

We are also creatures of emotion. We are driven to do things because of how they make us feel, make us feel pain or feel pleasure. ↔️

But it’s important we remember that we associate different meanings to different things. 🤨

One person going to the gym sees it as a “chore”. Another sees it as a “necessity”. One person eating fast food sees it as a “indulgence”. Another sees it as “unhealthy”. It’s all about perspective! 👀

So why is it so hard to change our habits? I’ll give you one big reason! ⚠️

🌟 We associate more pleasure to keeping our old habits than to building a new one. 🌟

It’s why I didn’t lose weight for such a long time! I desired to be thin, and I desired to be fit. But in my mind, the pleasure of eating fast food and soda every day outweighed any desire to go to the gym! 😔

Most importantly: building a new habit takes TIME! I cannot emphasize that enough, because it’s one of the biggest reasons people “fall back” to old habits. ↩️

I’ve had to catch myself at times too! 😅

So I don’t blame you if you say it’s not easy to change. It isn’t! Think of it like this…🤔

If you’re going to build a new habit, it will be among old habits you’ve possessed for years, perhaps even decades, that you will be competing against! 😅

Don’t be too hard on yourself! You got this! ❤️

Why the Sky is a REMINDER!

A couple days ago I was out on my morning run. As usual I woke up early, got my clothes on, put my earbuds in, and was off! 💨

But on this particular day I caught a glimpse of the morning sky, and I fell into a trance. Of course I had caught glimpses of the sky many times before, but today stood out. 👀

A thought crossed my mind: “When was the last time I actually looked up at the sky, I mean REALLY looked at the sky?” 🤔

Have you ever taken a moment to just pause…and simply appreciate what is all around us? 😊

🗣️ “It’s just a sky, Donald! It’s everywhere! It’s nothing special!” 🗣️

It’s not just about the sky.

🌎 It’s a reminder of the planet we all live on, the only planet human beings inhabit.

☁️ It’s a reminder of the clouds, how they are ever-changing each and every day.

☀️ It’s a reminder of the sun, that without its light our whole civilization would perish.

🌌 It’s a reminder of our universe, that we live on but a mere speck of what is estimated to have billions of other galaxies besides our own.

There are so many things we take for granted each day which grant us the very gift of life. 🎁

And THAT is what the sky reminded me of that day! 😊

So whenever you feel you have a big problem in your life, or you simply want to be reminded of a greater perspective, I encourage you: look up. Because it’s always available to us! ❤️

Why “How” Matters MORE Than “What”!

The words I’m saying to you now are the words I wish my younger self would’ve been told. 🗣️

Sure, he was told at times to stop caring about what other people thought. He was told at times to stop people pleasing. 🛑

But he didn’t know how…😫

🗣️ “What do you mean ‘how’? You just do it, Donald! Simple as that!” 🗣️

I understand your perspective, and if it works for you I’m very happy it does. That’s great! But I’ll share with you another perspective I’ve also learned. 📖

Sometimes what people need the most is NOT hearing the solutions. In fact, these people have often heard the solutions MULTIPLE times! 😲

No, what they actually need is a compass to navigate themselves, their emotions and their intellect, towards the solutions. 🧭

In other words, they don’t need the answers to the “What?” They need the answers to the “How?” 🙌

In other words, telling someone to stop caring what others think is far easier said than done. The problem is you’re telling someone What to do, not How to do it. 👍

You can tell a person all you want to fish. But if they’ve never been taught how to fish, how do you expect them to know? 🤔

🌟 You can’t expect someone to know what they don’t know. 🌟

I wish I could’ve told my younger self the Hows of messages like the one above. I wish I could’ve shared with him this How, that inner happiness and fulfillment matters more than other people’s opinion of him. 💬

I’ll leave you with one statement, however blunt, that reminds me how silly it is to worry so much about what others think. Much love! ❤️

🤯 If you worry what other people think, you’re letting someone else’s imagination control your reality. 🤯