The Most VALUABLE Skill to Build! (PERSONAL)

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

It was April. I had all my flights booked for my trip to Scotland. I was all set! ๐Ÿด๓ ง๓ ข๓ ณ๓ ฃ๓ ด๓ ฟ

I got to the Chicago Oโ€™Hare airport. Check! I checked in and boarded my flight. Check! I landed in London. Check! No sweat! ๐Ÿ˜…

Next it was time for for my flight to Scotland! I went to the airport check-in kiosk and typed in my ticket confirmation number. โŒจ๏ธ

โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ

Weird! I tried again. โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ It told me to go to the Customer Service desk for further assistance.

I was baffled! I looked at my plane ticket and then at my phone. I was definitely on time to catch the flight. What was going on?! โ‰๏ธ

I then checked the date on the ticket and at my phoneโ€ฆOH NO! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

MY FLIGHT LEFT 24 HOURS AGO!!! I HAD BOOKED A FLIGHT FOR THE WRONG DAY!!! โŒ›

โ€œ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’‡๐’Š๐’“๐’”๐’• ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’•๐’”, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’Ž๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’… ๐’Š๐’• ๐’–๐’‘! ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’˜๐’‰๐’๐’๐’† ๐’”๐’„๐’‰๐’†๐’…๐’–๐’๐’†!โ€ ๐Ÿคฌ

My body tensed. My breathing went shallow. My face squinted. What nowโ€ฆ?! ๐Ÿ˜“

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

If I had to tell you the #1 skill that has made the greatest impact on my life, it would be the one Iโ€™m about to share with you all. ๐Ÿ™Œ

This skill has everything to do with whatโ€™s shaped me into the person I am today. It has everything to do with how I gained control over my life. This skill I’d even argue is the most humanistic skill I can share to anyone! โค๏ธ

What am I talking about? Do you really want to know? I ask because honestly quite a few people won’t want to know. Why? Because they’ve heard about this skill before and dismissed it in the past. ๐Ÿงน

Because I’m talking about: Personal Responsibility. That’s right! If I had to tell you the #1 skill you should develop for your life, it is THIS! ๐ŸŽฏ

That being said, what is Personal Responsibility? ๐Ÿ“–

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ, ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

And I can already hear the critics of personal responsibility shouting from the rooftops! โœŠ

โ€œ๐–๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐จ๐ซ๐ง: ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐œ๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฌ! ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ก๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž! ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ-๐›๐ฅ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ !โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐š๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ ๐จ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ!โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

To clarify, personal responsibility is NOT about carrying the weight of the entire world on your shoulders. I donโ€™t expect anyone to do that, not even myself! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Bad things happen to good people, no doubt. There is injustice and corruption in the world, yes Iโ€™m with you on that too! ๐Ÿ‘

But thatโ€™s not what this skill is about.

Personal responsibility is about taking the reins on our lives, being the Driver and not the Passenger of our circumstances.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, we are not responsible for things like where we are born. And personal responsibility says regardless of where we started in life that we work with the limited resources weโ€™ve been given.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, bad things happen to good people. And personal responsibility says in spite of the bad things we choose how we respond to them and still find ways to move forward.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, people and events outside our control may stop us from achievements in your life. And personal responsibility says: โ€œThey will TRY, but they wonโ€™t stop me from reaching my destination!โ€

It’s NOT about being 100% responsible for everything and everyone. It’s about being 100% responsible for how you experience your life, that it’s never to be by accident, that you always take a conscious role in creating it.

In developing personal responsibility, you give yourself the gift of self-love. “๐™‰๐™ค ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ’๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™Š๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™, ๐™„’๐™ข ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™–๐™ก๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™„๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™!”

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

โ€ฆWhat now?! I was standing at the the airport kiosk with my luggage in one hand, my phone in the other, and trying to think of what to do. ๐Ÿ˜“

My mind filled up with questions. ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’„๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’”๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’‘๐’Š๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐‘ฐโ€™๐’Ž ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’„๐’Œ ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’‚ ๐’๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐‘บ๐’„๐’๐’•๐’๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’„๐’†๐’๐’๐’†๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’‚ ๐’“๐’๐’๐’Ž? ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’„๐’‰ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’๐’†๐’š ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’…?

I closed my eyes and took a deep breathโ€ฆand Personal Responsibility crept back into my mind! ๐Ÿ”‰

“๐˜ฟ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ง๐™˜๐™ช๐™ข๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š๐™จ, ๐™„ ๐™–๐™ข ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ. ๐™๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™—๐™ก๐™š๐™ข๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ซ๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฎ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ. ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ž๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™›๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ. ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ข๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š, ๐™จ๐™ค ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™—๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ.” ๐Ÿ’ช

The kiosk had mentioned the Customer Service desk, so I went there. I spoke to the lady at the desk, I told her what happened, and I asked her what the most upcoming flights were to Scotland. โœˆ๏ธ

Sure enough, there was an available flight only a few hours later! The lady said there would be an additional fee to transfer the ticket. At first my body tensed up again, but Personal Responsibility once again took over! “๐™„๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™—๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ, ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™˜๐™๐™š๐™™๐™ช๐™ก๐™š.”

So in the end I got to Scotland only a couple hours later than my original schedule, and I got to meet my long-time MySpace friend Kris Nimbley for the first time! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

Take time to invite Personal Responsibility into your life. The more you keep inviting him, the quicker he comes back to help you take the reins!

Unfortunately I know this post may fall on deaf ears for some people. Some people in fact don’t want to take responsibility. Why? Because it takes work to practice. It takes time to develop. It’s an ongoing muscle that needs to continue being conditioned. ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Even more, personal responsibility requires a person to give up a habit they simply may not want to give up: blaming. We live in a culture that’s filled with blaming and pointing the finger. This behavior is reinforced by other fellow Blamers, and rather than any side take some sort of responsibility it becomes a Blaming Party. “๐‘ฐ๐’•’๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Š๐’“ ๐’‡๐’‚๐’–๐’๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† ๐‘ฐ ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’Š๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”!” โ˜๏ธ

I confess, I’ve not been entirely blameless myself. There are times I’ve slipped up and blamed where I shouldn’t have. I don’t expect you to be perfect either starting out. But with time and practice, it will improve! Compared to where I was a while ago, I’ve come a very long way!

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t lose 80 pounds because I kept blaming fast food for my obesity. It’s because I took responsibility over my food habits.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make peace with my sexuality because I kept blaming others for not accepting me. It’s because I took responsibility to develop self-love and acceptance within myself.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make the progress I have the past few years because I kept blaming others for where I was in life. It’s because I took responsibility for wherever I was and to always find solutions to keep moving forward.

๐ŸŒŸ Blame is the excuse for inaction. Personal responsibility is the excuse for action. ๐ŸŒŸ

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I hope you found this post helpful! Personal responsibility has been a gift to my life, and I hope it is for yours too! ๐ŸŽ

I am taking responsibility once again to run the NYC Marathon in November! It’s my FIRST marathon, and I’ve been training for over 10 weeks! I am dedicated to crossing that finish line! ๐Ÿ

I’m running with Team for Kids to raise funds for youth fitness programs nationwide! My goal is to raise $2,500, and I know we all can make this happen! Please share this post so others can be a part of impacting tomorrow’s adults! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Why Be AWARE of Your Environment!

What kind of person do you want to become in your life?ย ๐Ÿค”

A hopeful person? A person who looks for the best in others? A person who focuses on solutions over problems? A person who takes responsibility for their emotions?ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

A cynical person? A person who looks for the worst in others? A person who obsesses over what’s wrong with the world? A person who places blame on everyone but themselves?ย ๐Ÿ˜ก

There is one key factor that will determine this!ย ๐Ÿ”‘

๐ŸŒŸย Who you become will depend on the people and the things you surround yourself with.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

There’s a reason I surround myself around positive, inspiring people. There’s a reason I listen, read, and learn about things which empower me to become a better person. There’s a reason I don’t watch the news.ย ๐Ÿ’ช

I won’t deny I still have negative moments. I still have moments where I DON’T always want to surround myself with positivity. There’s nothing wrong with that. We all have those moments.ย ๐Ÿ‘

In fact, I have times in my life where I simply want to headbang to some heavy metal, play a mindless videogame, or watch a video of dank memes. No shame!ย ๐Ÿ˜Ž

It only becomes a concern when it takes up a majority of our time.ย โฐ

Again, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with any of those! It’s just not what I’ve personally chosen to surround myself around a most of the time. It may be different for you!ย ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

I’m also not saying you have to change what you surround yourself with either. All I’m saying is simply to become more aware how our environment influences us, that whatever we choose for our environment in the future will also influence us too.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

So if you know who you want to become in your life, just remember: your environment plays a key role.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ

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Why Your Mind is a GARDEN!

Have you ever found yourself focusing on a situation that was NOT making you happy? ๐Ÿค”

One negative thought after another, you started to feel more and more crappy. ๐Ÿ˜ก

But you didn’t think of changing the thoughts in your mind. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

There’s a reason Jim Rohn said: “Every day, stand guard at the door of your mind.” ๐Ÿ’ฌ

Your mind is like a garden. Whatever seeds you plant they will expand in your daily thoughts. ๐ŸŽ

What seeds are you planting regularly? Seeds of Problems? Seeds of Solutions? Seeds of Gratitude? Seeds of Anger? ๐ŸŒฑ

The problem is when we think we aren’t in control of our minds. We are, just not in the way we might think. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

What’s out of our control is the thoughts that cross our minds. No doubt. But what’s in our control is our choice to attach and respond to these thoughts.ย You start to realize this when you do practices like meditation. You are more in control that you think. ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸ Control your mind or your mind controls you. ๐ŸŒŸ

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How to KEEP Your Inner Power!

โœŠย DONโ€™T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!!ย โœŠ

A few days ago I had a VERY interesting morning!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

I woke up like any regular weekday. I took my regular vitamins.ย ๐Ÿ’Šย I drank my regular smoothie. I did my regular meditation.ย ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™€๏ธย I did my regular stretching. And then I got to work!ย ๐Ÿ‘Š

Sounds good, right? Pretty much it was a regular start to the day.ย ๐Ÿ‘

45 minutes have passed on the computer and Iโ€™m โ€œin the zoneโ€: Iโ€™m writing emails. Iโ€™m clickity clicking my mouse. Iโ€™m tapping my keyword with my ultra-fast 2 fingers (thatโ€™s how I type, no shame). Iโ€™m in the flow, and Iโ€™m getting work done!ย ๐Ÿ˜Ž

So Iโ€™m in the middle of typing my next email to a clientโ€ฆand up pops a notification on my screen that Iโ€™ve lost my internet connection! My face scrunches with pure confusion.ย ๐Ÿ˜–ย I look to the Internet router behind my computer; itโ€™s off! I look to the power strip under my desk; itโ€™s off! I head downstairs to the kitchen to check the microwave clock; Iโ€™m sure you can guess what I saw…!

๐Ÿ˜ฑย THE POWER WAS OUT!!!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

It is days like these which snap you out of your comfort zone. Itโ€™s days like these where Unexpected arrives at your emotional home ready to stir the pot and cause some trouble.ย ๐Ÿ ย Unexpected is never invited, but he arrives whenever these kinds of situations happen!ย ๐Ÿ˜ˆ

And it is also days like these which remind you how much our modern society relies on electricity to get work done.ย ๐Ÿ’กย Thereโ€™s a thought in my mind that starts to wonder about how our society would function without it.ย ๐Ÿค”

But as many thoughts like these start popping into my head, I call the electric company to report the outage. Their automated response tells itโ€™s affected over 200 homes in the area and the estimated time of restoration is around 2 hours.ย โฒ๏ธ

๐Ÿ˜ฑย 2 HOURS!!!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

โ€œWhat am I going to do now?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

โ€œHow am I going to get a hold of my boss?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

โ€œWhat if they think Iโ€™m lying?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

โ€œHow am I going to get my work done?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

โ€œWhy did this have to happen on a weekday?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

โ€œHow is the power out on a sunny, 70 degree day?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

There were the new thoughts crossing through my mind now!ย ๐Ÿคฏ

So what was the first thing I did after I got off the phone?ย ๐Ÿค”

A. I dwelled and complained about my situation.

B. I continuously wondered how soon the power would be back on.

C. I created a list in my head of every possible scenario why the power went out.

D. I constantly thought about all the work I wasnโ€™t going to get done with the power off.

E. All of the above.

Perhaps itโ€™s because Iโ€™ve welcomed Unexpected into my emotional home many times before, today was thankfully a day none of these options were a choice in my mind. The key word here: I WELCOMED Unexpected into my emotional home!ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

โœŠย DONโ€™T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!!ย โœŠ

Iโ€™ve learned over time to welcome Unexpected with open arms every time he arrives. Iโ€™ve accepted Unexpected is going to come whether I want him to or not.ย ๐Ÿ‘ย I now have made it a point to remind myself that the more I try to resist Unexpectedโ€™s presence, it hurts no one but myself.ย ๐Ÿ˜–

So what was the ACTUAL first thing I did after I got off the phone?ย ๐Ÿค”

I got back on my phone, started blasting some music, and like a child leaping into a puddle I leapt onto my rebounder and jumped like there was no tomorrow. The Grumpy Adult quickly turned into a Playful Child!ย ๐Ÿ˜„

Itโ€™s important we remember there are things within our control and things that are out of our controlย โ†”๏ธ:

๐Ÿ“Œย it is NOT in my control when life doesnโ€™t go exactly the way I want it to. But it is in my control to make the best of whatever circumstances Iโ€™m given.

๐Ÿ“Œย It is NOT in my control when someone treats me unfairly. But it is in my control to give love even when it is not given.

๐Ÿ“Œย It is NOT in my control that Unexpected arrives at my emotional home whenever he wants to. But it is in my control in how I handle Unexpectedโ€™s arrival.

๐Ÿ“Œย It is NOT in my control when the power goes out. But it is in my control how I respond to the situation.

Itโ€™s important we remind ourselves to distinguish the 2 to save ourselves from needless suffering. Because with a clear head, we all can better focus on solutions.ย ๐Ÿ˜

โœŠย DONโ€™T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!!ย โœŠ

I decided in that moment Unexpected wasnโ€™t going to screw with my emotional home. He wasnโ€™t going to take over my home; instead he was going to join us along for the party on the rebounder!ย ๐ŸŽŠ

๐ŸŒŸย With a cluttered mind, I was worried about how I was going to get a hold of my boss. Now with a clear head, I quickly remembered I had phone internet data to easily send her an email.

๐ŸŒŸย With a cluttered mind, I was wondering how the power couldโ€™ve possibly gone out. Now with a clear head, I easily dismissed the thought because it wasnโ€™t going to change the power from coming back on.

๐ŸŒŸย With a cluttered mind, I was dwelling on all the work I had to get done because of the power being out. Now with a clear head, I had accepted the current circumstances and started to brainstorm solution going forward.

On a bright note, the power came back on sooner than I was told!ย ๐Ÿ’ฏย Less than an hour had passed and it was back up and running! No casualties! No worries! And with all that, I got back onto my computer and back to work.ย ๐Ÿ˜Ž

And to think: if I was in the same place I was a few years ago with my personal growth, I may have still been lingering over that kitchen microwave worrying and hoping for a miracle.ย ๐Ÿ‘

โœŠย DONโ€™T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!!ย โœŠ

Comment how you keep your inner power!ย โœŠ

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