Tag: self-improvement

Why Being Offended is Your GIFT!

~ Donald "Nugget" Arteaga ~ Leave a comment

🤬 BE OFFENDED! 🤬

If you’re offended, you know what: that’s absolutely FANTASTIC! 😲

I’m not kidding, being offended is AWESOME! 👍

🗣 “Have you gone mad, Donald?!” 🗣

No, seriously! I want you to feel offended! BUT hear me out! 👂

Why am I saying you should be offended? 🤨

Because when you feel offended, you now have the opportunity to ask yourself: “Why?” 🤔

📖 “What upsets people is not things themselves but their judgments about the things.” ~ Epictetus 📖

Often times we are NOT aware of why we are offended. Often times we are not aware what judgments we are making about people, things, and situations in our lives. We just: be offended. 😔

🌟 The fact we don’t understand our emotions is the very reason we need to feel them, so we can understand what is going on beneath the surface. 🌟

Ask yourself: “Why?” 🗣

📍 Did someone say something that went against your beliefs?

📍 Did a situation remind you of a past event where you also have felt hurt?

📍 Did you feel powerless and your body simply went into defense mode?

I can’t answer those questions for you. But the better you can understand yourself and what offends you, the better you can handle those stressful responses in the future.

🌟 The answers to your “Why” are the reasons to your suffering. 🌟

I’m not saying be offended for the sake of being offended. We’ve been missing the second step for far too long! I’m saying be offended…and let it be your gateway towards introspection, towards better understanding yourself and your sense of identity. 👤

So please: Be offended…AND ask yourself “Why?” Just don’t forget the second step! ❤️ #TranscendLabels

.

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Patreon: https://bit.ly/2HTZHpF

LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/2RER81M

Facebook: https://bit.ly/2DSebCh

Instagram: https://bit.ly/2t2Kd8A

Holonis: https://bit.ly/2t8Rwvi

Why You Should CHOOSE Your Beliefs!

~ Donald "Nugget" Arteaga ~ Leave a comment

 

What does life mean to you? What is life about for you? 🤔

Whatever answers you have to these questions will tell me a lot about you. No, really! 😲

How? Because we ALL carry beliefs in our lives. And whatever beliefs we carry will reflect out into our daily lives.

📍 The person who believes in the goodness of people will find it.
📍 The person who believes everyone is only out for themselves will find it.
📍 The person who believes the world is a threatening, dangerous place will find it.
📍 The person who believes the world is a fun playground to explore will find it.

🌟 Whatever you seek, you will find. 🌟

🗣️”But I don’t just believe it! It’s a fact!” 🗣️

It’s important we distinguish the difference between a fact and a belief.

📖 A fact is verifiable through research and evidence. It can includes numbers, dates, etc. “He rang the doorbell at 2:45pm.”

📖 A belief is a personal conviction based upon your values, an example being faith. It does not require proof or evidence: “I believe it, therefore it is true.”

It’s not to say beliefs are bad. It’s to say they are different from facts, and we should be careful not to mix the two. Beliefs are part of what help guide us through our lives. They can help serve our personal growth. But they also can impede on it too. 😲

🌟 “If you think you CAN or you think you CAN’T you’re right.” 🌟

Your beliefs not only affect you but also the people around you. They affect what peer groups you’re going to be around. They’ll affect the people who want to spent time with you. They’ll affect the very course your life takes!

🌟 It’s important we possess our beliefs, not let our beliefs possess us. 🌟

It’s why I purposefully have chosen to believe the best in people; I didn’t carry this belief from Day 1! But I carry it now because it has served me in my life. I’ve personally found it has made my life so much more rewarding! 😄

What beliefs will you choose for your life? Whatever you choose will set your future course! ❤️ #TranscendLabels

.

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Patreon: https://bit.ly/2HTZHpF

LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/2RER81M

Facebook: https://bit.ly/2DSebCh

Instagram: https://bit.ly/2t2Kd8A

Holonis: https://bit.ly/2t8Rwvi

Why You Should Keep LEARNING!

~ Donald "Nugget" Arteaga

What happens when you stop learning? 🤔
.
👎 You stop growing mentally.
👎 You settle for where things are (because that’s all you know).
👎 Without repetition, you lose what you learned.
.
The more I’ve continued to educate myself, the more I’m reminded of the words of Socrates: “I know that I know nothing.” 💬
.
I’m reminded the more I continue I learn, the more I realize how much I haven’t learned! 😲
.
🌟 When you think you know all there is to know, think again! 🌟
.
Are you sure you know everything? I’ll challenge you on that. 😀
.
Our tendency to overestimate how much we actually know is referred to as the Dunning-Kruger Effect. It’s one of many cognitive biases we as humans are susceptible to which cloud our thinking. 🧠
.
So how do we continue educating yourself?
.
👍 Pick up a book and read it!
👍 Learn about a topic you’re NOT interested in, stretch yourself into new territories.
👍 Be aware when you start thinking you “know it all” and remind yourself…
.
With education comes new perspectives: on yourself, on the world, and on your life. Care to join me? ❤️ #TranscendLabels

Who Your Most IMPORTANT Valentine Is! (PERSONAL)

~ Donald "Nugget" Arteaga ~ Leave a comment

❤️ Happy Valentine’s Day!!! ❤️

Wishing you all a day filled with love and fulfillment! What does this holiday mean to you?

💓 A time to share love with the people in your life?

💘 A day to spend time with your significant other?

💔 A holiday to remind you of the fact you’re “still single” and really need to be in a relationship?

If your answer is #3, this message is for you. For all my single friends out there, me being a single man myself: I encourage you today not to fret. 😁

What if I told you I’ve never been in a relationship? 😱

“BLASPHEMY!!!” ❌

When I was in high school, I can assure you I definitely searched for one. And not just in school; I was on all the latest dating sites and apps: Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, etc. I had it all covered! 😎

Why did I want a relationship so bad?! I honestly didn’t really know…other than I just simply “wanted” to be in a relationship. 🤷‍♂️

🌟 We’re often taught that if we’re in a relationship, we’ll be happier. That’s not necessarily true. 🌟

It’s understandable why we believe this idea: We tend to see only the positive moments in a couple’s relationship, on display in our social lives for all to see. We typically don’t hear about the negative or challenging moments that happen in relationships, what can go on behind-the-scenes. 👍

So as a naive teenager, why wouldn’t I want to be in a relationship where things seems to be nothing but smooth sailing?! Sounds like fun! 😍

But it was around 2 years ago that I actually made a big change in my perspective regarding relationships. In fact, all those dates sites, I uninstalled and deleted all my accounts off of them! 😲

Why?!

Of all the countless hours I spent on these sites, I had finally become drained of my willingness to keep searching for a significant other. If I could take the ratio of time I spent browsing to the amount of time I actually spent talking with someone, it would be like 500 to 1! 😓

Ultimately, my excessive searching was a timewaster! And the funniest part of it all: I made myself feel worse every time I got off the sites! 😥

⚠️ With this bad habit, I reinforced to myself: “No one wants to talk to me. I feel even lonelier now than I did before!” ⚠️

…And then holidays like Valentine’s Day came around each year. They further reinforced my own self-pity for not being in a relationship. It sucked! 😫

So you may be asking: what was the “final straw” for me? Well I came to greater realizations about why I “wanted” to be in a relationship in the first place:

⚠️ I believed being in a relationship was the answer to make me happier. ⚠️

⚠️ I believed that by being in a relationship, I could seek validation from others. ⚠️

⚠️ I believed that if I was in a relationship, I could hoping someone would fill the void I felt inside me. ⚠️

🚨 My intentions for wanting to be in a relationship was more selfish than selfless. My intention were less about “We” but about “Me”. 🚨

So in sharing my story with you all here, I hope you see that sometimes what we’re looking for is in fact closer to home than we think. 🏠

🌟 Don’t forget to develop a relationship with Yourself. 🌟

So today let’s not fret! We shall remember:

❤️ Relationships are not all sunshine and rainbows. We often don’t see what goes on behind-the-scenes, the commitment that’s required, or the negative moments that happen in one.

❤️ Inner happiness and fulfillment has to come from you first. Fill up your cup so you can easily share the rest with a future lover. If you can’t love yourself first, you can’t expect it to come from others because you’ll be waiting forever…

❤️ Self-love is one of the greatest gifts you can give. The only person you’re with 100% of your life…is Yourself. Be comfortable in your own company.

❤️ Today is an opportunity for you to change your perspective on relationships. They are not a means to an end, and not being in one does not mean you are not loved.

Make today a day for you to give love in whatever way you know best! For me, this is one of them! 😁 #TranscendLabels

SHARE my post with someone who needs to hear this! ❤️

.

FOLLOW ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Patreon: https://bit.ly/2HTZHpF

LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/2RER81M

Facebook: https://bit.ly/2DSebCh

Instagram: https://bit.ly/2t2Kd8A

Holonis: https://bit.ly/2t8Rwvi