How You TRANSFORM Your Life!

โ€œEver more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for.โ€ย – Viktor Franklย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

๐ŸŒŸย A life filled with purpose and meaning is what drives a person forward.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

What gets you out of bed every morning? Do you PUSH yourself out of bed? Or are you PULLED to something greater than the present moment? Why does any person wake up each morning: to liveโ€ฆor to maintain?ย ๐Ÿค”

I believe these are very important questions we need to ask in a world where mental health continues to be a grave concern.ย ๐Ÿง 

โš ๏ธย According to the World Health Organization, depression is the leading cause of mental illness with an estimate 300 MILLION people affected.ย โš ๏ธ

A few years ago I wouldโ€™ve also been a part of that list. But I don’t consider myself anymore.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

โ€œHow did you change that?โ€ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

One thing I’ll tell you for certain was it wasn’t a quick fix. It’s a process, one which will take time, patience, and lots of focus.ย ๐Ÿ‘€

But I can tell you it’s worth it!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ“ย DO MORE THINGS THAT LIGHT UP YOUR HEART & SOUL. Even if others say it’s not “realistic” or “worth it”, if it’s worth it to you that’s what matters. You do it for you, not for other people.

๐Ÿ“ย START CHOOSING TO SEE YOUR PROBLEMS AS “GIFTS”. No matter how bad the problem is, ask yourself how this problem can work in your favor.

๐Ÿ“ย START CHALLENGING YOUR BAD HABITS & BUILD NEW ONES. It’s easier to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. Remind yourself the changes you’re making are for your Future Self.

๐Ÿ“ย DEVELOP MORE SELF-AWARENESS. Whether it’s meditating, journaling, or creating goals, the better you understand yourself (the good and the bad) the faster you can make adjustments in your life.

๐Ÿ“ย DO MORE GOOD FOR OTHERS. The fastest way out of suffering? Do good for the next person you see. It can even be as simple as a smile. It’s when we’re stuck in our heads where we suffer.

Shoutout to my friend Rapahel and the work his non-profit The Hero Foundation Napa is doing for his community! It’s how I got this awesome shirt!ย ๐Ÿ‘•

I hope it inspires you to spread good too! Because THAT is a life worth living!ย โค๏ธ

Why Self Esteem TRIUMPHS Narcissism!

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Take a person who is narcissistic. They need constant validation. They need to always be right. They need to dominate every argument. They need to be seen as strong and powerful by others. But underneath it all is a person with lots of insecurity and fear.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

They barely understand themselves as a person, because they’re too focused on what other people think of them. They actually have low self-esteem.ย ๐Ÿ‘€

Now take another person, but this person has high self-esteem. They don’t worry what others think of them. What matters to them is what they think of themselves. They understand themselves on a deep level. They are very self-accepting of who they are. They don’t feel a need to flaunt themselves.ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

They carry their own Inner Cheerleader.ย ๐Ÿฅณ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ. ๐—ก๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜; ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป. ๐ŸŒŸ

Can you relate to either of these people in some way? Perhaps you can relate a bit of both of them?ย ๐Ÿค”

I admit I do!ย ๐Ÿ™‹โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Yes, I’ve sometimes looked at how many likes I got on my photos. I’ve sometimes looked to see who liked my content. I’ve sometimes gotten worried when my posts didn’t get a lot of reception.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

But then again, I also don’t typically depend on Likes and Comments to make me happy either. I am genuinely happy with who I am as a person, my sense of self.ย ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ค

I share this photo above mostly because modeling photos on social media are what people like to see. So here’s your eye-candy; this is my silly impression of “modeling”! ๐Ÿ˜

And I say this all of this to you with so much love.ย โค๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜, ๐˜„๐—ฒ’๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฑ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why? Because we won’t always have people on the Internet to validate us. We won’t always have people in our lives that are kind to us. So we will always have to keep refilling our Happiness Cup endlessly.ย โ˜•

And when our cup is empty, what are we left with? Nothing. Emptiness.ย ๐Ÿ’จ

But with self-esteem, your cup is always filled! You refill it whenever you want! You are in control!ย ๐Ÿ’ช

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—Ÿ๐—ฒ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ-๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—บ, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐—บ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why Your Emotions MATTER!

๐Ÿ›‘ย ๐—ฌ๐—ข๐—จ๐—ฅ ๐—˜๐— ๐—ข๐—ง๐—œ๐—ข๐—ก๐—ฆ ๐—”๐—ฅ๐—˜ ๐—ก๐—ข๐—ง ๐—ฆ๐—ฃ๐—”๐— !!!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

Do you ever feel lonely?ย โ˜น๏ธ

We all have at points in our lives. It’s important to add there’s a difference between “feeling lonely” and “being alone”. A person can be with a group of people and feel lonely. A person can be completely alone and feel fine.ย ๐Ÿ‘

So why do topics like mental health continue to be an issue in our society? I’ll give you 1 BIG reason:

โš ๏ธย ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ท๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€.ย โš ๏ธ

We’ve been taught to believe that emotions are a sign of weakness, that they aren’t useful in our modern world.ย ๐Ÿ˜”

๐Ÿ—ฃย “๐™…๐™ช๐™จ๐™ฉ ๐™—๐™š ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ฎ!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

๐Ÿ—ฃย “๐™”๐™ค๐™ช ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค ๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™จ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™›๐™š๐™š๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

๐Ÿ—ฃย “๐™”๐™ค๐™ช’๐™ง๐™š ๐™—๐™š๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ง๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™–๐™ก!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ

In people’s good intentions, they unfortunately made the problem worse. In their good intentions, they failed to meet the other person inside their emotional home.ย ๐Ÿ 

Why? Because many of them aren’t able or are willing to go in there themselves.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—œ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ, ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜๐—ฌ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฌ๐—ข๐—จ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Because we’ve been taught so long not to accept our emotions is the reason why it’s a larger problem today. Psychologist Carl Jung said: “Whatever you resist persists and grows larger in size.”ย ๐Ÿ’ฌ

I see our current mental health crisis as the long-term response to embracing the idea of denying our emotions (which is in and of itself irrational as emotional beings). This bubble of “resistance” has grown so large that it’s finally burst. The pendulum is now swinging in the opposite direction.ย ๐Ÿคฌ

But with noting the problem, what is the solution?

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ผ๐—ฝ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐—น๐—ผ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜‡๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€, ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

What if we could see our emotions not as spam to delete but as mail giving us an important message about our lives?ย ๐Ÿ“ญ

What if we could see our emotions not as biological defects but as essential character traits for our evolutionary survival?ย ๐Ÿ’ช

How different would our society be if we stopped treating our emotions as nuisances and more as essential tools for our personal growth?ย ๐Ÿง 

I understand why some will disagree with me here:

๐Ÿ˜กย “๐‘ฐ๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’๐’†๐’• ๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’„๐’–๐’” ๐’๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Š๐’“ ๐’๐’†๐’ˆ๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’—๐’† ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”, ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’†๐’๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Ž ๐’•๐’ ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’…๐’†๐’‘๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’…!”

๐Ÿ˜กย “๐‘ฌ๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’” ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’Š๐’“๐’“๐’‚๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’‚๐’! ๐‘พ๐’† ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’๐’๐’ˆ๐’Š๐’„ ๐’‚๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’๐’๐’–๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’!”

It’s funny because I very much agree with these statements, but to an extent. I definitely don’t want to enable anyone to feel more depressed. That’s the last thing I’d want to have happen! I also am a huge advocate for logic, reason, and critical thinking. I believe they’re crucial skills for the epistemic crises we will face.ย ๐Ÿ‘Œ

So I won’t throw either of those criticisms away but to say we can EXTEND on them!ย ๐Ÿ‘

โค๏ธย ๐—œ’๐—บ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†, ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป, ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.ย โค๏ธ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ’๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—น๐˜‚๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜ƒ๐˜€. ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฑ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Mental health is so easily swept under the rug because it can be an unpleasant topic to discuss. The very reason we “resist” talking about it is the reason why it will “persist” and be discussed!ย ๐Ÿ‘

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ด๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜†, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐˜† ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

The fact that a lot of us (including myself at times) aren’t willing to discuss it says a lot about how we treat our emotions in our society.ย ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

Again, it’s NOT about dwelling on our emotions! That’s the last thing I want people to presume with what I say here!ย ๐Ÿ‘

โค๏ธย ๐—œ’๐—บ ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜‚๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—น๐—น๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜†, ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป, ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐—ฝ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ.ย โค๏ธ

I share this with you all today:

โ˜ฏ๏ธย ๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€.

โ˜ฏ๏ธย ๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ธ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ถ๐˜’๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ธ๐—ฎ๐˜†, ๐—ป๐—ผ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐˜ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—บ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜.

โ˜ฏ๏ธย ๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฎ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฒ.

โ˜ฏ๏ธย ๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜‚๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐˜‚๐˜€ ๐—ผ๐—ป ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—น๐˜‚๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€.

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How to STOP Beating Yourself Up!

๐Ÿ›‘ย STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

There’s a voice inside of you that no matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try, it’s ready to tell you what’s missing from your life.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

There’s a voice inside you that no matter how much you believe you’re doing well, it comes knocking at your mental home to challenge you, to instill some form of doubt:

“Are you SURE you’re doing enough?”ย ๐Ÿ’ญ

“Do you REALLY believe everything you say you are is true?”ย ๐Ÿ’ญ

“Do you TRULY deserve what you have been given?”ย ๐Ÿ’ญ

I’ve felt this in me before, multiple times in fact! You are not alone!ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

There’s the psychological term “imposter syndrome”. It’s the tendency for us believe our achievements pale in comparison to what we feel we’ve actually done.

To put it another way, we don’t feel the status, success, or fame we’ve received in our lives is equal to our own feelings of self-worth. In our minds it doesn’t feel “deserved”. And we have this irrational fear we’re ultimately going to be exposed for the “fraud” the voice inside us says we are.ย โ˜๏ธ

Would it surprise you to hear even the most famous individuals have experienced these feelings before? Individuals like Tina Fey, Maya Angelou, Tom Hanks, Anthony Hopkins, and even Meryl Streep have openly expressed feelings like this.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

You wouldnโ€™t expect to hear that coming from a celebrity, right? Despite all their wealth, awards, and recognition they’ve received, there’s a voice inside them too that doubts whether they deserve what theyโ€™ve been given.ย ๐Ÿ‘

This feeling is universal. You are not alone!ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

What’s easy to forget in certain moments of our lives is all the achievements and impact we’ve made on the world. When this little voice starts to appear in your head, itโ€™s a sign it’s time for an expansion in perspective.ย ๐Ÿคฏ

I’m not saying we’re all going to be celebrities or are following the same path as these individuals. What I’m saying is these feelings of self-doubt are all too common, these feelings of inadequacy and not being enough just where we are. But there are solutions.ย ๐Ÿ˜

A character from the film “Before Sunset” may have summed up the human condition quite well: “I feel like I’m designed to be slightly dissatisfied with everything.” Can you relate?ย ๐Ÿ˜…

This past 2 years has truly been a journey: ups, downs, lefts, rights, zig-zags, and any way the Wonkavator is going. Even now, being almost 2 years since I made big changes in my life, I still have heard this voice come up from time to time. It creeps up when you least expect it, too. As I write this, I can already hear the echoes of this voice in my head.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

But I have a solution for this voice as well as the ones in your own head.ย ๐Ÿ’ก

๐Ÿ“ย Disconnect yourself from these voices. These voices are not You or Me. These are voices rooted in Fear: voices from toxic people in your past, voices from destructive opinions said about you, voices which are no longer serving you today or tomorrow. Itโ€™s time to let them go.

๐Ÿ“ย Unconditionally accept yourself wherever you are right now. The past, literally, no longer exists! It’s only being carried in your head now. The problem is we often carry the negative parts of our past into our future. So let’s instead take what’s most useful from our pasts into the future.

๐Ÿ“ย Reflect on all your achievements, all the moments in your life you can be grateful for. These voices of self-doubt are temporary, especially when you reflect on all the achievements and long-term impact you’ve made on the world. Remind yourself that everything youโ€™ve done in your life has had an effect. It’s the same reason why an act of kindness can have a ripple effect.

๐Ÿ“ย Remember WHY you’re doing what you’re doing. You are where you are today for a reason. Something might have pulled you here, something might have pushed you here, but either way you’re here for one reason or another. And when you have strong enough emotional reasons in your mind to be where you are today, your self-doubts will easily start to disintegrate. If you can’t think of strong reasons, create some new ones!

Writing this post was in its very own way cathartic for myself. As much as there have been times I’ve heard this voice of self-doubt, I remember all the amazing things I’ve done in my past that have shaped me into the person penning this very post.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

This is a moment in time I won’t ever get back. None of us will, not even you reading this very post. What we do with this time is what matters.ย โ˜บ๏ธ

Don’t beat yourself up. It’s not worth it to your future self. You’re not alone; I’ve felt it before too. But the key is reminding ourselves that these voices of doubt are not here to stay; they are coming to pass.ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

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