Why YOU Are Suffering!

“What upsets people are not THINGS themselves but their JUDGMENTS about the things.” ~ Epictetus 💬
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Do you want to feel LESS UPSET? Allow me to assist! ❤️
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We are not upset because an event happens. We are upset because we believe an event “shouldn’t” have happened. 😣
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We’re arguing with the “shoulds” in our minds. 🤯
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We’re arguing with the feelings of anger and frustration we’re experiencing. 🤬
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We’re arguing with a past which no longer exists. ⌛
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But here’s the problem: “𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐮𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞.” 😓
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So, I want to introduce you to a solution: ACCEPTANCE. ❤️
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🙌 Accept whatever it is you’re experiencing. 🙌
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Accept the events which happened. Accept the emotions you’re feeling. Accept the judgments your mind is making. Accept whatever is.
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Accept. And you’ll be surprised how fast you’ll be able to let these things go. 🙌
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Release. 🙌
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Surrender. 🙌
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Because it’s only when you continue holding onto this baggage will you cause yourself needless suffering. 😨
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🤬 “HOW DARE YOU, DONALD! I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED!” 🤬
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You do! 100%! You have every reason to feel this way! 💯
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There’s no doubt there’s a feeling of nobility, this sense of self-righteousness, to hold onto these negative emotions. I totally get it! 💯
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These intense emotions serve you feelings of power. These intense emotions serve you feelings of control over what at times can feel like a very chaotic world. ✊
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As I heard 1 person once describe their feelings of anger: “It’s like jet fuel!” 🤬
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For me to tell you to accept your emotions, for me to tell you to diffuse the mechanisms which provide your feelings of power and control, is by far the last thing you’d want to hear from me, right?! 💯
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I understand. ❤️
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But I can assure you: 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐝, 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐚𝐬𝐭.
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And there are far better, more constructive ways to handling our problems. 💯
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Let me clarify:
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📍 Acceptance does not mean we become complacent in our life.
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📍 Acceptance does not mean we enable the things and situations which spark our negative emotions.
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📍 Acceptance is simply about freeing ourselves from needless suffering.
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📍 Acceptance is simply about clearing the weeds from our minds.
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📍 Acceptance is simply a tool to help us see things as they are, objectively, without any judgments and attachments.
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And practicing acceptance doesn’t just affect you! 😲
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It affects how you will interact with others, how civil you’ll be with others in tense situations. 🗣️
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It affects what solutions you’re going to come up with to address your problems. 🤔
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It affects the long-term impact you’re going to have upon short-term situations. 🗓️
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“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle 💬
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How Others Help Us Understand OURSEVLES!

Ever met someone you simply couldn’t get along with? 🤔

Say you’re introduced to a new person. But as you get to know then, something about them just ‘rubs you the wrong way’ and you don’t like them. Ever had that feeling before? 👐

There was once an online acquaintance I met. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but for some reason I just didn’t enjoy talking to him. In my perspective my ego was saying he was “overconfident” and “cocky”. 🗣️

I felt this person was not someone I could see myself getting along with long-term… 👍

There’s the quote: “Every problem introduces a person to himself.” At first it bothered me that I didn’t understand why I disliked this person. But then I thought about it in a different way:

🌟 “What does my dislike for this person say about ME?” 🌟

After further thinking, I discovered this key nugget: He wasn’t in fact “overconfident” or “cocky”. That was only in my interpretation of his behavior. There were many others that didn’t see his words or actions like I did! 😲

⚠️ In fact: What I rejected about him were things I actually reject within myself. ⚠️

I have had fears in the past of my content online coming off as “overconfident” and “cocky”. In psychology, the term is called projection: I unconsciously attributed the things I fear about myself and claimed they were in another person! 😲

It’s why self awareness is so important! The more you become aware of yourself and how you function, the better you can help others in similar situations. Remember: It’s not just for Me, but We. 🌎

The next time you feel the need to criticize another person, flip the criticism back at you. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong, but it’s so you can ask yourself what you can learn about yourself from these feelings. 😁 #TranscendLabels

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I Smile Remembering High School…

I browsed through some old high school mementos and felt a sense of nostalgia this evening. I remember being back there. There honestly weren’t many thoughts that crossed my mind of when I would enter adulthood. Most of my focus back then was on my present life: my friends, the homework, the pep rallies, the after-school activities, the cliques, the AP classes, the couples, the drama, etc. Continue reading “I Smile Remembering High School…”