How We BECOME Civil!


It doesn’t have to be one OR the other; it can be one AND the other. ↔

I don’t expect my spiritual friends to understand the complexities of science and the search for objective truth. 🧬

But nor do I expect my scientific friends to understand the usefulness of stories and metaphorical truths to help someone live a better quality of life. ❀

The problem I see happening is when each side assumes malicious intent of the other. Each side assumes they are searching for the same definition of “truth”. 👍

𝐁𝐼𝐭 đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧 𝐛𝐹𝐭𝐡 𝐬𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐹𝐱𝐧, 𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đšđŹđŹđźđ«đž đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đžđ§’𝐭. 👎

They both have very different epistemologies and methodologies for how they seek “truth”. 😅

↔ Science is focused on precision; spirituality is very broad.

↔ Science uses quantitative measurement; spirituality embraces the abstract.

↔ Science is focused on objectivity; spirituality is focused on subjectivity.

Unfortunately, each side’s misunderstandings of each other puts them both at odds. This miscommunication has both sides end up talking over each other. 🔀

It’s why it’s so easy for each side to label the other side as the “villain”. 👿

Problems arise:

📌 When the spiritual individual misunderstands science and cites studies for which a scientist could easily deduct to be “junk” or “pseudoscience”.

📌 When the scientific individual misunderstands spirituality and thinks the ideas that are taught are useless because they can’t be measured quantitatively.

📌 When the spiritual individual labels scientists and the breakthroughs they discover as “satanic” and “unnatural”.

📌 When the scientific individual labels spirituality and the rituals within these communities as “delusional” and “woo woo”.

In other words, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝟐 đšđ«đžđšđŹ đšđ«đž 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞. đ“đĄđžđ«đžđŸđšđ«đž, 𝐰𝐞 đŹđĄđšđźđ„đ 𝐧𝐹𝐭 đ­đ«đžđšđ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩 𝐚𝐬 𝐬𝐼𝐜𝐡.

𝐖𝐞 đŹđĄđšđźđ„đ đ«đžđŹđ©đžđœđ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝟐 đŹđžđ©đšđ«đšđ­đž đŸđąđžđ„đđŹ 𝐹𝐟 𝐱𝐧đȘđźđąđ«đČ 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đžđ±đąđŹđ­đžđ§đœđž đœđšđ„đ„đžđ 𝐋𝐱𝐟𝐞.

Let me add: I’m NOT saying I treat these fields as having equal usefulness. I’m NOT taking the middle ground here and saying both sides are 50-50. I strongly disagree with that stance. ❌

I have my own personal views and stances towards each field, but that’s not what this post is about.

My point with writing this post is the same point I’ve made in so many of my other posts: 𝒅𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒘 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒃𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒘𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒓. đŸ‘¶

Am I saying a scientist or spiritual teacher cannot question authority figures or experts outside their dedicated fields? Of course not! That’s how we learn and understand from the experts in their fields. It’s important we ask questions! 💯

Hell, I’m not an “expert” in either field and I’m still writing this post! 😜

But what I am advocating for is an open communication between the fields, to bring the best of both worlds to the table while at the same time understanding and respecting where the fields are going to irreconcilably differ.


This can also be applied to the political sphere, when it comes to Democrats and Republicans, “the Left” and “the Right”.

Van Jones argued in his recent book “Beyond the Messy Truth” one of the biggest problems facing our modern politics is that political parties are no longer uniting under the ideals of Conservatism or Liberalism, to bring out the best of their parties. Instead, 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐠 đźđ§đđžđ« 𝐚 đŹđĄđšđ«đžđ đĄđšđŹđ­đąđ„đąđ­đČ 𝐹𝐟 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐱-𝐓𝐡𝐞 đŽđ­đĄđžđ« đđšđ«đ­đČ. đŸ€Ź

Social psychologist Jonathan Haidt provided a similar argument in his book “The Coddling of the American Mind” but in the context of college campuses. He cites instances where college students have forcibly interrupted and shouted down guest speakers they personally deemed “offensive”. đŸ€Ź

In one instance, a college professor disagreed with students about one of their social causes. Literally, student protesters surrounded him, screamed at him when he asked for a civil discussion, and demanded he resign from the university.

To put it simply:

🌟 đ™‹đ™€đ™Ąđ™–đ™§đ™žđ™Żđ™–đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™—đ™šđ™©đ™Źđ™šđ™šđ™Ł đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. 𝙏𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙖𝙡𝙞𝙹𝙱 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. đ˜Ÿđ™źđ™Łđ™žđ™˜đ™žđ™šđ™ą 𝙝𝙖𝙹 𝙞𝙣𝙘𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙹𝙚𝙙. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚’𝙹 𝙖 đ™œđ™§đ™€đ™Źđ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™˜đ™€đ™Ąđ™Ąđ™šđ™˜đ™©đ™žđ™«đ™š 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Șđ™ąđ™„đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙙𝙞𝙹𝙖𝙜𝙧𝙚𝙚 đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ đ™Ș𝙹, 𝙗𝙼 𝙙𝙚𝙛𝙖đ™Șđ™Ąđ™©, đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™ąđ™–đ™Ąđ™žđ™˜đ™žđ™€đ™Ș𝙹 đ™žđ™Łđ™©đ™šđ™Łđ™©.

đ˜Œđ™§đ™œđ™Șđ™ąđ™šđ™Łđ™©đ™š đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™˜đ™€đ™ąđ™š 𝙡𝙚𝙹𝙹 đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© 𝙹𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™›đ™€đ™§ đ™©đ™§đ™Șđ™©đ™ 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™žđ™Łđ™šđ™©đ™šđ™–đ™™ đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© 𝙗𝙚𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™©đ™€ 𝙬𝙞𝙣. 𝙏𝙝𝙚𝙼’đ™«đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™˜đ™€đ™ąđ™š 𝙡𝙚𝙹𝙹 đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© đ™Ș𝙹𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™›đ™–đ™˜đ™©đ™š 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™§đ™šđ™–đ™šđ™€đ™Ł 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™žđ™Łđ™šđ™©đ™šđ™–đ™™ đ™–đ™—đ™€đ™Șđ™© đ™™đ™€đ™ąđ™žđ™Łđ™–đ™©đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ đ™šđ™ąđ™€đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Łđ™–đ™Ą đ™žđ™Łđ™©đ™žđ™ąđ™žđ™™đ™–đ™©đ™žđ™€đ™Ł. 🌟

And I won’t pretend I’m immune from falling into these mindsets either! đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

I’m not here to claim moral superiority with this post. Just like anyone else, I need to remind myself not to fall into these traps at times too! 💯

It’s why I don’t blame you if you fall into them either. 👍


𝙄’𝙱 𝙘𝙝𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙞𝙣𝙜 đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™„đ™€đ™šđ™šđ™žđ™—đ™žđ™Ąđ™žđ™©đ™ź đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™™đ™€đ™Ł’đ™© đ™đ™–đ™«đ™š đ™©đ™€ 𝙹𝙚𝙚 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™€đ™Łđ™š 𝙚𝙡𝙹𝙚 𝙖𝙹 đ™źđ™€đ™Ș𝙧 “𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙱𝙼”. 🌟

It may be good for one’s online branding and business marketing to create polarization and division in the short-term, but it sure as hell isn’t good for humanity’s sake in the long-term. 💯

It’s why we ALL need to be very careful about the environments we surround ourselves in, the people we choose to surround ourselves with, and what we choose to feed our minds on a daily basis. 🧠

It’s not just about maintaining a healthy physical body but also about maintaining a healthy mental mind.

𝑭𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒋𝒖𝒏𝒌 𝒇𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒃𝒐𝒅𝒚. 𝑭𝒆𝒆𝒅 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒋𝒖𝒏𝒌 𝒊𝒏𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒂𝒊𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒂𝒔𝒊𝒔, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒎 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅. 🌟

Did you know Van Jones is close friends with Newt Gingrich? 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ«đž 𝐹𝐧 đšđ©đ©đšđŹđąđ­đž 𝐬𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đšđ„đąđ­đąđœđšđ„ đŹđ©đžđœđ­đ«đźđŠ. Van Jones is a Democrat and Newt a Republican.

Van Jones notes in his book they disagree more than they ever agree politically. 😅

But despite that, they’re good friends! đŸ˜Č

Why? Newt once shared with him this piece of wisdom:

“𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 ‘90% 𝒆𝒏𝒆𝒎𝒚’ 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒃𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 ‘10% 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅’ – 𝒐𝒏 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒑𝒐𝒊𝒏𝒕 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆.” 🌟

It’s why I think Jonathan Haidt was also right, in the same tradition, when he said the greatest wisdom you can find is in the minds of your opponents. Your “villains”. The people you’re emotionally tempted label in your mind as “pure evil”. 👿

⚠ BUT

A few months ago, I listened to a Joe Rogan podcast where he interviewed Daryl Davis. Daryl is an African American musician who is known not just for his amazing talent on the piano but also for converting over 200 people OUT of the white supremacist group the Ku Klux Klan. đŸ˜±

On the podcast he went in-depth about how this all started. But the biggest detail which stuck out to me hearing his story was in how simple his solution was in reaching out to Klan members! 💡

🌟 𝑯𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒅 𝒄𝒊𝒗𝒊𝒍, 𝒇𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒅𝒍𝒚 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒎. 𝑯𝒆 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒇𝒖𝒍 𝒆𝒙𝒂𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒃𝒆 𝒂𝒇𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒐𝒇. 🌟

He learned what the Klan believed about African Americans, and he (again, respectfully) challenged their ideas. He invited many of them over to his house for dinner! And in turn, they even invited him to their Klan meetings! 😅

It wasn’t long after that one of the top Klan members handed Daryl his Klan robe and said he was leaving the organization. đŸ˜±

đ—”đ—Žđ—źđ—¶đ—», đ˜đ—”đ—¶đ˜€ 𝘄𝗼𝘀 đ˜đ—Œ 𝗯đ—Č đ—·đ˜‚đ˜€đ˜ 𝟭 đ—Œđ—ł đ—Œđ˜ƒđ—Č𝗿 𝟼𝟬𝟬 𝗞đ—čđ—źđ—»đ˜€đ—șđ—Čđ—»!

And you know what, the solution Daryl provided in this situation was not so different from the story of Megan Phelps-Roper either! 🙌

Megan was a former member of the Westboro Baptist Church, a group widely known for their extremist views towards homosexuals (“God hates f**s”).

From birth, Megan was raised in the Church as her grandfather was the founder. Because of her upbringing, she was raised to see a very limited view of the world around her. 👀

𝐒𝐡𝐞 đšđ§đ„đČ đ€đ§đžđ° 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 đĄđžđ« đŸđšđŠđąđ„đČ đ­đšđ„đ đĄđžđ«. 𝐒𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐚𝐼𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐠 đĄđžđ« 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đĄđžđ« đŸđšđŠđąđ„đČ 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞đČ đ°đžđ«đž đ«đąđ đĄđ­đžđšđźđŹ 𝐱𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ›đžđ„đąđžđŸđŹ.

It was only when she created a Twitter account to promote her Church was she exposed to alternative viewpoints. Anonymous people she had never met were now pointing out logical inconsistencies in her tweets.

One of those people in particular was a lawyer she debated and eventually became good friends with. 🔗

But the difference between him and other people who simply tweeted insults at her?

🌟 𝙅đ™Șđ™šđ™© 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 𝘿𝙖𝙧𝙼𝙡, 𝙝𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙹 đ™§đ™šđ™šđ™„đ™šđ™˜đ™©đ™›đ™Ș𝙡 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™˜đ™žđ™«đ™žđ™Ą đ™Źđ™žđ™©đ™ 𝙝𝙚𝙧. 🌟

Eventually she started to doubt what she was raised to believe. She eventually went to her folks for clarity, but with the new perspectives she had been introduced to she did not receive a satisfactory answer. đŸ€Ż

Eventually she left the church along with her sister
and her family shunned her. Today she shares her personal story with others, to provide an inside view when it comes to religious extremism. đŸ—Łïž

As for that lawyer she once debated
they’re now married! 💍


🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕𝒆𝒐𝒖𝒔𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒌𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒔. 🌟

🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒊𝒇 𝒘𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒊𝒔𝒂𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒐𝒏𝒆, 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒔𝒕 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒍𝒚 𝒃𝒆 𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒇𝒖𝒍. đ‘”đ’ 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒊𝒓 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒖𝒍𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎𝒆𝒅 𝒂𝒕. 🌟

🌟 đ‘»đ’‰đ’‚đ’• 𝒘𝒆 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒇𝒊𝒏𝒅 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒐𝒏 𝒈𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒚𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒖𝒏𝒅𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒅, 𝒃𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒆𝒇𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐 𝒔𝒐. 🌟

These all may sound like common sense. But how many people do you see using this common sense on a daily basis?

How about yourself? 😉

Sounds like it’s back to basics, right?!

❀ BUT I GET IT! ❀

Seriously, I do!

Your need to “be right” is the same reason I want to “be right”. 🙌

đ‡đšđ„đđąđ§đ  𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đ„đąđŠđąđ­đžđ đźđ§đđžđ«đŹđ­đšđ§đđąđ§đ đŹ 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ°đšđ«đ„đ 𝐱𝐬 đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„đ„đČ đœđšđŠđŸđšđ«đ­đšđ›đ„đž. 𝐈𝐭 đŸđžđžđ„đŹ 𝐬𝐚𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŹđžđœđźđ«đž. 𝐈𝐭 đ„đžđ­đŹ 𝐼𝐬 𝐜𝐡𝐹𝐹𝐬𝐞 đšđ§đ„đČ 𝐭𝐹 đ„đžđ­ đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐹 đšđźđ« đ„đąđŻđžđŹ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ đźđšđ«đšđ§đ­đžđž 𝐰𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đŠđšđ€đž 𝐚 𝐩𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ« đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐡𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐬. 🌟

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐛𝐞 đšđ©đžđ§ 𝐭𝐹 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đœđšđ§đ­đ«đšđŹđ­đąđ§đ  𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐬, 𝐹𝐧𝐞𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 đœđĄđšđ„đ„đžđ§đ đž đšđźđ« 𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐹𝐟 đŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ©đžđ«đŹđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐭đČ, 𝐜𝐚𝐧 đ­đ«đąđ đ đžđ« đ đ«đžđšđ­ đžđ±đąđŹđ­đžđ§đ­đąđšđ„ đ©đšđąđ§. 𝐖𝐡𝐹 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐭𝐹 đŸđžđžđ„ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 đ€đąđ§đ 𝐹𝐟 đ©đšđąđ§?! 𝐈 đ€đ§đšđ° 𝐈 𝐝𝐹𝐧’𝐭! 🌟

𝐓𝐹 𝐚𝐝𝐩𝐱𝐭 𝐈’𝐩 đ°đ«đšđ§đ  đ«đžđȘđźđąđ«đžđŹ 𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 đšđœđ€đ§đšđ°đ„đžđđ đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐭đČ 𝐈 𝐹𝐧𝐜𝐞 đ›đźđąđ„đ­ đšđ«đšđźđ§đ 𝐩đČđŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐚𝐬 đŹđ­đźđ«đđČ 𝐚𝐬 𝐈 𝐹𝐧𝐜𝐞 đŸđžđ„đ­ 𝐱𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬. 🌟

𝐉𝐼𝐬𝐭 𝐜𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐧𝐼𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐹 đĄđšđ„đ 𝐹𝐧𝐭𝐹 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐈 đ›đžđ„đąđžđŻđž 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐼𝐭 đžđŻđžđ«đČ𝐹𝐧𝐞 đžđ„đŹđž 𝐰𝐡𝐹 đđąđŹđšđ đ«đžđžđŹ đ°đšđźđ„đ đđžđŸđąđ§đąđ­đžđ„đČ đ©đ«đšđŻđąđđž 𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ‚đžđ«đ­đšđąđ§đ­đČ 𝐈 đœđ«đšđŻđž 𝐭𝐹 𝐚𝐧 đźđ§đœđžđ«đ­đšđąđ§ đ„đąđŸđž. 🌟

But there’s 1 big problem:

𝐈𝐭 𝐰𝐹𝐧’𝐭 đšđ„đ„đšđ° đČ𝐹𝐼 𝐭𝐹 đžđ±đ©đžđ«đąđžđ§đœđž đ„đąđŸđž 𝐹𝐧 𝐚 đđžđžđ©đžđ« 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŠđšđ«đž đŠđžđšđ§đąđ§đ đŸđźđ„ đ„đžđŻđžđ„, 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐼𝐬𝐞 đČ𝐹𝐼’𝐯𝐞 đ„đąđŠđąđ­đžđ đČđšđźđ« đžđŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐡𝐹𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐼𝐜𝐡 𝐚 đŹđŠđšđ„đ„ đŹđžđ„đžđœđ­ 𝐟𝐞𝐰. 🌟

So, I get it
it’s not easy! It wasn’t easy for me either! ❀


These are solutions we need to start addressing sooner than later, so much as we are going to live together and not die together.

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™€đ™Ąđ™šđ™§đ™–đ™©đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š đ™›đ™–đ™˜đ™© đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š 𝙖𝙧𝙚 7.5 đ™—đ™žđ™Ąđ™Ąđ™žđ™€đ™Ł đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š đ™€đ™Ł đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š đ™„đ™Ąđ™–đ™Łđ™šđ™© đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙱𝙖𝙼 đ™Łđ™€đ™© đ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™  đ™©đ™đ™š 𝙹𝙖𝙱𝙚 𝙬𝙖𝙼 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™€ đ™€đ™§ đ™—đ™šđ™Ąđ™žđ™šđ™«đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š 𝙹𝙖𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œđ™š 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™€. 🌟

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™©đ™€ đ™™đ™šđ™«đ™šđ™Ąđ™€đ™„ đ™ąđ™€đ™™đ™šđ™šđ™©đ™ź 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙝đ™Șđ™ąđ™žđ™Ąđ™žđ™©đ™ź, đ™©đ™đ™–đ™© đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š 𝙖𝙧𝙚 đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§ đ™„đ™šđ™€đ™„đ™Ąđ™š 𝙬𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣 đ™›đ™§đ™€đ™ą 𝙖𝙣𝙙 đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™đ™–đ™„đ™š đ™©đ™šđ™–đ™˜đ™ đ™Ș𝙹 đ™šđ™€đ™ąđ™šđ™©đ™đ™žđ™Łđ™œ 𝙬𝙚 đ™™đ™žđ™™đ™Łâ€™đ™© đ™ đ™Łđ™€đ™Ź đ™—đ™šđ™›đ™€đ™§đ™š.🌟

🌟 𝙒𝙚 𝙣𝙚𝙚𝙙 đ™©đ™€ đ™™đ™šđ™«đ™šđ™Ąđ™€đ™„ đ™©đ™đ™š đ™đ™–đ™—đ™žđ™© đ™€đ™› đ™œđ™žđ™«đ™žđ™Łđ™œ đ™€đ™©đ™đ™šđ™§đ™š đ™©đ™đ™š đ™—đ™šđ™Łđ™šđ™›đ™žđ™© đ™€đ™› đ™©đ™đ™š đ™™đ™€đ™Șđ™—đ™©. 𝙏𝙖𝙠𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™š đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™Źđ™đ™€ 𝙘đ™Șđ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™€đ™›đ™› 𝙞𝙣 đ™©đ™§đ™–đ™›đ™›đ™žđ™˜. đ™”đ™€đ™Ș 𝙘𝙖𝙣 đ™˜đ™šđ™§đ™©đ™–đ™žđ™Łđ™Ąđ™ź đ™˜đ™đ™€đ™€đ™šđ™š đ™©đ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™šđ™źâ€™đ™§đ™š 𝙖 â€œđ™đ™€đ™§đ™§đ™žđ™—đ™Ąđ™š đ™™đ™§đ™žđ™«đ™šđ™§â€. đ˜œđ™Șđ™© đ™źđ™€đ™Ș 𝙘𝙖𝙣 đ™–đ™Ąđ™šđ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™šđ™ź 𝙱𝙖𝙼 𝙗𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙖 𝙧đ™Ș𝙹𝙝 đ™©đ™€ đ™œđ™šđ™© đ™©đ™€ đ™©đ™đ™šđ™žđ™§ đ™Ąđ™€đ™«đ™šđ™™ đ™€đ™Łđ™šđ™š đ™–đ™© đ™©đ™đ™š đ™đ™€đ™šđ™„đ™žđ™©đ™–đ™Ą, đ™©đ™€ 𝙖𝙹𝙹đ™Ș𝙱𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š đ™„đ™šđ™§đ™šđ™€đ™Ł đ™™đ™€đ™šđ™šđ™Łâ€™đ™© đ™Łđ™€đ™§đ™ąđ™–đ™Ąđ™Ąđ™ź đ™™đ™§đ™žđ™«đ™š 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚 đ™©đ™đ™žđ™š. đ™”đ™€đ™Ș𝙧 đ™˜đ™đ™€đ™žđ™˜đ™š! 🌟

So, who’s with me in being the change we wish to see? đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

It doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes. I can tell you I’ve made plenty myself! What matters is you acknowledge those mistakes and continue to improve upon them. 👍

If I’ve not convinced you yet to come along on this journey, perhaps I can share with you advice directly from Megan Phelps-Roper herself on how we can better communicate with others…

“🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đŸđąđ«đŹđ­ 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 𝐧𝐹𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐼𝐩𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐝 𝐱𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭.

My friends on Twitter realized that even when my words were aggressive and offensive, I sincerely believed I was doing the right thing.

Assuming ill motives almost instantly cuts us off from truly understanding why someone does and believes as they do. 🌟

We forget that they’re a human being with a lifetime of experience that shaped their mind, and we get stuck on that first wave of anger, and the conversation has a very hard time ever moving beyond it. But when we assume good or neutral intent, we give our minds a much stronger framework for dialogue.

🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐞𝐜𝐹𝐧𝐝 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 đšđŹđ€ đȘ𝐼𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧𝐬.

When we engage people across ideological divides, asking questions helps us map the disconnect between our differing points of view. That’s important because we can’t present effective arguments if we don’t understand where the other side is actually coming from and because it gives them an opportunity to point out flaws in our positions.

But asking questions serves another purpose; it signals to someone that they’re being heard. 🌟

When my friends on Twitter stopped accusing and started asking questions, I almost automatically mirrored them. Their questions gave me room to speak, but they also gave me permission to ask them questions and to truly hear their responses. It fundamentally changed the dynamic of our conversation.

🙌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đ­đĄđąđ«đ 𝐱𝐬 𝐭𝐹 𝐬𝐭𝐚đČ đœđšđ„đŠ.

This takes practice and patience, but it’s powerful. At Westboro, I learned not to care how my manner of speaking affected others. I thought my rightness justified my rudeness — harsh tones, raised voices, insults, interruptions — but that strategy is ultimately counterproductive. Dialing up the volume and the snark is natural in stressful situations, but it tends to bring the conversation to an unsatisfactory, explosive end.

When my husband was still just an anonymous Twitter acquaintance, our discussions frequently became hard and pointed, but we always refused to escalate. Instead, he would change the subject. He would tell a joke or recommend a book or gently excuse himself from the conversation. We knew the discussion wasn’t over, just paused for a time to bring us back to an even keel.

People often lament that digital communication makes us less civil, but this is one advantage that online conversations have over in-person ones. We have a buffer of time and space between us and the people whose ideas we find so frustrating. We can use that buffer. Instead of lashing out, we can pause, breathe, change the subject or walk away, and then come back to it when we’re ready.

🙌 𝐀𝐧𝐝 đŸđąđ§đšđ„đ„đČ…đŠđšđ€đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đšđ«đ đźđŠđžđ§đ­.

This might seem obvious, but one side effect of having strong beliefs is that we sometimes assume that the value of our position is or should be obvious and self-evident, that we shouldn’t have to defend our positions because they’re so clearly right and good that if someone doesn’t get it, it’s their problem — that it’s not my job to educate them.

But if it were that simple, we would all see things the same way. 🌟

As kind as my friends on Twitter were, if they hadn’t actually made their arguments, it would’ve been so much harder for me to see the world in a different way. We are all a product of our upbringing, and our beliefs reflect our experiences. We can’t expect others to spontaneously change their own minds. If we want change, we have to make the case for it.

🌟 𝐌đČ đŸđ«đąđžđ§đđŹ 𝐹𝐧 đ“đ°đąđ­đ­đžđ« 𝐝𝐱𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐛𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐹𝐧 đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ›đžđ„đąđžđŸđŹ đšđ« đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ©đ«đąđ§đœđąđ©đ„đžđŹ — đšđ§đ„đČ đ­đĄđžđąđ« đŹđœđšđ«đ§. 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đœđĄđšđ§đ§đžđ„đžđ đ­đĄđžđąđ« đąđ§đŸđąđ§đąđ­đžđ„đČ đŁđźđŹđ­đąđŸđąđšđ›đ„đž 𝐹𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐞 𝐭𝐹 𝐩𝐞 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ©đšđąđ§đ­đžđ đȘ𝐼𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧𝐬 đ­đžđŠđ©đžđ«đžđ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ€đąđ§đđ§đžđŹđŹ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đĄđźđŠđšđ«. 𝐓𝐡𝐞đČ đšđ©đ©đ«đšđšđœđĄđžđ 𝐩𝐞 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐡𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐚𝐬 đŠđšđ«đž đ­đ«đšđ§đŹđŸđšđ«đŠđšđ­đąđŻđž 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐰𝐹 đŸđźđ„đ„ 𝐝𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐝𝐞𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đšđźđ­đ«đšđ đž, 𝐝𝐱𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐱𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đŻđąđšđ„đžđ§đœđž.” 🌟


BOOK SUMMARY 📖: The Coddling of the American Mind

In September of 2015, an article written by Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff was published in The Atlantic titled “The Coddling of the American Mind.” 📰

At first glance, the title of this article could easily be mistaken for a right-wing polemic on “the snowflake generation” and “social justice warriors”. đŸ€Ź

But it’s far from it! In fact, the authors themselves are openly left-leaning in their political views! 💯

It was the insistence of their publisher asking for a more provocative title than the one they proposed that “Coddling” was born. ( 😅

Initially, the article was written to discuss various instances happening on college campuses where students were protesting words, ideas, and subjects they deemed offensive. ✊

📌 Guest speakers who were coming to campus were being disrupted and shouted down.

📌 Ideas like “microaggressions”, “trigger warnings”, and “safe spaces” were being introduced and implemented by college administrators.

📌 Words were starting to be equated by some college students as “violence”.

📌 Colleges were catering to student’s demands with little critical discussion.

The point of Haidt and Lukianoff’s article was to illuminate the problems and to try and understand why they were occurring. 🙌

Haidt and Lukianoff could understand the measures being taken by colleges, measures such as Microaggression Training, were being done with good intentions. 👍

But coming from his work as a social psychologist, Haidt saw these measures as being đœđšđźđ§đ­đžđ«đ©đ«đšđđźđœđ­đąđŻđž 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐱𝐜 𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐹𝐟 đŠđšđđžđ«đ§ 𝐏𝐬đČđœđĄđšđ„đšđ đČ.

⚠ The idea of “microaggressions” go against the very idea of not making the worst possible assumptions of other peoples’ intentions (a cognitive distortion known as “mind reading”).

⚠ The idea of “trigger warnings” and “safe spaces” go against the very methods used in Exposure Therapy to combat phobias and feelings of anxiety.

⚠ The idea of continuously giving into angry student’s demands reinforces the likelihood they will use the same angry methods for demands in the future.

With the publication of the article, the reception was…controversial! 😅

Many readers, including college faculty and students, sent in responses confirming Haidt and Lukianoff’s concerns. 👍

Both faculty members and college students expressed fears of being unable to share their different viewpoints outside the status quo of their peers, less they not be reported to college administrators. đŸ”±

Haidt and Lukianoff learned that some colleges had implemented a “Bias Reporting System”, where students could anonymously report anyone (including faculty) for sharing views they perceived to be discriminatory. 🚹

𝐓𝐡𝐱𝐬 𝐱𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐹𝐟 đąđ­đŹđžđ„đŸ 𝐝𝐱𝐬𝐱𝐧𝐜𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐯𝐱𝐳𝐞𝐬 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐭𝐹 đŹđ­đšđ© đŹđĄđšđ«đąđ§đ  đđąđŸđŸđžđ«đąđ§đ  đšđ©đąđ§đąđšđ§đŹ 𝐹𝐼𝐭 𝐹𝐟 đŸđžđšđ« 𝐬𝐹𝐩𝐞𝐹𝐧𝐞 𝐱𝐬 𝐠𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐹 đŠđąđŹđąđ§đ­đžđ«đ©đ«đžđ­ đ­đĄđžđąđ« đ°đšđ«đđŹ đšđ« đ«đžđ©đšđ«đ­ 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩. 🚹

That said, there were also criticisms to Haidt and Lukianoff’s article as well. 👈

The primary criticism was that the authors were using only a few isolated incidents to justify their national concerns. In other words, they were inciting a moral panic over a minor problem. 😅


Only a month after the article’s publication did another college incident happen. And then another. And then another. And then another. 🚹

One of the most infamous incidents happened 2 months later at Yale University. đŸ˜±

Erika Christakis, a lecturer at Yale Child Study Care Center had written an email expressing concern over whether Yale administrators should be giving guidance to students about appropriate and inappropriate Halloween costumes. 📧

She believed administrators should let the students make their own decisions and let them talk among each other if they had disagreements. đŸ—Łïž

After all, they are adults over 18 years old. 👍

“𝘛𝘱𝘭𝘬 đ˜”đ˜° đ˜Šđ˜ąđ˜€đ˜© đ˜°đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜łâ€, she noted in her email. “𝘍𝘳𝘩𝘩 đ˜Žđ˜±đ˜Šđ˜Šđ˜€đ˜© đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š 𝘱𝘣đ˜Ș𝘭đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜ș đ˜”đ˜° đ˜”đ˜°đ˜­đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Š 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘩𝘯𝘮𝘩 𝘱𝘳𝘩 đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š đ˜©đ˜ąđ˜­đ˜­đ˜źđ˜ąđ˜łđ˜Źđ˜Ž 𝘰𝘧 𝘱 𝘧𝘳𝘩𝘩 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜°đ˜±đ˜Šđ˜Ż đ˜Žđ˜°đ˜€đ˜Șđ˜Šđ˜”đ˜ș.” 😊

This email sparked outrage from some Yale students who interpreted Erika’s words as meaning she supported racist Halloween costumes. ❗

Soon after, around 150 student protesters surrounded the courtyard of Christakis’s home on campus, writing statements in chalk which included: “𝙒𝙚 đ™ đ™Łđ™€đ™Ź 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 đ™źđ™€đ™Ș đ™Ąđ™žđ™«đ™šâ€. 😠

Erika’s husband Nicholas went out to the courtyard to try and reason with them. Students demanded he apologize and renounce his wife’s email. đŸ€Ź

In a tense confrontation which lasted over 2 hours, Nicholas was accused of being “racist”, “offensive”, and “creating a space for violence”. đŸ€Ź

At a later point, one student even screamed in Nicholas’s face:

“𝙄𝙏 𝙄𝙎 𝙉𝙊𝙏 đ˜Œđ˜œđ™Šđ™đ™ đ˜Ÿđ™đ™€đ˜Œđ™đ™„đ™‰đ™‚ đ˜Œđ™‰ đ™„đ™‰đ™đ™€đ™‡đ™‡đ™€đ˜Ÿđ™đ™đ˜Œđ™‡ đ™Žđ™‹đ˜Œđ˜Ÿđ™€! 𝙄𝙏 𝙄𝙎 đ˜Œđ˜œđ™Šđ™đ™ đ˜Ÿđ™đ™€đ˜Œđ™đ™„đ™‰đ™‚ đ˜Œ 𝙃𝙊𝙈𝙀 𝙃𝙀𝙍𝙀! 𝙔𝙊𝙐 𝙎𝙃𝙊𝙐𝙇𝘿 𝙉𝙊𝙏 𝙎𝙇𝙀𝙀𝙋 đ˜Œđ™ 𝙉𝙄𝙂𝙃𝙏! 𝙔𝙊𝙐’𝙍𝙀 𝘿𝙄𝙎𝙂𝙐𝙎𝙏𝙄𝙉𝙂!” đŸ€Ź

(Excerpt footage of the Yale incident:

Similar incidents echoed in the coming years. 📅

Another infamous incident happened at Evergreen State College. Every year the school took part in an Day of Absence tradition where minority students and faculty would voluntarily stay off campus to highlight their campus contributions. 🙌

But in 2017 the tradition was flipped. Administrators decided they would now ask white students and white faculty to voluntarily stay off campus to be educated on race issues. đŸ˜Č

Biology professor Bret Weinstein (who openly identifies as a progressive and left-leaning libertarian) emailed the campus expressing concern over the change. đŸ™‹â€â™‚ïž

Included in his email 📧:

â€œđ˜›đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Š đ˜Ș𝘮 𝘱 đ˜©đ˜¶đ˜šđ˜Š đ˜„đ˜Șđ˜§đ˜§đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜Š đ˜Łđ˜Šđ˜”đ˜žđ˜Šđ˜Šđ˜Ż 𝘱 đ˜šđ˜łđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜± 𝘰𝘳 đ˜€đ˜°đ˜ąđ˜­đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜Ș𝘰𝘯 đ˜„đ˜Šđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜„đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜”đ˜° đ˜·đ˜°đ˜­đ˜¶đ˜Żđ˜”đ˜ąđ˜łđ˜Ș𝘭đ˜ș đ˜ąđ˜Łđ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜” đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜źđ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜­đ˜·đ˜Šđ˜Ž 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘼 𝘱 đ˜Žđ˜©đ˜ąđ˜łđ˜Šđ˜„ đ˜Žđ˜±đ˜ąđ˜€đ˜Š đ˜Ș𝘯 đ˜°đ˜łđ˜„đ˜Šđ˜ł đ˜”đ˜° đ˜©đ˜Șđ˜šđ˜©đ˜­đ˜Șđ˜šđ˜©đ˜” đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜Ș𝘳 đ˜·đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜ąđ˜­ đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜¶đ˜Żđ˜„đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜ąđ˜±đ˜±đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„ đ˜łđ˜°đ˜­đ˜Šđ˜Žâ€Šđ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ 𝘱 đ˜šđ˜łđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜± đ˜Šđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜°đ˜¶đ˜łđ˜ąđ˜šđ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜°đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Šđ˜ł đ˜šđ˜łđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜± đ˜”đ˜° 𝘹𝘰 𝘱𝘾𝘱đ˜ș. ⚖

đ˜›đ˜©đ˜Š 𝘧đ˜Șđ˜łđ˜Žđ˜” đ˜Ș𝘮 𝘱 đ˜§đ˜°đ˜łđ˜€đ˜Šđ˜§đ˜¶đ˜­ đ˜€đ˜ąđ˜­đ˜­ đ˜”đ˜° đ˜€đ˜°đ˜Żđ˜Žđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜Žđ˜Żđ˜Šđ˜Žđ˜Ž, đ˜žđ˜©đ˜Șđ˜€đ˜© đ˜Ș𝘮, 𝘰𝘧 đ˜€đ˜°đ˜¶đ˜łđ˜Žđ˜Š, đ˜€đ˜łđ˜Șđ˜±đ˜±đ˜­đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜”đ˜° đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š 𝘭𝘰𝘹đ˜Șđ˜€ 𝘰𝘧 đ˜°đ˜±đ˜±đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜Žđ˜Žđ˜Ș𝘰𝘯. đ˜›đ˜©đ˜Š đ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜€đ˜°đ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜Ș𝘮 𝘱 đ˜Žđ˜©đ˜°đ˜ž 𝘰𝘧 đ˜§đ˜°đ˜łđ˜€đ˜Š, đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ 𝘱𝘯 đ˜ąđ˜€đ˜” 𝘰𝘧 đ˜°đ˜±đ˜±đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜Žđ˜Žđ˜Ș𝘰𝘯 đ˜Ș𝘯 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ 𝘰𝘧 đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜­đ˜§. 🙌

𝘖𝘯𝘩’𝘮 𝘳đ˜Șđ˜šđ˜©đ˜” đ˜”đ˜° đ˜Žđ˜±đ˜Šđ˜ąđ˜Ź – 𝘰𝘳 đ˜”đ˜° 𝘣𝘩 – đ˜źđ˜¶đ˜Žđ˜” đ˜Żđ˜Šđ˜·đ˜Šđ˜ł 𝘣𝘩 đ˜Łđ˜ąđ˜Žđ˜Šđ˜„ 𝘰𝘯 𝘮𝘬đ˜Ș𝘯 đ˜€đ˜°đ˜­đ˜°đ˜ł.” 💯

As with Yale, this email sparked outrage. About a month after his email, students surrounded Weinstein’s classroom entrance and berated him. As with Christakis, students demanded Weinstein denounce his views and lose his job. đŸ€Ź

Campus police were called, but students barred them from reaching Weinstein so they had to call for backup. 🚓

The same student protesters eventually marched to the administration building, surrounded the College President’s office, and provided him the same beratement. đŸ€Ź

There was even a point where student protesters barricaded the main entrances to the administration building and refused to let President Bridges leave his office unless they escorted him. ❗

𝐓𝐡𝐱𝐬 đąđ§đœđ„đźđđžđ 𝐡𝐱𝐩 𝐛𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠 đžđŹđœđšđ«đ­đžđ 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ›đšđ­đĄđ«đšđšđŠ. ❗

(Excerpt footage of the Evergreen incident:

For even more protest instances, I’ve provided Sources at the bottom of this post. âŹ‡ïž

So perhaps, you may have the same question I was also asking
 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐱𝐬 𝐠𝐹𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐹𝐧?! 😅

What initially started out as a small article in The Atlantic was now having its initial concerns realized. 🙌

By September 2018, Haidt and Lukianoff had far more incidents and insights to report on, which ultimately was to become their full-length book: “The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas are Setting up a Generation for Failure”. 📖

But before I get to the book, it’s important we back up for just a moment

First off, what is the purpose of a university? What is the aim (or đ˜”đ˜Šđ˜­đ˜°đ˜Ž) of a university? đŸ€”

Most people I know would say it is to learn. To pursue truth. And yes, perhaps to also enjoy the frat parties! 😜

But this idea is even shown on the crests of universities like Harvard (â€œđ˜·đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Șđ˜”đ˜ąđ˜Žâ€/truth) and Yale (â€œđ˜­đ˜¶đ˜č đ˜Šđ˜” đ˜·đ˜Šđ˜łđ˜Șđ˜”đ˜ąđ˜Žâ€/light and truth)! 😅

The point is: we go to a university to be enlightened, to be exposed to new ideas and viewpoints, to be among other students who may have different life experiences we can learn from. 🙌

𝐓𝐡𝐞 đœđšđ§đœđžđ«đ§ 𝐱𝐬 đźđ§đąđŻđžđ«đŹđąđ­đąđžđŹ đšđ«đž đŸđšđ„đ„đąđ§đ  𝐚𝐰𝐚đČ đŸđ«đšđŠ 𝐚 𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒔 𝐹𝐟 đ­đ«đźđ­đĄ 𝐱𝐧 đŸđšđŻđšđ« 𝐹𝐟 đœđšđ­đžđ«đąđ§đ  𝐭𝐹 𝐚 𝒕𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒔 𝐹𝐟 đŹđšđœđąđšđ„ 𝐣𝐼𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐜𝐞 𝐛đČ 𝐬𝐭𝐼𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬. 🙌

Let me emphasize: đ­đĄđžđ«đžâ€™đŹ 𝐧𝐹𝐭𝐡𝐱𝐧𝐠 đąđ§đ­đ«đąđ§đŹđąđœđšđ„đ„đČ đ°đ«đšđ§đ  𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đŹđšđœđąđšđ„ 𝐣𝐼𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐜𝐞. But when it becomes a substitute for truth and knowledge, it sets a dangerous precedent on the very purpose of what attending a university is all about. đŸ«

In the book, Haidt and Lukianoff go into greater depth on what they see being taught on some college campuses.

The key word here I want to emphasize is “𝐬𝐹𝐩𝐞”. The initial criticism directed at their article about overgeneralizing every college in fact turned out to be correct. 😅

So, for those who are concerned these incidents are reflective of every US college campus, you can be assured they are not! 😅

👉 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐱𝐧𝐜𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬, đ°đĄđąđ„đž đąđ§đœđ«đžđšđŹđąđ§đ  𝐱𝐧 đ§đźđŠđ›đžđ«, 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 đŠđšđŹđ­đ„đČ 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 đąđŹđšđ„đšđ­đžđ 𝐭𝐹 đžđ„đąđ­đž đ„đąđ›đžđ«đšđ„ đšđ«đ­đŹ đœđšđ„đ„đžđ đžđŹ. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đąđ«đšđ§đČ 𝐱𝐬 𝐩𝐹𝐬𝐭 𝐹𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐱𝐧𝐜𝐱𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 đšđ„đŹđš đĄđšđ©đ©đžđ§đžđ 𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐹𝐬𝐭 đ©đ«đšđ đ«đžđŹđŹđąđŻđž đŹđœđĄđšđšđ„đŹ 𝐱𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đœđšđźđ§đ­đ«đČ. 👈

In the book, Haidt and Lukianoff talk about what’s being taught at them in what they call the Three Great Untruths.

🙌 đ†đ«đžđšđ­ đ”đ§đ­đ«đźđ­đĄ 𝐹𝐟 đ…đ«đšđ đąđ„đąđ­đČ: 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐹𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 đ€đąđ„đ„ đČ𝐹𝐼 đŠđšđ€đžđŹ đČ𝐹𝐼 đ°đžđšđ€đžđ«.

𝘗𝘮đ˜șđ˜€đ˜©đ˜°đ˜­đ˜°đ˜šđ˜ș 𝘗𝘳đ˜Șđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜±đ˜­đ˜Š 𝘝đ˜Șđ˜°đ˜­đ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„: đ˜—đ˜Šđ˜°đ˜±đ˜­đ˜Š 𝘱𝘳𝘩 â€˜đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜”đ˜Ș𝘧𝘳𝘱𝘹đ˜Ș𝘭𝘩’; 𝘾𝘩 𝘹𝘳𝘰𝘾 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘼 𝘼𝘱𝘬đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 𝘼đ˜Șđ˜Žđ˜”đ˜ąđ˜Źđ˜Šđ˜Ž đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ 𝘧𝘱đ˜Șđ˜­đ˜¶đ˜łđ˜Šđ˜Ž.

🙌 đ†đ«đžđšđ­ đ”đ§đ­đ«đźđ­đĄ 𝐹𝐟 đ„đŠđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐹𝐧𝐱𝐧𝐠: đ€đ„đ°đšđČ𝐬 đ­đ«đźđŹđ­ đČđšđźđ« đŸđžđžđ„đąđ§đ đŹ.

𝘗𝘮đ˜șđ˜€đ˜©đ˜°đ˜­đ˜°đ˜šđ˜ș 𝘗𝘳đ˜Șđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜±đ˜­đ˜Š 𝘝đ˜Șđ˜°đ˜­đ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„: 𝘞𝘩 𝘱𝘳𝘩 𝘱𝘭𝘭 đ˜±đ˜łđ˜°đ˜Żđ˜Š đ˜”đ˜° đ˜Šđ˜źđ˜°đ˜”đ˜Ș𝘰𝘯𝘱𝘭 𝘳𝘩𝘱𝘮𝘰𝘯đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Š đ˜€đ˜°đ˜Żđ˜§đ˜Șđ˜łđ˜źđ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Ș𝘰𝘯 𝘣đ˜Ș𝘱𝘮.

🙌 đ†đ«đžđšđ­ đ”đ§đ­đ«đźđ­đĄ 𝐹𝐟 𝐔𝐬 đ•đžđ«đŹđźđŹ 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐩: 𝐋𝐱𝐟𝐞 𝐱𝐬 𝐚 đ›đšđ­đ­đ„đž 𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐰𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐠𝐹𝐹𝐝 đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đžđŻđąđ„ đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž.

𝘗𝘮đ˜șđ˜€đ˜©đ˜°đ˜­đ˜°đ˜šđ˜ș 𝘗𝘳đ˜Șđ˜Żđ˜€đ˜Șđ˜±đ˜­đ˜Š 𝘝đ˜Șđ˜°đ˜­đ˜ąđ˜”đ˜Šđ˜„: 𝘞𝘩 𝘱𝘳𝘩 𝘱𝘭𝘭 đ˜±đ˜łđ˜°đ˜Żđ˜Š đ˜”đ˜° đ˜”đ˜łđ˜Ș𝘣𝘱𝘭đ˜Ș𝘮𝘼 đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„ đ˜„đ˜Șđ˜€đ˜©đ˜°đ˜”đ˜°đ˜źđ˜°đ˜¶đ˜Ž (đ˜Łđ˜­đ˜ąđ˜€đ˜Ź-đ˜ąđ˜Żđ˜„-đ˜žđ˜©đ˜Șđ˜”đ˜Š) đ˜”đ˜©đ˜Ș𝘯𝘬đ˜Ș𝘯𝘹.

Now of course, the authors are NOT saying these Great Untruths are LITERALLY being taught, but that they are taught IMPLICITLY. 🙌

Another big problem they mention is what’s known as “concept creep”, where the definition of words have grossly expanded in meaning over time in academia. 📚

📍 The idea of what constitutes “racism” has expanded from individual acts to now include an all-encompassing society (e.g. systemic racism, racial essentialism).

📍 The idea of what constitutes “trauma” has expanded from severe reactions to events like war to now normal aspects of life (e.g. divorce, bereavement, mean text messages).

📍 The idea of what constitutes “safety” has expanded from physical safety to now include “emotional safety” (e.g protection from criticisms you disagree with).

In other words: if you see 2 people fighting over what is or isn’t “violence”, there’s a great possibility they may be using 2 separate definitions of the word! 😅

The dictionary definition of “violence” is NOT the same definition being used in some academic circles, where speech has also come to be equated with “violence”. đŸ˜Č

As one UC Berkeley alum wrote in an Op-Ed ✍:

“Asking people to maintain peaceful dialogue with those who legitimately do not think their lives matter is a đŻđąđšđ„đžđ§đ­ 𝐚𝐜𝐭.” đŸ€Ź


Great point! That’s what I’m going to talk about right now! 😊

According to Haidt and Lukianoff, they propose the following reasons why they believe these things are happening. âŹ‡ïž

📌 𝐀𝐧 đąđ§đœđ«đžđšđŹđž 𝐱𝐧 đ©đšđ„đąđ­đąđœđšđ„ đ©đšđ„đšđ«đąđłđšđ­đąđšđ§.

– Because of the political climate, liberal colleges have shifted even further to the Left, thus tribalism is quick to ostracize differing viewpoints out of fear and group loyalty.

– This in turn has created distrust and hostility among those further to the Right, who now see colleges as lacking political diversity (in some places the ratio of Liberal to Conservative professors is 17 to 1), which in turn encourages their racial provocations towards the Left (e.g. “social justice warriors”, “snowflake generation”).

📌 đˆđ§đœđ«đžđšđŹđžđ đ«đšđ­đžđŹ 𝐹𝐟 đƒđžđ©đ«đžđŹđŹđąđšđ§ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ€đ§đ±đąđžđ­đČ 𝐚𝐩𝐹𝐧𝐠 𝐆𝐞𝐧 𝐙 (đ›đšđ«đ§ đšđŸđ­đžđ« 𝟏𝟗𝟗𝟔).

📌 đđšđ«đšđ§đšđąđ/đĄđžđ„đąđœđšđ©đ­đžđ« đ©đšđ«đžđ§đ­đąđ§đ .

– The paradox is children are safer today in the US more than any other time in history, yet at the same time they are also the most overprotected.

– Overprotection causes children to mature at much older ages. The emotional maturity of an 18 year old today is more equivalent to a 16 year old of the previous generation.

📌 đƒđžđœđ„đąđ§đž 𝐹𝐟 đŸđ«đžđž đ©đ„đšđČ.

– Parents driven by unrealistic fears of strangers and kidnappings (which are extremely rare in comparison to the 70’s and 80’s when it was a problem).

– Overuse of smartphones and social media.

– A rising competitiveness for parents to get their kids into top universities.

📌 đ‚đšđ«đ©đšđ«đšđ­đąđłđšđ­đąđšđ§ 𝐹𝐟 đœđšđ„đ„đžđ đžđŹ.

– Students are treated like customers, so there’s a financial incentive for colleges to continue giving into student’s demands.

– Market pressures to compete with other universities for future students.

– Bureaucratic means of resolving student’s problems may encourage students to become overly dependent on schools to solve their problems.

📌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐐𝐼𝐞𝐬𝐭 đŸđšđ« 𝐉𝐼𝐬𝐭𝐱𝐜𝐞.

– There’s an ongoing desire for social justice activism.

– Social justice movements can be used to remove barriers to equality of opportunity. But when social justice efforts aim to include fighting for equality of outcome, it’s aiming for an goal which cannot be reached without also violating equal opportunity.

– Correlation does not equal causation. When there is a correlation of an identity group membership with an outcome gap, it does not automatically mean it is evidence of discrimination. Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t.

If individuals cannot raise alternative possible causes without also being shouted down, collectively we will not arrive at the most accurate understanding of a problem.




📌 đđ«đžđ©đšđ«đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ‚đĄđąđ„đ đŸđšđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐹𝐚𝐝, 𝐍𝐹𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐹𝐚𝐝 đŸđšđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ‚đĄđąđ„đ.

– Assume your kids are more capable this month than they were last month.

– Let your kids take more small risks.

– Encourage your child to walk or ride bicycles to and from school at the earliest ages possible.

– Send your children to an overnight summer camp in the woods for a few weeks – without devices.

– Encourage your children to engage in A LOT of “productive disagreement”.

📌 đ˜đšđźđ« đ–đšđ«đŹđ­ 𝐄𝐧𝐞𝐩đČ 𝐂𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐹𝐭 đ‡đšđ«đŠ 𝐘𝐹𝐼 𝐚𝐬 𝐌𝐼𝐜𝐡 𝐚𝐬 đ˜đšđźđ« 𝐎𝐰𝐧 𝐓𝐡𝐹𝐼𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬, đ”đ§đ đźđšđ«đđžđ.

– Teach children the basics of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy).

– Teach children mindfulness.

📌 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐋𝐱𝐧𝐞 𝐃𝐱𝐯𝐱𝐝𝐱𝐧𝐠 𝐆𝐹𝐹𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ„đŻđąđ„ 𝐂𝐼𝐭𝐬 đ“đĄđ«đšđźđ đĄ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ‡đžđšđ«đ­ 𝐹𝐟 đ„đŻđžđ«đČ 𝐇𝐼𝐩𝐚𝐧 𝐁𝐞𝐱𝐧𝐠.

– Give people the benefit of the doubt.

– Practice the virtue of “intellectual humility”. Intellectual humility is the recognition that our reasoning is so flawed, so prone to bias, that we can rarely be certain that we are right.

– Look very carefully at how your school handles identity politics.

📌 đ‡đžđ„đ© đ’đœđĄđšđšđ„đŹ 𝐭𝐹 đŽđ©đ©đšđŹđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đ†đ«đžđšđ­ đ”đ§đ­đ«đźđ­đĄđŹ.

– Give more recess with less supervision.

– Discourage the use of the word “safe” or “safety” for anything other than physical safety.

– Have a “no devices” policy.

– Cultivate the intellectual virtues (e.g. curiosity, open-mindedness, intellectual humility)

– Teach debate and offer debate club.

– Assign reading and coursework that promote reasoned discussion.

📌 𝐋𝐱𝐩𝐱𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐱𝐧𝐞 𝐃𝐞𝐯𝐱𝐜𝐞 𝐓𝐱𝐩𝐞.

– Place clear limits on device time.

– Protect your child’s sleep.

📌 đ’đźđ©đ©đšđ«đ­ 𝐚 𝐍𝐞𝐰 đđšđ­đąđšđ§đšđ„ đđšđ«đŠ: đ’đžđ«đŻđąđœđž đšđ« đ–đšđ«đ€ đđžđŸđšđ«đž đ‚đšđ„đ„đžđ đž.

– Take a “gap year”.

– Encourage volunteer work.



📌 𝐄𝐧𝐭𝐰𝐱𝐧𝐞 đ˜đšđźđ« 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐭đČ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đ…đ«đžđžđđšđŠ 𝐹𝐟 𝐈𝐧đȘđźđąđ«đČ.

– Endorse the Chicago Statement (

– Establish a practice of not responding to public outrage.

– Do not allow the “heckler’s veto”.

📌 đđąđœđ€ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐞𝐬𝐭 đŒđąđ± 𝐹𝐟 đđžđšđ©đ„đž đŸđšđ« 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐱𝐬𝐬𝐱𝐹𝐧.

– Admit more students who are older and can show evidence of their ability to live independently.

– Admit more students who have attended schools that teach the “intellectual virtues”.

– Include viewpoint diversity in diversity polices.

📌 đŽđ«đąđžđ§đ­ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐄𝐝𝐼𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐞 đŸđšđ« đđ«đšđđźđœđ­đąđŻđž đƒđąđŹđšđ đ«đžđžđŠđžđ§đ­.

– Explicitly reject the Untruth of Fragility: What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker.

– Explicitly reject the Untruth of Emotional Reason: Always trust your feelings.

– Explicitly reject the Untruth of Us Versus Them: Life is a battle between good people and evil people.

📌 đƒđ«đšđ° 𝐚 đ‹đšđ«đ đžđ« đ‚đąđ«đœđ„đž đ€đ«đšđźđ§đ 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐹𝐩𝐩𝐼𝐧𝐱𝐭đČ – “𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐩đČ đ›đ«đšđ­đĄđžđ«đŹ đ­đ«đČ 𝐭𝐹 đđ«đšđ° 𝐚 đœđąđ«đœđ„đž 𝐭𝐹 đžđ±đœđ„đźđđž 𝐩𝐞, 𝐈 đŹđĄđšđ„đ„ đđ«đšđ° 𝐚 đ„đšđ«đ đžđ« đœđąđ«đœđ„đž 𝐭𝐹 đąđ§đœđ„đźđđž 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐩.”

– Foster school spirit.

– Protect physical safety.

– Host civil, cross-partisan events for students.


While reading all this can be overwhelming and sound like an uphill battle, Haidt and Lukianoff do conclude the book with hope. There are countertrends currently happening! 😃

👍 Recent studies are showing the ineffectiveness of trigger warnings. They also show that trigger warnings may even worsen a person’s feelings of anxiety (

👍 There are increasing discussions over the negative effects technology is having on kids, especially social media. Organizations like the Center for Humane Technology are aiming to reform the tech industry so products are healthier and less addictive.

👍 More states are passing laws to allow “free-range parenting” so a parent cannot be arrested for allowing their child to play without supervision.

👍 More writers like Timur Kuran, Amy Chua, and Jonathan Rauch are calling for a rethinking on identity politics and how both the far-Left and far-Right are feeding off them.

Even the Dalai Lama tweeted his own statement:

“𝐈’𝐩 𝐓𝐱𝐛𝐞𝐭𝐚𝐧, 𝐈’𝐩 𝐁𝐼𝐝𝐝𝐡𝐱𝐬𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈’𝐩 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đƒđšđ„đšđą 𝐋𝐚𝐩𝐚, 𝐛𝐼𝐭 𝐱𝐟 𝐈 đžđŠđ©đĄđšđŹđąđłđž 𝐩đČ đđąđŸđŸđžđ«đžđ§đœđžđŹ 𝐱𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐩𝐞 đšđ©đšđ«đ­ 𝐚𝐧𝐝 đ«đšđąđŹđžđŹ đ›đšđ«đ«đąđžđ«đŹ 𝐰𝐱𝐭𝐡 đšđ­đĄđžđ« đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐹 𝐝𝐹 𝐱𝐬 đ©đšđČ đŠđšđ«đž 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐱𝐹𝐧 𝐭𝐹 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐰𝐚đČ𝐬 𝐱𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐱𝐜𝐡 𝐰𝐞 đšđ«đž 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐞 𝐚𝐬 đšđ­đĄđžđ« đ©đžđšđ©đ„đž.”

👍 More universities are starting to emphasize truth as their đ˜”đ˜Šđ˜­đ˜°đ˜Ž and adopting the Chicago Statement on Principles of Free Expression (

👍 Author Jonathan Haidt himself has created Heterodox Academy, which includes thousands of professors, administrators, and students who are dedicated to promoting open inquiry, viewpoint diversity, and constructive disagreement in higher education.

Since the book’s publication, Haidt has continued to speak at various universities about these issues, and “Coddling” has won numerous awards for its ideas. Lukianoff is the President at the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE), addressing student rights violations on college campuses (freedom of speech, due process, religious liberty, etc). 🏆

Of course, my summary doesn’t do the book justice. If any of this peaks your interest, I’d recommend picking up a copy of the book. It’s only 5 dollars on Amazon Kindle! đŸ˜Č





📄 The Coddling of the American Mind (Article):

📄 Readers Respond to Coddling (Article):

📖 The Coddling of the American Mind (Book):

📖 The Rise of Victimhood Culture (Book):

📄 What is Concept Creep? (Article):

📄 The Free Speech Crisis on Campus is Worse Than People Think (Article):

📄 Free Speech For Me, But Not For Thee (Article):

đŸ–„ïž Disinvitation Attempts of College Speakers (Database):

📄 Chicago Statement on Principles of Free Expression (PDF):



đŸ“Œ Jonathan Haidt Speech About “Coddling” at UCCS (Video, 2019):



đŸ“Œ Yale University – Halloween Email Protest (Video, 2015):

đŸ“Œ McMaster University – Jordan Peterson Protest (Video, 2017):

đŸ“Œ Villanova University – Charles Murray Protest (Video, 2017):

đŸ“Œ Evergreen State College – Day of Absence Protests (Video, 2017):

đŸ“Œ UC Berkeley – Milo Yiannopoulos Riot (Video, 2017):

đŸ“Œ UC Berkeley – Ben Shapiro Protest (Video, 2017):

đŸ“Œ Oberlin College – Gibson’s Bakery Protest (Video, 2019):


𝗹𝗣𝗗𝗔𝗧𝗘 đ—Šđ—ąđ—šđ—„đ—–đ—˜đ—Š:

📄 Coddling Book Update 1 – Introduction (Article, 2020):

📄 Coddling Book Update 2 – Trigger Warnings, Social Media Use (Article, 2020):

📄 Association for Psychological Science – Trigger Warnings Fail to Help and May Even Harm (Article 2020):

How We STOP Throwing Out Babies!


“What the devil are you talking about, Donald?!” 

Let me explain!  For those who knew me a few years ago, I’m not the same person I was back then. I’ve grown A TON, had many personal transformations, and had many new experiences!

Just as we all get older, we’re never the exact same person we were the moment before. We’re 1 more second older. 1 more second alive. 1 more second existing. ⌛

And what we do with the time we have on this planet is our choice! 

For me, I like to spend time creating content for you all, like this post! My desire is to provide thoughtful posts, ones you can use long after you’ve read them. 

If I can have at least 1 person be touched or be inspired by my posts to take action in their lives for the better, that’s all I ask! 

“But Donald! What were you talking about before, about babies?!” 

Oh yes, the baby! Right!

Anyways, with this quick growth of mine has also came valuable lessons I’ve learned. One of these lessons I want to share with you all today. 

I’m talking about: not throwing out the baby with the bathwater.

And since this is the internet where things can be misinterpreted or taken out of context, I want to clarify with you all here: ‘Throw out the baby with the bathwater’ is just a figure of speech. It is not meant to be taken literally, and there is no physical baby or bathwater!

“So Donald, what does this phrase mean?” 

So when you say to someone “Don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater”, you are telling the other person not to get rid of the good with the bad. You are telling them within the bad there’s still some good that can be taken out of it.

Take the example of a broken car: just because a car is broken does not mean every part of the car is also broken too. There may still be some working parts in the car you can use in a working car instead.


So why should we all “not throw out the baby with the bathwater”? Because in our society, we do it A LOT!

It’s the reason why there’s so much division among people. Because we’re unwilling to understand that someone’s political party, religion, or peer group does not 100% define them as a person, we throw out any possibility of getting to know them any further.

We close ourselves off to different perspectives, different ways of seeing the world, different ways of solving problems, and most importantly reminding ourselves we’re all human beings.

Just like the broken car, we wouldn’t automatically assume everything about another person was broken just because we didn’t like them, right?

Or would we?


I don’t say this to sound condescending. I’ve fallen into this trap before too! You’re not alone!

It’s easy for us to stay attached to our personal beliefs and not be open to others. Our beliefs give us a sense of control and order to our lives. Beliefs give us security. Beliefs provide the answers to life’s unanswered questions. Beliefs give us absolute truth where we don’t have absolutes.

Our beliefs are what gives us our identity. It’s completely understandable why people would feel hostility towards people who are not like themselves.

But at the root of that feeling, this refusal to understand, is simply fear.

In order for this to change:

  • We need to be open to accepting the fact there are other people in world who have different perspectives than yourself.
  • We need to be open to being ‘wrong’.
  • We need to develop empathy towards others.
  • We need to remember our beliefs are not our own. Think about it: Beliefs are opinions and viewpoints on life you have picked up over time in your life. You didn’t have them the moment you were born.
  • We need to remind ourselves we’re all human beings on this planet.

Because when we dismiss someone and their beliefs, we don’t just “throw out the baby with the bathwater”. We throw out the human being with their beliefs. 


So the next time you’re talking with another person:

  • Remember we all come from different walks of life, and we all have reasons for believing what we believe.
  • Empathize. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes. You may learn something new you didn’t know before.
  • Seek to understand why the other person believes what they believe. Let me emphasize: this does NOT mean you have to agree with what they believe. It just means you understand why they believe what they do.

As I like to remind everyone, I’m only human too. I sometimes need these reminders myself. This is a lesson I continue to learn too!

But with these solutions in our minds, we all can make further progress towards working alongside our fellow neighbors. 


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