How to KEEP Your Inner Power!

✊ DON’T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!! ✊

A few days ago I had a VERY interesting morning! 😅

I woke up like any regular weekday. I took my regular vitamins. 💊 I drank my regular smoothie. I did my regular meditation. 🧘‍♀️ I did my regular stretching. And then I got to work! 👊

Sounds good, right? Pretty much it was a regular start to the day. 👍

45 minutes have passed on the computer and I’m “in the zone”: I’m writing emails. I’m clickity clicking my mouse. I’m tapping my keyword with my ultra-fast 2 fingers (that’s how I type, no shame). I’m in the flow, and I’m getting work done! 😎

So I’m in the middle of typing my next email to a client…and up pops a notification on my screen that I’ve lost my internet connection! My face scrunches with pure confusion. 😖 I look to the Internet router behind my computer; it’s off! I look to the power strip under my desk; it’s off! I head downstairs to the kitchen to check the microwave clock; I’m sure you can guess what I saw…!

😱 THE POWER WAS OUT!!! 😱

It is days like these which snap you out of your comfort zone. It’s days like these where Unexpected arrives at your emotional home ready to stir the pot and cause some trouble. 🏠 Unexpected is never invited, but he arrives whenever these kinds of situations happen! 😈

And it is also days like these which remind you how much our modern society relies on electricity to get work done. 💡 There’s a thought in my mind that starts to wonder about how our society would function without it. 🤔

But as many thoughts like these start popping into my head, I call the electric company to report the outage. Their automated response tells it’s affected over 200 homes in the area and the estimated time of restoration is around 2 hours. ⏲️

😱 2 HOURS!!! 😱

“What am I going to do now?!” 😨

“How am I going to get a hold of my boss?!” 😨

“What if they think I’m lying?!” 😨

“How am I going to get my work done?!” 😨

“Why did this have to happen on a weekday?!” 😨

“How is the power out on a sunny, 70 degree day?!” 😨

There were the new thoughts crossing through my mind now! 🤯

So what was the first thing I did after I got off the phone? 🤔

A. I dwelled and complained about my situation.

B. I continuously wondered how soon the power would be back on.

C. I created a list in my head of every possible scenario why the power went out.

D. I constantly thought about all the work I wasn’t going to get done with the power off.

E. All of the above.

Perhaps it’s because I’ve welcomed Unexpected into my emotional home many times before, today was thankfully a day none of these options were a choice in my mind. The key word here: I WELCOMED Unexpected into my emotional home! 🙌

✊ DON’T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!! ✊

I’ve learned over time to welcome Unexpected with open arms every time he arrives. I’ve accepted Unexpected is going to come whether I want him to or not. 👍 I now have made it a point to remind myself that the more I try to resist Unexpected’s presence, it hurts no one but myself. 😖

So what was the ACTUAL first thing I did after I got off the phone? 🤔

I got back on my phone, started blasting some music, and like a child leaping into a puddle I leapt onto my rebounder and jumped like there was no tomorrow. The Grumpy Adult quickly turned into a Playful Child! 😄

It’s important we remember there are things within our control and things that are out of our control ↔️:

📌 it is NOT in my control when life doesn’t go exactly the way I want it to. But it is in my control to make the best of whatever circumstances I’m given.

📌 It is NOT in my control when someone treats me unfairly. But it is in my control to give love even when it is not given.

📌 It is NOT in my control that Unexpected arrives at my emotional home whenever he wants to. But it is in my control in how I handle Unexpected’s arrival.

📌 It is NOT in my control when the power goes out. But it is in my control how I respond to the situation.

It’s important we remind ourselves to distinguish the 2 to save ourselves from needless suffering. Because with a clear head, we all can better focus on solutions. 😁

✊ DON’T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!! ✊

I decided in that moment Unexpected wasn’t going to screw with my emotional home. He wasn’t going to take over my home; instead he was going to join us along for the party on the rebounder! 🎊

🌟 With a cluttered mind, I was worried about how I was going to get a hold of my boss. Now with a clear head, I quickly remembered I had phone internet data to easily send her an email.

🌟 With a cluttered mind, I was wondering how the power could’ve possibly gone out. Now with a clear head, I easily dismissed the thought because it wasn’t going to change the power from coming back on.

🌟 With a cluttered mind, I was dwelling on all the work I had to get done because of the power being out. Now with a clear head, I had accepted the current circumstances and started to brainstorm solution going forward.

On a bright note, the power came back on sooner than I was told! 💯 Less than an hour had passed and it was back up and running! No casualties! No worries! And with all that, I got back onto my computer and back to work. 😎

And to think: if I was in the same place I was a few years ago with my personal growth, I may have still been lingering over that kitchen microwave worrying and hoping for a miracle. 👍

✊ DON’T LET YOUR INNER POWER GO OUT!!! ✊

Comment how you keep your inner power! ✊

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Why You Should CHOOSE Your Beliefs!

 

What does life mean to you? What is life about for you? 🤔

Whatever answers you have to these questions will tell me a lot about you. No, really! 😲

How? Because we ALL carry beliefs in our lives. And whatever beliefs we carry will reflect out into our daily lives.

📍 The person who believes in the goodness of people will find it.
📍 The person who believes everyone is only out for themselves will find it.
📍 The person who believes the world is a threatening, dangerous place will find it.
📍 The person who believes the world is a fun playground to explore will find it.

🌟 Whatever you seek, you will find. 🌟

🗣️”But I don’t just believe it! It’s a fact!” 🗣️

It’s important we distinguish the difference between a fact and a belief.

📖 A fact is verifiable through research and evidence. It can includes numbers, dates, etc. “He rang the doorbell at 2:45pm.”

📖 A belief is a personal conviction based upon your values, an example being faith. It does not require proof or evidence: “I believe it, therefore it is true.”

It’s not to say beliefs are bad. It’s to say they are different from facts, and we should be careful not to mix the two. Beliefs are part of what help guide us through our lives. They can help serve our personal growth. But they also can impede on it too. 😲

🌟 “If you think you CAN or you think you CAN’T you’re right.” 🌟

Your beliefs not only affect you but also the people around you. They affect what peer groups you’re going to be around. They’ll affect the people who want to spent time with you. They’ll affect the very course your life takes!

🌟 It’s important we possess our beliefs, not let our beliefs possess us. 🌟

It’s why I purposefully have chosen to believe the best in people; I didn’t carry this belief from Day 1! But I carry it now because it has served me in my life. I’ve personally found it has made my life so much more rewarding! 😄

What beliefs will you choose for your life? Whatever you choose will set your future course! ❤️ #TranscendLabels

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Who Your Most IMPORTANT Valentine Is! (PERSONAL)

❤️ Happy Valentine’s Day!!! ❤️

Wishing you all a day filled with love and fulfillment! What does this holiday mean to you?

💓 A time to share love with the people in your life?

💘 A day to spend time with your significant other?

💔 A holiday to remind you of the fact you’re “still single” and really need to be in a relationship?

If your answer is #3, this message is for you. For all my single friends out there, me being a single man myself: I encourage you today not to fret. 😁

What if I told you I’ve never been in a relationship? 😱

“BLASPHEMY!!!” ❌

When I was in high school, I can assure you I definitely searched for one. And not just in school; I was on all the latest dating sites and apps: Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, etc. I had it all covered! 😎

Why did I want a relationship so bad?! I honestly didn’t really know…other than I just simply “wanted” to be in a relationship. 🤷‍♂️

🌟 We’re often taught that if we’re in a relationship, we’ll be happier. That’s not necessarily true. 🌟

It’s understandable why we believe this idea: We tend to see only the positive moments in a couple’s relationship, on display in our social lives for all to see. We typically don’t hear about the negative or challenging moments that happen in relationships, what can go on behind-the-scenes. 👍

So as a naive teenager, why wouldn’t I want to be in a relationship where things seems to be nothing but smooth sailing?! Sounds like fun! 😍

But it was around 2 years ago that I actually made a big change in my perspective regarding relationships. In fact, all those dates sites, I uninstalled and deleted all my accounts off of them! 😲

Why?!

Of all the countless hours I spent on these sites, I had finally become drained of my willingness to keep searching for a significant other. If I could take the ratio of time I spent browsing to the amount of time I actually spent talking with someone, it would be like 500 to 1! 😓

Ultimately, my excessive searching was a timewaster! And the funniest part of it all: I made myself feel worse every time I got off the sites! 😥

⚠️ With this bad habit, I reinforced to myself: “No one wants to talk to me. I feel even lonelier now than I did before!” ⚠️

…And then holidays like Valentine’s Day came around each year. They further reinforced my own self-pity for not being in a relationship. It sucked! 😫

So you may be asking: what was the “final straw” for me? Well I came to greater realizations about why I “wanted” to be in a relationship in the first place:

⚠️ I believed being in a relationship was the answer to make me happier. ⚠️

⚠️ I believed that by being in a relationship, I could seek validation from others. ⚠️

⚠️ I believed that if I was in a relationship, I could hoping someone would fill the void I felt inside me. ⚠️

🚨 My intentions for wanting to be in a relationship was more selfish than selfless. My intention were less about “We” but about “Me”. 🚨

So in sharing my story with you all here, I hope you see that sometimes what we’re looking for is in fact closer to home than we think. 🏠

🌟 Don’t forget to develop a relationship with Yourself. 🌟

So today let’s not fret! We shall remember:

❤️ Relationships are not all sunshine and rainbows. We often don’t see what goes on behind-the-scenes, the commitment that’s required, or the negative moments that happen in one.

❤️ Inner happiness and fulfillment has to come from you first. Fill up your cup so you can easily share the rest with a future lover. If you can’t love yourself first, you can’t expect it to come from others because you’ll be waiting forever…

❤️ Self-love is one of the greatest gifts you can give. The only person you’re with 100% of your life…is Yourself. Be comfortable in your own company.

❤️ Today is an opportunity for you to change your perspective on relationships. They are not a means to an end, and not being in one does not mean you are not loved.

Make today a day for you to give love in whatever way you know best! For me, this is one of them! 😁 #TranscendLabels

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Why Life is All About ME…and WE!

Is life about Me or about We? What if it’s Both? 🤔
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There’s the ongoing debate that continues on to this day that asks these very questions: individualism vs collectivism.
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Individualism stresses the importance of one’s self. Independence. Self-reliance. One’s uniqueness in contrast to others. The individual takes priority before the group. Me before We. 👤
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Collectivism stresses the importance of the group: Social classes. Identity politics. Group activism. The group takes priority before the individual. We before Me. 👥
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In our current political climate, these very questions are at an all-time high. Again, this debate has gone on for centuries. But I predict it may unfortunately for many more to come. 😲
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Why? Because many people continue to see these viewpoints as mutually exclusive. Black or White. Us or Them. One or the Other. It’s a plethora of false dichotomies. We’re missing the bigger picture. 🖼️
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🌟 It’s not one OR the other; it’s one AND the other. 🌟
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Think of the Nature vs. Nurture debate. We are all born with genetic and biological traits that affect our lives, right? Simultaneously, we are also exposed to an environment which also affects our lives, right? 👍
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Think of the philosophical Essentialism vs. Existentialism debate. We are born with essential traits which make us human, right? Simultaneously, we also have the power to make choices so we can define our futures, right? 👍
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Think of us as human beings. We can share similar traits to each other like our beliefs, values, and interests, right? Simultaneously, we can also have traits that make us unique, things that will never make any of us 100% exactly the same, right? 👍
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I’m not saying each side is equal or equivalent to each other. I’m not saying it’s 50-50 between the sides. I’m not trying to be Mr. Nice Guy by saying both sides matter. What I am saying is about taking the best of both worlds and integrating them, rather than throwing out the baby with the bathwater. ❣️
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As I’ve shared in previous writings, it’s in our nature to generalize and group things. We want to make sense of this world so it’s naturally easier to see things in more black-and-white terms.
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🌟 But the fact is life is not black-and-white. We live in a very complex world. 🌟
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For a while I use to associate myself far more with the ideas of collectivism. Being a gay male, I was passionate about fighting for gay rights and equality. I was against what I saw as the ‘1%’: the corrupt people in government taking people’s money and paying themselves with million-dollar bonuses. As a group, we could fight “against the establishment”, right? 😡
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But then I went on a journey being introduced to individualism. I saw the importance of working on my personal growth. I saw that my individuality did not have to be dependent on who I associated myself with. I saw the benefits of embracing personal responsibility for my life. A whole new perspective on the world opened up for me. 😲
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🌟 I realized I was missing a piece of the puzzle for a long time. I realized life is not so simple as I thought it was. 🌟
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The way I’ve come to see it now: the better I become for myself, the better I can be for others around me. Individualism AND collectivism. 😊
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These days, if someone doesn’t accept me for who I am, I’ve developed enough self-love and confidence within myself to not let their opinions control me. 💪
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If someone discriminates against me, I no longer take it as a personal attack but rather as an acknowledgement it’s more a reflection on who they are as a person than about me. I feel less of a need to blame others for my problems and place all my hopes in the government changing it for me. 👍
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🌟 I would not be where I am today or grown the way I have if I didn’t let the seeds of individualism come into my life. 🌟
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Again, that doesn’t mean I dismiss collectivism! After all, it’s where my perspective initially started. I still support gay rights. I am still for group activism to influence change in our society. Martin Luther King Jr. is a fine example of an individual who led with a collectivist influence. 💑
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But do you think he could’ve been such an effective leader, accepting the hatred he received, his radical insistence towards non-violence in the face of violence, if he didn’t also take care of himself? Think of the other many great leaders in our history. They didn’t start like that from birth. 📖
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Where I see criticisms come in against individualism is primarily towards the ones who have embraced individualism but forgotten the collective. They have built their wealth but it’s always been about Me for them. Ego-centrism. They are the individual ‘1%’ the collective ‘99%’ refer to. The Wolf of Wall Street is an example of such extreme individualism. 🐺
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But I can assure you that’s not everyone. I’ve had the privilege to meet some very successful and wealthy individuals. They are not the caricatures some people have made them out to be. 🤡
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Did you know some of the biggest philanthropists in the world are also some of the wealthiest people in the world? Think if you built up your own wealth how much more money you could contribute back to the world! 👍
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Again, I’m not saying to dismiss collectivism. What I’m saying is putting the oxygen mask on yourself before placing it on the person next to you. Individualism, THEN Collectivism. 🌬️
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The reason I’m able to help more people collectively today is because I put myself first. I took care of myself. I worked on my personal growth. I molded myself into becoming a better person than I was yesterday. And I still do this every day! 💪
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🌟 If you’re not good for yourself first, you can’t expect to be good for others. It starts and ends with you. 🌟
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This post went longer than I expected! If you made it this far, I really appreciate you taking the time to read! You are awesome! ❤️#TranscendLabels

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