Why You Are SUFFERING!

💬 “𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐮𝐩𝐬𝐞𝐭𝐬 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐉𝐔𝐃𝐆𝐌𝐄𝐍𝐓𝐒 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬.” ~ Epictetus 💬

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Do you want to feel LESS UPSET? Allow me to assist! ❤️

We are not upset because an event happens. We are upset because we believe an event “should” or “should not” have happened. 😣

We’re arguing with the “Shoulds” in our minds. 🤯

We’re arguing with the feelings of fear, anger, and frustration we’re experiencing. 🤬

We’re arguing with a past which no longer exists. ⌛

But here’s the problem: “𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐠𝐮𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐥𝐨𝐬𝐞.” 😓

So, I want to introduce you to a solution: ACCEPTANCE. ❤️

🙌 𝐀𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠. 🙌

Accept the facts about the situation. Accept the emotions you’re currently experiencing. Accept whatever is.

Accept. And you’ll be surprised how fast you’ll be able to let the tension go. 🙌

Release. 🙌

Surrender. 🙌

Because it’s only when you continue holding onto this baggage will you keep causing yourself needless suffering. 😨

🤬 “HOW DARE YOU, DONALD! I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED!” 🤬

𝐘𝐞𝐬, 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨! 𝟏𝟎𝟎%! 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐲! 💯

There’s no doubt there’s a feeling of nobility, a sense of self-righteousness, to hold onto negative emotions. I totally get it! 💯

Intense emotions like anger give you a feeling of power. These intense emotions give you feelings of control over what at times feels like a very chaotic world. ✊

As I heard 1 person describe their feelings of anger: “It’s like jet fuel!” 🤬

And for me to tell you to “just accept” your emotions, for me to tell you to diffuse the very mechanisms which are providing you feelings of power and control, is by far the last thing your ego wants to hear from me, right?! 💯

I absolutely understand. ❤️

But I can also assure you: 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐬𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐦𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐝, 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐟𝐚𝐬𝐭.

And there are far better, more constructive ways to handling our problems. 💯

Let me clarify:

📍 Acceptance does not mean we become complacent in our lives.

📍 Acceptance does not mean we enable the things and situations which spark our negative emotions.

📍 Acceptance is simply about freeing ourselves from needless suffering.

📍 Acceptance is simply about clearing the weeds out of our minds.

📍 Acceptance is simply a tool to help us see things as they are, objectively, without all the judgments and attachments.

𝐁𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐟𝐟𝐞𝐜𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮! 😲

It affects how you will interact with others, how civil you’re going to be with people in tense situations. 🗣️

It affects what solutions you’re going to come up with to handle your problems. 🤔

It affects the long-term impact you’re going to have upon short-term situations. 🗓️

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💬 “𝐀𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 – 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐜𝐭. 𝐖𝐡𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬, 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐝 𝐜𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐭. 𝐀𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐢𝐭, 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐢𝐭.” ~ Eckhart Tolle 💬

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How Others Help Us Understand OURSEVLES!

Ever met someone you simply couldn’t get along with? 🤔

Say you’re introduced to a new person. But as you get to know then, something about them just ‘rubs you the wrong way’ and you don’t like them. Ever had that feeling before? 👐

There was once an online acquaintance I met. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but for some reason I just didn’t enjoy talking to him. In my perspective my ego was saying he was “overconfident” and “cocky”. 🗣️

I felt this person was not someone I could see myself getting along with long-term… 👍

There’s the quote: “Every problem introduces a person to himself.” At first it bothered me that I didn’t understand why I disliked this person. But then I thought about it in a different way:

🌟 “What does my dislike for this person say about ME?” 🌟

After further thinking, I discovered this key nugget: He wasn’t in fact “overconfident” or “cocky”. That was only in my interpretation of his behavior. There were many others that didn’t see his words or actions like I did! 😲

⚠️ In fact: What I rejected about him were things I actually reject within myself. ⚠️

I have had fears in the past of my content online coming off as “overconfident” and “cocky”. In psychology, the term is called projection: I unconsciously attributed the things I fear about myself and claimed they were in another person! 😲

It’s why self awareness is so important! The more you become aware of yourself and how you function, the better you can help others in similar situations. Remember: It’s not just for Me, but We. 🌎

The next time you feel the need to criticize another person, flip the criticism back at you. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong, but it’s so you can ask yourself what you can learn about yourself from these feelings. 😁 #TranscendLabels

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I Smile Remembering High School…

I browsed through some old high school mementos and felt a sense of nostalgia this evening. I remember being back there. There honestly weren’t many thoughts that crossed my mind of when I would enter adulthood. Most of my focus back then was on my present life: my friends, the homework, the pep rallies, the after-school activities, the cliques, the AP classes, the couples, the drama, etc. Continue reading “I Smile Remembering High School…”