How You TRANSFORM Your Life!

โ€œEver more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.โ€ย – Viktor Franklย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

๐ŸŒŸย A life filled with purpose and meaning is what drives a person forward.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

What gets you out of bed every morning? Do you PUSH yourself out of bed? Or are you PULLED to something greater than the present moment? Why does any person wake up each morning: to liveโ€ฆor to maintain?ย ๐Ÿค”

I believe these are very important questions we need to ask in a world where mental health continues to be a grave concern.ย ๐Ÿง 

โš ๏ธย According to the World Health Organization, depression is the leading cause of mental illness with an estimate 300 MILLION people affected.ย โš ๏ธ

A few years ago I wouldโ€™ve also been a part of that list. But I don’t consider myself anymore.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

โ€œHow did you change that?โ€ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

One thing I’ll tell you for certain was it wasn’t a quick fix. It’s a process, one which will take time, patience, and lots of focus.ย ๐Ÿ‘€

But I can tell you it’s worth it!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ“ย DO MORE THINGS THAT LIGHT UP YOUR HEART & SOUL. Even if others say it’s not “realistic” or “worth it”, if it’s worth it to you that’s what matters. You do it for you, not for other people.

๐Ÿ“ย START CHOOSING TO SEE YOUR PROBLEMS AS “GIFTS”. No matter how bad the problem is, ask yourself how this problem can work in your favor.

๐Ÿ“ย START CHALLENGING YOUR BAD HABITS & BUILD NEW ONES. It’s easier to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. Remind yourself the changes you’re making are for your Future Self.

๐Ÿ“ย DEVELOP MORE SELF-AWARENESS. Whether it’s meditating, journaling, or creating goals, the better you understand yourself (the good and the bad) the faster you can make adjustments in your life.

๐Ÿ“ย DO MORE GOOD FOR OTHERS. The fastest way out of suffering? Do good for the next person you see. It can even be as simple as a smile. It’s when we’re stuck in our heads where we suffer.

Shoutout to my friend Rapahel and the work his non-profit The Hero Foundation Napa is doing for his community! It’s how I got this awesome shirt!ย ๐Ÿ‘•

I hope it inspires you to spread good too! Because THAT is a life worth living!ย โค๏ธ

Why Self Esteem TRIUMPHS Narcissism!

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Take a person who is narcissistic. They need constant validation. They need to always be right. They need to dominate every argument. They need to be seen as strong and powerful by others. But underneath it all is a person with lots of insecurity and fear.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

They barely understand themselves as a person, because they’re too focused on what other people think of them. They actually have low self-esteem.ย ๐Ÿ‘€

Now take another person, but this person has high self-esteem. They don’t worry what others think of them. What matters to them is what they think of themselves. They understand themselves on a deep level. They are very self-accepting of who they are. They don’t feel a need to flaunt themselves.ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

They carry their own Inner Cheerleader.ย ๐Ÿฅณ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ. ๐—ก๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜; ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป. ๐ŸŒŸ

Can you relate to either of these people in some way? Perhaps you can relate a bit of both of them?ย ๐Ÿค”

I admit I do!ย ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Yes, I’ve sometimes looked at how many likes I got on my photos. I’ve sometimes looked to see who liked my content. I’ve sometimes gotten worried when my posts didn’t get a lot of reception.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

But then again, I also don’t typically depend on Likes and Comments to make me happy either. I am genuinely happy with who I am as a person, my sense of self.ย ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ค

I share this photo above mostly because modeling photos on social media are what people like to see. So here’s your eye-candy; this is my silly impression of “modeling”! ๐Ÿ˜

And I say this all of this to you with so much love.ย โค๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜, ๐˜„๐—ฒ’๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why? Because we won’t always have people on the Internet to validate us. We won’t always have people in our lives that are kind to us. So we will always have to keep refilling our Happiness Cup endlessly.ย โ˜•

And when our cup is empty, what are we left with? Nothing. Emptiness.ย ๐Ÿ’จ

But with self-esteem, your cup is always filled! You refill it whenever you want! You are in control!ย ๐Ÿ’ช

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why We Hold Beliefs TIGHT!

“๐’€๐‘ถ๐‘ผ’๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘พ๐‘น๐‘ถ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘จ๐‘ต๐‘ซ ๐‘ฐ’๐‘ด ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ฎ๐‘ฏ๐‘ป! ๐‘ท๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ถ๐‘ซ!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

One thing 2 people can easily get caught up in is an argument. I don’t mean one where both sides share their perspectives in a respectful and open manner.

(This is the Internet after all!ย ๐Ÿ˜‰)

I mean one where it becomes less about exchanging ideas and more about wanting to be “right”. It becomes a game of egoic dominance over the other person.

Why do we do this? I’ll give you one reason.

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†. ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Being “wrong” can feel very uncomfortable because when you’re so attached to your beliefs it feels like a personal attack on you, rather than a simple disagreement on your beliefs.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

Say you are an advocate for the environment, and you wholeheartedly believe that what you’re doing is helping it.ย ๐ŸŒฑ

But then say someone comes along who disagrees with what you’re doing. They present to you a different viewpoint you hadn’t thought of before, arguing what you’re doing is actually hurting the environment more than it is helping it.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Instead of hearing their points, you jump on the defense! You filter out the things they are saying. “๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’•’๐’” ๐’“๐’Š๐’…๐’Š๐’„๐’–๐’๐’๐’–๐’”! ๐‘ฐ’๐’—๐’† ๐’…๐’๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’š๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’”! ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’‹๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’Œ๐’๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š’๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’•!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Whether they had a valid point or not didn’t matter. You shut yourself off from hearing what they had to say. Because it was more comfortable sticking to what you already knew.ย โŒ

Ignorance can indeed be bliss.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด “๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด” ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ. ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why Complaining is EASY!

Do you know someone who always finds something to complain about?ย ๐Ÿคฌ

Maybe it’s a family member. A friend. An online ranter. Some people have literally made businesses online profiting off their complaining about the world!ย ๐ŸŒŽ

If you look hard enough, you can find something to complain about for anything! Our brains are hardwired to focus on the negatives; it helped us survive way back when.ย ๐Ÿง 

In other words, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to complain; anyone can, and most people do!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐ŸŒŸย Everyone has an opinion. Fewer have the example.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

So why should anyone even try to stop complaining? Why even try something new when it’s so easy? Everyone else does it, so why shouldn’t I?ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

But while misery does loves company, so does happiness.ย ๐ŸŒž

And there’s a second part to Dale Carnegie’s quote above: “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do…

…But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”ย โค๏ธ

Are you up for the challenge? You can always start complaining again tomorrow!ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

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