Why Self-Care is CRUCIAL!

๐Ÿ›‘ย ๐™„โ€™๐™‘๐™€ ๐™ƒ๐˜ผ๐˜ฟ ๐™€๐™‰๐™Š๐™๐™‚๐™ƒ ๐™Š๐™ ๐™‰๐™€๐™’ ๐™”๐™Š๐™๐™†!!!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

It was only 3 hours ago the clock hit noon.ย ๐Ÿ•›ย But I had already made the decision: Time for me to head out of New York City, and time for me to head back to my AirBnb in New Jersey to call it quits for the day.ย ๐Ÿ‘

Have you ever had a moment where youโ€™re in the middle of something and the realization hits you that you are BURNED OUT?ย ๐Ÿ˜ชย That moment hit me this morning!

I had gone back into the city to do some more sightseeing, and then…

๐Ÿšงย ๏ผข๏ผก๏ผญ๏ผ ๏ผฒ๏ผฏ๏ผก๏ผค๏ผข๏ผฌ๏ผฏ๏ผฃ๏ผซ๏ผ๐Ÿšง

I had been ignoring the messages my body was trying to tell me the past day.ย ๐Ÿ“ฌย But now they had reached the surface of my mind and it became clear as day: I needed to rest!ย ๐Ÿ˜ด

Reminding myself of the marathon tomorrow, I knew this was the best option. While you bet your bottom-dollar Iโ€™ll be at the starting line tomorrow, I canโ€™t be there with less than a half-tank of gas!ย โ›ฝ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ% ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐งโ€™๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ% ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž!ย ๐ŸŒŸ

So, Iโ€™m taking some Me Time the rest of the day. To introspect. To refocus. To be present again with my thoughts, away from the excessive noise of the city.ย ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

To be fair, Iโ€™ve heard over a couple dozen cars honking outside my window as I write this but itโ€™s better than nothing!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

If thereโ€™s one thing Iโ€™ve learned traveling so much is you need to make sure youโ€™re taking care of yourself.ย โค๏ธย When you travel, you are stepping outside your regular routines, adapting to your new surroundings, and that will take time. You may even at times be required to simply improvise.ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐˜๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฆ๐š๐ค๐ž ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ’๐ซ๐ž ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐ซ๐จ๐จ๐ฆ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐„๐ข๐ง๐  ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฃ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ƒ๐Ž๐ข๐ง๐ .ย ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Thatโ€™s why Iโ€™m back at my AirBnb now. ๐’๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐ž๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐จ๐ฐ ๐š๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ž๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐Ÿ๐จ๐œ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐„๐„๐ƒ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐š๐ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฐ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐–๐€๐๐“.ย ๐Ÿ›‘

I got to tell you: it can be the greatest form of self-love you give yourself today!ย โค๏ธ

๐Ÿ›‘ย ๐™„โ€™๐™‘๐™€ ๐™ƒ๐˜ผ๐˜ฟ ๐™€๐™‰๐™Š๐™๐™‚๐™ƒ ๐™Š๐™ ๐™‰๐™€๐™’ ๐™”๐™Š๐™๐™†!!!ย ๐Ÿ›‘

Now that Iโ€™m giving myself the time to introspect, Iโ€™m able to take a step back and reflect since I arrived here. Iโ€™ve had some great moments in New York so far, especially ones with local friends of mine.ย โ˜บ๏ธ

But even more, Iโ€™ve experienced many opportunities for growth. These may also be referred to as โ€œproblemsโ€, but they only remain problems so long as you donโ€™t grow from them.ย ๐ŸŽ

As much as I may not have initially enjoyed experiencing these things, Iโ€™m grateful I did so I could learn from them:

๐Ÿงณย Not knowing how to fit my luggage through a trainโ€™s turnstile

๐ŸŽซย Not knowing how to purchase bus tickets

๐ŸšŒย Getting on the wrong bus, wasting a bus ticket I bought for another

๐Ÿ’ธย Rode a bus which only accepted cash and all I had was my credit card

๐Ÿ‘ฃย Not anticipating how much Iโ€™d use buses, trains, and my 2 feet to get around

๐Ÿฆตย Not anticipating how much my leg muscles would be aching after a single day

Perhaps some of you, my urban-dwelling friends, are reading this list and laughing at how trivial it sounds.ย ๐Ÿคฃย I donโ€™t blame you! I was raised in the quiet suburbs of Chicago most of my life, so I understand how silly these will sound to some.ย ๐Ÿ˜…

But this post isnโ€™t about throwing a pity party or talking to you about first-world problems. Itโ€™s to remind you that while we may at times purposefully take on goals which challenge us, like running a Marathon, weโ€™re always going to run into goals we never planned on taking on.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐‹๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฎ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ญ ๐ข๐ญ, ๐ซ๐ž๐ ๐š๐ซ๐๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ โ€œ๐œ๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐ž๐ง๐ข๐ž๐ง๐ญโ€ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

And our willingness to take on the goals we didnโ€™t ask for is where the greatest opportunities for growth will come in!ย ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ

And so I lay here, in my AirBnb bed, thinking about all thatโ€™s happened. I smile looking back on it all, how my mind initially magnified those โ€œproblemsโ€, how I was aware my mind was magnifying them, and how I focused on solutions nonetheless. I look back and laugh.ย ๐Ÿคญ

๐Ÿย ๐๐ž๐œ๐š๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐จ๐ง๐œ๐ž ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐š๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ž, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ฌ๐ž๐ž ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ง ๐ฐ๐š๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐ญ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐จ๐ซ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ.ย ๐Ÿ

Soon after, youโ€™ll be asking yourself: โ€œSoโ€ฆwhatโ€™s next?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ’ช

How We Can POSSESS Our Beliefs!

๐Ÿ“Œย The Optimist believes in the best for the future. Therefore their mind tends to focus on hope and faith.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Pessimist believes in the worst for the future. Therefore their mind tends to focus on what’s wrong with the world.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Realist believes in seeing things as they are, not better or worse. Therefore their mind tends to focus on the facts, not the stories about the facts.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Cynic believes in the selfishness of others. Therefore their mind tends to focus on distrusting other people’s “good” intentions, regardless of the truth.

What do all these categories have in common? They are all ways of looking at life. I’m not saying which is more “right” or “wrong”; they just are ways of seeing the world. And each outlook will produce a different experience of living.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸย Our outlook constantly colors and shapes how we perceive life.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Take an example of people who get in a car accident.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Optimist hopes the people in the accident are all okay.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Pessimist expects most, if not every person in the accident has died.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Realist measures the probability that each people in the accident will live or die.

๐Ÿ“Œย The Cynic assumes the people in the accident were intentionally careless or, perhaps, intentionally caused it to collect insurance money.

๐ŸŒŸย We don’t see life as it is. We see life as a reflection of our worldviews.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Carl Jung talked about how ideas can possess people, rather than people possessing ideas. And when a worldview possesses a person, the person is no longer in control. The worldview itself speaks through the person.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Having beliefs and worldviews aren’t intrinsically bad. We all have them and need them to function. It’s when we lose our self-control at the expense of our beliefs and worldviews when they become a problem.ย ๐Ÿ‘

So how can we check if our beliefs and worldviews possess us?

๐Ÿ“ย Acknowledge most of our beliefs are not even our own. We’ve picked them up over time, had them conditioned into us by our environments, and embraced these subjective truths as our own.

๐Ÿ“ย Challenge our beliefs. Question how they could in fact be wrong. Dare our egos to poke holes in them, as much as our egos don’t want to. Question our ego’s need to hold onto them.

๐Ÿ“ย Seek other points of view that challenge our beliefs. It doesn’t mean you have to agree or support them. You can empathize with opposing beliefs and viewpoints and still disagree with them.

The Most VALUABLE Skill to Build! (PERSONAL)

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

It was April. I had all my flights booked for my trip to Scotland. I was all set! ๐Ÿด๓ ง๓ ข๓ ณ๓ ฃ๓ ด๓ ฟ

I got to the Chicago Oโ€™Hare airport. Check! I checked in and boarded my flight. Check! I landed in London. Check! No sweat! ๐Ÿ˜…

Next it was time for for my flight to Scotland! I went to the airport check-in kiosk and typed in my ticket confirmation number. โŒจ๏ธ

โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ

Weird! I tried again. โ€œERRORโ€. ๐Ÿšซ It told me to go to the Customer Service desk for further assistance.

I was baffled! I looked at my plane ticket and then at my phone. I was definitely on time to catch the flight. What was going on?! โ‰๏ธ

I then checked the date on the ticket and at my phoneโ€ฆOH NO! ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

MY FLIGHT LEFT 24 HOURS AGO!!! I HAD BOOKED A FLIGHT FOR THE WRONG DAY!!! โŒ›

โ€œ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’‡๐’Š๐’“๐’”๐’• ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’‘๐’๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’Š๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’•๐’”, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’Ž๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’… ๐’Š๐’• ๐’–๐’‘! ๐‘ด๐’š ๐’˜๐’‰๐’๐’๐’† ๐’”๐’„๐’‰๐’†๐’…๐’–๐’๐’†!โ€ ๐Ÿคฌ

My body tensed. My breathing went shallow. My face squinted. What nowโ€ฆ?! ๐Ÿ˜“

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

If I had to tell you the #1 skill that has made the greatest impact on my life, it would be the one Iโ€™m about to share with you all. ๐Ÿ™Œ

This skill has everything to do with whatโ€™s shaped me into the person I am today. It has everything to do with how I gained control over my life. This skill I’d even argue is the most humanistic skill I can share to anyone! โค๏ธ

What am I talking about? Do you really want to know? I ask because honestly quite a few people won’t want to know. Why? Because they’ve heard about this skill before and dismissed it in the past. ๐Ÿงน

Because I’m talking about: Personal Responsibility. That’s right! If I had to tell you the #1 skill you should develop for your life, it is THIS! ๐ŸŽฏ

That being said, what is Personal Responsibility? ๐Ÿ“–

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฎ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜†๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฑ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—น ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ป๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜€๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฑ.

๐Ÿ“Œ ๐—ฃ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ, ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ.

And I can already hear the critics of personal responsibility shouting from the rooftops! โœŠ

โ€œ๐–๐ž ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ก๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฐ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ž๐ซ๐ž ๐›๐จ๐ซ๐ง: ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฌ๐จ๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ ๐œ๐ฅ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ ๐ž๐ง๐ž๐ญ๐ข๐œ๐ฌ! ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐๐š๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ก๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐จ๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž! ๐˜๐จ๐ฎโ€™๐ซ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ข๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ-๐›๐ฅ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ !โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

โ€œ๐ˆโ€™๐ฆ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐ž๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐จ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ž๐ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐š๐œ๐ก๐ข๐ž๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ ๐จ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ!โ€ ๐Ÿ˜ก

To clarify, personal responsibility is NOT about carrying the weight of the entire world on your shoulders. I donโ€™t expect anyone to do that, not even myself! ๐Ÿ˜Š

Bad things happen to good people, no doubt. There is injustice and corruption in the world, yes Iโ€™m with you on that too! ๐Ÿ‘

But thatโ€™s not what this skill is about.

Personal responsibility is about taking the reins on our lives, being the Driver and not the Passenger of our circumstances.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, we are not responsible for things like where we are born. And personal responsibility says regardless of where we started in life that we work with the limited resources weโ€™ve been given.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, bad things happen to good people. And personal responsibility says in spite of the bad things we choose how we respond to them and still find ways to move forward.

๐Ÿ“ Yes, people and events outside our control may stop us from achievements in your life. And personal responsibility says: โ€œThey will TRY, but they wonโ€™t stop me from reaching my destination!โ€

It’s NOT about being 100% responsible for everything and everyone. It’s about being 100% responsible for how you experience your life, that it’s never to be by accident, that you always take a conscious role in creating it.

In developing personal responsibility, you give yourself the gift of self-love. “๐™‰๐™ค ๐™ข๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™ฌ๐™๐™–๐™ฉ’๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™Š๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™, ๐™„’๐™ข ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™ ๐™š๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ช๐™œ๐™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™–๐™ก๐™ฌ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™จ ๐™๐™–๐™ซ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™„๐™ฃ๐™ฃ๐™š๐™ง ๐™’๐™ค๐™ง๐™ก๐™™!”

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๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

โ€ฆWhat now?! I was standing at the the airport kiosk with my luggage in one hand, my phone in the other, and trying to think of what to do. ๐Ÿ˜“

My mind filled up with questions. ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’„๐’๐’–๐’๐’… ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’”๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’‘๐’Š๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐‘ฐโ€™๐’Ž ๐’”๐’•๐’–๐’„๐’Œ ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’‚ ๐’๐’๐’๐’ˆ ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’Š๐’‡ ๐’‚๐’๐’ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’‘๐’๐’‚๐’๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐‘บ๐’„๐’๐’•๐’๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’„๐’†๐’๐’๐’†๐’…? ๐‘พ๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’† ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐’‚ ๐’“๐’๐’๐’Ž? ๐‘ฏ๐’๐’˜ ๐’Ž๐’–๐’„๐’‰ ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’๐’†๐’š ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐‘ฐ ๐’‰๐’‚๐’—๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’”๐’‘๐’†๐’๐’…?

I closed my eyes and took a deep breathโ€ฆand Personal Responsibility crept back into my mind! ๐Ÿ”‰

“๐˜ฟ๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™˜๐™ž๐™ง๐™˜๐™ช๐™ข๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š๐™จ, ๐™„ ๐™–๐™ข ๐™๐™š๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฃ๐™ค๐™ฌ. ๐™๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™ค๐™—๐™ก๐™š๐™ข๐™จ ๐™ฌ๐™ค๐™ฃโ€™๐™ฉ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ซ๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™ฎ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ. ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ข๐™ฎ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ž๐™ก๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ฎ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š ๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™ฉ๐™ง๐™ค๐™ก ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™›๐™ค๐™˜๐™ช๐™จ ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ. ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™–๐™จ ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™›๐™ค๐™ง ๐™ข๐™–๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ข๐™ž๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ ๐™š, ๐™จ๐™ค ๐™„ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™—๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ๐™ž๐™—๐™ก๐™š ๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™˜๐™ง๐™š๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ค๐™ก๐™ช๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ.” ๐Ÿ’ช

The kiosk had mentioned the Customer Service desk, so I went there. I spoke to the lady at the desk, I told her what happened, and I asked her what the most upcoming flights were to Scotland. โœˆ๏ธ

Sure enough, there was an available flight only a few hours later! The lady said there would be an additional fee to transfer the ticket. At first my body tensed up again, but Personal Responsibility once again took over! “๐™„๐™ฉโ€™๐™จ ๐™– ๐™—๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™ค๐™ง๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ, ๐™—๐™ช๐™ฉ ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ฎ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™ฉ ๐™ฌ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก ๐™œ๐™š๐™ฉ ๐™ข๐™š ๐™—๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™จ๐™˜๐™๐™š๐™™๐™ช๐™ก๐™š.”

So in the end I got to Scotland only a couple hours later than my original schedule, and I got to meet my long-time MySpace friend Kris Nimbley for the first time! ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

๐Ÿฅ‡ ๐—ง๐—›๐—˜ ๐— ๐—ข๐—ฆ๐—ง ๐—ฉ๐—”๐—Ÿ๐—จ๐—”๐—•๐—Ÿ๐—˜ ๐—ฆ๐—ž๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐—Ÿ ๐—ง๐—ข ๐—•๐—จ๐—œ๐—Ÿ๐——!!! ๐Ÿฅ‡

Take time to invite Personal Responsibility into your life. The more you keep inviting him, the quicker he comes back to help you take the reins!

Unfortunately I know this post may fall on deaf ears for some people. Some people in fact don’t want to take responsibility. Why? Because it takes work to practice. It takes time to develop. It’s an ongoing muscle that needs to continue being conditioned. ๐Ÿ‹๏ธโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Even more, personal responsibility requires a person to give up a habit they simply may not want to give up: blaming. We live in a culture that’s filled with blaming and pointing the finger. This behavior is reinforced by other fellow Blamers, and rather than any side take some sort of responsibility it becomes a Blaming Party. “๐‘ฐ๐’•’๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’Š๐’“ ๐’‡๐’‚๐’–๐’๐’•, ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’“๐’†๐’‡๐’๐’“๐’† ๐‘ฐ ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’•๐’‚๐’Œ๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’š ๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’‘๐’๐’๐’”๐’Š๐’ƒ๐’Š๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’๐’“ ๐’Ž๐’š ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”!” โ˜๏ธ

I confess, I’ve not been entirely blameless myself. There are times I’ve slipped up and blamed where I shouldn’t have. I don’t expect you to be perfect either starting out. But with time and practice, it will improve! Compared to where I was a while ago, I’ve come a very long way!

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t lose 80 pounds because I kept blaming fast food for my obesity. It’s because I took responsibility over my food habits.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make peace with my sexuality because I kept blaming others for not accepting me. It’s because I took responsibility to develop self-love and acceptance within myself.

๐Ÿ‘ I didn’t make the progress I have the past few years because I kept blaming others for where I was in life. It’s because I took responsibility for wherever I was and to always find solutions to keep moving forward.

๐ŸŒŸ Blame is the excuse for inaction. Personal responsibility is the excuse for action. ๐ŸŒŸ

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I hope you found this post helpful! Personal responsibility has been a gift to my life, and I hope it is for yours too! ๐ŸŽ

I am taking responsibility once again to run the NYC Marathon in November! It’s my FIRST marathon, and I’ve been training for over 10 weeks! I am dedicated to crossing that finish line! ๐Ÿ

I’m running with Team for Kids to raise funds for youth fitness programs nationwide! My goal is to raise $2,500, and I know we all can make this happen! Please share this post so others can be a part of impacting tomorrow’s adults! ๐Ÿ˜Š

DONATE HERE!!! โค๏ธ

Why Separation is EMPOWERING!

Take the example of a bow, an arrow, and a target.ย ๐Ÿน

You’ve practiced for months. You’ve spent countless hours shooting arrows. And today is The Day, the day you decide you’ve practiced long enough to hit the bullseye multiple consecutive times!ย ๐ŸŽฏ

But somehow, you’re not at all nervous. You’re not even worried! You’ve practiced a lot, that’s for sure. But there’s one valuable lesson you’ve also learned in your life which rids you of needless worry…

๐ŸŒŸย Separate the things which are in your control from the things not in your control.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

To be kind to another person is within your control. To know if the person will be kind in return is not in your control.ย โค๏ธ

To tell the truth is in your control. To know if telling the truth will benefit you in your current situation is out of your control.ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

To keep a promise is in your control. To know if someone else will keep their promise is out of your control.ย ๐Ÿค

To practice, to prepare, to aim, and shoot an arrow at a target is in your control. But to know if the arrow will hit the bullseye once it’s left your bow is not in your control.ย ๐Ÿน

The problem is we so often put focus on what’s not in our control. So much of the news we read, hear, and absorb today are about other people, other events, and things which are not at all in our control.ย ๐Ÿ“บ

So then we focus on the arrow even though it’s already left our bows. We focus on all the arrows of others even though they have nothing to do with our everyday lives. In doing so, we’re causing ourselves needless worry and anxiety!ย ๐Ÿ˜ซ

So what then? We must flip our focuses back to what we can control, not just for our own mental health but for the impact we make by doing so. We focus on being a good person. We focus on setting the example. We focus on taking action on things within our control.ย ๐Ÿ’ช

Because once you make a habit to start separating these two, placing all your energy into what’s in your control, you will save yourself a ton of time and stress!ย โค๏ธ