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Why THEIR Words Meant Nothing! 😲

~ Donald "Nugget" Arteaga ~ Leave a comment

⚠ī¸ đ€ 𝐌𝐄𝐒𝐒𝐀𝐆𝐄 𝐓𝐎 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄! âš ī¸

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👊 To the child who was told they were ‘weak‘…

👊 To the teenager who was mocked in school for not ‘being normal‘…

👊 To the adult who still hears the opinions of others in their head repeating from the past…

Their words meant NOTHING! đŸ’Š

That’s right! Their words were never going to define you or who you were going to be! And they never will! They were only but words…

✖ī¸ Words from people who weren’t happy with themselves

✖ī¸ Words from people who were following what others did to fit in

✖ī¸ Words from people who had already set limitations on their own life

✖ī¸ Words from people who were also still trying to understand this journey we call Life

I know this…because I’ve also been this person before. 🙋♂ī¸

But what I’ve learned throughout my journey is what I’m sharing with you now. Consider me sharing this lesson with you now so you don’t have to learn it later! đŸ˜Š

Together, through our example and our personal growth, we all can show others what’s possible! We can be the change we wish to see in the world. 🌎

It starts with You…NOW! â˛ī¸ 

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How Words Shape EVERYTHING!

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🔠 đ–đŽđ‘đƒđ’ 𝐒𝐇𝐀𝐏𝐄 𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐈𝐓𝐘! đŸ” 

Two friends attend a party. Friend #1 wants to introduce Friend #2 to another person (Friend #3).

Among the crowd of people, they see Friend #3 across the room. 

They start to walk over. But before they reach Person #3, Friend #1 leans over to Friend #2 and mutters: “𝘑đ˜ļ𝘴đ˜ĩ 𝘴𝘰 đ˜ē𝘰đ˜ļ đ˜Ŧđ˜¯đ˜°đ˜¸, 𝘩đ˜Ļ’𝘴 𝘨𝘰đ˜ĩ 𝘈𝘋𝘋 𝘴𝘰 𝘩đ˜Ļ 𝘩đ˜ĸ𝘴 đ˜ĸ 𝘩đ˜ĸđ˜ŗđ˜Ĩ đ˜ĩđ˜Ē𝘮đ˜Ļ 𝘱đ˜ĸđ˜ēđ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜¨ đ˜ĸđ˜ĩđ˜ĩđ˜Ļđ˜¯đ˜ĩđ˜Ēđ˜°đ˜¯…”

As Friend #2 is introduced to Friend #3, they take a quick liking to each other. They have a lot in common and connect very easily!

But Friend #2 is also honestly a bit confused. In their mind, they were expecting to have a hard time talking to Friend #3. After all, they were just told Friend #3 has ADD…🤔

🌟 đ‹đ€đđ„đ‹đ’ 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐀𝐍 𝐄𝐗𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍, 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍! đŸŒŸ

When people hear the word “Autism” they have a preconceived idea of a person who is going to fit that label. A lot of people I know think of Dustin Hoffman’s character from “Rain Man”. 👤

This is not limited to the word “Autism” either. âŦ†ī¸

Every word carries a set of meanings and interpretations for the person who receives them. Many people can hear the word “Autism” today and, by virtue of the word itself, have been primed to think less of someone as an individual and more as something “deficient”, “less”, “wrong”.

We forget the common humanity of a person in place of their psychiatric negation. đŸ˜”

That’s why my mission exists. đŸ™Œ

You are more than a label. You are more than other people’s assumptions about you. Your life is more than the descriptions in a diagnostic manual. đŸ’Ē

Show what’s possible. You define you, and you create you. â¤ī¸ 

Please SHARE to spread this message!

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Why FIGHTING Isn’t The Answer!

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It’s what the philosopher Alan Watts referred to as the Backwards Law âŦ‡ī¸:

🌟 𝐓𝐡𝐞 đĻ𝐨đĢ𝐞 𝐰𝐞 𝐟đĸ𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐟𝐨đĢ 𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐜𝐨đĻ𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧, 𝐩𝐚đĢ𝐚𝐝𝐨𝐱đĸ𝐜𝐚đĨđĨ𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐞 đĨ𝐞đŦđŦ đĨđĸ𝐤𝐞đĨ𝐲 𝐰𝐞 𝐚đĢ𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚đĸ𝐧 đĸ𝐭. 🌟

Take the example of a person who falls into a lake and scrambles to reach the water’s surface. đŸ’Ļ

The more they frantically fight to reach the surface, the more their body sinks underwater. 🌊

Did you ever notice that? 👀

But when the person stops fighting, when they stop resisting…their body naturally floats up to the surface. No effort required! 💧

Or let me give another example: A person says “𝘐 𝘸đ˜ĸđ˜¯đ˜ĩ đ˜ĩ𝘰 đ˜Ŗđ˜Ļ 𝘩đ˜ĸ𝘱𝘱đ˜ē.” ☚ī¸

Sounds pretty reasonable, right? 👍

But the problem is when you say this, you also implicitly say to yourself: “𝘐 đ˜ĸ𝘮 đ˜¯đ˜°đ˜ĩ 𝘩đ˜ĸ𝘱𝘱đ˜ē”, which in turn makes you EVEN LESS happy. 😲

Unintentionally, you create an even greater distance from the surface of the water that you call happiness! đŸ¤¯

As Mark Manson puts it: “…𝘱đ˜ļđ˜ŗ𝘴đ˜ļđ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜¨ 𝘴𝘰𝘮đ˜Ļđ˜ĩ𝘩đ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜¨ đ˜°đ˜¯đ˜­đ˜ē đ˜ŗđ˜Ļđ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜§đ˜°đ˜ŗ𝘤đ˜Ļ𝘴 đ˜ĩ𝘩đ˜Ļ 𝘧đ˜ĸ𝘤đ˜ĩ đ˜ĩ𝘩đ˜ĸđ˜ĩ đ˜ē𝘰đ˜ļ 𝘭đ˜ĸ𝘤đ˜Ŧ đ˜Ēđ˜ĩ đ˜Ēđ˜¯ đ˜ĩ𝘩đ˜Ļ 𝘧đ˜Ēđ˜ŗ𝘴đ˜ĩ 𝘱𝘭đ˜ĸ𝘤đ˜Ļ.” đŸ—Ŗī¸

It’s quite a paradox! 😅

So, what does this Backwards Law mean for us?

📌 That the more we desire to be rich the poorer we feel.

📌 That the more we desire to be happy the sadder we feel.

📌 That the more we desire things to go exactly the way we want them to go the more helpless we feel.

This means that even the most privileged of individuals in the world can still feel like victims. 😓

This means that even in the best of circumstances a person can still feel it to be the end of the world. 😨

🌟 𝐓𝐡đĸđŦ đĻ𝐞𝐚𝐧đŦ 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 đžđ¯đžđ§ đĸ𝐟 𝐰𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐮đĢ đžđ§đ¯đĸđĢ𝐨𝐧đĻ𝐞𝐧𝐭, đĸ𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞đŦ𝐧’𝐭 đĻ𝐚𝐤𝐞 đĻ𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐝đĸ𝐟𝐟𝐞đĢ𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 đĸ𝐟 𝐰𝐞’đĢ𝐞 đŦ𝐭đĸđĨđĨ 𝐜𝐚đĢđĢ𝐲đĸ𝐧𝐠 𝐚 đŦ𝐜𝐚đĢ𝐜đĸ𝐭𝐲 đĻđĸ𝐧𝐝đŦ𝐞𝐭. 🌟

Because wherever You go, there You are. 🙌

So, what’s the solution? 🤔

It’s one I’ve mentioned many times before, and it’s one I still have to remind myself of from time to time: Acceptance. ❤ī¸

Let go. Stop resisting. Give up the fight. 🙌

Because it’s only with more resisting that the problem you’re fighting will continue to persist. 🙌

In other words, stop trying to get it…and you’ll have it. 🙂

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Why Words Will Never HURT You!

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There’s a saying I used to hear as a kid: “𝘚đ˜ĩđ˜Ē𝘤đ˜Ŧ𝘴 đ˜ĸđ˜¯đ˜Ĩ 𝘴đ˜ĩđ˜°đ˜¯đ˜Ļ𝘴 𝘮đ˜ĸđ˜ē đ˜Ŗđ˜ŗđ˜Ļđ˜ĸđ˜Ŧ 𝘮đ˜ē đ˜Ŗđ˜°đ˜¯đ˜Ļ𝘴, đ˜Ŗđ˜ļđ˜ĩ 𝘸𝘰đ˜ŗđ˜Ĩ𝘴 𝘸đ˜Ē𝘭𝘭 đ˜¯đ˜Ļ𝘷đ˜Ļđ˜ŗ 𝘩đ˜ļđ˜ŗđ˜ĩ 𝘮đ˜Ļ.” 🙌

It’s a saying I still remind myself of today. 🙂

But there seems to be a HUGE misunderstanding these days about this saying. ⚠ī¸

People respond, “𝘛𝘩đ˜ĸđ˜ĩ’𝘴 đ˜ĸ 𝘭đ˜Ēđ˜Ļ! 𝘖𝘧 𝘤𝘰đ˜ļđ˜ŗ𝘴đ˜Ļ 𝘸𝘰đ˜ŗđ˜Ĩ𝘴 𝘩đ˜ļđ˜ŗđ˜ĩ! 𝘞𝘩đ˜Ļđ˜¯ 𝘴𝘰𝘮đ˜Ļđ˜°đ˜¯đ˜Ļ đ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜´đ˜ļ𝘭đ˜ĩ𝘴 đ˜ē𝘰đ˜ļ, đ˜ē𝘰đ˜ļ 𝘰đ˜Ŗ𝘷đ˜Ē𝘰đ˜ļ𝘴𝘭đ˜ē 𝘧đ˜Ļđ˜Ļ𝘭 𝘴𝘰𝘮đ˜Ļđ˜ĩ𝘩đ˜Ēđ˜¯đ˜¨!” 💔

Of course! I’m not disagreeing with that. 👍

Words indeed have power. We indeed should be mindful of what we say and how we communicate it. I agree 100%! đŸ’¯

But this saying doesn’t deny the power of words either. 🙌

Rather, this saying is used as a mantra by people like myself to DIFFUSE the power words carry in the first place. 🗡ī¸

This saying is a reminder that in spite of the initial pain I feel from the words of another I refuse to allow their words to sink in any deeper. I refuse to allow their words to take up any more space in my psyche. 🛡ī¸

This saying is a reminder to transform our response from being emotionally reactive to stoically proactive. đŸ’Ē

🌟 If words didn’t hurt, we wouldn’t need a saying like this in the first place! 🌟

Unfortunately, it seems in our modern age we’ve forgotten the importance of this saying. 😔

It seems people now take this saying way too literally and forget its original purpose. 😞

Perhaps it’s time we stopped throwing out the baby with the bathwater and revisited this stoic wisdom here before us. 🙂

While we can’t make our bones any stronger than they are now, our mind is the one part of ourselves we can always continue to strengthen every day! ❤ī¸

With time and practice, I promise you, there will come a time when you hear the words of another, words that used to make your blood oil, words you used to take so personally…and find that emotional charge practically gone! 🧘♂ī¸

I’m not saying getting to this place is easy. But from personal experience I can tell you that once you get there, you’ll see how easy it is to keep going back to that point over and over again. You’ll feel invincible! ❤ī¸

Don’t give up your power! You got this! đŸ’Ē

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