How We’re CONNECTED! (PERSONAL)

🙌 YOU CANNOT GIVE WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE. 🙌

This past week I volunteered at the Group Youth Leadership Summit in San Diego, serving over 350 youth, ages 14 to 16, from 31 countries! 😲

From Australia to Malaysia to Kenya, participants came from many different backgrounds, lifestyles, and cultures. 🌎

All from different places, yet we as volunteers came together for a purpose bigger than ourselves: to inspire, liberate, and create breakthroughs for the next generation of leaders! And in the process, many (including myself) experienced breakthroughs of our own! 👣

Sure we may be different: in age, in height, in background. But yet we’re also very much alike. Don’t think so? Society loves to focus on how we’re different, how separate and divided we stand, why we should fear each other and our neighbors. ↔️

But I’ll tell you one thing that unites us all, something that will never be divided: our common humanity. What it means to be human. What it means to love. ❤️

This past week we created an event for future leaders to realize they’re not alone in this world and provide them the space to open up about their deepest hopes and fears. Some don’t have a place at home to be open like this, so it’s even more a blessing we offer it for them here. 🙌

Fear of not being accepted? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

Fear of not being good enough? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

Fear of not succeeding in life? 😨

“We all relate.” ❤️

We let them all know honestly and sincerely: we all relate. It’s part of being human. 🤲

I wish I knew the stuff the kids were learning when I was their age! I wish I had attended a place like this when I was younger! 😅

A key principle the youth learned last week: You cannot give what you do not have. As a leader, you cannot lead unless you also lead yourself first. If you’re not 100% for yourself, you can’t be 100% for others. You can only give what you already have. 💯

To change the world you first have to change yourself, not the other way around. Gandhi said: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” It starts and ends with us all: the growth of us as individuals. Let’s begin…! ❤️ #GYLS2019

Why Patience is NOT a Virtue!

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! 🙌

One thing I’ve learned is a lot of people don’t have patience. 😲

We’d rather have the quick fix. We’d rather choose the fastest solution. We’d rather get things done sooner than later. 💨

And that is absolutely crucial when applying it to our modern day technology. We do need those skills! The problem is when we carry these same standards into our interactions with other people. 👥

I’ve been told by quite a few people I have a lot of patience. I’ll let someone talk for a long period of time. I’ll give someone extra time to work through a problem in their mind. I’ll let someone know through my presence their concerns matter to me. ❤️

But what surprises me the most is that this patience is not commonplace. You’ve heard the term “patience is a virtue” right?! ✍️

So how do I have it so easily? It’s simple: I think if I were in the same position as them, I’d appreciate the same treatment towards me. ↔️

If you’re not patient with others, the odds are likely you are not patient with yourself. How you treat others is also a reflection on how you treat yourself. 👤

There are people working through far bigger problems in their lives than I’ve ever had to deal with. And the biggest gift I can offer a person is my time and patience. It’s not to say I don’t at times get impatient, but that I remind myself why I give it. 🎁

There’s someone I love dearly in my family who currently suffers from dementia. The #1 thing she says to me and with much gratefulness is: “Thank you for being so patient with me.” 🗣️

It tears me up to think how many others in our world feel insignificant because others won’t simply give them the time and patience when they’re doing their very best with the resources they have to work through a problem. 😢

We wouldn’t give a baby a limited amount of time and patience to learn how to walk. We wouldn’t throw in the towel and say: “This baby is hopeless! I got more important things to do!” 🤬

So why do we give this limited time to others? ⌛

One is because of our expectations about other people. For a baby, we expect walking for them will be a learning process. We expect they will poop in their diapers. We expect they will need to be spoon fed. We expect they will need a lot of time and patience. 🐣

But as we get older, we raise our expectations on how others “should” be. ♾

📍 “They should already know how to do this!”

📍 “They should know better!”

📍 “They should have high standards for their life!”

📍 “They should be just like who I am!”

There was a moment this weekend that tested my expectations. 📆

I had the privilege to serve a dozen kids as they experienced their very first Unleash the Power Within event. They all came from different locations, backgrounds, and lifestyles. 🌎

This weekend I learned a very valuable lesson from every of them. I learned I came into the group with far more expectations about where these kids “should” be in their personal development than I knew! 😲

Some of them had already dipped their toe in the water. But others were stepping in for the very first time. These ideas were brand new to them. And I was expecting too much of what they “should” know. 😔

But you cannot expect someone to learn Calculus when they’ve never learned Algebra. It has to be taken in steps. And as passionate as I am about personal development, I was challenged this weekend to remind myself how little I knew when I first attended the event myself. We all learn in different ways and at different paces. 👍

All the kids were beautiful souls who I know will go far in their lives. There’s a part of me that woke up this Monday morning and remembered I’m not going to the venue to reconnect with them. A part of me will miss that. 🙌

But I told them before I left them all yesterday: “Keep these memories here close. They are with you now wherever you go.” ❤️

If we are to get along with each other, patience is not a virtue.

🙌 PATIENCE IS NOT A VIRTUE! IT’S A NECESSITY! 🙌

Building this skill has become one of the most rewarding experiences for my life. 👍

You’ll connect with people on a deeper level. You’ll see parts of yourself in them. You’ll remember we’re all only human and we’re all still learning. 😊

🌟 Remember to meet people where they are at, not where you want them to be. 🌟

Because where there’s patience there’s also time for understanding. ❤️#EudaimonicLife

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Why the Givers SLEEP Better!

The Takers may receive the short-term gains, the short-term pleasures, and the short-term highs of superiority. 👊
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But the Givers, regardless of circumstances, are assured every day of their service to something more than themselves, the heartfelt act of giving simply for the sake of giving. That lasts a lifetime. ❤️

How Giving Back is FULFILLING! (PERSONAL)

💬 “No one has ever become poor by giving.” ~ Anne Frank 💬

I haven’t told any of you about Kieran. I mean practically no one! Not on social media. Not even on the Tony Robbins Crew. But I think it’s time I introduced you all to him! 😃

It was a a bit over a year ago I met him. But here’s a plot twist I must share with you all: it was NOT through a Tony Robbins event! I know, shocking right?! 😂

Actually, we met through Instagram. We shared a few common interests, chatted here and there, and for the most part we were just acquaintances. He was a nice guy. 😃

But it was around this time last year I was volunteering in London for UPW’s 2018 event, and Kieran saw my social media posts about the event. He was curious about it, and I started chatting with him about the work of Tony Robbins. What first was a short conversation turned into a very lengthy one! 🙌

And then came a moment in our conversation I will never forget, one that continues to stick out in my mind as I write this! It was the day after UPW had ended. I was heading back home, walking to the train station in Canary Wharf. But while I was surrounded by many corporate buildings, my eyes were more or less glued to my phone chatting with Kieran about the event! 😄

And then I made a very big statement, one you might have said was “crazy” to make the way I did, in such a matter of fact way. But I was also dead serious. ⚠️

I told him:

😲 “If you want to attend next year, I’ll see to it I get you there.” 😲

I remember even as I sent him the message a part of my mind was saying: “How the hell are you going to do that?! You’re not made of money!” 😠

But I said I’d do it…

…Flash forward to two weeks ago, April 11. It’s the end of Day 1 at UPW London and the Firewalk just finished. Kieran has just walked over a thousand-degree hot coals. I come up to him at the sear risers to finally meet him personally. He is covered in sweat. His voice is hoarse. He’s been “playing full out” at the event for over 12 hours. He should be ready to go to sleep, right?! 👍

🛑 Nope! 🛑

He is brimming with energy! He’s smiling from ear to ear! He’s hugging me so tightly his arms are shaking! And he can’t stop thanking me! 🙏

Over the next few days I’m driven to tears multiple times as I see how much he is getting out of the event. Though my job was a Floor Captain this event (the earpiece in the photo), I did sneak an occasion or two to check in on him! 👣

For all the text and video chats we use to have on Instagram, I witnessed a very different person that weekend. A transformed individual! It was beautiful to witness! 👐

He said to me: “I get it now! I use to see you jumping and yelling and dancing and all in your videos. But I actually get it now!” 🕺

I’m so grateful I was able to help make this happen for him! But I also couldn’t have made this happen if it wasn’t for my good friend Ruth Hiller. Ruth, I cannot thank you enough for offering a UPW ticket to him! Because of your act of kindness, I was able to pay it forward to an amazing soul, and it’s more than I can communicate in words! Thank you! 💕

🌟 When you have the chance to give back to others, just do it. It’s a feeling like no other! 🌟

Kieran: I look forward to seeing how you continue to apply what you learned and where you’re headed next on your life’s journey! As I said to you right before we took this photo: “You get to take this all this with you now wherever you go!” Much love, brother! ❤️ #EudaimonicLife

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