How to Stop Arguing With REALITY!

Want to be less stressed? ๐Ÿ˜ต

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐‡๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ™Œ

Have less opinions about how the world “should” be.

Have less opinions about how others “should” act.

Have less opinions about how events “should” happen.

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ฎ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐€๐‹๐–๐€๐˜๐’ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž. ๐Ÿ™Œ

Give yourself permission, and stop “should”-ing all over yourself.

Give yourself permission, and accept things as they are.

Give yourself permission, and start being more loving to yourself.

โค๏ธ ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ก ๐ข๐ญ. โค๏ธ

Why Our HUMANITY Matters!

โค๏ธ ๐“๐‡๐„ ๐•๐€๐’๐“๐๐„๐’๐’ ๐ˆ๐’ ๐๐„๐€๐‘๐€๐๐‹๐„ ๐Ž๐๐‹๐˜ ๐“๐‡๐‘๐Ž๐”๐†๐‡ ๐‹๐Ž๐•๐„! โค๏ธ

I am someone who is gayโ€ฆI rarely talk about it. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚โ€

I am someone who is Hispanicโ€ฆI rarely talk about it. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚โ€

I am someone who is Liberalโ€ฆI rarely talk about it. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚โ€

I am someone who is Atheistโ€ฆI (especially) rarely talk about it. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚โ€

Why do I rarely talk about these things? ๐Ÿค”

Wellโ€ฆlet’s take a step back. ๐Ÿ‘ฃ

Say you were meeting me for the very first time, and the only information you were given about who I am were these labels: ๐Ÿ“œ

Male. Gay. Hispanic. Liberal. Atheist.

What kind of person comes to your mind that fits into each of these categories? ๐Ÿค”

What comes to your mind when you think of a โ€œGay Maleโ€? Flamboyant? Feminine? Limp wrists?

What comes to your mind when you think of an โ€œAtheist?โ€ Snobbish? Science-obsessed? Blasphemous?

Nowโ€ฆtake these labels and apply them back to me. And compare these labels to how you ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ know me as a person. ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Let me ask: do these labels easily fit into your general perception of me? ๐Ÿ˜…

Of Donald Arteaga? ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

If your answer is โ€œnoโ€โ€ฆTHAT is the reason why!

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ˆ ๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐œ๐ซ๐ข๐›๐ž ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ฌ ๐š ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ , ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ, ๐›๐ž๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ™Œ

Iโ€™d rather we all be judged, as Martin Luther King Jr. said, based upon the content of our character. ๐Ÿ‘ค

๐Ÿ‘ I donโ€™t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my sexual preference.

๐Ÿ‘ I donโ€™t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my race.

๐Ÿ‘ I donโ€™t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my political views.

๐Ÿ‘ I donโ€™t intend for you to judge me by virtue of my religious affiliation.

THIS is why I generally donโ€™t provide this information to people upfront. I want you to get to know ME first, minus the preconceptions. ๐Ÿ™‚

๐Ÿ‘€ ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ก๐š๐ฌ๐ข๐ณ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ˆ ๐š๐ฆ, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ˆ ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ‘€

The problem is these labels are only mere facets of who I am as a human being, just as I believe this to be the case for any other human being. ๐Ÿ’Ž

Iโ€™ve held this ideal ever since I started my mission to Transcend Labels in 2018. โณ

The ideal has always been for me to show through my example that people donโ€™t have to be entrenched in their labels. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

The ideal has always been for me to show that my diagnosis of Autism is just a temporary explanation and not a final destination. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

The ideal has always been for me to show how limiting labels are as frameworks for understanding ourselves and other people. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

Consider the facts:

๐Ÿ™Œ No one on this planet is 100% exactly the same.

๐Ÿ™Œ No one thinks 100% exactly the same way.

๐Ÿ™Œ No one has lived 100% exactly the same life as another person.

๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐จ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ .

๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐š ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ง๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐๐จ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฑ, ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ช๐ฎ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฎ๐ฌ.

๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐ข๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐š ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ง๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐›๐ž ๐š ๐๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ง๐ž’๐ฌ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ.

As Ayishat Akanbi put it: “๐‘ป๐’‰๐’† ๐’‡๐’Š๐’™๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Š๐’…๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’๐’Š๐’Ž๐’Š๐’•๐’” ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Š๐’…๐’†๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’•๐’š.” The obsession with one’s labels become a self-fulfilling prophecy which leaves no room for change, let alone the possibility for personal growth. ๐Ÿ™Œ

For me, my mission to Transcend Labels is a life-affirming philosophy that says we are more than our pasts, more than our circumstances, and that we are capable of becoming more than the people we were yesterday. โœŠ

Perhaps as you read this, this sounds like common sense to you! ๐Ÿ˜…

Butโ€ฆthings seemed to have changed. ๐Ÿง

Not with my mission; it remains the same. But Iโ€™m talking about within our society. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

More and more I continue reading about a growing ideology that:

๐Ÿ˜ฑ Encourages people to see each other ONLY for their labels, not for their individuality.

๐Ÿ˜ฑ Encourages people to see each other ONLY for their group identities, not for their common humanity.

๐Ÿ˜ฑ Encourages people to see each other ONLY in binary camps of either being Oppressors or being Oppressed.

๐Ÿ˜ฑ Encourages people to indulge in cognitive biases like mindreading, overgeneralizing, and black-and-white thinking.

This smorgasbord of an ideology has come to be more popularly known as: โ€œbeing wokeโ€.

(๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ข ๐˜™๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ž๐˜ฐ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฐ๐˜จ๐˜บ, ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ โ€œ๐˜Š๐˜บ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ด: ๐˜๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ˆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜š๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฑ ๐˜”๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ ๐˜Œ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ˆ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜™๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฆ, ๐˜Ž๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บโ€ ๐˜ฃ๐˜บ ๐˜‘๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜“๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ & ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜—๐˜ญ๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ.)

Simply putโ€ฆthe very ideals Iโ€™ve stood for the past few years are in direct opposition to this ideology. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚โ€

So perhaps you can understand why a part of me is fascinated at how this ideology has reached such a wide audience, especially among the political Left, with little Critical (pun intended) examination. ๐Ÿ˜…

Perhaps you can understand my fascination reading about this ideology that argues the very ideals I stand for, the message Iโ€™ve promoted for years, can now be entirely summarized under labels such as โ€œwhite supremacyโ€, “privilege”, โ€œracistโ€, โ€œmicroaggressionโ€, and โ€œoffensiveโ€. ๐Ÿคจ

โค๏ธ But I get it. โค๏ธ

I understand in these current times A LOT of us are stressed out and worried. I understand itโ€™s hard for anyone to think clearly, let alone rationally, when our minds are shrouded in weeds. ๐Ÿ˜–

๐ˆ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค ๐ข๐ง ๐ง๐ฎ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž๐, ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฑ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐ง๐š๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐ซ๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐œ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ.

If I were to combine every negative event which has happened the past year, I can’t blame someone for not feeling comfortable with all this Uncertainty. ๐Ÿ˜จ

As I saw 1 tweet put it: โ€œ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐š๐ญ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ฅ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐๐๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐œ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฒ.โ€ โค๏ธ

So yes, I definitely understand that lots of people at this time will be desperate to find something which helps them get back to Certainty, back to some sense of clarity and normalcy, back to some sense of renewed purpose and meaningโ€ฆeven if that means embracing an over-simplistic, fringe ideology like this one. ๐Ÿ™Œ

And THIS is one of the main reasons why Iโ€™ve not spoken up about this topic personally. ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐š ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ฅ๐โ€™๐ฌ ๐›๐ฅ๐š๐ง๐ค๐ž๐ญ ๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ก๐ข๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ก๐žโ€™๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ข๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ž๐š๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž. ๐Ÿ˜ญ

At the moment, the child needs something, anything to stay calm and feel safe. ๐Ÿ›ก

Donโ€™t get me wrong, there are 100% real problems in our society that still need to be solved. I’m not here to pretend like everything is all fine and dandy. It’s not.

But weโ€™re not going to solve them when weโ€™re making the incorrect diagnoses, which in turn provide the wrong solutions. ๐Ÿ‘Ž

๐–๐žโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฑ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐ž๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ-๐ฌ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐œ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐œ๐ก ๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ. ๐Ÿ‘Ž

But that part of the discussion will be saved for another postโ€ฆ

My point is: THIS is not the way forward. โŒ

๐Ÿคฌ โ€œ๐‘พ๐‘ฌ๐‘ณ๐‘ณ ๐‘ด๐‘น. ๐‘ฏ๐‘ฐ๐‘ฎ๐‘ฏ-๐‘จ๐‘ต๐‘ซ-๐‘ด๐‘ฐ๐‘ฎ๐‘ฏ๐‘ป๐’€ ๐‘ซ๐‘ถ๐‘ต๐‘จ๐‘ณ๐‘ซ, ๐‘ฎ๐‘ถ๐‘ป ๐‘จ๐‘ต๐’€ ๐‘ฉ๐‘ฌ๐‘ป๐‘ป๐‘ฌ๐‘น ๐‘ฐ๐‘ซ๐‘ฌ๐‘จ๐‘บ?!โ€ ๐Ÿคฌ

I believe I do! And it goes right back to what I was talking about earlier. ๐Ÿ˜Š

๐Ÿ™Œ We move forward by focusing on our common humanity.

๐Ÿ™Œ We move forward by focusing on what we have in common.

๐Ÿ™Œ We move forward by NOT assuming malicious intent of those who disagree with us.

๐Ÿ™Œ We move forward by focusing on understanding and less on labeling.

๐–๐ž ๐ƒ๐ˆ๐…๐…๐”๐’๐„ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ซ๐ฒ ๐›๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.

๐–๐ž ๐“๐‘๐€๐๐’๐‚๐„๐๐ƒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐›๐ข๐š๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฃ๐ฎ๐๐ข๐œ๐ž๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ซ๐ซ๐ฒ ๐›๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.

๐–๐ž ๐€๐‚๐Š๐๐Ž๐–๐‹๐„๐ƒ๐†๐„ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐œ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐žโ€ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐‚๐‡๐Ž๐Ž๐’๐„ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ข๐Ÿ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.

For every time we do this, weโ€™ll remind our survival brain whoโ€™s in charge of how we connect with others. ๐Ÿง 

Weโ€™ll remind our survival brain how naรฏve the caricatures we create in our minds about mass groups of people are. ๐Ÿง 

๐ˆ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ž ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐ž๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ง๐ž๐ ๐ฅ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฎ๐ฌ. ๐‘๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ž’๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ž.

Because whatโ€™s the alternative?

๐Ÿ‘Ž A society which is OBSESSED with focusing on what makes us separate from each other.

๐Ÿ‘Ž A society which DISCRIMINATES people based primarily upon their labels.

๐Ÿ‘Ž A society which attempts to solve the problem of prejudiceโ€ฆwith EVEN MORE PREJUDICE.

That doesnโ€™t sound like a desirable outcome, does it? Sounds a bit backwards, right? It’s honestly quite IL-liberal! ๐Ÿ˜…

Butโ€ฆthankfully we donโ€™t have to go down that route! We don’t have to become “woke”! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

I challenge you to come with me and take the road less traveled. Itโ€™s important to remember that just because something is popular in the moment doesnโ€™t automatically mean itโ€™s right. ๐Ÿ‘

I challenge you to come with me and use what might be considered a more โ€œradicalโ€ approach these days to connecting with others:

๐“๐จ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ. ๐“๐จ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ, ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ข๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค. ๐“๐จ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐œ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐œ๐ข๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐œ๐š๐ญ๐ž. ๐“๐จ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ก๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ž. ๐“๐จ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ.

But if all this sounds too overwhelming, how about just this…?

๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐š ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ . ๐€๐ง๐ ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐š ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ . ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

๐‹๐ž๐ญโ€™๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ซ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž. ๐Ÿ™‚

๐๐จ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž. ๐€๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ. โค๏ธ

Why Misinformation SPREADS!

๐Ÿคฏ ๐–๐‡๐˜ ๐Œ๐ˆ๐’๐ˆ๐๐…๐Ž๐‘๐Œ๐€๐“๐ˆ๐Ž๐ ๐’๐๐‘๐„๐€๐ƒ๐’!!! ๐Ÿคฏ

Ever played the game Telephone? ๐Ÿ“ž

Itโ€™s where you have group of people get in a straight line, and they stand next to each other. ——->

On one end of the line, Person 1 whispers a message to Person 2 next to them. Person 2 then is supposed to whisper the exact same message to Person 3 also next to them, and this continues on and on until they reach the last person at the end of the line. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

The goal of the game is to transfer the message Person 1 whispered as accurate as possible to the last person in line. โžก๏ธ

Of course, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ! ๐Ÿ˜…

Itโ€™s a fun game to play if you ever get the chance! ๐ŸŽฒ

But, I also think this game is a great analogy when it comes to the public spread of misinformation online. ๐Ÿค”

Consider this scenarioโ€ฆโฌ‡๏ธ

SCENARIO: ๐˜ผ ๐˜พ๐˜ฟ๐˜พ ๐™ค๐™›๐™›๐™ž๐™˜๐™ž๐™–๐™ก ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ซ๐™ž๐™™๐™š๐™จ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ช๐™—๐™ก๐™ž๐™˜. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

1. Person 1 cherry picks the CDCโ€™s statement and passes the information to Person 2. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

2. Person 2 does not trust the CDC. He only remembers what Person 1 said that confirmed his biases against the CDC and passes the remaining information onto Person 3. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

3. Person 3 has a blog. He carries an anti-establishment worldview, so he posts what Person 2 says word-for-word. He then tacks on his own personal opinion to Person 2โ€™s words and tells his reader to share his post on their social media pages. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

4. Thousands of people share Person 3โ€™s blog post on their social media pages, in addition to also adding their own personal opinion attached to the posts.

5. Friends of these thousands of people then in turn share their posts on their own social media profiles, adding in even more personal opinions. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

๐—•๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—–๐——๐—–’๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐˜†-๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, ๐—บ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฏ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž.

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐‚๐ƒ๐‚โ€™๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ. ๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ซ ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐š ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ซ๐š ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐จ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐๐ž๐จ๐ฅ๐จ๐ ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ.

๐–๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐š๐ค๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ญ ๐›๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐š๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐‚๐ƒ๐‚โ€™๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

โ€ฆSee how this can become a BIG problem, especially during a pandemic? ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

For those of my friends who consider themselves conscious consumers:

๐Ÿ“Œ For those who take concern over the foods they eat and the impact it has on the environment.

๐Ÿ“Œ For those who take concern over the media they consume and the impact it has on their mental health.

๐Ÿ“Œ For those who take concern over the consequences their actions can have on others.

๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐š๐ฌ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ข๐ญ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž. ๐Ÿ™Œ

It’s very easy for any of us not to consider the consequences of sharing misinformation, especially when we aren’t even aware we’re doing it. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

Itโ€™s very easy for any of us not to consider the long-term effects this has on a democracy’s basic understanding of epistemic facts, on social media platforms where a majority of individuals receive their news! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

Yes! A 2016 study from Pew Research Center accounted that 62% of adults get their news from social media (Source: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6424427/).

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฌ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐œ๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐ก๐จ๐œ๐ค ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง? ๐Ÿ˜“

We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe the moon landing never happened. We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe vaccines don’t save lives. We start to grow the amount of individuals who believe Bill Gates is the devil incarnate bent on a New World Order. ๐Ÿ‘ฟ

I would hope most of my social media friends know that 2 + 2 = 4. But with the online game of Telephone, I would not be surprised to see some individuals who start to believe that 2 + 2 = 5 just because they watched 1 persuasive video they saw on YouTube. ๐Ÿ˜ข

Consider this: ๐€๐ง๐ฒ ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐จ ๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐š ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ-๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž, ๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐š๐ฅ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž’๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐Ÿ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง (โ€œ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐€๐‘๐„ ๐๐„๐ˆ๐๐† ๐‹๐ˆ๐„๐ƒ ๐“๐Ž! ๐Ÿ + ๐Ÿ ๐„๐๐”๐€๐‹๐’ ๐Ÿ“!โ€), ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐š๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ž๐๐ข๐š ๐ฉ๐š๐ ๐ž๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž๐ฌ ๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ข๐š๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐ฒ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐๐ฏ๐ข๐ž๐ฐ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ‘€

๐“๐ก๐š๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐Ÿ๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

But I’m not writing this post to add any additional fearmongering. Perhaps I am too over-concerned. Perhaps I am also underestimating the intelligence of the majority of individuals who use social media. Perhaps my own confirmation bias is seeing these minor instances of ignorance and jumping to conclusions that it’s a bigger problem than it actually is! ๐Ÿ˜…

Nevertheless, when I see people I know and care about share information that only requires a basic understanding of Science, Chemistry, and Statistics to know it’s false, I’m aware the red flag in my mind starts blowing in the wind. ๐Ÿšฉ

I admit it: a part of me does fear a future society where a significant portion of the world’s population cannot share a mutually agreed upon fact as simple as 2 + 2 = 4. ๐Ÿ”ข

๐Ÿคฌ “WOW DONALD! WAY TO CRITICIZE YOUR FRIENDS!” ๐Ÿคฌ

No, that’s not my intention! Iโ€™m not here claiming the spread of misinformation by my friends is at all being done intentionally or maliciously. โŒ

As author Sam Harris says: “๐Ž๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ๐ง’๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐›๐š๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐›๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ. ๐ˆ๐ญ’๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐›๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐›๐š๐ ๐ข๐๐ž๐š๐ฌ.” ๐Ÿ‘ค

Or we can also use the phrase: “๐๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ.” ๐Ÿ‘ค

That’s why I wanted to write this post, to merely illuminate this potential blind spot. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Like the game of Telephone, misinformation is inevitably going to spread, whether we intend it to or not. This caution need also be applied to me as well! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

But my point is we CAN be more careful about how fast it spreads. ๐Ÿ˜Š

I get it. No one was given a How-To handbook to discern accurate and factual information online. Not even me; I had to learn these skills on my own! ๐Ÿ˜…

Back in school I was given a syllabus for my classes by the teacher. I was told what textbooks I needed to use. I was told what chapters I needed to read and study on. ๐Ÿ”Ž

Before the internet, we had a very limited amount of TV channels we could choose to get our information from. And if we wanted to further expand our knowledge, we’d have to get in our cars and drive to the nearest library. ๐Ÿ“š

But now with the Internet…we have MILLIONS of pieces of information available to us at the click of a button! ๐Ÿ–ฑ๏ธ

And EVEN MORE information is continuing to be created right as you read this post! This post you’re reading here IS just a speck of it! ๐Ÿ‘

My point is, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐œ๐ก ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฅ๐š๐ข๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฃ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฏ๐ž๐ญ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐ญ ๐š๐œ๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ก๐š๐ฌ ๐›๐ž๐ž๐ง ๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฐ๐š๐ซ๐๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ž๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐ซ๐š๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐ฌ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ž๐ฉ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ข๐œ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐š๐ฌ ๐š ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐ซ ๐š ๐ฃ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ. โœ๏ธ

So while social media provided many benefits, it also came with this unforeseen baggage. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐›๐ฅ๐ž๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง’๐ฌ ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐š๐ฅ ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐ง๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ฌ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž.

Someone online can proclaim the fact of 2 + 2 = 4 as something to be “debated” when there is no debate. As long you know how to market yourself, build an online audience, and influence others you can sell snake oil and people will buy it. ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™‚๏ธ

๐Ÿ˜“ โ€œDONALD, YOUโ€™RE DEPRESSING ME WITH THIS!โ€ ๐Ÿ˜“

BUT…there is a bright side to all this! ๐ŸŒž

๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ž๐๐ข๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž (๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ) ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐›๐š๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง! ๐Ÿฅณ

Companies like Facebook continue to work with third-party fact checking companies to combat this growing problem. (Source: https://www.facebook.com/journalismproject/programs/third-party-fact-checking)๐Ÿ‘

The very idea of “Fact-Checking” has now become a thing among organizations! (Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fact-checking_websites) ๐Ÿ˜„

๐’๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ž๐๐ข๐š ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ง๐ข๐ž๐ฌ ๐ ๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐š ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ ๐ง๐ข๐œ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐š๐ฒ๐ ๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ฌ, ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐š๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐๐ž๐ ๐š ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ. ๐Ÿ‘ฎโ€โ™‚๏ธ

That said, should we really have to depend on social media companies to supervise us? Can we do better than this, to be more responsible, self-governing citizens? ๐Ÿ‘ค

Perhaps I’m a bit too optimistic, but I believe we can! ๐Ÿ˜„

๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—น๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ. This goes for me too! ๐ŸŽฏ

๐Ÿฑ ๐—ค๐—จ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—œ๐—ข๐—ก๐—ฆ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—”๐—ฆ๐—ž ๐—ฉ๐—œ๐—˜๐—ช๐—œ๐—ก๐—š ๐—œ๐—ก๐—™๐—ข๐—ฅ๐— ๐—”๐—ง๐—œ๐—ข๐—ก ๐—ข๐—ก๐—Ÿ๐—œ๐—ก๐—˜!

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜– ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ช๐˜ต? ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ?

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜ˆ๐˜› ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฌ๐˜ด ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ?

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜Œ๐˜• ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฑ๐˜ถ๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ?

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜Œ๐˜™๐˜Œ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง๐˜ง๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ?

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐˜ž๐˜๐˜  ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜บ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ช๐˜ต? ๐˜๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ?

๐—•๐—ข๐—ก๐—จ๐—ฆ ๐—ค๐—จ๐—˜๐—ฆ๐—ง๐—œ๐—ข๐—ก: ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ ๐˜™๐˜Œ๐˜ˆ๐˜“๐˜“๐˜  ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ต? ๐˜–๐˜ณ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ž๐˜ˆ๐˜•๐˜› ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ต?

๐…๐š๐œ๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ. As a functioning democracy, as a basic understanding of objective truth, it matters that we all can agree that 2 + 2 = 4. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

The bigger question is: will you join me in being a part of that solution? โค๏ธ

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FOR MORE INFORMATION, WATCH THE NETFLIX DOCUMENTARY “THE SOCIAL DILEMMA” ๐Ÿ“ผ: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224

How We BECOME Civil!

๐Ÿ™Œ I’M A SPIRITUAL PERSON…AND A SCIENTIFIC PERSON! ๐Ÿ™Œ

It doesnโ€™t have to be one OR the other; it can be one AND the other. โ†”๏ธ

I donโ€™t expect my spiritual friends to understand the complexities of science and the search for objective truth. ๐Ÿงฌ

But nor do I expect my scientific friends to understand the usefulness of stories and metaphorical truths to help someone live a better quality of life. โค๏ธ

The problem I see happening is when each side assumes malicious intent of the other. Each side assumes they are searching for the same definition of โ€œtruthโ€. ๐Ÿ‘

๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง ๐›๐จ๐ญ๐ก ๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ข๐ง, ๐ˆ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ง’๐ญ. ๐Ÿ‘Ž

They both have very different epistemologies and methodologies for how they seek โ€œtruthโ€. ๐Ÿ˜…

โ†”๏ธ Science is focused on precision; spirituality is very broad.

โ†”๏ธ Science uses quantitative measurement; spirituality embraces the abstract.

โ†”๏ธ Science is focused on objectivity; spirituality is focused on subjectivity.

Unfortunately, each sideโ€™s misunderstandings of each other puts them both at odds. This miscommunication has both sides end up talking over each other. ๐Ÿ”€

It’s why it’s so easy for each side to label the other side as the “villain”. ๐Ÿ‘ฟ

Problems arise:

๐Ÿ“Œ When the spiritual individual misunderstands science and cites studies for which a scientist could easily deduct to be โ€œjunkโ€ or โ€œpseudoscienceโ€.

๐Ÿ“Œ When the scientific individual misunderstands spirituality and thinks the ideas that are taught are useless because they canโ€™t be measured quantitatively.

๐Ÿ“Œ When the spiritual individual labels scientists and the breakthroughs they discover as โ€œsatanicโ€ and โ€œunnaturalโ€.

๐Ÿ“Œ When the scientific individual labels spirituality and the rituals within these communities as โ€œdelusionalโ€ and โ€œwoo wooโ€.

In other words, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฌ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐๐Ž๐“ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐š๐ฆ๐ž. ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ž, ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก.

๐–๐ž ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ž๐ฅ๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ง๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐‹๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž.

Let me add: Iโ€™m NOT saying I treat these fields as having equal usefulness. Iโ€™m NOT taking the middle ground here and saying both sides are 50-50. I strongly disagree with that stance. โŒ

I have my own personal views and stances towards each field, but thatโ€™s not what this post is about.

My point with writing this post is the same point Iโ€™ve made in so many of my other posts: ๐’…๐’ ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’“๐’๐’˜ ๐’๐’–๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’š ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’•๐’‰๐’˜๐’‚๐’•๐’†๐’“. ๐Ÿ‘ถ

Am I saying a scientist or spiritual teacher cannot question authority figures or experts outside their dedicated fields? Of course not! Thatโ€™s how we learn and understand from the experts in their fields. It’s important we ask questions! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

Hell, I’m not an “expert” in either field and I’m still writing this post! ๐Ÿ˜œ

But what I am advocating for is an open communication between the fields, to bring the best of both worlds to the table while at the same time understanding and respecting where the fields are going to irreconcilably differ.

โš ๏ธ BUT THIS ISN’T LIMITED TO SCIENCE AND SPIRITUALITY! โš ๏ธ

This can also be applied to the political sphere, when it comes to Democrats and Republicans, “the Left” and “the Right”.

Van Jones argued in his recent book โ€œBeyond the Messy Truthโ€ one of the biggest problems facing our modern politics is that political parties are no longer uniting under the ideals of Conservatism or Liberalism, to bring out the best of their parties. Instead, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ž๐ซ ๐š ๐ฌ๐ก๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ข-๐“๐ก๐ž ๐Ž๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ฒ. ๐Ÿคฌ

Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt provided a similar argument in his book โ€œThe Coddling of the American Mindโ€ but in the context of college campuses. He cites instances where college students have forcibly interrupted and shouted down guest speakers they personally deemed โ€œoffensiveโ€. ๐Ÿคฌ

In one instance, a college professor disagreed with students about one of their social causes. Literally, student protesters surrounded him, screamed at him when he asked for a civil discussion, and demanded he resign from the university.

To put it simply:

๐ŸŒŸ ๐™‹๐™ค๐™ก๐™–๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฏ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™—๐™š๐™ฉ๐™ฌ๐™š๐™š๐™ฃ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š๐™™. ๐™๐™ง๐™ž๐™—๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™จ๐™ข ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š๐™™. ๐˜พ๐™ฎ๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™˜๐™ž๐™จ๐™ข ๐™๐™–๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™š๐™™. ๐™๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š’๐™จ ๐™– ๐™œ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ก๐™ก๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ข๐™ฅ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ค ๐™™๐™ž๐™จ๐™–๐™œ๐™ง๐™š๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™ช๐™จ, ๐™—๐™ฎ ๐™™๐™š๐™›๐™–๐™ช๐™ก๐™ฉ, ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ข๐™–๐™ก๐™ž๐™˜๐™ž๐™ค๐™ช๐™จ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ.

๐˜ผ๐™ง๐™œ๐™ช๐™ข๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™š ๐™ก๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™š๐™–๐™ง๐™˜๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™™ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฃ. ๐™๐™๐™š๐™ฎ’๐™ซ๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™˜๐™ค๐™ข๐™š ๐™ก๐™š๐™จ๐™จ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ช๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™›๐™–๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™จ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™™ ๐™–๐™—๐™ค๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™™๐™ค๐™ข๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™š๐™ข๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ก ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ข๐™ž๐™™๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ. ๐ŸŒŸ

And I wonโ€™t pretend Iโ€™m immune from falling into these mindsets either! ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Iโ€™m not here to claim moral superiority with this post. Just like anyone else, I need to remind myself not to fall into these traps at times too! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

Itโ€™s why I donโ€™t blame you if you fall into them either. ๐Ÿ‘

๐Ÿ™Œ BUT…IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY! ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐™„โ€™๐™ข ๐™˜๐™๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™š๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™จ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ž๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™™๐™ค๐™ฃ’๐™ฉ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™จ๐™š๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š ๐™š๐™ก๐™จ๐™š ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง “๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ข๐™ฎ”. ๐ŸŒŸ

It may be good for one’s online branding and business marketing to create polarization and division in the short-term, but it sure as hell isn’t good for humanity’s sake in the long-term. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

Itโ€™s why we ALL need to be very careful about the environments we surround ourselves in, the people we choose to surround ourselves with, and what we choose to feed our minds on a daily basis. ๐Ÿง 

Itโ€™s not just about maintaining a healthy physical body but also about maintaining a healthy mental mind.

๐‘ญ๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‹๐’–๐’๐’Œ ๐’‡๐’๐’๐’… ๐’๐’ ๐’‚ ๐’…๐’‚๐’Š๐’๐’š ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’”๐’Š๐’”, ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‰๐’‚๐’“๐’Ž ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’ƒ๐’๐’…๐’š. ๐‘ญ๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‹๐’–๐’๐’Œ ๐’Š๐’๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’Ž๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’๐’ ๐’‚ ๐’…๐’‚๐’Š๐’๐’š ๐’ƒ๐’‚๐’”๐’Š๐’”, ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‰๐’‚๐’“๐’Ž ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…. ๐ŸŒŸ

Did you know Van Jones is close friends with Newt Gingrich? ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐จ๐ง ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ข๐ญ๐ž ๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐š๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฆ. Van Jones is a Democrat and Newt a Republican.

Van Jones notes in his book they disagree more than they ever agree politically. ๐Ÿ˜…

But despite that, theyโ€™re good friends! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Why? Newt once shared with him this piece of wisdom:

โ€œ๐’€๐’๐’–๐’“ โ€˜90% ๐’†๐’๐’†๐’Ž๐’šโ€™ ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ โ€˜10% ๐’‡๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’…โ€™ โ€“ ๐’๐’ ๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’“๐’š ๐’‘๐’๐’Š๐’๐’• ๐’˜๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’†.โ€ ๐ŸŒŸ

Itโ€™s why I think Jonathan Haidt was also right, in the same tradition, when he said the greatest wisdom you can find is in the minds of your opponents. Your “villains”. The people you’re emotionally tempted label in your mind as โ€œpure evilโ€. ๐Ÿ‘ฟ

โš ๏ธ BUTโ€ฆYOU AND I BOTH HAVE TO BE OPEN TO HEARING THEM OUT! โš ๏ธ

A few months ago, I listened to a Joe Rogan podcast where he interviewed Daryl Davis. Daryl is an African American musician who is known not just for his amazing talent on the piano but also for converting over 200 people OUT of the white supremacist group the Ku Klux Klan. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

On the podcast he went in-depth about how this all started. But the biggest detail which stuck out to me hearing his story was in how simple his solution was in reaching out to Klan members! ๐Ÿ’ก

๐ŸŒŸ ๐‘ฏ๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’… ๐’„๐’Š๐’—๐’Š๐’, ๐’‡๐’“๐’Š๐’†๐’๐’…๐’๐’š ๐’„๐’๐’๐’—๐’†๐’“๐’”๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’” ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Ž. ๐‘ฏ๐’† ๐’”๐’‰๐’๐’˜๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’“๐’๐’–๐’ˆ๐’‰ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’„๐’•๐’‡๐’–๐’ ๐’†๐’™๐’‚๐’Ž๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‘๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’†๐’๐’„๐’† ๐’‰๐’† ๐’˜๐’‚๐’” ๐’๐’๐’• ๐’”๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’…๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’‚๐’‡๐’“๐’‚๐’Š๐’… ๐’๐’‡. ๐ŸŒŸ

He learned what the Klan believed about African Americans, and he (again, respectfully) challenged their ideas. He invited many of them over to his house for dinner! And in turn, they even invited him to their Klan meetings! ๐Ÿ˜…

It wasnโ€™t long after that one of the top Klan members handed Daryl his Klan robe and said he was leaving the organization. ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

๐—”๐—ด๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ท๐˜‚๐˜€๐˜ ๐Ÿญ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿฌ ๐—ž๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป!

And you know what, the solution Daryl provided in this situation was not so different from the story of Megan Phelps-Roper either! ๐Ÿ™Œ

Megan was a former member of the Westboro Baptist Church, a group widely known for their extremist views towards homosexuals (โ€œGod hates f**sโ€).

From birth, Megan was raised in the Church as her grandfather was the founder. Because of her upbringing, she was raised to see a very limited view of the world around her. ๐Ÿ‘€

๐’๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ค๐ง๐ž๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ๐ฅ๐ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ. ๐’๐ก๐ž ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ญ๐š๐ฎ๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐ž๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ž๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฌ.

It was only when she created a Twitter account to promote her Church was she exposed to alternative viewpoints. Anonymous people she had never met were now pointing out logical inconsistencies in her tweets.

One of those people in particular was a lawyer she debated and eventually became good friends with. ๐Ÿ”—

But the difference between him and other people who simply tweeted insults at her?

๐ŸŒŸ ๐™…๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™ก๐™ž๐™ ๐™š ๐˜ฟ๐™–๐™ง๐™ฎ๐™ก, ๐™๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™›๐™ช๐™ก ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ก ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™๐™š๐™ง. ๐ŸŒŸ

Eventually she started to doubt what she was raised to believe. She eventually went to her folks for clarity, but with the new perspectives she had been introduced to she did not receive a satisfactory answer. ๐Ÿคฏ

Eventually she left the church along with her sisterโ€ฆand her family shunned her. Today she shares her personal story with others, to provide an inside view when it comes to religious extremism. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

As for that lawyer she once debatedโ€ฆthey’re now married! ๐Ÿ’

๐Ÿ™Œ WHAT DO ALL THESE STORIES HAVE IN COMMON? ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸ ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡-๐’“๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’•๐’†๐’๐’–๐’”๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’‘๐’‘๐’๐’“๐’•๐’–๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’„๐’๐’๐’๐’†๐’„๐’• ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’”. ๐ŸŒŸ

๐ŸŒŸ ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’˜๐’† ๐’˜๐’‚๐’๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’“๐’†๐’† ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’”๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’๐’๐’†, ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‡๐’Š๐’“๐’”๐’• ๐’”๐’•๐’†๐’‘ ๐’Š๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐’”๐’Š๐’Ž๐’‘๐’๐’š ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’„๐’•๐’‡๐’–๐’. ๐‘ต๐’ ๐’๐’๐’† ๐’†๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’„๐’‰๐’‚๐’๐’ˆ๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Š๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’… ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Š๐’๐’”๐’–๐’๐’•๐’†๐’… ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’„๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’Ž๐’†๐’… ๐’‚๐’•. ๐ŸŒŸ

๐ŸŒŸ ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’˜๐’† ๐’„๐’‚๐’ ๐’‡๐’Š๐’๐’… ๐’„๐’๐’Ž๐’Ž๐’๐’ ๐’ˆ๐’“๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’˜๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’š๐’†๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’–๐’๐’…๐’†๐’“๐’”๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’…, ๐’ƒ๐’–๐’• ๐’Š๐’• ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’†๐’‡๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’• ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’ ๐’”๐’. ๐ŸŒŸ

These all may sound like common sense. But how many people do you see using this common sense on a daily basis?

How about yourself? ๐Ÿ˜‰

Sounds like it’s back to basics, right?!

โค๏ธ BUT I GET IT! โค๏ธ

Seriously, I do!

Your need to โ€œbe rightโ€ is the same reason I want to โ€œbe rightโ€. ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐‡๐จ๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ง๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž. ๐ˆ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐š๐Ÿ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ž๐œ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž. ๐ˆ๐ญ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐œ๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ ๐ฎ๐š๐ซ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐š ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ. ๐ŸŒŸ

๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐ž๐ฐ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐๐ž๐š๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ง๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ข๐œ๐ก ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐ ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ญ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ ๐ž๐ซ ๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ง. ๐–๐ก๐จ ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ง?! ๐ˆ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ˆ ๐๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ! ๐ŸŒŸ

๐“๐จ ๐š๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐ซ๐ž๐ช๐ฎ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐œ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ฅ๐ž๐๐ ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ข๐๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ˆ ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐›๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ ๐š๐ซ๐จ๐ฎ๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐๐ฒ ๐š๐ฌ ๐ˆ ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฅ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ. ๐ŸŒŸ

๐‰๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ฎ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐จ๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ˆ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐  ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐š๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ž๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐‚๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ˆ ๐œ๐ซ๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐ง ๐ฎ๐ง๐œ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž. ๐ŸŒŸ

But thereโ€™s 1 big problem:

๐ˆ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐จ๐ง ๐š ๐๐ž๐ž๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž๐š๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ, ๐›๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐œ๐ก ๐š ๐ฌ๐ฆ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ฐ. ๐ŸŒŸ

So, I get itโ€ฆitโ€™s not easy! It wasnโ€™t easy for me either! โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ™Œ BUTโ€ฆTHERE ARE SOLUTIONS! ๐Ÿ™Œ

These are solutions we need to start addressing sooner than later, so much as we are going to live together and not die together.

๐ŸŒŸ ๐™’๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™ง๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ก๐™š๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™›๐™–๐™˜๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ง๐™š 7.5 ๐™—๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™–๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ค ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™  ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™–๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™™๐™ค ๐™ค๐™ง ๐™—๐™š๐™ก๐™ž๐™š๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™–๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™™๐™ค. ๐ŸŒŸ

๐ŸŒŸ ๐™’๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™ง๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™™๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ก๐™ค๐™ฅ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™™๐™š๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™๐™ช๐™ข๐™ž๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ, ๐™ฉ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ง๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ก๐™š ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™ก๐™š๐™–๐™ง๐™ฃ ๐™›๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™–๐™˜๐™ ๐™ช๐™จ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ข๐™š๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™™๐™ž๐™™๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ ๐™—๐™š๐™›๐™ค๐™ง๐™š.๐ŸŒŸ

๐ŸŒŸ ๐™’๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™™๐™š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ก๐™ค๐™ฅ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™—๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™œ๐™ž๐™ซ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™ฃ๐™š๐™›๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™™๐™ค๐™ช๐™—๐™ฉ. ๐™๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฌ๐™๐™ค ๐™˜๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™ค๐™›๐™› ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™–๐™›๐™›๐™ž๐™˜. ๐™”๐™ค๐™ช ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™˜๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™˜๐™๐™ค๐™ค๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎโ€™๐™ง๐™š ๐™– โ€œ๐™๐™ค๐™ง๐™ง๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™™๐™ง๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š๐™งโ€. ๐˜ฝ๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ก๐™จ๐™ค ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ฎ ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฎ ๐™—๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™– ๐™ง๐™ช๐™จ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ ๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™๐™ค๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ก, ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™–๐™จ๐™จ๐™ช๐™ข๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™™๐™ค๐™š๐™จ๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ข๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™™๐™ง๐™ž๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ก๐™ž๐™ ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ. ๐™”๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™˜๐™๐™ค๐™ž๐™˜๐™š! ๐ŸŒŸ

So, who’s with me in being the change we wish to see? ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

It doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes. I can tell you I’ve made plenty myself! What matters is you acknowledge those mistakes and continue to improve upon them. ๐Ÿ‘

If I’ve not convinced you yet to come along on this journey, perhaps I can share with you advice directly from Megan Phelps-Roper herself on how we can better communicate with others…

“๐Ÿ™Œ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ซ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ž ๐›๐š๐ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ญ.

My friends on Twitter realized that even when my words were aggressive and offensive, I sincerely believed I was doing the right thing.

Assuming ill motives almost instantly cuts us off from truly understanding why someone does and believes as they do. ๐ŸŒŸ

We forget that they’re a human being with a lifetime of experience that shaped their mind, and we get stuck on that first wave of anger, and the conversation has a very hard time ever moving beyond it. But when we assume good or neutral intent, we give our minds a much stronger framework for dialogue.

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐ฌ๐ค ๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ.

When we engage people across ideological divides, asking questions helps us map the disconnect between our differing points of view. That’s important because we can’t present effective arguments if we don’t understand where the other side is actually coming from and because it gives them an opportunity to point out flaws in our positions.

But asking questions serves another purpose; it signals to someone that they’re being heard. ๐ŸŒŸ

When my friends on Twitter stopped accusing and started asking questions, I almost automatically mirrored them. Their questions gave me room to speak, but they also gave me permission to ask them questions and to truly hear their responses. It fundamentally changed the dynamic of our conversation.

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ซ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ฒ ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฆ.

This takes practice and patience, but it’s powerful. At Westboro, I learned not to care how my manner of speaking affected others. I thought my rightness justified my rudeness — harsh tones, raised voices, insults, interruptions — but that strategy is ultimately counterproductive. Dialing up the volume and the snark is natural in stressful situations, but it tends to bring the conversation to an unsatisfactory, explosive end.

When my husband was still just an anonymous Twitter acquaintance, our discussions frequently became hard and pointed, but we always refused to escalate. Instead, he would change the subject. He would tell a joke or recommend a book or gently excuse himself from the conversation. We knew the discussion wasn’t over, just paused for a time to bring us back to an even keel.

People often lament that digital communication makes us less civil, but this is one advantage that online conversations have over in-person ones. We have a buffer of time and space between us and the people whose ideas we find so frustrating. We can use that buffer. Instead of lashing out, we can pause, breathe, change the subject or walk away, and then come back to it when we’re ready.

๐Ÿ™Œ ๐€๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ…๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญ.

This might seem obvious, but one side effect of having strong beliefs is that we sometimes assume that the value of our position is or should be obvious and self-evident, that we shouldn’t have to defend our positions because they’re so clearly right and good that if someone doesn’t get it, it’s their problem — that it’s not my job to educate them.

But if it were that simple, we would all see things the same way. ๐ŸŒŸ

As kind as my friends on Twitter were, if they hadn’t actually made their arguments, it would’ve been so much harder for me to see the world in a different way. We are all a product of our upbringing, and our beliefs reflect our experiences. We can’t expect others to spontaneously change their own minds. If we want change, we have to make the case for it.

๐ŸŒŸ ๐Œ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐“๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ ๐๐ข๐๐ง’๐ญ ๐š๐›๐š๐ง๐๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐Ÿ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ข๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ — ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ฌ๐œ๐จ๐ซ๐ง. ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐œ๐ก๐š๐ง๐ง๐ž๐ฅ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ข๐ซ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ž๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ข๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ž๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ. ๐“๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐š๐œ๐ก๐ž๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š๐ฌ ๐š ๐ก๐ฎ๐ฆ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐ข๐ง๐ , ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ž ๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐ง๐ฌ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ง ๐ญ๐ฐ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ซ๐š๐ ๐ž, ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐๐š๐ข๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฏ๐ข๐จ๐ฅ๐ž๐ง๐œ๐ž.” ๐ŸŒŸ

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