How We’re CONNECTED! (PERSONAL)

🙌 YOU CANNOT GIVE WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE. 🙌

This past week I volunteered at the Group Youth Leadership Summit in San Diego, serving over 350 youth, ages 14 to 16, from 31 countries! 😲

From Australia to Malaysia to Kenya, participants came from many different backgrounds, lifestyles, and cultures. 🌎

All from different places, yet we as volunteers came together for a purpose bigger than ourselves: to inspire, liberate, and create breakthroughs for the next generation of leaders! And in the process, many (including myself) experienced breakthroughs of our own! 👣

Sure we may be different: in age, in height, in background. But yet we’re also very much alike. Don’t think so? Society loves to focus on how we’re different, how separate and divided we stand, why we should fear each other and our neighbors. ↔️

But I’ll tell you one thing that unites us all, something that will never be divided: our common humanity. What it means to be human. What it means to love. ❤️

This past week we created an event for future leaders to realize they’re not alone in this world and provide them the space to open up about their deepest hopes and fears. Some don’t have a place at home to be open like this, so it’s even more a blessing we offer it for them here. 🙌

Fear of not being accepted? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

Fear of not being good enough? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

Fear of not succeeding in life? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

We let them all know honestly and sincerely: we all relate. It’s part of being human. 🤲

I wish I knew the stuff the kids were learning when I was their age! I wish I had attended a place like this when I was younger! 😅

A key principle the youth learned last week: You cannot give what you do not have. As a leader, you cannot lead unless you also lead yourself first. If you’re not 100% for yourself, you can’t be 100% for others. You can only give what you already have. 💯

To change the world you first have to change yourself, not the other way around. Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” It starts and ends with us all: the growth of us as individuals. Let’s begin…! ❤️ #GYLS2019

Why Patience is NOT a Virtue!

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! 🙌

One thing I’ve learned is a lot of people don’t have patience. 😲

We’d rather have the quick fix. We’d rather choose the fastest solution. We’d rather get things done sooner than later. 💨

And that is absolutely crucial when applying it to our modern day technology. We do need those skills! The problem is when we carry these same standards into our interactions with other people. 👥

I’ve been told by quite a few people I have a lot of patience. I’ll let someone talk for a long period of time. I’ll give someone extra time to work through a problem in their mind. I’ll let someone know through my presence their concerns matter to me. ❤️

But what surprises me the most is that this patience is not commonplace. You’ve heard the term “patience is a virtue” right?! ✍️

So how do I have it so easily? It’s simple: I think if I were in the same position as them, I’d appreciate the same treatment towards me. ↔️

If you’re not patient with others, the odds are likely you are not patient with yourself. How you treat others is also a reflection on how you treat yourself. 👤

There are people working through far bigger problems in their lives than I’ve ever had to deal with. And the biggest gift I can offer a person is my time and patience. It’s not to say I don’t at times get impatient, but that I remind myself why I give it. 🎁

There’s someone I love dearly in my family who currently suffers from dementia. The #1 thing she says to me and with much gratefulness is: “Thank you for being so patient with me.” 🗣️

It tears me up to think how many others in our world feel insignificant because others won’t simply give them the time and patience when they’re doing their very best with the resources they have to work through a problem. 😢

We wouldn’t give a baby a limited amount of time and patience to learn how to walk. We wouldn’t throw in the towel and say: “This baby is hopeless! I got more important things to do!” 🤬

So why do we give this limited time to others? ⌛

One is because of our expectations about other people. For a baby, we expect walking for them will be a learning process. We expect they will poop in their diapers. We expect they will need to be spoon fed. We expect they will need a lot of time and patience. 🐣

But as we get older, we raise our expectations on how others “should” be. ♾

📍 “They should already know how to do this!”

📍 “They should know better!”

📍 “They should have high standards for their life!”

📍 “They should be just like who I am!”

There was a moment this weekend that tested my expectations. 📆

I had the privilege to serve a dozen kids as they experienced their very first Unleash the Power Within event. They all came from different locations, backgrounds, and lifestyles. 🌎

This weekend I learned a very valuable lesson from every of them. I learned I came into the group with far more expectations about where these kids “should” be in their personal development than I knew! 😲

Some of them had already dipped their toe in the water. But others were stepping in for the very first time. These ideas were brand new to them. And I was expecting too much of what they “should” know. 😔

But you cannot expect someone to learn Calculus when they’ve never learned Algebra. It has to be taken in steps. And as passionate as I am about personal development, I was challenged this weekend to remind myself how little I knew when I first attended the event myself. We all learn in different ways and at different paces. 👍

All the kids were beautiful souls who I know will go far in their lives. There’s a part of me that woke up this Monday morning and remembered I’m not going to the venue to reconnect with them. A part of me will miss that. 🙌

But I told them before I left them all yesterday: “Keep these memories here close. They are with you now wherever you go.” ❤️

If we are to get along with each other, patience is not a virtue.

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! IT’S A NECESSITY! 🙌

Building this skill has become one of the most rewarding experiences for my life. 👍

You’ll connect with people on a deeper level. You’ll see parts of yourself in them. You’ll remember we’re all only human and we’re all still learning. 😊

🌟 Remember to meet people where they are at, not where you want them to be. 🌟

Because where there’s patience there’s also time for understanding. ❤️#EudaimonicLife

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Why Change Is POSSIBLE! (PERSONAL)

😱 4 YEARS!!! 😱

This afternoon I took a look at my calendar 📆 and my eyes started to water.😭 I couldn’t believe it! 2 weeks from now it will have been 4 years. 🥳

It’s hard for me to still fathom it’s really been that long! 🤯

The song “Seasons of Love” asks: ‘How do you measure a year?’ 🎶 But my mind is still trying to wrap around how to measure the past 4! 😅

🗣️ “What are you talking about Donald?!” 🗣️

I should probably explain! 2 weeks from now it will have been exactly 4 years…🔎

…since I was under 25. 😱 I was so young then, but 4 years later I’m now just a grumpy old man! 😭

🤣 JUST KIDDING!!! 🤣

Seriously though, 4 years ago I was That Guy on the left in the photo.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who binged on junk food every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who drank 3 to 4 cans of soda every day.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who refused even substituting his drinks for Diet Soda.

📌 4 years ago I was That Guy who was so picky about eating vegetables he’d literally gag trying to swallow them because of his fear of textures.

And where did this inability to change bring That Guy? 🤔

To weigh over 234 pounds. ⚖️ To have junk food and soda as his addictions and closest companions. To feel tired and sleepy more often than not. 😴 To never like being in photos because of the way he looked. To always feel the need to lift his chin up so his double chin didn’t show. 😔

That Guy really didn’t like how he looked or how unhealthy he ate. But regardless, him holding onto his comfort zone outweighed any inspiration to try and be thinner or be happier. 🤷‍♂️

If any of you can read this and relate, you’re not alone! ❤️

I don’t necessarily mean with weight but with our general unwillingness to change things in our lives a small part of us really wants to change. While there’s that part of us that really wants to change, we nevertheless don’t change. 😕

🚬 You know quitting smoking would benefit your lung health. But you don’t.

🍔 You know eating less junk food and more vegetables would help you lose weight. But you don’t.

🚴 You know exercising would help keep your muscles strong. But you don’t.

But why? Why don’t we change? If it’s really as simple as doing or not doing something, then why don’t we do it?! 😵

Because we as humans…are complicated! 😅

For one thing, we are creatures of habit. It’s easier for us to break an old habit than it is to build a new one. 👍 You’ve probably heard the term: “Old habits die hard.” It’s very true, and I’ve experienced it before too! 😝

Building a new habit requires a lot of focus. 👀 It requires consistent effort. Until it becomes a full on habit in your daily life, it’s going to continue feeling difficult. 😓

But don’t be too hard on yourself either! Think of it like this: say you’ve smoked for a decade and then decide to quit. 🚭 You will then be faced with a smoking habit decades old all while you’re building the new habit to not smoke. Of course this won’t be easy! It’s an uphill battle with your Habitual Brain! 😊

As much as I’d love to tell you new habits are built overnight, they aren’t. 👎It’s why most people don’t succeed doing it. If building a new habit was so easy to build, everybody would do it! 👍

But again, you’re not alone! ❤️ That Guy in the photo wasn’t willing to either! Sure, he wanted to be thinner and healthier, but why would he substitute that for all the short-term pleasures he experienced from junk food and soda? 🤷‍♂️

He even told himself: “I don’t have to worry about my health until the doctor says I have to.” 😱

So what happened 4 years ago that set That Guy down a path into who is now, Me present day? 🤔

🌟 His desire to change had to become stronger than his desire not to change. 🌟

⚠️ The problem was That Guy was always focused on his short-term pleasure; he was not focused on the long-term pain.

⚠️ He was focused on the pleasures of junk food and soda; he was not focused on the long-term medical issues he’d have because of them.

⚠️ He was focused on himself; he was not focused on the people who were trying to help him and whose advice he kept ignoring.

So when That Guy saw the path he was heading down for years to come, it planted a Seed of Horror in his mind that he had to change NOW! 🛑

Like Scrooge in “A Christmas Carol”, it was his vision of a horrific future which pushed That Guy to say: “Enough is enough!” ❌…

So here I am now, after 80 pounds lost, a No Soda policy, and many vegetables consumed! 🥦 That Guy has evolved into Me on the right. I like to call him Ace. Ace has since let That Guy retire, because now Ace likes running the show! 😎

So there’s something you really need to know! ✋

👍 I’m not going to pretend like this physical transformation happened overnight. It didn’t.

👍 I’m not going to put on an act like it was the easiest thing to do in the world. It wasn’t.

👍 I’m not going to try and make you believe I never zig-zagged during my transformation. I did…many times!

But what I will tell you though is that it is indeed possible for you to change when you set your mind to it. ❤️

One of my favorite speakers Les Brown talks about the Power of Possibility: “Sometimes we can’t say ‘I can do that’. But what we can say is that ‘it’s possible’.” 🗣️

🌟 If you can allow yourself to visualize the possibility of a future greater than the one you’re living now, you’ve already provided an opening for yourself to step forward. 🌟

So with this post I want to plant the seed in your mind that it is possible for you too, in whatever it is you’re looking to change! 😄

I’m not saying it will be easy. I’m not saying it will always be fun. But when you have doubts come up, remind yourself why you started in the first place. 🤔

👤 Do something today your future self will thank you for. 👤

Lastly, I have to give credit to the most powerful visual exercise I ever experienced which sealed the deal for me to change all those 4 years ago. 👍

It was attending Tony Robbins’s “Unleash the Power Within” event for the first time that I experienced what is known as the Dickens Process. 😲

I’d love to tell you more, but I’d rather you experienced the event for yourself without spoilers. I can tell you how a candy bar tastes, but it’s a whole other thing to actually taste it. 🍫

I’m not saying attending the event is your only tool, only that it’s a damn fine one in your Arsenal for Change if you do! It was for me! ❤️

COMMENT below if you’ve attended UPW before or are interested in attending! 😁

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Why Tony Robbins is NOT My Guru! (PERSONAL)

Written on May 26, 2019

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🗣️ “Every end is a new beginning.” 🗣️

The past 10 days I’ve had the privilege to volunteer at Tony Robbins’s Date With Destiny 6-day event here in Australia. ❤️ Amidst all the recent Buzzfeed shenanigans, amidst Tony still recovering from a stomach ulcer which had him losing 1/3 of his blood, all of us here pulled through nevertheless to put on an amazing event 2500 souls will never forget! 🎊

When I look back, it was only a few years ago that I was standing on the Schaumburg Convention Center floor participating at my first Tony Robbins event. Little did I know I’d be standing here today in the Cairns Convention Center halfway across the world as one of Tony’s regular volunteer Crew members. 👥

To recount everything that’s happened in my life these past few years would take ages! 📚 But my story, specifically with Tony’s work, goes back even further…↩️

I’ve never written it all down before until now. But it’s time you all knew, because I have something important I also need to share with you all! 😲

As a teenager, the first job I ever had was working as a Boy Scout camp counselor in the small town of Wild Rose, Wisconsin.🌲 For 8 weeks every summer, hundreds of staff like myself committed to serving thousands of Scouts and Leaders in an unforgettable camping experience. It was a key part of my life for 6 years. 🗓️

To make things even more fun for Scouts, the staff members would not use their real names. My nickname was “Dohnut”. Yes, it was spelled that was because I said it was! 😂

One week up there, I met a Scout Leader Sudesh Kannan. I don’t remember how we initially started talking, but what I do remember is asking him for a list of books he recommended I read. If I recall, he was more than happy to. Correct me if I’m wrong as you read this Dr. K! ✅

Among his list of book recommendations was Tony Robbins’s “Awaken the Giant Within”. 📖 But first and foremost I have to admit something right now. And I think this may shock many of you who know I’m a big fan of Tony’s work today. 😱

🙀 Embrace yourself! Are you ready?! 🙀

I have NEVER read any of Tony’s books in their entirety! I’ve read portions of them here and there, but never one in full! Crazy, right?! “…And you call yourself a fan!” 🤣

🗣️ “So if you’ve didn’t read his books, how did you ever get interested in Tony’s work???” 🗣️

My dear friends: the Internet is a beautiful thing! Online, I watched recorded videos of his speeches. I read many of his quotations. I followed his social media page. 💻 I became a fan of his work real fast. Something about it just resonated with me! 🤔

I made a pledge to myself that attending one of his events would be on my bucket list. 👍

And then one day in 2015 I went onto his official website to see if he had any upcoming nearby events. 📆 To my astonishment, he did! He was coming to to Chicago that July, only a few months away! Even better, he was going to be hosting his Unleash the Power Within event at the Schaumburg Convention Center just 15 miles away from my house! 😱

I grabbed my tickets promptly! 🎟️

I remember UPW being the most transformative mental and physical experience I ever had to that date!

✅ I remember the beginning music playing on Day 1.

✅ I remember Jennifer Hyland’s intervention with Tony.

✅ I remember the radical honesty sharing with others the limiting beliefs I was ashamed to admit.

✅ I remember crying my eyes out during the Dicken’s Process.

I remember for the first time I experienced what some would refer to as a “spiritual awakening”, minus the woo woo or religious dogma that often tends to come with the idea of spirituality. 🤲

To summarize in a single sentence: I truly felt alive! It was a euphoric experience in many ways I could not put into words! 🔠

I remember the day after the event ended I weighed myself: 234 pounds exact. I remember that same day I also quit drinking soda, going from a daily 3 to 4 cans a day to 0. None! Zilch! Zip! And ice cold water replaced my new favorite drink. 💦

I started focusing on exercising more and finding healthier food options. 🌱And over the course of 2 months I lost over 25 pounds! 😲

For a time, I in fact didn’t return back to the Tony Robbins environment for a while. It wasn’t until a year and half had passed that I finally decided to Crew Tony’s UPW event in November 2016 in San Jose, California. ✈️

There I had the privilege to make new friends like Steven L ParryAustin SprinzCharles M. Hawkins, and who I said was “a very happy lady” Rocky Jacobson. 👥

But at the time I was a nervous wreck! 😨

I was so worried about doing something wrong and getting in trouble. I wanted to make a good first impression on Crew. I tried to help everyone as fast as I could. I overexerted myself to the point I wasn’t taking care of my own health! 🤕

And I can assure that’s NOT what anybody says when it’s continually emphasized to all the Crew: “Take care of yourself. Drink plenty of water. Take breaks when you need to.” 🎤

But it was Rebekah Koon-casson who really helped me one day I was there when she looked me in the eyes and told me something I’ll never forget: “What are they going to do?! Fire you?!” 🤷‍♂️

I never forgot because I laughed and it made me calm down. Rebekah, I use these exact words today towards other new and nervous Crew members just like how I was. I hope you don’t mind! 😁

And that event would be but the first of 8 more UPW events I’d Crew, from Los Angeles to Chicago to Newark to London. 🌎 Over that time I met hundreds of new Crew members, connected with so many amazing event participants, people from all walks of life, and took on leadership roles such as Floor Captain. 🥇

I consider it a privilege to be a part of giving back the experience which was first given to me to thousands of more people. ❤️

And now I’m here…present day! I’m 165 pounds now. Personal growth has become one of my top priorities. And I’m about to close the current chapter in my life! 😲

What do I mean by that? Don’t worry, I don’t plan on leaving Crewing anytime soon! But a new chapter is in fact beginning for me. 😊

That young camp counselor. That 23 year old boy at UPW. That first-time anxious Crew member. None of them would foresee this new chapter about to be written. None of them would ever foresee the day I would be telling you all that I’ll be officially working for Tony Robbins. 😱

You heard me right! As of May 28th, the day I arrive back home from Australia, I’m officially an employee at Robbins Research International under their amazing Sales team, working for the #1 personal development coach in the world! ✊

To say this realization still hasn’t fully hit me would be a bit of an understatement. But I can certainly say I’m more than excited for this next chapter in my life to be written! ✍️

🗣️ “You’re obsessed with Tony Robbins! It looks like some cult!” 🗣️

To all my friends who are skeptical about why I’m so passionate about Tony Robbins, I absolutely understand that. From an outside perspective, for anyone who’s never been to an event, my enthusiasm might seems a bit uncalled for. What’s all the fuss, right?! 🤔

Let me clarify: I’m a “Fanboy” for Tony’s work and mission, not the Man himself. Contrary to popular belief, I’ve never even personally met the guy! No handshake. No photo op. No small talk. It’s not a priority for me! 😝

📌 I don’t consider him a guru.

📌 I don’t worship or blindly idolize him.

📌 I don’t place him on some godlike pedestal.

📌 I agree that blind worship towards anything or anyone is not healthy.

For the cynical, I can assure he has not “brainwashed” my intellectual capacity to critically think about him or his work objectively. 😎

For me: Tony Robbins is a damn fine teacher. 👨‍🏫 A psychologist. A philosopher. 👤 A person I consider a mentor with over 40 years in the field of personal development. A person who is genuinely intent on seeing the world suffer far less through authenticity and personal responsibility. ❤️

He’s promoting a mission I believe is strongly needed for our long-term society: the psychological and spiritual growth of the individual. 💪

For those who take the time to dive into Tony’s material, you’ll see how deep it actually goes. It’s far more than a lot of the self-help drivel you see today. 👍

Parts of his material is rooted from many places. Existentialism. Essentialism. Stoicism. Plato. Aristotle. Sigmund Freud. Carl Jung. Hypnotherapy. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Neuro Linguistic Programming. Archetypal Psychology. Meditation Mindfulness. Pavlov conditioning. Buddhism. Hinduism. Mythology. And the list goes on! 📚

Tony has taken complex concepts and simplified them into a pragmatic form of understanding. He’s taken what people often see as difficult and painful to do (breaking old habits, changing one’s life) into easy and simple steps.

Like the greatest of teachers, Tony has interconnected all these ideas into programs and events which help people better themselves as individuals. 😄Like the teacher John Keating does for his students in “Dead Poets Society”, Tony Robbins inspires his student participants every event to show how we all can also “seize the day” too! ✊

And THAT is why I support his work so much! So much for just some “positive thinking” “rah rah” events, right? 😅

I challenge my friends who are skeptical of his work: don’t mistake my online positivity for naivety. It’s not the man himself I’m a “Fanboy” of; it’s his work and the long-term impact I see it having on our world. 🌎 I should know; it did for my own life! 👤

Thank you Tony Robbins for the work that you do, and I look forward to now being a part of it even more! ❤️

For all the negative gossip posts the past week with Tony, I’d love for you all to SHARE this post. Let others hear from people who are actually in the community! 😊

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