Why EVERYONE (and No One) Has “The Solution”!

Ladies and gentlemen: I present to you something NO ONE has ever said before! EVER! Not a single person! Itโ€™s 100% ORIGINAL! What I share will SHOCK you!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
Well I have AMAZING news for you! No need to THINK about it any longer! No need to ASK any more questions! No need to WORRY!ย ๐Ÿ˜…
Because Iโ€ฆDonald Arteagaโ€ฆAre you ready for this…?!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
Iโ€™m not sure youโ€™re ready!ย ๐Ÿ˜ถ
Are you REALLY sure?!?!ย ๐Ÿ˜ˆ
Iโ€ฆDonald Arteagaโ€ฆhave THE SOLUTION to all your problems!ย ๐Ÿฅณ
๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธย โ€œโ€ฆWait! What?!โ€ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ
Okay, I was being a bit silly there!ย ๐Ÿคฃ
But I do have a point! Online, EVERYONE has โ€œtheir wayโ€. Everyone has their โ€œsolutionsโ€. Their โ€œkeysโ€. Their โ€œanswersโ€. Their โ€œsecrets to successโ€. I have nuggets of my own I share, and I genuinely hope it adds value to your life!ย โค๏ธ
But I also want to remind you that all of us who share content and stuff like this are also only human, including myself.ย ๐Ÿ‘ค
The problem some of them forget to mention: โ€œTheir wayโ€ is just one of MANY ways. I have โ€œmy wayโ€ too, and I donโ€™t ask that you blindly accept it either.ย ๐Ÿ’ฏ
Perhaps I’m doing a disservice to the hierarchical structure of Salesperson and Consumer, Teacher and Student, Influencer and Viewer to point this out.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฑ
But in my opinion, it never hurts to be given this reminder when you have everyone marketing for your attention (including me)!ย ๐Ÿ˜
Because if thereโ€™s one thing Iโ€™ve learned itโ€™s that you donโ€™t grow when someone provides you all the โ€œsolutionsโ€, all the answers to your problems. You can grow from information, but you also grow from experience, from doing the hard work, and from discovering the answers for yourself.ย ๐Ÿ”Ž
Weโ€™re all in one form or another doing the best we can with the resources we have, sharing the bits of wisdom we know with our limited understandings of the universe.ย ๐ŸŒŒ
Donโ€™t get me wrong, I donโ€™t say this in a negative way! Iโ€™m not saying what people offer isnโ€™t useful or that you should ignore us. I’m not saying expertise doesn’t matter either.
I mean you wouldn’t want a toddler over a trained surgeon performing heart surgery right?ย ๐Ÿคฃ

My main point is I donโ€™t want you to lose your autonomy, to decide for yourself what you find is useful and is helpful to your life. I’m not the final destination for all the answers!ย โŒ
I donโ€™t want to tell you what to think. I want to encourage you to think and let the ideas I share simmer in your minds, not blindly accept them. And feel free to disagree, and we can have a conversation!ย ๐Ÿค
I wonโ€™t claim I have all the answers because I donโ€™t. And even if the other people online wonโ€™t admit it, I will tell you neither do they. Again, itโ€™s not a bad thing but just the truth.ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ
Iโ€™ve come to the conclusion this world is filled with many paradoxes and contradictions. For every subjective statement treated as an absolute by one, youโ€™ll find there will always be some exception to the rule.ย ๐Ÿ˜ซ
Pick up a Philosophy book and youโ€™ll see what I mean!ย ๐Ÿคฏ
Everyone has โ€œtheir wayโ€. Everyone has their โ€œsolutionsโ€. Their โ€œkeysโ€. Their โ€œanswersโ€. Their โ€œsecrets to successโ€.ย ๐Ÿ”ข
…But you also must decide what is helpful to you too. I want to make sure you also have a say in this final decision. Much love!ย โค๏ธ

Why We Hold Beliefs TIGHT!

“๐’€๐‘ถ๐‘ผ’๐‘น๐‘ฌ ๐‘พ๐‘น๐‘ถ๐‘ต๐‘ฎ ๐‘จ๐‘ต๐‘ซ ๐‘ฐ’๐‘ด ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ฎ๐‘ฏ๐‘ป! ๐‘ท๐‘ฌ๐‘น๐‘ฐ๐‘ถ๐‘ซ!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

One thing 2 people can easily get caught up in is an argument. I don’t mean one where both sides share their perspectives in a respectful and open manner.

(This is the Internet after all!ย ๐Ÿ˜‰)

I mean one where it becomes less about exchanging ideas and more about wanting to be “right”. It becomes a game of egoic dominance over the other person.

Why do we do this? I’ll give you one reason.

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—ช๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐˜€๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†. ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜€ ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐˜๐˜† ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—น๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฑ.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Being “wrong” can feel very uncomfortable because when you’re so attached to your beliefs it feels like a personal attack on you, rather than a simple disagreement on your beliefs.ย ๐Ÿ˜จ

Say you are an advocate for the environment, and you wholeheartedly believe that what you’re doing is helping it.ย ๐ŸŒฑ

But then say someone comes along who disagrees with what you’re doing. They present to you a different viewpoint you hadn’t thought of before, arguing what you’re doing is actually hurting the environment more than it is helping it.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Instead of hearing their points, you jump on the defense! You filter out the things they are saying. “๐‘ป๐’‰๐’‚๐’•’๐’” ๐’“๐’Š๐’…๐’Š๐’„๐’–๐’๐’๐’–๐’”! ๐‘ฐ’๐’—๐’† ๐’…๐’๐’๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’š๐’†๐’‚๐’“๐’”! ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’†๐’š ๐’‹๐’–๐’”๐’• ๐’…๐’๐’’๐’• ๐’Œ๐’๐’๐’˜ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’‚๐’• ๐’•๐’‰๐’†๐’š’๐’“๐’† ๐’•๐’‚๐’๐’Œ๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’‚๐’ƒ๐’๐’–๐’•!”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

Whether they had a valid point or not didn’t matter. You shut yourself off from hearing what they had to say. Because it was more comfortable sticking to what you already knew.ย โŒ

Ignorance can indeed be bliss.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

๐ŸŒŸย ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด “๐˜„๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ด” ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐˜‚๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ฏ๐—น๐—ฒ. ๐—•๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐˜† ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐˜„.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Why Complaining is EASY!

Do you know someone who always finds something to complain about?ย ๐Ÿคฌ

Maybe it’s a family member. A friend. An online ranter. Some people have literally made businesses online profiting off their complaining about the world!ย ๐ŸŒŽ

If you look hard enough, you can find something to complain about for anything! Our brains are hardwired to focus on the negatives; it helped us survive way back when.ย ๐Ÿง 

In other words, it doesn’t take a lot of effort to complain; anyone can, and most people do!ย ๐Ÿ˜…

๐ŸŒŸย Everyone has an opinion. Fewer have the example.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

So why should anyone even try to stop complaining? Why even try something new when it’s so easy? Everyone else does it, so why shouldn’t I?ย ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ

But while misery does loves company, so does happiness.ย ๐ŸŒž

And there’s a second part to Dale Carnegie’s quote above: “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do…

…But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”ย โค๏ธ

Are you up for the challenge? You can always start complaining again tomorrow!ย ๐Ÿ˜Š


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Why Patience is NOT a Virtue!


One thing I’ve learned is a lot of people don’t have patience.ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

We’d rather have the quick fix. We’d rather choose the fastest solution. We’d rather get things done sooner than later.ย ๐Ÿ’จ

And that is absolutely crucial when applying it to our modern day technology. We do need those skills! The problem is when we carry these same standards into our interactions with other people.ย ๐Ÿ‘ฅ

I’ve been told by quite a few people I have a lot of patience. I’ll let someone talk for a long period of time. I’ll give someone extra time to work through a problem in their mind. I’ll let someone know through my presence their concerns matter to me.ย โค๏ธ

But what surprises me the most is that this patience is not commonplace. You’ve heard the term “patience is a virtue” right?!ย โœ๏ธ

So how do I have it so easily? It’s simple: I think if I were in the same position as them, I’d appreciate the same treatment towards me.ย โ†”๏ธ

If you’re not patient with others, the odds are likely you are not patient with yourself. How you treat others is also a reflection on how you treat yourself.ย ๐Ÿ‘ค

There are people working through far bigger problems in their lives than I’ve ever had to deal with. And the biggest gift I can offer a person is my time and patience. It’s not to say I don’t at times get impatient, but that I remind myself why I give it.ย ๐ŸŽ

There’s someone I love dearly in my family who currently suffers from dementia. The #1 thing she says to me and with much gratefulness is: “Thank you for being so patient with me.”ย ๐Ÿ—ฃ๏ธ

It tears me up to think how many others in our world feel insignificant because others won’t simply give them the time and patience when they’re doing their very best with the resources they have to work through a problem.ย ๐Ÿ˜ข

We wouldn’t give a baby a limited amount of time and patience to learn how to walk. We wouldn’t throw in the towel and say: “This baby is hopeless! I got more important things to do!”ย ๐Ÿคฌ

So why do we give this limited time to others?ย โŒ›

One is because of our expectations about other people. For a baby, we expect walking for them will be a learning process. We expect they will poop in their diapers. We expect they will need to be spoon fed. We expect they will need a lot of time and patience.ย ๐Ÿฃ

But as we get older, we raise our expectations on how others “should” be.ย โ™พ

๐Ÿ“ย “They should already know how to do this!”

๐Ÿ“ย “They should know better!”

๐Ÿ“ย “They should have high standards for their life!”

๐Ÿ“ย “They should be just like who I am!”

There was a moment this weekend that tested my expectations.ย ๐Ÿ“†

I had the privilege to serve a dozen kids as they experienced their very first Unleash the Power Within event. They all came from different locations, backgrounds, and lifestyles.ย ๐ŸŒŽ

This weekend I learned a very valuable lesson from every of them. I learned I came into the group with far more expectations about where these kids “should” be in their personal development than I knew!ย ๐Ÿ˜ฒ

Some of them had already dipped their toe in the water. But others were stepping in for the very first time. These ideas were brand new to them. And I was expecting too much of what they “should” know.ย ๐Ÿ˜”

But you cannot expect someone to learn Calculus when they’ve never learned Algebra. It has to be taken in steps. And as passionate as I am about personal development, I was challenged this weekend to remind myself how little I knew when I first attended the event myself. We all learn in different ways and at different paces.ย ๐Ÿ‘

All the kids were beautiful souls who I know will go far in their lives. There’s a part of me that woke up this Monday morning and remembered I’m not going to the venue to reconnect with them. A part of me will miss that.ย ๐Ÿ™Œ

But I told them before I left them all yesterday: “Keep these memories here close. They are with you now wherever you go.”ย โค๏ธ

If we are to get along with each other, patience is not a virtue.


Building this skill has become one of the most rewarding experiences for my life.ย ๐Ÿ‘

You’ll connect with people on a deeper level. You’ll see parts of yourself in them. You’ll remember we’re all only human and we’re all still learning.ย ๐Ÿ˜Š

๐ŸŒŸย Remember to meet people where they are at, not where you want them to be.ย ๐ŸŒŸ

Because where there’s patience there’s also time for understanding.ย โค๏ธ#EudaimonicLife


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