Why YOU Are Suffering!

“What upsets people are not THINGS themselves but their JUDGMENTS about the things.” ~ Epictetus ๐Ÿ’ฌ
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Do you want to feel LESS UPSET? Allow me to assist! โค๏ธ
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We are not upset because an event happens. We are upset because we believe an event “shouldn’t” have happened. ๐Ÿ˜ฃ
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We’re arguing with the “shoulds” in our minds. ๐Ÿคฏ
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We’re arguing with the feelings of anger and frustration we’re experiencing. ๐Ÿคฌ
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We’re arguing with a past which no longer exists. โŒ›
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But here’s the problem: “๐–๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ซ๐ ๐ฎ๐ž ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ, ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž.” ๐Ÿ˜“
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So, I want to introduce you to a solution: ACCEPTANCE. โค๏ธ
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๐Ÿ™Œ Accept whatever it is you’re experiencing. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Accept the events which happened. Accept the emotions you’re feeling. Accept the judgments your mind is making. Accept whatever is.
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Accept. And you’ll be surprised how fast you’ll be able to let these things go. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Release. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Surrender. ๐Ÿ™Œ
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Because it’s only when you continue holding onto this baggage will you cause yourself needless suffering. ๐Ÿ˜จ
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๐Ÿคฌ “HOW DARE YOU, DONALD! I HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE ANGRY AND FRUSTRATED!” ๐Ÿคฌ
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You do! 100%! You have every reason to feel this way! ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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There’s no doubt there’s a feeling of nobility, this sense of self-righteousness, to hold onto these negative emotions. I totally get it! ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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These intense emotions serve you feelings of power. These intense emotions serve you feelings of control over what at times can feel like a very chaotic world. โœŠ
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As I heard 1 person once describe their feelings of anger: “It’s like jet fuel!” ๐Ÿคฌ
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For me to tell you to accept your emotions, for me to tell you to diffuse the mechanisms which provide your feelings of power and control, is by far the last thing you’d want to hear from me, right?! ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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I understand. โค๏ธ
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But I can assure you: ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ž๐ง๐ฌ๐ž ๐ž๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฉ๐ž๐œ๐ข๐š๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐ฎ๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฆ๐ž๐, ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ.
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And there are far better, more constructive ways to handling our problems. ๐Ÿ’ฏ
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Let me clarify:
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance does not mean we become complacent in our life.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance does not mean we enable the things and situations which spark our negative emotions.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance is simply about freeing ourselves from needless suffering.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance is simply about clearing the weeds from our minds.
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๐Ÿ“ Acceptance is simply a tool to help us see things as they are, objectively, without any judgments and attachments.
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And practicing acceptance doesn’t just affect you! ๐Ÿ˜ฒ
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It affects how you will interact with others, how civil you’ll be with others in tense situations. ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ
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It affects what solutions you’re going to come up with to address your problems. ๐Ÿค”
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It affects the long-term impact you’re going to have upon short-term situations. ๐Ÿ—“๏ธ
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“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ~ Eckhart Tolle ๐Ÿ’ฌ
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Why Hurt People HURT People!

๐Ÿ™Œ HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE! ๐Ÿ™Œ

In times of stress, our thinking NARROWS.

We forget the ideals we set for ourselves. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

We forget the goals we were aiming to reach. ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

We instead fall into thinking patterns limited to our self-preservation. ๐Ÿ˜จ

But youโ€™re NO LESS of a person for falling back into old thinking patterns. It happens to us all. โค๏ธ

What matters is not that we became lost in thought (for the thousandth time), but that we continue to acknowledge the moments when we do, to accept the moment as it is, and continue redirecting our focus towards what truly matters to us. โคด๏ธ

If youโ€™re a meditater, you know how RANDOM your thoughts can be! ๐Ÿง˜โ€โ™‚๏ธ

Thoughts you have absolutely no control over will appear in your conscious mind, like a fish in a pond which pops its head at the surface of the water. ๐ŸŸ

With a practice like meditation, you realize you donโ€™t have to engage with this fish. You realize itโ€™s just one of many fish that will appear ALL THE TIME, and you have the choice to allow this fish to just go on its way. ๐Ÿ™Œ

But without us developing these skills of self-awareness and self-control, we will ALWAYS be at the whim of us grabbing the next fish. ๐Ÿคฏ

We will continue grabbing every fish that appears and assume every fish carries equal value.

But the problem is some fish are unhealthy, harmful, and even dangerous. ๐Ÿฆˆ

For example, itโ€™s SO EASY these days for the Fish of Outrage to appear more and more in the mind. ๐Ÿ˜…

But the more often you grab the Fish of Outrage, the more often the fish comes back.

Because whatever you keep focusing on in the mind grows. ๐Ÿ‘€

Itโ€™s why Nietszche famously said: โ€œ๐‡๐ž ๐ฐ๐ก๐จ ๐Ÿ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐ญ๐จ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ก๐ž ๐ก๐ข๐ฆ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฅ๐Ÿ ๐๐จ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐›๐ž๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž ๐š ๐ฆ๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ. ๐€๐ง๐ ๐ข๐Ÿ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ ๐š๐ณ๐ž ๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐š๐ง ๐š๐›๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐š๐›๐ฒ๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐ ๐š๐ณ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ.โ€

In other words, some of the most dangerous people are the ones who can only see wrongdoing in everyone else but themselves. They see themselves through a divine lens while simultaneously projecting the Fish they reject in their own minds onto other people. ๐Ÿ‘‰

Thatโ€™s why thereโ€™s the saying: โ€œ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜ ๐Ÿญ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ, ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐Ÿฏ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฏ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐—ธ ๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚.โ€

๐ŸŒŸ If you are suffering, you are lost in thought. ๐ŸŒŸ

Suffering begets suffering.

Thatโ€™s why itโ€™s important we remember:

๐Ÿ™Œ HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE! ๐Ÿ™Œ

That person you see screaming in the face of another person? ๐Ÿคฌ

That person expressing irrational and out-of-control behavior? ๐Ÿคฌ

That person who is vowing to get revenge? ๐Ÿคฌ

They are ALL suffering. ๐Ÿ˜”

For my social media friends thirsty for condemnation and revenge, I know this may be a difficult concept to understand. ๐Ÿค”

It may be even more difficult because this post is holding a MIRROR up to yourself. โค๏ธ

A person who feels the need to hurt other people, to crave revenge, to watch the whole world burn, is NEVER a happy person. ๐Ÿ‘

In fact, the ones who hurt the most are often the ones who need love the most. โค๏ธ

Because:

๐Ÿ™Œ HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE! ๐Ÿ™Œ

Consider the words of Sam Harris:

โ€œ๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ก๐š๐ฏ๐ž ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ž๐ญ, ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ž๐ž๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ๐๐š๐ฒ, ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ข๐ž. โšฐ๏ธย .

๐‹๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฅ๐จ๐ง๐  ๐ž๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก, ๐ž๐š๐œ๐ก ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ข๐ž๐ง๐๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐š๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ. ๐€๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐š๐ซ๐ž ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ฅ๐. ๐Ÿ˜ข

๐–๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ฐ๐š๐ง๐ญ ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐š๐ง๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐›๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ค๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ฆ ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐ž๐š๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ž?โ€ โค๏ธ

During times of stress, these ideas Iโ€™m sharing may likely WONโ€™T be at the forefront of our minds. ๐Ÿ‘

Thatโ€™s why itโ€™s our job to work on ourselves, to develop ourselves, and to increase our self-awareness. ๐Ÿ‘€

Because the work we do on ourselves now is NOT just about us. Itโ€™s about everyone around us whoโ€™s also going to benefit from it. ๐ŸŒŽ

When you take care of yourself, you can better take care of others. โค๏ธ

When youโ€™re loving to yourself, youโ€™re more loving to others. โค๏ธ

When youโ€™re forgiving to yourself, youโ€™re more forgiving to others. โค๏ธ

It works both ways. โ†”๏ธ

So, the next time you THINK about grabbing that Fish of Outrage in the mind, remember:

๐Ÿ™Œ HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE! ๐Ÿ™Œ

Will you be a part of breaking the cycle of suffering? ๐Ÿ™Œ

As Martin Luther King Jr. beautifully said: โ€œ๐ƒ๐š๐ซ๐ค๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ง๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐š๐ซ๐ค๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ; ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ. ๐‡๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ฏ๐ž ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ก๐š๐ญ๐ž; ๐จ๐ง๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐๐จ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ.โ€ โค๏ธ