Why “How” Matters MORE Than “What”!

The words I’m saying to you now are the words I wish my younger self would’ve been told. 🗣️

Sure, he was told at times to stop caring about what other people thought. He was told at times to stop people pleasing. 🛑

But he didn’t know how…😫

🗣️ “What do you mean ‘how’? You just do it, Donald! Simple as that!” 🗣️

I understand your perspective, and if it works for you I’m very happy it does. That’s great! But I’ll share with you another perspective I’ve also learned. 📖

Sometimes what people need the most is NOT hearing the solutions. In fact, these people have often heard the solutions MULTIPLE times! 😲

No, what they actually need is a compass to navigate themselves, their emotions and their intellect, towards the solutions. 🧭

In other words, they don’t need the answers to the “What?” They need the answers to the “How?” 🙌

In other words, telling someone to stop caring what others think is far easier said than done. The problem is you’re telling someone What to do, not How to do it. 👍

You can tell a person all you want to fish. But if they’ve never been taught how to fish, how do you expect them to know? 🤔

🌟 You can’t expect someone to know what they don’t know. 🌟

I wish I could’ve told my younger self the Hows of messages like the one above. I wish I could’ve shared with him this How, that inner happiness and fulfillment matters more than other people’s opinion of him. 💬

I’ll leave you with one statement, however blunt, that reminds me how silly it is to worry so much about what others think. Much love! ❤️

🤯 If you worry what other people think, you’re letting someone else’s imagination control your reality. 🤯